How Insensitive
John McDermott Lyrics


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How insensitive, I must have seemed
When she told me that she loved me
How unmoved and cold, I must have seemed
When she told me so sincerely

Why she must have asked?
Did I just turn and stare in icy silence?
What was I to say? What can you say
When a love affair is over?

How insensitive, he must have seemed
When she told me that she loved him
How unmoved and cold, he must have seemed
When she told him so sincerely

Why she must have asked?
Did he just turn and stare in icy silence?
What was she to say? What can he say
When a love affair is over?

Now she's gone away
And I'm alone with a memory of her last look
Vague and drawn and sad, I see it still
All her heartbreak in that last look

How she must have asked
Could I just turn and stare in icy silence?




What was I to do? What can one do
When a love affair is over?

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to John McDermott's song How Insensitive are an exploration of the aftermath of a failed love affair. The song tells the story of two people who have ended a relationship and are left to deal with the emotional fallout. The lyrics communicate the sense of disconnection and detachment that often follows a romantic break-up. The singer reflects on the insensitivity and coldness that he displayed towards his former partner when she confessed her feelings for him. He realizes that he was unable to reciprocate her love, and that his reaction may have contributed to the end of their relationship.


The song highlights the importance of communication and emotional openness in sustaining a relationship. When the singer asks, "What was I to say? What can you say when a love affair is over?" he is expressing the difficulty of expressing oneself in times of heartbreak. This sentiment is mirrored in the second half of the song, where the singer imagines the perspective of his former partner. He recognizes that he may have hurt her by not being able to reciprocate her love, and wonders how she must have felt when he rejected her.


Line by Line Meaning

How insensitive, I must have seemed
I was not sensitive to her feelings


When she told me that she loved me
When she expressed her love for me


How unmoved and cold, I must have seemed
I appeared to be unfeeling and impassive


When she told me so sincerely
When she spoke honestly and with conviction


Why she must have asked?
She must have wondered


Did I just turn and stare in icy silence?
Did I simply look at her with a cold, unresponsive expression?


What was I to say? What can you say
What words could I possibly offer in response


When a love affair is over?
When the relationship has come to an end?


Now she's gone away
Now that she has left


And I'm alone with a memory of her last look
And I am left with the recollection of her final expression


Vague and drawn and sad, I see it still
Faint and melancholy, I can still picture it


All her heartbreak in that last look
All of her pain and sorrow in that final gaze


How she must have asked
How she must have wondered


Could I just turn and stare in icy silence?
Was I only able to look at her with cold detachment?


What was I to do? What can one do
What action could I possibly take? What options are available


When a love affair is over?
When the romance has ended?




Lyrics © O/B/O APRA AMCOS
Written by: Antonio Carlos Jobim, Norman Gimbel, Vinicius De Moraes

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