Girlfriend
Julia Fordham Lyrics


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Don't tell me to stop crying
Please just hold me while I do
Soothe me with your silence
And just cradle me to you
Don't push me for my reasons
Or expect me to explain
How can I in five minutes shift
A lifetime's hidden pain

Don't tell your girlfriend about me
'cause your girlfriend won't like girls like me
Don't tell your girlfriend about me
If you just hold me...hold me...hold me

I went to see a psychic and
I paid for good advice
He said "Forget a romance
'Til you've sorted out your life."
Be your own mother and your father
And your sister and brother
And even try to crack the art
Of being your own lover...

Don't tell your girlfriend about me
'cause your girlfriend won't like girls like me
Don't tell your girlfriend about me
If you just hold me...hold me...hold me

In my darkest hour you'd be mine
These wildest dreams
Are no crime or are they, Girlfriend?
Coming from a place of need
Not one of abundance
You see he told me, Girlfriend

Don't tell me to stop crying
Please just hold me while I do
Soothe me with your silence
And just cradle me to you
Don't push me for my reasons
Or expect me to explain
How come I say I'm happy
To be on my own again?

don't tell your girlfriend about me
'cause your girlfriend won't like girls like me
don't tell your girlfriend about me
'cause your girlfriend won't like girls like me




You don't have to tell your girlfriend about me
If you just hold me...hold me...hold me

Overall Meaning

The song Girlfriend by Julia Fordham is about a woman who is struggling to deal with her hidden pain, and she turns to a man for comfort, not to start a romantic relationship but to hold her while she cries. She asks him not to tell his girlfriend about her and not to push her to explain her reasons for feeling that way. She also talks about seeing a psychic who advised her to focus on sorting out her life instead of seeking romance.


The lyrics bring out the emotions of someone who is going through a tough time and needs someone to be with them in silence, to cradle them and soothe them. However, she is aware of the social stigma that comes with seeking comfort from someone who is not your partner, which is why she asks him not to tell his girlfriend about her. She questions the concept of relationships, the need for a partner, and the idea of being your own lover.


Line by Line Meaning

Don't tell me to stop crying
Please don't instruct me to end my tears


Please just hold me while I do
Oppositely, support me as I continue to cry


Soothe me with your silence
Comfort me with your silence instead of words


And just cradle me to you
Hold me tightly, snuggled up to you


Don't push me for my reasons
Please don't force me to explain the reason for my emotions


Or expect me to explain
Please don't anticipate an explanation


How can I in five minutes shift
Why do you expect me to be able to get over years of pain in just minutes


A lifetime's hidden pain
My pain has been buried deep within for many years


Don't tell your girlfriend about me
Do not inform your girlfriend about our relationship


'cause your girlfriend won't like girls like me
Your girlfriend may not accept or appreciate someone like me


If you just hold me...hold me...hold me
But if you passionately embrace me, everything will be better


Be your own mother and your father
Assume the roles of all family members, including nurturing and providing for yourself


And your sister and brother
Treat yourself with the same care and love that siblings would treat each other


And even try to crack the art
Put forth your best effort to understand how to


Of being your own lover...
How to unconditionally love and celebrate yourself


In my darkest hour you'd be mine
During my difficult times, you'd be there for me


These wildest dreams
My deepest desires and hopes


Are no crime or are they, Girlfriend?
Is it wrong to have these dreams, or is it okay?


Coming from a place of need
These dreams are born from my insecurities and yearning


Not one of abundance
A lack of self-love and confidence fuels my desires


You see he told me, Girlfriend
A psychic advised me


How come I say I'm happy
Why is it that I claim I am content


To be on my own again?
Being single is good for me right now


You don't have to tell your girlfriend about me
You don't need to reveal me to your girlfriend


If you just hold me...hold me...hold me
Simply embracing me can make everything okay




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: JULIA FORDHAM

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