A House Is Not A Home
Mel Tormé Lyrics


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A chair is still a chair
Even when there's no one sitting there
But a chair is not a house
And a house is not a home
When there's no one there to hold you tight,
And no one there you can kiss good night.

A room is still a room
Even when there's nothing there but gloom;
But a room is not a house,
And a house is not a home
When the two of us are far apart
And one of us has a broken heart.

Now and then I call your name
And suddenly your face appears
But it's just a crazy game
When it ends it ends in tears.

Darling, have a heart,
Don't let one mistake keep us apart.
I'm not meant to live alone.
Turn this house into a home.




When I climb the stair and turn the key,
Oh, please be there still in love with me.

Overall Meaning

In "House is Not a Home," Mel Torme explores the idea that a physical structure, like a chair, room, or house, can hold memories and evoke emotions but cannot provide the comfort and security of a true home without the presence of someone to share it with. He compares the empty objects to the emptiness in his heart, caused by distance and a broken heart.


The first verse speaks of a chair, which can still exist even when no one is sitting in it, but acknowledges that it cannot offer the intimacy of being held or kissed goodnight. The second verse discusses a room, which can still exist even when it is empty, but cannot replace the feeling of being home when one's heart is aching from separation or heartbreak. The chorus resounds with the theme that he's calling out to someone who is not there, yet the memories of love remain, though tragic.


He continues the song by calling out to the one he loves in moments of loneliness, only to be met with the realization that it is a fleeting thought, a memory that will never come back. He pleads with them to forgive his mistake and come back to him, to turn this mere house into a real home. In these last lines, Torme reflects on the pain of returning home not to find the warmth and love of someone waiting for him. Through these poignant lines, Torme highlights the importance of human connection and love in making a house a home.


Line by Line Meaning

A chair is still a chair
Even if no one is sitting on it, it is still a chair


Even when there's no one sitting there
The presence of people does not determine the purpose of an object


But a chair is not a house
A chair is not the same as a house


And a house is not a home
Merely having a house does not mean it is a comfortable home


When there's no one there to hold you tight,
Having no one to hold tight can make a house feel less like a home


And no one there you can kiss goodnight.
The absence of a partner can make a home feel lonely


A room is still a room
A room remains a room regardless of its contents


Even when there's nothing there but gloom;
Despite the absence of light, the room’s function does not change


But a room is not a house,
A room is just a component of a house


When the two of us are far apart
Distance can cause a longing for a true home


And one of us has a broken heart.
Heartbreak can make someone feel like a house is less of a home


Now and then I call your name
Memories can bring someone's loved ones back into their thoughts


And suddenly your face appears
Memories can be vivid and lifelike


But it's just a crazy game
Fooling oneself with memories can be dangerous


When it ends it ends in tears.
Despair follows the realization that the memories are not reality


Darling, have a heart,
Please be compassionate


Don't let one mistake keep us apart.
Don't let a single error ruin our relationship


I'm not meant to live alone.
An unfulfilling solitude is not his purpose


Turn this house into a home.
Help create a welcoming home for both of them


When I climb the stair and turn the key,
The home should be filled with love, even when they are not together


Oh, please be there still in love with me.
Hoping their partner still loves them despite their absence




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: Burt Bacharach, Hal David

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