A Thousand Matches
Passenger Lyrics


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Lying on a mattress 'cause my friend's crazy sister took my bed away
Sleeping, she looked like an actress, a theory I didn't practice, I said "There's got to be a better way"
She said: "You light a thousand matches when you finally set fire, well you run away
So why'd you go and do it, when you knew that you would go and I would stay"

I hit the wall in frustration, a conversation I'd been circling for days
She said: "Don't take it out on him, for the wall has always been supportive in the best of ways"
We're laughing and crying like mad men dying in the snow
For just one second it was funny that she would have to stay and I would go

And I said: "I love you know, I love you so, when you love someone well you've gotta let 'em know"
She said: "Nothing's changed I love you the same, but when you love someone sometimes you gotta let 'em go"

She handed me a stone in the perfect shape of a heart
She said: "I'm gonna take this home for I know you'll only lose it somewhere after dark
In some faceless hotel room where you, seem to lose everything you own."
She didn't mean it how it sounded, what she meant was she would stay and I would go

And I said: "I love you know, I love you so, when you love someone well you've gotta let 'em know"
She said: "Nothing's changed I love you the same, but when you love someone sometimes you gotta let 'em go"

Sometimes you tear it all apart, to see the wood from the trees
Sometimes you break your own heart to set yourself free

I walked her to the station, hesitation in our movements and our tone
Words finally left after realising how uncomfortable they've grown




See what you want and what you need, well they seldomly succeed to grow
We reluctantly agreed that when you love someone, you've gotta let them go

Overall Meaning

The song "A Thousand Matches" by Passenger talks about a bittersweet goodbye between two people in a complicated relationship. The singer reflects on a recent night spent at his friend's house, sleeping on a mattress because his friend's sister took his bed. He observes the girl he has feelings for sleeping, comparing her to an actress. Despite his attraction to her, he knows that he cannot continue down this path, and there must be a better way.


In the second verse, the singer becomes frustrated with a conversation he has been having for days. The girl advises him not to take out his frustration on someone else, leaving him to hit the wall instead. However, she provides some comic relief, and the two laugh and cry like "mad men dying in the snow" about the situation. The girl tells the singer that she loves him all the same, but sometimes one has to let someone go.


In the final verse, the singer walks the girl to the station, both of them hesitant to say the final goodbye. They agree that sometimes you have to break your own heart to set yourself free. It's a poignant moment, filled with regret and hopes for the future.


Overall, the song's lyrics deal with a bittersweet goodbye between two people who care deeply for each other but cannot continue down the path they are on.


Line by Line Meaning

Lying on a mattress 'cause my friend's crazy sister took my bed away
I am currently lying on a mattress because the sister of my friend, who is mentally unstable, took away my bed.


Sleeping, she looked like an actress, a theory I didn't practice, I said 'There's got to be a better way'
While she was asleep, she looked as though she could be an actress. This thought led me to wonder if there was a better way to handle the situation.


She said: 'You light a thousand matches when you finally set fire, well you run away. So why'd you go and do it, when you knew that you would go and I would stay'
She stated that lighting numerous matches and then setting fire is redundant, as the fire is already started. She wanted to know why I would start a fire when I knew that I would be the one to leave, and she would be left behind.


I hit the wall in frustration, a conversation I'd been circling for days
I became extremely frustrated while discussing a topic that I had been going in circles about for days, and hit the wall.


She said: 'Don't take it out on him, for the wall has always been supportive in the best of ways'
She told me not to blame the wall for my frustration, as the wall has always been a support to me in the best possible way.


We're laughing and crying like mad men dying in the snow. For just one second, it was funny that she would have to stay and I would go
We were both laughing and crying uncontrollably, similar to how crazy people would act if they were dying in the snow. We found it amusing for a moment that she would be the one left behind while I would leave.


And I said: 'I love you know, I love you so, when you love someone well you've gotta let 'em know'
I expressed my love for her and stated that when you love someone, it's important to let them know.


She said: 'Nothing's changed I love you the same, but when you love someone sometimes you gotta let 'em go'
She informed me that nothing has changed in the way she loves me, but sometimes, if you love someone, you have to let them go.


She handed me a stone in the perfect shape of a heart. She said: 'I'm gonna take this home for I know you'll only lose it somewhere after dark. In some faceless hotel room where you, seem to lose everything you own.' She didn't mean it how it sounded, what she meant was she would stay and I would go
She gave me a heart-shaped stone, but planned to take it home as she believed I would likely lose it in a dark hotel room, where I seem to lose everything I own. She didn't mean it to sound harsh, but what she really was trying to say was that she would stay while I would go.


Sometimes you tear it all apart, to see the wood from the trees
At times, it's necessary to break everything apart to gain clarity and see the bigger picture.


Sometimes you break your own heart to set yourself free
Occasionally, you must break your own heart to free yourself from a situation.


I walked her to the station, hesitation in our movements and our tone. Words finally left after realizing how uncomfortable they've grown
I accompanied her to the station, and both of us seemed hesitant with our movements and tone. Finally, we spoke up, acknowledging how uncomfortable the current situation had become.


See what you want and what you need, well they seldomly succeed to grow. We reluctantly agreed that when you love someone, you've gotta let them go
It's rare for what you want and what you actually need to align and grow together. We both reluctantly agreed that when you love someone, you have to let them go.




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Yifan Wu

Anyone else gets goosebumps every time hearing the part "sometimes it breaks your own hear~t, to set yourself free"?

Journal life

Yes ...

Wambli Paytah

You are not alone. In a song so rife with real life you are bound to find goosebump moments. That was one for me too. Not in a "good feels" moment... Just one I recognize from before....

Katarina Jonsson

Yes 🙏 it's hard to not get goosebumps doesn't matter what he sing 🙏❤❤❤🙏

Josh R.

@Katarina Jonsson very true <3

Kaleb Mooneyham

Every single time. That lyric is so powerful.

thomas brady

I recently lost my love and wife of 54 years and I listen to this song and it gives me help. Thank you Passenger!

Just Lilly

I'm sorry for your loss <3

Marie Tracy

I'm sorry for your loss

Zoe Cheng

Music is the remedy❤

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