Unnecessary
Patty Griffin Lyrics


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Unnecessary, no longer extraordinary

no longer the height of fashion

or the subject of a passion

stretch pants, bee lines (?) love and soverance (?) trivialized
bouncing baby on her big thighs

suddenly she realizes

unnecessary, unnecessary, unnecessary, unnecessary

she's unnecessary, no longer extraordinary

no longer the height of fashion or the subject of a passion

sister, brother, it's so hard to fuck a mother

what is it we give each other

what is it we take away?

unnecessary, unnecessary, unnecessary unnecessary

unnecessary, no longer extraordinary

no longer the height of fashion





or the subject of a passion

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to "Unnecessary" by Patty Griffin seem to convey a sense of loss and the realization that one's former importance has faded away. The lyrics first describe the subject - possibly a woman - as "no longer extraordinary" and no longer fashionable or a passion. This hints at a past where the subject was perhaps revered, but that glory has now faded away. The mention of "stretch pants, bee lines(?) love, and sovereignty trivialized" may be a nod to the subject's past pursuits that are no longer relevant.


The second verse brings in a bouncing baby, possibly to contrast the youth and promise of new beginnings with the inevitability of growing old and losing one's relevance. The subject then seems to come to the realization that she is unnecessary, and repeats the word like a mantra. The last two lines of the verse ask the poignant question, "what is it we give each other / what is it we take away?", which could be interpreted as a larger commentary on life and the inevitable loss that comes with it.


The final verse takes on a more unsettling tone, with the mention of incestuous relationships ("sister, brother, it's so hard to fuck a mother"). This adds a layer of complexity to the song, begging the question of whether the subject's irrelevance has led to desperation and taboo behavior. The final repetition of "unnecessary" underscores the feeling of loss and desperation.


Line by Line Meaning

Unnecessary, no longer extraordinary
Because of her current situation, the woman feels that she is no longer exceptional or important.


no longer the height of fashion
The woman's clothing choices are no longer trendy or fashionable.


or the subject of a passion
No one is expressing a deep and intense love for the woman; she is not the center of anyone's affection.


stretch pants, bee lines (?) love and soverance (?) trivialized
The things that she used to find meaningful, like comfortable clothing and relationships, now seem unimportant and meaningless.


bouncing baby on her big thighs
The woman has become a mother and is holding her baby on her lap, which seems like a small and mundane event.


suddenly she realizes
At this moment, the woman has a realization or an epiphany about her current situation.


unnecessary, unnecessary, unnecessary, unnecessary
The woman repeats the word 'unnecessary' several times, emphasizing her feelings of insignificance.


she's unnecessary, no longer extraordinary
The woman feels like she is no longer special, unique, or important.


sister, brother, it's so hard to fuck a mother
The woman expresses a feeling of alienation or difficulty in connecting with others, who may not understand her current situation as a mother.


what is it we give each other
The woman questions the value of relationships and what people are truly giving and receiving from each other.


what is it we take away?
The woman ponders what people are losing or taking away from each other in their relationships.




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