Separate Lives
Phil Collins Lyrics
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All full of romance for someone that you met
And telling me how sorry you were, leaving so soon
And that you miss me sometimes when you're alone in your room
Do I feel lonely too?
You have no right to ask me how I feel
You have no right to speak to me so kind
Now that we're living separate lives
Well, I held on to let you go
And if you lost your love for me, well you never let it show
There was no way to compromise
So now we're living (living)
Separate lives
Ooh, it's so typical, love leads to isolation
So you build that wall (build that wall)
Yes, you build that wall (build that wall)
And you make it stronger
Well, you have no right to ask me how I feel
You have no right to speak to me so kind
Some day I might (I might) find myself looking in your eyes
But for now, we'll go on living separate lives
Yes for now, we'll go on living separate lives
Separate lives
The song "Separate Lives" by Phil Collins is part of the soundtrack of the 1985 romantic drama film "White Nights." The lyrics convey the feelings of two lovers who have grown apart, as one of them calls from a hotel room, confessing their feelings for someone else, while the other person struggles to let go of the past and move on. The chorus is a poignant reminder of their new, separate lives and the impossibility of going back to what once was.
The first stanza offers a sense of mixed emotions, as the person on the other line recounts their romantic encounter with someone else, but also admits to missing the person they're talking to. The question, "Do I feel lonely too?", suggests that the singer may be torn between feelings of hurt and lingering love for their partner. However, the second stanza reveals the bitterness and anger underlying their conversation, as the singer accuses the other person of having no right to ask how they feel or to be kind to them, given their betrayal.
The shift in tone is reflected in the music, as the chorus is more upbeat and explosive, highlighting the impossibility of compromise and the emotional distance between them. The bridge, with its repeated refrain, "Yes, you build that wall / And you make it stronger," is particularly poignant, as it speaks to the common defense mechanism of people who feel hurt or threatened in relationships, but also suggests a certain sense of resignation, as if they both recognize that their separation is inevitable.
Overall, "Separate Lives" is a powerful ballad that explores the complexities of love, loss, and moving on. It speaks to the universal experience of relationships that don't work out, and the pain of trying to let go of someone you still love.
Line by Line Meaning
You called me from the room in your hotel
You contacted me while you were away with someone else
All full of romance for someone that you met
You were being overly affectionate towards someone you just met
And telling me how sorry you were, leaving so soon
You were apologizing for leaving so quickly after being together and saying goodbye
And that you miss me sometimes when you're alone in your room
You were admitting to feeling lonely and missing me while you were alone
Do I feel lonely too?
You were asking me if I also feel lonely
You have no right to ask me how I feel
You don't have the authority to inquire about my emotions
You have no right to speak to me so kind
You don't deserve to talk to me in a sweet way
I can't go on just holding on to ties
I can't continue clinging to our old relationship
Now that we're living separate lives
Since we're no longer together and living separate lives
Well, I held on to let you go
I tried to hold on to let you move on
And if you lost your love for me, well you never let it show
And if you stopped loving me, you never made it known
There was no way to compromise
We couldn't find a middle ground
So now we're living (living)
So now we're going through the motions of our separate lives
Ooh, it's so typical, love leads to isolation
It's a common occurrence that love eventually leads to separation and loneliness
So you build that wall (build that wall)
So, in response, you construct emotional barriers
Yes, you build that wall (build that wall)
Yes, you continue to build those barriers
And you make it stronger
And reinforce them to be even more impenetrable
Some day I might (I might) find myself looking in your eyes
There's a chance that in the future, I may look into your eyes once again
But for now, we'll go on living separate lives
But for now, we'll continue living separate lives
Yes for now, we'll go on living separate lives
For now, our lives will remain separate
Lyrics © BMG Rights Management, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: Steve Bishop
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@Forrest31962
Still enjoying this masterpiece in 2024; I hope you are,too 🤟💖
@daleroth1477
Yep! Music that hits you right in the aorta! 😂
@JJ-um5ec
Same, love this tune
@PassiveAgressive319
I am
@ajs41
Agree, but please can Phil upload it again with better sound.
@annehunter988
To me it's timeless 😍
@buzzindrones
Who’s listening to this masterpiece in 2023 give me a thumbs up
@angiesmith8040
Meeee
@elkegerlach4000
Now we are in 2024 and I still love this song 😢❤
@kimberlyblount1785
2024 baby! My sister and I would bake brownies and sit across the kitchen table singing this as loud as we could to each other! Of course no one else was home! We were weird teenagers 😂 now we TRY and sing it at 50 and 47 years when we get together 😊