Tough Love
Plan B Lyrics


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Let me tell you a story.
It's called tough love.

Once upon a time there was a girl called Sonita.
Dreaded goin' home after school 'cause her dad would mistreat her.
Her mum was just as bad, when she got mad,
was more than glad to lend a hand in helping him beat her.
Sonita, used to wear the cloth of her religion.
Sonita, used to pray to God, thought he was listening.
But nothin' ever changed, at least she couldn't see a difference.
So the relationship between them both became distant.
She didn't agree with the fundamental religious views of her parents.
Might as well have been speaking gibberish.
To her, it was incoherent.
She was livin' in the Western world,
Couldn't understand why she couldn't be like all the other Western girls.

So one day she rebels.
Walks into a shop and purchases a copy of Bliss.
A magazine for female teenagers.
Ripped off the plastic rapper, started flickin' through the pages.

Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
You call it tough love, I call it hatred.
That's your flesh, your blood, that's sacred.

Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
You call it tough love, I call it hatred.
That's your flesh, your blood, that's sacred.

So engrossed in her new found interest, Sonita fails to realize the time.
Before she knows it, it's a quarter to nine.
Should've been back from prayer an hour ago.
Now her parents are gonna know that she's skived.
In the slim hope that they won't,
She hides the copy of Bliss inside the books under her arm and makes her way back home.

She opens the door to find her mum and dad waiting.
The expressions on both of their faces is scathing.
Before she has time to think of an excuse,
Her father's hands are right round her neck like a noose.
So tight he chokes her.
She drops all her books on the floor except the Bliss mag which lands on the sofa.
Dad can't control his rage when he sees that the centre page is a boy band poster.
"She's possessed by the devil!"
Her mother shouts.
Blaming it on Satan, like it's the only explanation.
Grabs Sonita by the hair, down to the basement.
Hearts racing like she knows her life's about to be taken.
They look her in the eyes, say,
"Here's what we're gonna do.
You've been possessed by a demon,
We're gonna beat him out of you."

Sonita cries for help.
She sees her mum pick up a broomstick and her dad take off his belt.
It's no use, her brothers and sisters won't listen.
Undeterred, her parents carry out the exorcism.

Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
You call it tough love, I call it hatred.
That's your flesh, your blood, that's sacred.

Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
You call it tough love, I call it hatred.
That's your flesh, your blood, that's sacred.

For hours they violently torture their daughter.
Beat her until an inch of her life until it's right on the border.
They continue to physically haunt her but now Sonita has a mental disorder.
She no longer cares if she lives or dies.
Absolutely no more tears left to cry.
She's evilness in her parents eyes.
And thinks they're the ones who need to be exorcised.

That's when the rebellious streak completely intoxicates her.
Sudden rush of energy boosts a never before seen aggressive nature.
She decides that no matter what they are never gonna break her.
"Go to hell!" she screams at her dad as he goes to give her another lick with the belt.
"Go fuck yourself!" she screams at her mum, knowing that it's only gonna spur her on.
'Cause now Sonita's lost the plot.
The physical pain ain't nothing compared to the heartache when the heart breaks and it rots.
Once filled with so much love.
But now it's so clogged up with hate that it stops beating and she stops breathing.
Her body's just a carcass now, her soul's leaving.
No more pain.
No more bleeding.
Die slow, blow by blow from a severe beating.
It only takes half a dozen more blows to the head before they finally realize that she's dead.

That's when the door busts open and in come the FEDS.
The neighbours must've called them
When they heard the screams of torment coming from the basement where Sonita's body lay.
Blatant like road kill out on the pavement.
It's quite clear to the police
That she's been the victim of a horrific case of physical mutilation.

Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
You call it tough love, I call it hatred.
That's your flesh, your blood, that's sacred.

Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
Tough love, tough love.
I call it hatred.
You call it tough love, I call it hatred.
That's your flesh, your blood, that's sacred.

After being apprehended,
Sonita's parents were asked why their daughters life was so brutally taken.
They said it was out of love.
But only hate breaks something so hard it can never be mended.
To this day they show no remorse.
Their idea of parental guidance will always be to use force.
And what makes this tale even more gory is that this song is based on a true story.
Tough love
I rest my case.




This is a fucked up world.
It's all fucked

Overall Meaning

The song "Tough Love" by Plan B is a powerful commentary on the destructive cycle of abuse and violence within families. The song tells the story of a young girl named Sonita who is abused by her parents, subjected to violence and cruelty on a daily basis. The song explores the tension between religious fundamentalism, cultural identity, and the challenges of growing up as a young woman in a patriarchal society. It illustrates the devastating effects of violence and abuse, and the ways in which they can become normalized and perpetuated across generations.


The lyrics describe how Sonita, desperate to escape her oppressive home life, rebels against her parents and begins to explore her own identity. She is punished severely for her disobedience, subjected to a brutal exorcism that leaves her with physical and mental scars. Despite her pain and suffering, she refuses to give up or back down. In the end, she is tragically killed by her parents, who are unable or unwilling to break the cycle of abuse and violence.


The song is a powerful indictment of a society that tolerates and even condones violence against women and children. It highlights the need for change and accountability, and the importance of speaking out against oppression and injustice. By exposing the raw brutality of domestic abuse, the song challenges us to confront the reality of violence in our own lives and work towards a future where all people are treated with dignity and respect.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: Y, BENJAMIN PAUL BALLANCE-DREW

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Comments from YouTube:

1 HoV

Song still hits me hard 13 years after the album came out.

Cora McManus

I today just finished writing a presentation on honour killings and my boyfriend suggested this song because it was to relevant to what I was talking about, and he was right, it's so sad that young girls lives are taken in the name of "honour" due to their westernised lifestyle(that is if they live in the U.K) I hope those girls are in a better place now, nobody deserve that

g a m b i

Bullshit, honour is a natural disposition are you saying 'Europeans' are honourless? Plenty of people duppy for feelings

Don't be shy

"What Makes This Tale All The More Gory
Is That This Song Is Based On A True Story... Tough Love"

TheUrbanWolf

First time hearing this, been a fan of plan b I’ll manirs and just discovered this album, I knew there was events like this in reality, but the second plan b said it was based on a true story sent a shiver down my spine and I’ve lived in the worst ends of brahead, Paisley and Govan so I have seen some 🤬

lacky c

This is the dark times we living in, and unfortunately degradation will continue to increase... until peace is restored again. 1 love <3

Buggy Safari Marbella

In a way same as tech but much darker lyrics, dance with the devil is dark but this has its own darkness that just owns!!! the fact he plays all his own guitar is always a bonus

jamesyboii100

Buggy Safari Marbella Yeah i compare him to immortal technique, until he sold out! Don't blame him for it it's dog eat dog, but his lyrics spoke for the streets.

Big Bhoy

I was thinking while listening to this that it's like a uk dance with the devil

angel m

innnittt!!

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