I went radio silent on my Partner and blocked him because it was the only way I could think straight. I didn't know who I was when I was with him and never told him I was going to do it. Today is the first time I've cried since doing it. In my heart I know it was the right thing to do. I gave him everything. My heart, my soul and got abuse and cheating in return. I know in the long term I'll be alright, but sometimes what hurts more is having no one's shoulder to cry on. 🍒

john cena

3y↑1

Same here 🙏

VölkiCODM

4y↑15

this is honestly the best advice, my ex broke up with me and i was down, trying to reach out with no luck until i decided to just stop contact. after a month and a half i was living life happily again and just about forgot them untill they messaged again asking to get back together

A C

2y↑1

And?!!!!???? And??????

Kalyani Mahesh 3098

4y↑1

wow... what did you do? 🤩

Mireya Luna

4y↑5

Thank you for your videos Coach Aby. I haven't been able to disconnect from him emotionally but with this I understand what to do to get over him n.n

Judith Haven

4y↑1

Soooooooooo much more insight. Thank you soooooooooo much!

A C

The reason why I wanna try it is 1) get better for myself! It’s not healthy at all to keep talking and letting him know I’m still fighting for him! He can see that! 2) yes to try and have him straighten himself out and to say “I can do better!” Because he did say I was the only one who has treated him better than anyone else! 3) he told me it’s hard on him…yet he said he didn’t have any feelings!
I remember breaking up with 2 guys and I was done! I didn’t cry myself to sleep with those guys but this guy, he stated he couldn’t sleep…it was difficult!…like…clearly he has feelings! Some type anyway! Today is day one!

Rietta

4y↑2

Great advice.
Thankyou..I needed 2 hear this.

Theophilus Castle

4y↑8

Wow this is actually me. I have done and Stil doing this 3 rules and am happy living my lovely life
No more crying no more worries but am now facing a huge problem and is I am afraid to get into relationship and even propose to a lady.. I need coaching thank you

-Qh- SNaP-

4y↑1

Coach Abby,
I’ve implemented the no contact after begging like a fool. I know how to be confident and find myself again. We haven’t seen each other in well over a week but my texts stopped yesterday after she told me not to contact any of her family. The whole day went by and I didn’t talk to her. Then she texts and asks about my thanksgiving. I replied with something funny and then we talked a little about her sister that was in a car accident. I have held my own about not contacting her and not trying to continue a conversation since then. If she replies, what should I do? She’s blocked me on social media but secretly has been checking up on me with other accounts or so it seems. I blocked those accounts. I think you’re going to tell me not to contact her anymore but what if she texts again? Stay confident and act like I’m happy and not bothered by any of it? I really want to get her back but I don’t wanna seem desperate. What should I say if she texts again? Nothing?

Just be yourself

Champion

Surya Scs

What happened??

Elle

You make me feel safe

S C

Hi Coach Abby! Can you go into radio silence and have it be effective if you and him have broke up multiple times? This time he ended things because he became convicted about sex outside of marriage since we're both christians. He said that was the only reason for the breakup and wanted to still see one another platonically. That didn't happen, so after I unfriended him on facebook and instagram and I recently asked why , he said "I just can't trust myself to keep my hands off of you". So now I hit the friend button again.... Was that a mistake? Do I just go silent? I feel we have something very real and strong here. He's not just settled in his career as it's a new business. Maybe give it space and time? Will he forget me if we're not connected on social media? Thank you!!

Keeper of Knowledge

Well, why wont he marry you then? Then he can have sex, if that is really the only reason. Sounds like an excuse to me...

Casper Jensen

Hi.. I'm now though a 3 week of radio silence.. Which is better in your opinion from her on..? Continue radio silence so my ex can't find any info on me or no contact but with a few social media stories where I'm happy, positive and a maybe little funny..? A bit difficult showing I'm doing cool things during the lockdown though..

Angel Sanchez

4y↑3

Its been 3 months since we broke up & 2 months since we saw each other, we work at the same restaurant, shes in college im in high school. When we broke up she just ghosted me then a few days later said shes over me and hasn’t been focused on me and just wants to focus on her friends and school we made it through her freshman year fine but this year she just doesn’t want to deal with me, nothing went wrong she said she just says she doesn’t want to be committed in college, she wants to experience other things with other guys, and our lives are taking “different paths”, she switches her answers everytime we’ve talked... she said over thanksgiving break we could “talk about whats already been done but not work things out” I dont know what to do. I feel lost. I tried no contact 3 times & after I reached out she would just say shes busy & is over me.

WizzKILL ƴ

4y↑1

What if my ex doesnt reach out after no contact😪

A C

2y↑1

Hopefully then you yourself gets better! In honesty, no talking in general actually helps! You have to let go unfortunately! Don’t dwell if it doesn’t happen

Okami Belmont

Does radio silence work if she told me she fell out of love and has no more romantic love for me? I been with her for 7 years but covid 19 put 3 months gap between us seeing each other. And I feel like that really made her lose interest. Whats the best thing for me to do? She doesn't mind being friends but I'm too in love to pretend to be a friend.

Georgie fitpro

4y↑1

She when clod on the negative talks and broke up. Just looking forward in bettering myself and stay cool.

GridleyBear

4y↑9

I asked my ex if I would ever have another chance and she said “I’m sorry” but she also says she misses me when I told her I miss her. Should I do no contact

Scameron

3y↑1

Did it work?

violetta09

Yes!

Kanchana Jayan

Definitely, you should

J C

Yes let her come to you

Vann Helsin

Yes

NJ 64

My ex broke up with me almost 3 weeks ago now. We were together for 2 years and long distance for 1.5 of those years. I I just found out that she started dating someone new 3 days after we broke up. I’ve been in no contact for over a week now, but I still see some of what she posts on social media. She’s posting pictures that almost seem like a recreation of our relationship. There’s one where the new girl is wearing what was my favorite sweatshirt. There’s another of the girl at a museum coffee shop; it’s basically identical to a picture taken of me 3 months ago. It seems like a rebound relationship, but I’m struggling with my ex seemingly not caring about our 2 years together. What does it all mean?

Yalda

Omg! I am so shook to hear I am so sorry. I also was in a long distance relationship for 2 years and we broke up 2 Weeks ago. I am so scared of the exact thing you just said - him dating someone new so soon after the break up. He surely tries his best, since he got over 40 new followers (all female)in only 10 days on isntagram and actually isnt the Social Media type and was never active until now. He also posted a story in whch he was at a nother girl's house whileduring our relationship he nver posted stories of me since according to him it s cheesy to post girls/your gf there. So i am sure he is fucking around or at least trying to... Shows me how few he cared about me. I think this kinda behavior is disrespectful and it actually helps me to hate him a little bit more... If he can hurt me that much without thinking, he cannot be a good person. He cannot be the person i thought i dated for 2 years...

Stuart Adams Railfanning Videos

4y↑2

What about no contact with my ex-girlfriend after 11 years, and the fact that I've been with my current girlfriend for almost 9 years?

Stuart Adams Railfanning Videos

4y↑1

@Lonely Mind I know right. I mean shoot, my ex is stalking me at all 5 of my places of work.

Lonely Mind

4y↑1

......yikes man

NAVEEN SHRIVASTAVA

4y↑1

Thanks coach Aby.....

mav

my ex girlfriend is also my workmate, how can i avoid her and forget her?

bsqnn150

I m not breaked up but can i do radio silence?

Michael ruhm

4y↑2

How do you implement radio silence when kids are involved

Krystle January - Beat cancer naturally expert

4y↑2

Don't talk to them about anything except the kids. Be strictly all business

WizzKILL ƴ

4y↑1

Well....i and my ex werent phtsically together always cuz of the covid but we always texted called and we always video called but then he said he no longer feels the same and he broke up with me...will the no contact still be effective?we are in the sane school tho and we study the same course so it very possible we might see during lectures but before then will the no contact be effective? I really want him back😭

James

Does radio silence still work after bein broke up for 4 months ?
Thanks abbey

Mustcikjanik

What if I am the person who fucked up and she felt unloved and rejected by me. Should I break NC? It's been a month since we last talk. I was needy last time when she broke up with me and I'm feeling better right now. I've heared that he asked my friend about me asking him how am I doing. Should I contact her and show better side of me? That I have changed? I'm not gonna talk about past, only the future and the present. If I should contact should start with something specific?

Precious Gift

Wonderful video

Love Advice TV

Thank you!
Coach Abby

Nora Katniss

4y↑3

Hi my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and we are in no contact for 2 weeks, I deleted our pictures from instagram yesterday and he messaged me "why did u delete our pics?" and I didnt answer. Then he messaged me again. I didnt answer. 5 hours later he also deleted our pics. Did I do wrong? I still want him back but I made it clear that he should not contact me if he doesn't want to be back together. Will he move on cause I didn't answer? please help.

Cherry mae Estor

Dear delete all ur social media then dont show urself to him

Sean Manuel

4y↑1

deactivate your instragram or delete it.

boxerxx951

I would like some help me and my ex love each other but her family wont let be with me they threaten her if we get back together theyll take her kids away.. how do I speak to one of you coaches? Plz help

samarztk

Would this work in LDR never met lol I’m hopeless

FrontalP7 Eso

4y↑1

I go to a small high school I have one class with her what do I do?

Alvin Orlain

4y↑1

How about you both have 1son.. I do have many fault on our relationship then suddenly she give up.. And she only what to talk about our son.. What should i do i want them back

Manolo19990 Pluas

4y↑4

Go no Contact forever

Paty Alvarez

4y↑6

How do I create mystery during COVID-19? he knows I'm stuck at home

louie rebadulla

Just don't give a shit.. keep silence

Lena B. M.

😂😂🤣😂😂

MB

4y↑2

What if his rebound is a friend of many years??? How can i ever compete that??????? But they're in a long distance relationship which is better for me ( i thought i might be the rebound but I'm his first gf so no)

Saumyadeep Das

4y↑2

A person stalks his ex using a fake account. Is this violets radio silence?

Cherry mae Estor

Yes

Erica Hammaker

Ok so isn't no contact meaning not gonna contact but will respond. And radio silence is absolutely nothing. No talk, web, or text hearing from u until you feel u are strong enuff to communicate again and only if they contact u firsr.

Jensen Fernandez

What about if we work together though?

Mr The O Mighty 1

The only thing I do is too look at her photo every now and again, I’ve never checked her Facebook since the break up, she has so much going on in her life the biggest one is looking after her 78 year old mum who had leukaemia 4 years ago and now her mum isn’t getting any better so now she lives with her mum, I’m meditating as this lady I’ve known her for a little under 30 years, we we’re together for the last 6 years, we’ve now been separated for just over a year and lots of people would say move on but not a chance, nobody will come close to her and I’m not prepared to give someone false hope by letting them get to know me then fall in love only for me not be able to give them what they want ....

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