love at first sight
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If I fell short of your expectations for me
Just know that I do not hold any of it against you
If I fell short of your expectations for me
Just know that I did not expect any better of you

And don't call me daddy
I'm no replacement for your father
If he touched you the way I have
That's sickening, I'm sorry for you
But I refuse to fill the hole

Slip your hand into his waistband
If it aids in your escape
But I'm hoping you can teach me
How to keep such a clean conscience
When betraying love
In keeping the company of deviance

If I'm anything less than a beast of a man
In your future conversations
I'll start doubting your commitment
To not owning your part
I'm playing my own the best I can
Juggling my heart from the ends of my fingertips
To the lump in my throat

And don't call me daddy
I'm no replacement for your father
If he touched you the way I have
That's sickening, I'm sorry for you
But I refuse to fill the hole

A game of charades to place the blame
Can we commit to calling this performance art?
I gladly accept the role of villain
Because I am sure of my heart
And the darkness from this
Will not enshroud my faith in myself

I am more
Than you anticipated
You are less
Than I expected




Together in this mess
We find our resolve

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Re-Flex's song Love At First Sight deal with themes of flawed relationships and unfulfilled expectations. The opening stanza highlights the singer's awareness of his shortcomings in the eyes of his partner. He clarifies that he does not hold any grudges against her for expecting more from him, nor does he expect better from her either. The second stanza addresses the issue of the singer being referred to as "daddy" and refusing to be a replacement for a father figure. He acknowledges the possibility that if the partner has experienced molestation in the past, she may find his touch sickening, and he refuses to fill that void. The third stanza acknowledges the gray areas in love and relationships and the challenge of keeping a "clean conscience" when betraying love. The singer expresses his desire to be anything but a "beast of a man" and the fear of being judged by his partner's future conversations with others. Finally, the last stanza depicts a performance where both parties play their roles as "villain" and "less than expected." Despite the mess, both find resolve together.


The song was released in 1983 and performed moderately well in the UK charts. It was considered a staple of the new wave era of music. Here are some interesting facts about the song:


Line by Line Meaning

If I fell short of your expectations for me
I acknowlede that I might not have met your expectations


Just know that I do not hold any of it against you
I do not blame you for how you feel


If I fell short of your expectations for me
I never expected to exceed your expectations


Just know that I did not expect any better of you
I had no high expectations of you


And don't call me daddy
Do not refer to me with a paternalistic moniker


I'm no replacement for your father
I cannot fill the void from your father


If he touched you the way I have
If your father abused you like I did


That's sickening, I'm sorry for you
I am sorry for the trauma you endured


But I refuse to fill the hole
I cannot fix what he did to you


Slip your hand into his waistband
If you can escape from me that way


If it aids in your escape
If it helps you get away from me


But I'm hoping you can teach me
Can you teach me to not feel guilty


How to keep such a clean conscience
Even after betraying love


When betraying love
After the infidelity


In keeping the company of deviance
Being unfaithful


If I'm anything less than a beast of a man
If I am less than a strong man in your eyes


In your future conversations
When you talk to others about me


I'll start doubting your commitment
I will question your loyalty


To not owning your part
To not acknowledging your role in our problems


I'm playing my own the best I can
I am doing my best to cope with my own emotions


Juggling my heart from the ends of my fingertips
Trying to protect my heart from being hurt again


To the lump in my throat
The heavy feeling in my chest


A game of charades to place the blame
Trying to find someone to blame


Can we commit to calling this performance art?
Can we accept that our relationship is a sham?


I gladly accept the role of villain
I am okay with being the bad guy


Because I am sure of my heart
I wholeheartedly believe in what I am doing


And the darkness from this
The pain from this situation


Will not enshroud my faith in myself
Will not make me doubt my self-worth


I am more
I am better than what you expected


Than you anticipated
More than what you thought of me


You are less
You are not as good as I expected


Than I expected
Not what I hoped for


Together in this mess
We are stuck in this bad situation


We find our resolve
We will find a way to deal with it




Lyrics © DistroKid
Written by: Billy Lever

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