Our Mutual Friend
The Divine Comedy Lyrics


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No matter how I try I just can't get her out of my mind
And when I sleep I visualize her.
I saw her in the pub. I met her later at the night-club.
A mutual friend introduced us.
We talked about the noise

And how it's hard to hear your own voice
Above the beat and the sub-bass.
We talked and talked for hours, we talked in the back of our friend's car
As we all went back to his place.

On our friend's settee She told me that she really liked me
And I said "cool, the feeling's mutualâ??.
We played old 45's. I said "it's like the soundtrack to our livesâ??
And she said "true, it's not unusualâ??.

Then privately we danced
But couldn't seem to keep our balance,
A drunken haze had come upon us.
We sank down to the floor and we sang

A song that I can't sing any more,
And then we kissed and fell unconscious.

I woke up the next day all alone but for a headache.
I stumbled out to find the bathroom.




But all I found was her wrapped around another lover.
No longer then is he our mutual friend.

Overall Meaning

The Divine Comedy's song "Our Mutual Friend" tells the story of a night out and a subsequent romance that ends in heartbreak. The singer of the song cannot get this woman out of his mind and even dreams about her. He meets her through a mutual friend at a pub and later at a nightclub. They bond over the difficulty of hearing themselves speak over the loud music. Their conversations go on for hours and continue in the back of their friend's car as they head back to his place. There, they confess their attraction to one another, dance and share a special moment, but end up getting drunk and passing out.


The next morning, the singer wakes up alone with a headache and makes his way to the bathroom, where he finds his new love wrapped up with someone else that he recognizes as the friend who introduced them. The singer feels betrayed, hurt and incredibly alone. It's clear that he has been replaced, and the final lyrics of the song make it crystal clear: "No longer then is he our mutual friend." The song is a melancholic and introspective reflection on love, loss and the transience of life.


Line by Line Meaning

No matter how I try I just can't get her out of my mind
Despite my efforts, I cannot stop thinking about her.


And when I sleep I visualize her.
Even my dreams are filled with her image.


I saw her in the pub. I met her later at the night-club.
I first noticed her at the pub, and later encountered her at the nightclub.


A mutual friend introduced us.
We were introduced by someone we both knew.


We talked about the noise
Our conversation revolved around the loud music.


And how it's hard to hear your own voice
We discussed the difficulty of communicating over the noise.


Above the beat and the sub-bass.
Specifically, we were struggling to hear ourselves speak over the heavy bass of the music.


We talked and talked for hours, we talked in the back of our friend's car
We conversed for a long time, even while on the way back to our friend's place in their car.


As we all went back to his place.
The three of us proceeded to our mutual friend's home.


On our friend's settee She told me that she really liked me
As we sat on our friend's couch, she expressed her fondness for me.


And I said "cool, the feeling's mutualâ??.
I reciprocated her feelings, saying that I felt the same way.


We played old 45's. I said "it's like the soundtrack to our livesâ??
We listened to old vinyl records and I remarked that they seemed to perfectly represent our own experiences.


And she said "true, it's not unusualâ??.
She agreed with me, and made a reference to the Tom Jones song 'It's Not Unusual.'


Then privately we danced
We shared a private dance, just the two of us.


But couldn't seem to keep our balance,
We were both unsteady on our feet, suggesting that we may have been under the influence of alcohol or drugs.


A drunken haze had come upon us.
We were likely impaired by intoxicants.


We sank down to the floor and we sang
Our lack of balance caused us to fall to the ground, where we began to sing together.


A song that I can't sing any more,
The song we sang together is now associated with a memory that is too painful or nostalgic to revisit.


And then we kissed and fell unconscious.
We then shared a kiss and lost consciousness.


I woke up the next day all alone but for a headache.
I regained consciousness the next day, suffering only from a hangover and physical discomfort.


I stumbled out to find the bathroom.
I got up and stumbled around, likely due to residual effects of our inebriation.


But all I found was her wrapped around another lover.
I discovered that she had spent the remainder of the night with someone else, likely someone she had been involved with previously.


No longer then is he our mutual friend.
As a result of her actions, our mutual friend is no longer on good terms with either of us.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: NEIL HANNON

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@mkyN77

No matter how I try I just can't get her out of my mind
And when I sleep I visualize her.
I saw her in the pub. I met her later at the night-club.
A mutual friend introduced us.
We talked about the noise
And how it's hard to hear your own voice
Above the beat and the sub-bass.
We talked and talked for hours, we talked in the back of our friend's car
As we all went back to his place.
On our friend's settee. She told me that she really liked me.
And I said "cool, the feeling's mutual??.
We played old 45's. I said "it's like the soundtrack to our lives"
And she said "true, it's not unusual".
Then privately we danced
But couldn't seem to keep our balance,
A drunken haze had come upon us.
We sank down to the floor and we sang
A song that I can't sing any more,
And then we kissed and fell unconscious.
I woke up the next day all alone but for a headache.
I stumbled out to find the bathroom.
But all I found was her wrapped around another lover.
No longer then is he our mutual friend.



@dionsmith3654

No matter how I try
I just can't get her out of my mind
And I when I sleep I visualize her
I saw her in the pub
I met her later at the nightclub
A mutual friend introduced us
We talked about the noise
And how its hard to hear your own voice
Above the beat and the sub-bass
We talked and talked for hours
We talked in the back of our friend's car
As we all went back to his place
On our friend's settee
She told me that she really liked me
And I said, "Cool, the feeling's mutual"
We played old 45's
And said it's like the soundtrack to our lives
And she said, "True, it's not unusual"
Then privately we danced
We couldn't seem to keep our balance
A drunken haze had come upon us
We sank down to the floor
And we sang a song that I can't sing anymore
And then we kissed and fell unconscious
I woke up the next day, all alone but for a headache
I stumbled out to find the bathroom
But all I found was her, wrapped around another lover
No longer then is he our mutual friend



@audreytrance34

No matter how I try I just can't get her out of my mind
And when I sleep I visualize her.
I saw her in the pub. I met her later at the night-club.
A mutual friend introduced us.
We talked about the noise
And how it's hard to hear your own voice
Above the beat and the sub-bass.
We talked and talked for hours, we talked in the back of our friend's car
As we all went back to his place.
On our friend's settee She told me that she really liked me
And I said "cool, the feeling's mutual??.
We played old 45's. I said "it's like the soundtrack to our lives??
And she said "true, it's not unusual??.
Then privately we danced
But couldn't seem to keep our balance,
A drunken haze had come upon us.
We sank down to the floor and we sang
A song that I can't sing any more,
And then we kissed and fell unconscious.
I woke up the next day all alone but for a headache.
I stumbled out to find the bathroom.
But all I found was her wrapped around another lover.
No longer then is he our mutual friend.



@aweescotsdog8358

Is there a sadder, more profound, more relatable song in the universe? It has everything, regret, missed opportunity, desire.lust even .. But tempered by genuine attraction followed by bitter disappointment - my disappointment...a life less ordinary of sorts .. And yet caressed by its own miseries....

But be happy folks, this is just a YouTube comment, there is a world out there with grass and trees and sunsets and breeze! Love your lives and use morosity only to wonder and inspire ... tomorrow is another day... a new adventure!

Best wishes fellow life travellers!

Slàinte


P.S. Still an absolutely brilliant track though!



All comments from YouTube:

@CamiloSapag

This is the most beautiful song ever written! I can't get over this. His talent is so big and unlimited!

@daniandres3211

Check Nick Cave's "To Be By Your Side" and Dire Straits' "Romeo and Juliet". Also almost painfully beautiful pieces of music!

@tremendousyeet3467

@Dani Andres Your turn, check "The Mind Electric" and "Fate of the Stars" by Tally Hall. i offer devastation via tune.

@nickywilks7928

I cannot believe that I've only heard this song for the first time...October 2020....outstanding....so full of meloncholy, it made me cry.

@Mark-vq5dz

Me too , it was on BBC Radio 2, I sat in the car, utterly spellbound. A gift

@nathaliehagestein4599

Yeah, same for me, last Saturday that was! WOW

@Mark-vq5dz

@Nathalie Hagestein Can't beat a bit of R2 can you 🙂

@nickywilks7928

Yep radio 2 a guest request on the Graham Norton show......

@dreamyeyedgirl5

Me too! In my hospital bed and helped me so much.

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@thedeathnight

Even after all these years this is still the most emotionally gut wrenching song I know. Such an underrated masterpiece

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