I Don't Know How To Love
The Drums Lyrics


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When you're alone and I'm alone
I could touch your hair three months ago
But now it makes you so upset

But you say I don't know how to love
I simply don't understand my life
You can say you don't know



But I remember football in the snow
Everybody's gone home
Why don't you love me anymore

But you say I don't know how to love
I simply don't understand my life

But you say I don't know how to love
I simply don't understand my life

But you say I don't know how to love
I simply don't understand my life

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to The Drums' "I Don't Know How To Love" captures the sense of confusion and hurt that comes with a failed relationship. The opening lines convey a sense of distance between the speaker and their lover: "When you're alone and I'm alone / I could touch your hair three months ago / But now it makes you so upset." This juxtaposition of past and present highlights the emotional gap that has risen between them, a gap that has rendered even the most innocuous touch unbearable for one of them.


The chorus, "But you say I don't know how to love / I simply don't understand my life / You can say you don't know," encapsulates the confusion and sense of estrangement even further. The listener isn't clear on who is saying this line - the speaker or the lover - which makes it all the more poignant: whoever is speaking, they are clearly feeling misunderstood and ill-equipped to navigate the delicate emotional terrain of the relationship. The repeated refrain of "But you say I don't know how to love / I simply don't understand my life" suggests a kind of despair, as though the two parties are stuck in a cycle of misunderstanding they cannot break out of.


The final lines of the song, "But I remember football in the snow / Everybody's gone home / Why don't you love me anymore," serve as a poignant reminder of the happy times that once existed between the two. The specificity of the memory - playing football in the snow - makes it all the more bittersweet, as though the speaker is holding onto a happy moment that is slipping further and further away. Ultimately, the song is a meditation on the pain of a relationship that has gone sour, and the sense of helplessness that comes with it.


Line by Line Meaning

When you're alone and I'm alone
When both of us are alone


I could touch your hair three months ago
I used to be able to touch your hair three months ago


But now it makes you so upset
But now it upsets you when I touch your hair


But you say I don't know how to love
But you accuse me of not knowing how to love


I simply don't understand my life
I don't comprehend my existence


You can say you don't know
You claim to not know


But I remember football in the snow
But I reminisce about playing football in the snow


Everybody's gone home
Everyone else has left


Why don't you love me anymore
I wonder why you no longer love me


But you say I don't know how to love
But you accuse me of not knowing how to love


I simply don't understand my life
I don't comprehend my existence


But you say I don't know how to love
But you accuse me of not knowing how to love


I simply don't understand my life
I don't comprehend my existence


But you say I don't know how to love
But you accuse me of not knowing how to love


I simply don't understand my life
I don't comprehend my existence




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: CONNOR HANWICK, JACOB GRAHAM, JONATHAN PIERCE

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