The First
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I can't stand to think about a heart so big it hurts like hell. Oh my God I gave my best but for three more years to end like this. Well do you want to fall apart? I can't stop if you can't start. Do you want to fall apart? I could if you can try to fix what I've undone. Cause I hate what I've become.
(Chorus) You know me, oh you think you do, you just don't seem to see. I've been waiting all this time to be something that I can't define. So let's cause a scene. Clap our hands and stomp our feet. Or something, yeah something. I've just gotta get myself over me.
I could stand to do without all the people I have left behind. What's the point in going around when its straight line baby. A straight line down. So let's make a list of who we need and it's not much if any thing. Lets make a list of who we need and well throw it away cause we don't need anyone, no we don't need anyone.
And I hate what I've become. You know the night life is just not for me, cause all you really need are a few good friends. I don't want to go out and be on my own, you know they started something I can't stand. You leave for the city, well count me out. Cause all this time is wasted on everything I've done.




Overall Meaning

The Format's song "The First Single" is a poignant commentary on social anxieties and expectations of conformity. The opening lines - "I can't stand to think about a heart so big it hurts like hell. Oh my God I gave my best but for three more years to end like this" - captures the apprehension one feels while searching for a place in the world. The fear of failing often results in self-doubt and intense scrutiny of one's flaws. The following lines - "Do you want to fall apart? I could if you can try to fix what I've undone. Cause I hate what I've become" - emphasizes the need for someone to help when we are at our lowest, and for us to help them in return.


The chorus - "You know me, oh you think you do, you just don't seem to see. I've been waiting all this time to be something that I can't define. So let's cause a scene. Clap our hands and stomp our feet. Or something, yeah something. I've just gotta get myself over me" - highlights the need for individuality and non-conformity. It speaks of the struggle to find oneself by breaking away from societal expectations and causing a stir, even if it means breaking the rules.


The lines "The night life is just not for me, cause all you really need are a few good friends. I don't want to go out and be on my own" speaks of the desire for close friendships and companionship over partying and the superficiality of a busy nightlife. The song ends with the assertion of one's worthlessness and a lack of need for anyone, even oneself.


Line by Line Meaning

I can't stand to think about a heart so big it hurts like hell.
The idea of a heart that is so full of love that it causes immense pain is unbearable for me to contemplate.


Oh my God I gave my best but for three more years to end like this.
Despite doing everything I could, the last three years of my life have ended in disappointment and failure.


Well do you want to fall apart? I can't stop if you can't start.
If you're not willing to make an effort to fix the problems between us, we're both going to end up broken.


Do you want to fall apart? I could if you can try to fix what I've undone.
If you make an effort to undo the mistakes I've made, I'll do my part to prevent our relationship from falling apart.


Cause I hate what I've become.
I feel deep shame and self-disgust over the person I have turned into.


You know me, oh you think you do, you just don't seem to see.
You believe you understand who I am, but in reality, you're blind to the parts of me that make me complex and different.


I've been waiting all this time to be something that I can't define.
I have spent my entire life searching for a sense of identity and purpose that I still cannot fully comprehend.


So let's cause a scene. Clap our hands and stomp our feet. Or something, yeah something. I've just gotta get myself over me.
Let's do something outrageous and attention-grabbing to distract myself from my own internal turmoil and self-doubt.


I could stand to do without all the people I have left behind.
I often feel as though I would be better off without the people from my past who have hurt or disappointed me.


What's the point in going around when its straight line baby. A straight line down.
Life feels like it's leading to a predictable and inevitable downfall, not a fulfilling journey full of twists and turns.


So let's make a list of who we need and it's not much if any thing. Lets make a list of who we need and well throw it away cause we don't need anyone, no we don't need anyone.
We could make a list of the people who truly matter to us, but the truth is that we don't need anyone else to feel complete.


And I hate what I've become.
I feel immense disgust and disappointment with the person I have turned into.


You know the night life is just not for me, cause all you really need are a few good friends.
I'm not interested in the typical party scene because I know that all I really need in life is a small circle of close, loyal friends.


I don't want to go out and be on my own, you know they started something I can't stand.
I don't enjoy being alone because it reminds me of the people who have hurt me in the past and have caused me to feel deeply unfulfilled.


You leave for the city, well count me out. Cause all this time is wasted on everything I've done.
If you're going to abandon me and pursue your own dreams, then I'm no longer interested in being part of your journey because I feel that all of my past efforts have amounted to nothing.




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@tfrisch83

This might be the most underrated song of all time.

@cynthia-lah

Agree!

@badgerfann3618

especially considering Nate wrote it when he was like 17 or 18.

@tfrisch83

Zen Tranquilizer I hear you, what bands do you speak of by the way? I'd like to hear them.

@virgil9303

HCO

@mattkimmich91

You’re not wrong.

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@mathewpeters7685

Woke up with this song stuck in my head, haven't heard it since hs/early college. This song meant so much to me for so long. Crazy. All I can say to anyone out there listening is that time heals all wounds!

@ahshhr3jeoapjfb3jejeee74

Is it still stuck in your head after all these years?

@jennamoe4183

Rocked out to these guys in the mid 2000s, now I'm playing these bangers to my kids

@trump-totalwar6509

wouldn't mind bangin you

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