Whose Problem?
The Motels Lyrics


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Going together so well
Watching the distance dissolve
Anticipating the matter will never be heard
I know you wanted perfection
But I lost my nerve

So, whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
If I'm not yours
You didn't have to help me
You could have very well left me
Out on the floor

Knowing that time always tells
I find that you're not so sure of myself
I think you're wondering maybe you made a mistake
Now, nobody's perfect
Now, why don't you give me a break?

'Cause whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
If I'm not yours
You didn't have to adopt me
You could have very well left me
Outside your door

So, whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
If I'm not yours
You didn't have to help me
You could have left me
Just like before

I think of the places I visit
I think of the face I have lost
Think of it, I'd be a bargain
At half the cost
And except for the sanity
Nothing much has been lost

So, whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
Whose problem am I?
If I'm not yours
You didn't have to adopt me




You could have very well left me
Outside your door

Overall Meaning

The Motels’ song Whose Problem? seems to be about a relationship that’s falling apart. The opening lines suggest that everything was going smoothly until something ruined it. The singer is aware that the other person wanted perfection, but the singer lost his/her nerve, and something in the relationship changed.


The chorus questions whose problem the singer is, and this may refer to the responsibility and guilt that often come with failed relationships. The singer believes that the other person didn’t have to help him/her and could have just left, but instead, the person stayed and made things worse.


The second verse is filled with uncertainty as the singer notes that time always tells, and the other person may have made a mistake by sticking around. The singer then goes on to suggest that nobody’s perfect; the other person should give him/her a break.


The bridge suggests that the singer has lost something, maybe a sense of belonging or identity. The singer considers him/herself to be a bargain at half the cost, except for the sanity that’s been lost.


Overall, the song explores the complexities of relationships – the emotions, the responsibilities, and the uncertainty that come with them.


Line by Line Meaning

Going together so well
Everything was in sync, we were happy together


Watching the distance dissolve
Our issues no longer mattered as we grew closer


Anticipating the matter will never be heard
Assuming our arguments wouldn't be addressed or resolved


I know you wanted perfection
I understand that you were seeking perfection in our relationship


But I lost my nerve
But I became nervous and unable to meet those expectations


So, whose problem am I?
Who is responsible for the issues in our relationship?


If I'm not yours
If I don't belong to you anymore


You didn't have to help me
You had no obligation to assist me


You could have very well left me
You could have abandoned me completely


Out on the floor
Leaving me to fend for myself and struggle


Knowing that time always tells
Knowing that eventually, the truth or the result will be revealed


I find that you're not so sure of myself
I discover that you have doubts about our relationship and me


I think you're wondering maybe you made a mistake
I suspect you are reconsidering whether being with me is a mistake


Now, nobody's perfect
Nobody is faultless, including myself


Now, why don't you give me a break?
Why don't you cut me some slack?


You could have left me
You could have abandoned me


Just like before
Just like you did previously when we had issues


I think of the places I visit
I reminisce about my travels and experiences


I think of the face I have lost
I realize the loved ones who are no longer in my life


Think of it, I'd be a bargain
Considering everything, I would be a great catch


At half the cost
At a much lower price


And except for the sanity
Other than my mental peace


Nothing much has been lost
I haven't lost much else


You didn't have to adopt me
You didn't have to take responsibility for me


Outside your door
Leaving me outside your life and home




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