If That
The Stanley Brothers Lyrics


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I don't blame you for I know you want him
That your love for me was never real
I could hold you but you'd be unhappy
But it's alright if that's the way you feel
I know that I will always go on caring
And my feelings now I must conceal
I still need you and I want you with me
But it's alright if that's the way you feel
I always knew some day I would lose you
When those lies about me were revealed




It's plain to see sweetheart you believe them
But it's alright if that's the way you feel

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to The Stanley Brothers' song "If That" speak to a sense of resignation and acceptance in the face of a failed love. The singer acknowledges that his love for his partner was not reciprocated, and that she seeks love and affection elsewhere. Despite still having feelings for her, he realizes that holding onto her would only bring her unhappiness. This acceptance of the inevitable is conveyed in the line, "But it's alright if that's the way you feel." The singer's emotions are complex, however, as he also acknowledges his ongoing feelings for her with, "I still need you and I want you with me" and "I will always go on caring."


The song speaks to the experience of heartbreak and the realization that love cannot be forced. The singer acknowledges the reality of the situation, even though it is painful, and tries to move on. This sense of acceptance and resignation is encapsulated in the song's refrain, which repeats the line, "But it's alright if that's the way you feel."


Line by Line Meaning

I don't blame you for I know you want him
I understand that you have feelings for someone else and don't blame you for it.


That your love for me was never real
I acknowledge that your love for me was not true.


I could hold you but you'd be unhappy
Even if I could have you, I know that you would not be happy with me.


But it's alright if that's the way you feel
I accept and respect your emotions and decisions.


I know that I will always go on caring
I will continue to have feelings for you and care about you.


And my feelings now I must conceal
However, I will have to hide my emotions from you.


I still need you and I want you with me
I still have a desire to be with you and need you in my life.


But it's alright if that's the way you feel
I respect your decision even if it hurts me.


I always knew some day I would lose you
I had a feeling that I would eventually lose you.


When those lies about me were revealed
I knew that when the rumors and lies about me surfaced, it would affect your feelings towards me.


It's plain to see sweetheart you believe them
It's clear that you have faith in those lies and rumors about me.


But it's alright if that's the way you feel
I understand and accept that you believe those lies, even if it's not true.




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: PEGGY STANLEY BLAND, RALPH STANLEY

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