Founded in Detroit, Michigan, United States in 1959, The Supremes began as a quartet called The Primettes. Founding members Florence Ballard, Mary Wilson, Diana Ross, and Betty McGlown, all from the Brewster-Douglas public housing project in Detroit, were the sister act to The Primes (later The Temptations). In 1960, Barbara Martin replaced McGlown, and the group signed with Motown in 1961 as The Supremes. Martin left at the end of 1961, and Ross, Ballard, and Wilson carried on as a trio. After they achieved success in the mid-1960s with Ross as the lead singer, Motown president Berry Gordy renamed the group Diana Ross & the Supremes in 1967, and replaced Ballard with Cindy Birdsong. Ross left the group for a solo career in 1970, and was replaced by Jean Terrell. After 1972, the lineup of the Supremes changed frequently, with Lynda Laurence, Scherrie Payne, and Susaye Greene all becoming members before the group ended its eighteen-year existence in 1977.
I'm Livin' In Shame
The Supremes Lyrics
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She wore a dirty raggety scarf around her head
Always had her stockings low
Rolled to her feet, she just didn't know
She wore a sloppy dress
Oh no matter how she tried, she always looked a mess
Out of the pot she ate, never used a fork or a dinner plate
I was always so ashamed for my uptown friends to see her
In a college town, away from home, a new identity I found
Said I was born elite, with maids and servants at my feet
I must have been insane
I lied and said my mom died on a weekend trip to Spain
She never got out of the house, never even boarded a train
I married a guy, was livin' high
I didn't want him to know her
She had a grandson, two years old
I never even showed her
I'm livin' in shame, Momma, I miss you
I know you are not to blame, Momma, I miss you
Came the telegram
Mom passed away while making homemade jam
Before she died, she cried to see me by her side
She always did her best, ah! cookin', cleanin'
Always in the same old dress
Workin' hard down on her knees
Always try'n to please
Momma! Momma! Momma, do you hear me
Momma! Momma! Momma, do you hear me
I'm livin' in shame, Momma, I miss you
I know you've done your best
Momma, I miss you
Won't you forgive me Momma
For all the wrong I've done
I know you have done your best
I know you have done your very best you could
But I never understood
Workin' hard on your knees
Momma, you were always, always tryin' to please
In the song "I'm Livin' in Shame" by The Supremes, the singer reminisces about her mother's humble ways and her own embarrassment towards her mother's appearance and behaviour. The song highlights the societal pressure that drives people to mask their true identity and present a façade to fit in with the elite crowd. The singer initially feels ashamed of her mother's appearance and unglamorous lifestyle, which she seeks to hide even into her adulthood. She adopts a new identity and lies to her husband about her mother's whereabouts. However, when her mother dies, the singer is hit hard by the cruel reality of her actions, realizing the love and affection she had missed out on. The song ends with a plea for forgiveness and a poignant message of empathy and understanding towards one's roots.
The song is a reflection of the social norms and the class divide prevalent in the mid-20th century. It emphasizes the psychological pressure and anxiety that some individuals feel to fit in and conform to society's expectations. The lyrics show how the singer's attempts to deny her roots and feign a higher status have led to her shame and guilt. The song also showcases the theme of family love and the importance of valuing one's heritage.
Line by Line Meaning
Mom was cooking bread
The singer's mother was making bread
She wore a dirty raggety scarf around her head
The mother wore a ragged scarf on her head
Always had her stockings low
The mother's stockings were always down, not pulled up
Rolled to her feet, she just didn't know
Her stockings were always rolled down to her feet without her realizing
She wore a sloppy dress
The mother wore a messy, unkempt dress
Oh no matter how she tried, she always looked a mess
Despite the mother's efforts, she always looked untidy
Out of the pot she ate, never used a fork or a dinner plate
The mother ate directly from the pot and never used utensils or plates
I was always so ashamed for my uptown friends to see her
The artist was embarrassed for her wealthy friends to see her mother's poor appearance and habits
Afraid one day when I was grown that I would be her
The artist feared becoming like her mother when she grew up
In a college town, away from home, a new identity I found
The artist adopted a new identity when she went to college in a different town
Said I was born elite, with maids and servants at my feet
The singer lied about being wealthy and having servants
I must have been insane
The artist realizes the craziness of her lies
I lied and said my mom died on a weekend trip to Spain
The singer lied and said her mother died while on vacation in Spain
She never got out of the house, never even boarded a train
The mother never left her home and had never ridden a train
I married a guy, was livin' high
The singer married a wealthy man and lived luxuriously
I didn't want him to know her
The artist was ashamed of her mother and did not want her husband to meet her
She had a grandson, two years old
The artist's mother had a two-year-old grandson
I never even showed her
The singer never introduced her mother to her grandson
Came the telegram
The singer received a telegram
Mom passed away while making homemade jam
The mother passed away while making homemade jam
Before she died, she cried to see me by her side
The mother wished to see her daughter before passing away
She always did her best, ah! cookin', cleanin'
The mother tried her best with cooking and cleaning
Always in the same old dress
The mother always wore the same dress
Workin' hard down on her knees
The mother worked hard on her knees
Always try'n to please
The mother was always trying to please others
Momma! Momma! Momma, do you hear me
The singer pleads for her mother to hear her
Won't you forgive me Momma
The singer asks for her mother's forgiveness
For all the wrong I've done
The artist regrets her past actions
I know you have done your best
The artist acknowledges that her mother always did her best
I know you've done your best
The singer acknowledges that her mother always did her best
But I never understood
The singer never fully understood her mother's struggles
Momma, you were always, always tryin' to please
The mother was always trying to please others
Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: BERRY GORDY JR, BERRY JR GORDY, FRANK EDWARD WILSON, HENRY COSBY, PAMELA JOAN SAWYER, R. DEAN TAYLOR
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I'm Living In Shame · Diana Ross & The Supremes
Mom was cooking bread,
she wore a dirty raggedy scarf around her head.
Always had her stockings low,
rolled to her feet, she just didn't know.
She wore a sloppy dress,
No matter how she tried, she always looked a mess.
Out of the pot she ate, never used a fork or a dinner plate.
I was always so afraid for my uptown friends to see her,
Afraid one day when I was grown that I would be her.
In a college town, away from home, a new identity I found.
Said I was born elite, with maids and servants at my feet.
I must have been insane,
I lied and said my mom died on a weekend trip to Spain.
She never got out of the house, never even boarded a train.
I married a guy, was livin' high,
I didn't want him to know her,
She had a grandson, two years old,
That I never even showed her.
I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.
I know you are not to blame, Momma, I miss you.
Came the telegram,
mom passed away while making homemade jam.
Before she died, she cried to see me by her side.
She always did her best, Ah! cookin', cleanin',
always in the same old dress.
Workin' hard down on her knees,
always try'n to please.
Momma! Momma! Can you hear me, Momma!
Momma! Momma! Can you hear me, Momma!
I'm Livin' In Shame, Momma, I miss you.
I know you've done your best , Mama, I miss you
Won't you forgive me mama
For all the wrong I've done
I know you've done your best
Oh I know you've done the very best you could
Mama I thought you understood
Working hard, down on your knees
@patrickproctor392
This queen Diana Ross is still singing and touring 👑
@UncleDuTheWatchman
This song is so lyrically underrated. And they pulled a LOT of Soul out of Ross for this one. She interpreted the hell out of this here.
@notthatyouasked6656
Underrated? This song has possibly the most awkward, ridiculous lyrics of any hit song of its era. "Came the telegram - Mama passed away while makin' home made jam" - seriously?
@tinafiumara1952
You are absolutely right I love that song
@tinafiumara1952
I love all Diana Ross's songs but this is one of my favorite songs by her it is very depressing song but this is life life is very depressing Diana Ross in Gladys Knight is the queen of oldies back in the 60s 70s and '80s but I only like the songs from the 60s and 70s it is a very depressive song but it also if you look at it in a different way it's a beautiful song like I said live is so f**** depressed
@lewiscarey6984
Been listening to Ross The Boss since 1965! Agree wholeheartedly!! 💅🎵💅🎵💅
@jackjules7552
Yes, Ross does a good job out of making something out of what is really an overly dramatic corny song...I mean..mama died while making homemade jam? Really? Homemade jam? How backcountry can one get? I also think that Mary and Cindy do a good job in overcoming the soapy soap opera of the song. Their smooth little shimmies toward the camera are pleasant to watch and make up for the rather dismal lyrics. Calling Holland Dozier Holland!! The Supremes need you back!!
@seangibson9040
This song always makes me sad
@thunderbolt2145
Yeah, it's a beautiful song, but it leaves me depressed.
@isaiahthompson2065
I RAN TO THE RECORD SHOP WHEN THEY RELEASED THIS ONE ! I LOVE IT TIL THIS VERY DAY !