Bear
The Antlers Lyrics
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The cub's been kicking from within
He's loud, though without vocal chords
We'll put an end to him
We'll make all the right appointments
No one ever has to know
And then tomorrow I'll turn 21
We'll script another show
Drink champagne although you shouldn't be
We'll be blind and dumb until we fall asleep
None of our friends will come
They dodge our calls
And they have for quite a while now
It's not a shock
You don't seem to mind and I just can't see how
We're too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
There's a bear inside your stomach
The cub's been kicking you for weeks
And if this isn't all a dream
Well then we'll cut him from beneath
Well we're not scared of making caves
Or finding food for him to eat
We're terrified of one another
And terrified of what that means
But we'll make only quick decisions
And you'll just keep my in the waiting room
And all the while I'll know we're fucked
And not getting unfucked soon
When we get home we're bigger strangers than we've ever been before
You sit in front of snowy television, suitcase on the floor
We're too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old, old, old at all
The Antlers' song "Bear" is a poignant and raw portrayal of a couple's decision to abort a pregnancy. The lyrics speak to the complexity of this decision and the emotional turmoil it can create. The first stanza introduces the metaphor of a bear inside the stomach, representing the growing fetus. The line "He's loud, though without vocal chords" acknowledges the physicality of this life inside the mother, even though it cannot yet make itself heard. The couple decides to make "all the right appointments" to terminate the pregnancy, but they keep it a secret from their friends. The following lines describe a night of drinking champagne and playing charades, but it is evident that they are not really having fun. They are too aware of what they are about to do and the gravity of the situation weighs heavily on them.
The second stanza continues the bear metaphor, with the lyrics "The cub's been kicking you for weeks" expressing the physical discomfort and urgency of the situation. The couple is not afraid of the practical aspects of raising a child, such as making caves or finding food, but they are terrified of each other and what this decision means for their relationship. The line "We're terrified of one another / And terrified of what that means" captures the fear and vulnerability that comes with such a significant, life-altering decision. The rest of the stanza describes the decision-making process and the division of labor between the couple. The final two stanzas repeat the chorus, emphasizing the theme of feeling too old and too stuck to navigate this difficult decision.
Overall, "Bear" is a powerful and moving song that captures the emotions and complexities of making the decision to terminate a pregnancy.
Line by Line Meaning
There's a bear inside your stomach
There's something inside you that's causing you discomfort and pain
The cub's been kicking from within
This thing inside you is active and causing physical distress
He's loud, though without vocal chords
Despite not having a voice, this thing is making its presence painfully known
We'll put an end to him
We'll find a way to remove this thing from your body
We'll make all the right appointments
We'll take the necessary steps to address this issue
No one ever has to know
We'll keep this private and between us
And then tomorrow I'll turn 21
An arbitrary marker of time passing, implying that they are young and inexperienced
We'll script another show
We'll keep up appearances and pretend that everything is okay
We'll play charades up in the Chelsea
We'll engage in meaningless and shallow activities to distract ourselves from the real problem
Drink champagne although you shouldn't be
We'll indulge in things that may cause harm, ignoring the consequences
We'll be blind and dumb until we fall asleep
We'll ignore the reality of the situation and delay dealing with it until we can't avoid it any longer
None of our friends will come
Our friends are distancing themselves from us, possibly due to our problems
They dodge our calls
Our attempts at reaching out for support are being ignored
And they have for quite a while now
This is not a recent development, but an ongoing issue
It's not a shock
We aren't surprised by this, as it has been going on for some time
You don't seem to mind and I just can't see how
You appear to be accepting of the situation while I am struggling to understand why
We're too old
We should have known better, we are no longer young and naive
We're not old, old at all
We still have youth on our side, implying that we should be capable of handling our problems
Just too old
Despite still being young, we are still not equipped to deal with this situation
There's a bear inside your stomach
Repeating the opening line, emphasizing the severity of the problem
The cub's been kicking you for weeks
The problem has been ongoing and persistent
And if this isn't all a dream
Questioning the reality of the situation, hoping that it may not be as bad as it seems
Well then we'll cut him from beneath
If this is real, then we will take drastic measures to remove the problem
Well we're not scared of making caves
We are not afraid to take action and make changes to address our problems
Or finding food for him to eat
We are willing to provide for this problem and support what needs to be done
We're terrified of one another
We are scared of the impact this problem is having on our relationship
And terrified of what that means
We are frightened of the implications this has on our future together
But we'll make only quick decisions
We will need to act fast and with confidence in order to resolve our issues
And you'll just keep my in the waiting room
You will have to wait while I deal with the problem, putting a strain on our relationship
And all the while I'll know we're fucked
Despite our efforts to fix things, we are aware that our situation is dire
And not getting unfucked soon
We won't be able to resolve our issues quickly or easily
When we get home we're bigger strangers than we've ever been before
Our problems will have a lasting impact on our relationship, possibly causing us to become estranged
You sit in front of snowy television, suitcase on the floor
These problems will continue to weigh on us, leaving us feeling distant and disconnected from each other
Just too old
Repeating the previous lines, reiterating the idea that we are ill-equipped to deal with our problems
We're not old, old, old, old at all
Despite our problems, we are still young and have time to make changes, however difficult they may be
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@hallerager6826
There's a bear inside your stomach
The cub's been kicking from within
He's loud, though without vocal chords
We'll put an end to him
We'll make all the right appointments
No one ever has to know
And then tomorrow I'll turn 21
We'll script another show
We'll play charades up in the Chelsea
Drink champagne although you shouldn't be
We'll be blind and dumb until we fall asleep
None of our friends will come
They dodge our calls
And they have for quite a while now
It's not a shock
You don't seem to mind and I just can't see how
We're too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
There's a bear inside your stomach
The cub's been kicking you for weeks
And if this isn't all a dream
Well then we'll cut him from beneath
Well we're not scared of making caves
Or finding food for him to eat
We're terrified of one another
And terrified of what that means
But we'll make only quick decisions
And you'll just keep my in the waiting room
And all the while I'll know we're fucked
And not getting unfucked soon
When we get home we're bigger strangers than we've ever been before
You sit in front of snowy television, suitcase on the floor
We're too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old at all
Just too old
We're not old, old, old, old at all
@hellomydude2558
there's a bear inside your stomach
the cubs been kicking from within
he's loud though without vocal chords well put an end to him
we'll make all the right appointments
no one ever has to know
then tomorrow I'll turn 21 well script another show
we'll play charades up in the Chelsea
drink champagne although you shouldn't be
we'll be blind and dumb until we fall asleep
none of our friends will come
they dodge our calls
and they have for quite a while now
it's not a shock you don't seem to mind
and I just cant see how
were too old
were not old at all
just too old
were not old at all
there's a bear inside your stomach
the cubs been kicking you for weeks
and if this isn't all a dream
well then we'll cut him from beneath
we're not scared of making caves
or finding food for him to eat
were terrified of one another
and terrified of that means
but well make only quick decisions
and you'll just keep me in the waiting room
and all the while I know were fucked
and not getting un-fucked soon
when we get home we're bigger strangers
than we've ever been before
you sit in front of snowy television
suitcase on the floor
were too old
were not old at all
just too old
were not old at all
just too old
were not old at all
just too old
were not old
just too old
were not old
just too cold
were not old at all
@ihavedreamstoo
The fact that the vocal melody is the same as epilogue makes me feel uneasy but also relaxed also stranger
@ericquitugua5546
Haven't listened to this in years! It's just as heartbreaking now as it was then. Beautiful stuff.
@1358Paco
“Oh, this chorus is fun! Let me look up the lyrics”
should’ve known better
@Gopalissocoollike
Such an incredible song! I'll never forget listening to it for the first time
@hillaryslappey7235
this song helped me a lot through a rough time. I'm forever greatful.
@tsotighguy
I absolutely love this song, but man, it makes me tear up every damn time lol. So good.
@vinceadams662
every bit of this album is painful. this in my opinion is the hardest song to listen considering the implied meaning
@SossoLF
If I get it right, there's a couple getting farther and farther from each other, a baby and maybe losing friends in the process??
@nattylight512
Sosso Lafolle possibly. But the literal meaning is about abortion
@ametxa9
@Sosso Lafolle Bruh Funny hit the nail on the head and I'm sure you've seen their reply by now, but the fact that she's terminally ill makes either scenario so much more heartbreaking: they run the risk of losing the baby (or her) if she comes to term, and even if the baby was unwanted and they agreed abortion was the best option, this is putting a strain on their already contentious relationship.