Paranoid
U And K Lyrics

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Finished with my woman
'Cause she couldn't help me with my mind
People think I'm insane because I'm frowning all the time

Paranoid, paranoid, make me paranoid
Paranoid, paranoid, make me paranoid
Paranoid, paranoid, make me paranoid
Paranoid, paranoid, yeah

All day long I think of things but nothing seems to satisfy
Think I'll lose my mind if I don't find something to pacify

Paranoid, paranoid, can you feel it?

Paranoid, paranoid, thought you were my friend
Paranoid, paranoid, oh yeah

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to U and K's song, "Paranoid" express a deep sense of discomfort and unease within the mind of the singer. The song opens with the lines, "Finished with my woman/ 'Cause she couldn't help me with my mind" indicating that the singer's romantic relationship has come to an end due to his struggles with anxiety and paranoia. The lyrics, "People think I'm insane because I'm frowning all the time" further convey the singer's sense of isolation and alienation from those around him, who do not appear to understand or empathize with his struggles.

The song's chorus is a repetition of the phrase "Paranoid, paranoid, make me paranoid" which increases the pace and rhythm of the song. The lyrics "All day long I think of things but nothing seems to satisfy" and "Think I'll lose my mind if I don't find something to pacify" convey the idea that the singer is stuck in a loop of anxious thoughts and feels unable to escape them. The lyrics, "Paranoid, paranoid, can you feel it?/ Paranoid, paranoid, thought you were my friend/ Paranoid, paranoid, oh yeah" indicate that the singer is grappling with a sense of betrayal or disappointment in someone close to him.

The song itself has a driving beat and a sense of urgency that mirrors the singer's inner turmoil. The use of repetition in the chorus emphasizes the cyclical nature of the singer's anxiety, while the lyrics themselves paint a vivid picture of someone struggling with interior demons. Overall, U and K's "Paranoid" is a powerful exploration of the human psyche and the struggles that we all face when dealing with mental health issues.

Line by Line Meaning

Finished with my woman
The singer broke up with his girlfriend.

'Cause she couldn't help me with my mind
The girlfriend couldn't provide the singer with the necessary emotional support.

People think I'm insane because I'm frowning all the time
The singer's frequent frowning leads people to believe that he is mentally unstable.

Paranoid, paranoid, make me paranoid
The word 'paranoid' is repeated in order to reinforce the singer's feeling of unease and suspicion.

All day long I think of things but nothing seems to satisfy
The singer's thoughts are consumed by worry and doubts, but he can't find any resolution.

Think I'll lose my mind if I don't find something to pacify
The singer fears that his mental state will deteriorate if he doesn't find something to calm his troubled mind.

Paranoid, paranoid, can you feel it?
The singer is asking if the listener is experiencing the same sense of paranoia that he is.

Paranoid, paranoid, thought you were my friend
The singer is expressing suspicion that even his friends may be against him.

Paranoid, paranoid, oh yeah
The singer is affirming his paranoia once again, reinforcing his state of mind.

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Dixie Lynn

3y↑2

This is me, through and through. The paranoia is not necessarily based on things that are unlikely to happen. The paranoia is constant "hypersensitive" fears. That's what differentiates this from a psychotic paranoia. It's kinda like something between anxiety and psychosis.

For example: with social anxiety, you might just fear being judged negatively. With psychosis, you might think aliens have infiltrated peoples bodies and want to attack you. With paranoia, you might think people are out to get you; but your fears are based on real things; but not necessarily things that are actually happening; or likely to happen.

Everything she mentioned is me to a Tee.

However, she is wrong about one thing. She said that you can never "Break through" to a person dealing with this; and this person would never "forgive" you if you did do something to hurt them.

Because I'm a Born-Again Christian, Jesus has greatly helped me over the years in dealing with it. No, it isn't gone; but I've made progress. And get this! I don't see a psychiatrist and haven't had an inpatient admission or been on medicine in 11 years. I was in and out of the mental health system for 12 years of my growing-up life. It was only after I got Born-Again that I even began making progress. Jesus put someone in my life that has, in many ways, really "proven" to me that many of my fears are wildly irrational. This person is truly the kindest most caring person that has ever lived. In other words: I've had a reckoning moment. And again, even though it certainly isn't "gone"; I've made great progress with it.

All comments from YouTube:

MedCircle

4y↑67

Watch the rest of this video series on paranoid personality disorder instantly HERE: https://bit.ly/2VQDMEw

Gayle Watkins

4y↑5

I could have this.. after a marriage to an abusive narcissist.....it took a long time to get away from him. Now if a person shows any tendency to control me or control my thinking...or talk mean to me..I'm done..I look rite through them if I encounter them in public..kind of like blocking them..and nothing can convince me to unblock them...nothing...they become non-existent to me..😎

Naseeha Rasheed

4y↑3

Can u pls upload the way to handle a person with ppd.

Xavi Fdz

4y↑2

Could you make a video about hppd and visual snow explaining the differences? I think it’s a very misunderstood topic and it would help a lot of people out there. Also it would raise awareness for doctors and researchers to find a treatment.

Flo SoTall

4y↑1

How can I overcome being a paranoid individual. I need some tips on how to manage my intense paranoid emotions. Thank you

LaLa

Can you please make a video on Temporal Lobe Epilepsy and the difference between TLE and Schizophrenia, and what would they do if both are in a single person. I mean their individual effects and mixed effects on a single person???
Please make a video on this.

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scumbear

4y↑988

She’s so well spoken and intelligent it’s actually mesmerising. She doesn’t even stutter, doesn’t need time to think. Wow.

EternalNjem

3y↑57

Probably been doing public speaking her entire life

Debbi Orvis

3y↑65

Shes very confident because she really knows her stuff! I just love listening to her!

Debbi Orvis

3y↑9

@Rossi A OK I can’t wait

Rossi A

3y↑2

@Debbi Orvis 😆

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TheNew Name

4y↑664

I have PPD, yes there can actually be a certain level of self awareness in it. What she didn't mention is that the paranoia seeps into EVERY aspect of your perspective and daily life, in any given situation your paranoia can run wild. Literally anyone or anything in existence can be seen as evil or threatening towards you; ANYTHING. The most random things can trigger my paranoia and make me angry and threatened. For a while I was convinced many people were pure evil and treating me harshly. I had a grudge against every single person I knew in my entire life, which were all my family and friends and I felt the constant need to fight back against everyone. But however I'm not always wrong, people can be complete shit and they can intentionally hurt you for little reason, sometimes to control you or assert dominance. I've been able to spot mistreatment and stand my ground against it so that's a plus

porcelain

4y↑19

Hey, this sounds like me, but don't you think it's a bit related to BPD?

TheNew Name

4y↑22

@porcelain Yes it can be, I believe certain aspects of it are a part of BPD. But the full disorder can also be co-morbid with BPD, I think it's quite common

Jo •

4y↑47

I suffer from paranoia. I used to just categorize it as anxiety, but I am also extremely self aware. So I’m aware of how irrational I am, but I can’t stop myself from going there. I can relate to the damage on familiar relationships, I’m a very lonely person. I would so much rather be this way without any awareness

Michelle Schoen

4y↑12

My daughter sounds just like you. We are looking for treatment. Has anything helped you?

TheNew Name

4y↑26

@Michelle Schoen Unfortunately not much has helped, it's one of those things thats always there. But I've found there are ways of easing it a bit, if I have control in a situation I'm not as suspicious about other peoples intentions. That's what I'd suggest with your daughter, let her take more control when you interact with her as in she's the one talking more or initiating most interactions. Also be careful with your comments around her because she could read the wrong messages very easy, never straight-up insult or criticize her because that would be detrimental to your relationship as she'll hold a big grudge. It's a tricky thing honestly because a paranoid easily finds any way to get mad or hold something small against a person. Hope this helps

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Sunset

4y↑911

1. Suspect other people are harming or deceiving them with no real evidence
2. Preoccupied with the devotion and loyal of the people around them
3. Reluctant to confide in other people because they are convinced it will be used against them
4. Read into a hidden or threatening meaning in messages that aren't truly there
5. Unforgiving and consistently bear grudges
6. Perceive people are attacking their character and others don't see it
7. Recurrent suspicion about their partner's fidelity.

MikaZilla

4y↑32

Sunset, ok now I think my parents are gonna kill me in my sleep, shit. I do have this disorder...

Samyang world

4y↑47

I feel like everyone is lying. Even if they maybe telling truth but I feel they are lying. And I have been lied by someone many times so maybe it is the cause of that. I don't know if I do have this disorder! I am so unsure.

Meghana Chauhan

4y↑35

@Samyang world it's not a disorder lmao it's just being over cautious cuz of being hurt in past. Find a loyal partner and it'll go away like it never existed. Stop over thinking lol

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Hayley Zion

44w↑9

Doctor is spot on!! She really knows her stuff. I would LOVE for her to be my therapist. I’ve accepted (finally ) that I’m paranoid, the reason for this is it can’t be coincidental that I think and am certain that some people are out to make my life harder than it is…… I love children animals and the elderly as I feel they are no threat and I can be myself. Men are a big no no for me because of past childhood traumas. I just feel safer when men aren’t around really. Sharing this has just added to food for thought.
I’ve been seeing a very good therapist every week for over a year now, I’m learning things I should of learned as a child. Sorry babbling on lol must needed to talk. If you’ve got to the end of my message, thanks for listening x from 38 meds per day to now 15!

P Manning

28w

38 meds per day?

Khan Zero

2y↑38

The arrogance and contempt part is really interesting. For a narcissist this is projected onto everyone. Everyone is less than them, lower, worths less than them, etc. For a paranoid it seems reversed. They put so much value on suspicion that praising them feels as a proof that you are going to abuse / cheat / betray them.

Earl P.

1y↑3

Just watching this vid just realized i have been paranoid all my life. I think it also runs into my family. The thing is about my world view revolves around justice and fairness. I always treat people with good faith and tell honest truth even if i get reprimanded by it. I am fully functional working member of society and work well with teams that dont deal with politics. But my number one trigger is a political team member - aka finesse. Just fortunate my wife has no once of "badness" and very generous to everyone. I think being paranoid you can only be with good people. I have my fair share of fast burning bridges (that I think is a bit exaggerated so i still act professional but I dont engage unless necessary - with emphasis on necessary). It is bit hard because one would be good things about having connections as I am aware of cons of being paranoid but it just seeps in to the unconscious you cannot unbelief something. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Everything about paranoid is due respect and we are touchy on deliberate threats to the point of always trying to identify if something is just deliberate or not.

So even compliments can be interpreted as you are just trying to let my guard down. This is mostly rational as we know most leaders issue compliments as part of their training rather than a person truly grateful. I guess to counter, I find Dr Peterson's concept of bravery and faith a good combat against paranoid logic. Sometimes we have put out there our skin and trust people with faith (not naive) that people are mostly good and if they can, want the best for everyone as life is not a zero sum game.

Toby Sirus

47w↑11

Ive had this disorder since around 10 yrs old. I consider myself moderately intelligent but in a class room enviroment I was worthless because of this. I would sit and pretend to melt into the situation but in reality I was almost paralyzed with the fear that the whole class was watching my every move .Every second in a classroom was agony and nothing could be absorbed.I would never ever ask a question as I know it would be my down fall .My father was abusive and would do anything to destroy my confidence in any situation. I now know this was the trigger for this. Im glad I finally know the name for it .

Spiritual awakening

3y↑76

This is definitely true! I deal with that on a daily basis. It’s very draining and very confusing. It’s a serious mental issue. It destroys everything around them. Thank you for sharing your knowledge

Andreia de Távora

2y↑3

Yes it is!! But at least is awesome if you can have some insight into this behaviour!! Its a game changer :)

pismobiics

47w↑2

Yes, I am currently dealing with a person like this daily. Exhausting. Very... At first I couldn't figure out what was wrong with them.

Peter Vanderlind

2y↑18

I love that Kyle always brings his own issues, it's actually kind of funny. I wish you the best Kyle.

Dubu

4y↑230

Omg I just can't stop watching these videos with them! She's so intelligent and the chemistry of their conversation is so nice, It just flows. Really, It's amazing to just watch it.

zaelen babb

it is i have it

That Blond Artist

4y↑179

I've heard that paranoid personality disorder is often misdiagnosed as covert narcissism/borderline. Can you go into detail about how similar and how different they are?

KCK

4y↑22

They do sound very similar.

Bo Lang

4y↑24

I know someone who has ppd. I also know people who are borderline. It is very different than borderline. I would personality describe it as a general distrust of others and being very suspicious or have a heightened distrust. It is different than borderline. I can see why someone might confuse the two but I think with firsthand experience you will see a HUGE difference. PPD can get bad or suddenly announce itself under a bout of severe anxiety and lack of sleep. It is not consistent.

Helen K

4y↑13

Don Kapsalon the BPD is a bit more than the oh I can't trust you and testing. For example, I have symptoms of both but I do trust people a lot yet I sometimes don't because of my fear of abandonment. The fear of abandonment which for me triggers the PPD symptoms. I'm not sure if this clear but I tried to explain how it can be, as much as I could haha

Philosophical_engineer

4y↑30

Helen K
The moment you ignore these suspicions, that’s when people fuck you over/betray you.

Dr. Mrs. Professor Chaos

4y↑14

They are often co-morbid. There is a school of thought that they are sort of a collection of symptoms of PTSD and should be treated as such.

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Natalie Shafran

1y↑50

Don't mix up paranoia with common sense. Nothing is wrong with being cautious and staying alert when dealing with other people. There really are too many of those willing to take advantage of others. People need to deserve to be trusted.

elle.

1y↑1

I think people forget that you can have some symptoms without having a personality disorder. I'm really not a fan of people self-diagnosing and speaking for the group they think they belong to since I imagine it only makes it more difficult for those that have been diagnosed by a professional.
It reminds me of getting sick, scrolling on webmd & thinking I have cancer or something simply because I meet some of the symptoms.
Even if you dont have the disorder though, theres still a lot of great advice in these videos.
I really enjoy the comments on these videos too, they can be incredibly comforting to know you arent alone in your struggles as well as allowing us to look deeper into ourselves or allow people to better understand their loved one that have been diagnosed. I know that if I was dealing with all of the mental health problems I currently have except in the 1920s, I'd probably be in a much darker place.

2mellow

And if they're innocent you're paranoid. Even if it isn't common for you to be its still showing the trait of being paranoid.

Chris Xavier

51w↑3

It's honestly difficult not to be "paranoid" in this day and age

Dr. Jude Æ Mason MD

35w↑1

Caution is different than paranoia. If you’ve ever been with someone like this you may not know what it is, but it feels like toxic suspiciousness. They are always accusing you of being untruthful.

In fact they don’t only accuse you of deceit but they assuming it of you. You find yourself trapped in a vortex defending yourself against something you didn’t even know you didn’t do that they insist you did. If your head is spinning, trust me, that’s what it feels like.

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Lleucu Non

3y↑41

This must be difficult for the paranoid person as well as everyone involved. The fact that there are people wanting to help is very comforting and even quite emotional because of the guilt that comes with “counter attacks”, it’s very confusing to be told that your reality is false all of the time. How can a person with PPD continue to be self-aware and not seesaw into paranoia to the point where it is damaging? For example, how exactly can a person control their suspicions that others are trying to hurt them? Any advice or other comments are welcome, no suspicions attached

Shiva Shakti

4y↑84

So much improvement with the production quality of this channel, the set, the lighting, the sound.

Dr. Ramani consistenlty rocks and her clarity is like a fine diamond. I am glad she has her own channel.

PansyAmerican

She really knows how to help you understand

Refat Ahmed

4y↑1

This ain't her channel though.

Jack’s Project’s

4y↑30

Dr. R seems like a motherly figure. She seems really genuine too I’m happy that she’s willing to help and not demonise others. Thank you Dr R

kmdn1

2y↑34

I've often wondered if my mom has paranoid personality disorder. The majority of any friends she makes will cease to be her friends after a short time. One time she cut a friendship short because they said "Your new haircut looks great!" but she perceived it with a tone of ingenuity. The friend was literally just complimenting her hair (I was there and witnessed the conversation) but she perceived some sort of alterior meaning in there and literally decided she never wanted anything to do with them ever again. Can you imagine?
That is just one example that's easy to explain but I can think of endless amounts of instances with all different people, some of our dearest family friends, as well as her husband, my father. But the confusing thing is, my sibling and I seem to be the only two people in the world that she isn't paranoid about- so does that mean she couldn't possibly have this personality disorder since it has to be pervasive across all of her interactions? Or do they ever have one or two individuals that they don't get that way with? Could it possibly be that because we are her own children, the unconditional love overrides any paranoia?

Jokes on you

2y↑5

I don't think someone needs to have every symptom listed for them to have the disorder.

lcflngn

2y↑4

If it’s clear it’s clear. My 82-yr old mom has had obvious (tho undiagnosed, as far as I know) PPD for many yrs. She’s been in hospital a couple of times. She’s been awful to me (feels also like narcissism) but now she needs me, so now I have to be available as I’m the only one she trusts. It’s pretty maddening. So yes, a mother can have PPD and yet still be nice to her kids, and even trust them. If your sibling is helpful, be glad you have a sibling!

Maya

2y↑2

She probably trusts you both because you are her kids. She loves you

lcflngn

2y↑2

@Maya Love is an interesting word here. As a mom I certainly hope/imagine my (adult) kids love me. But the love of a narcissist and PPD mom is super relative. The feeling of getting something back depends on the day, and the patience I have to put into our relationship. There’s no deep well of love and acceptance there the way you might generally think about love. In fact she’s been known to be truly mean and damaging to all of us. Sad I left my kids on the phone with her too long when they were young. We’re all ok now, but I have so many regrets. One of my kids can’t call her any more, and that’s very tough for her, she really doesn’t understand the damage she has caused and can cause.

Chris Coon

43w↑2

@lcflngnMy mom is 87 doesn’t trust anyone and I think has schizophrenia too. I don’t have anyone to help me with her and it’s very hard.

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Sandra

4y↑6

My poor mom had this, but was not diagnosed until just months before her death. This discussion exactly describes her behavior. It was difficult for our whole family.

Mike O'Hernia

4y↑2

forgive her it is not her fault its mental illness

Steve Moore

1y↑1

Sorry to hear that about your mom. I lost my mom April 2020. I miss her terribly.

Juliette P

42w

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Essence Kinney

38w

❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽

Willine Williams

4y↑24

Dr. Ramani & Kyle, you both totally rock!! The content from this channel is always delivered with crystal clear clarity!! Thank you for keeping us informed & providing us with the tools necessary to live well!!

P. Costa

2y↑21

I wish she would talk about how PTSD can be related to this. I understand why is important to list signs of each disorder but human beings are very complex. I used to be very paranoid, and over the years (after a lot of therapy, meditation and yoga practice), I have become less and less preoccupied on how people respond to me. I think that not feeling safe as a child (shame, guilt, abandonment, and neglect ) has a lot to do with paranoid personality. However, I think genetics play a role in it as well. I also believe that there are degrees of paranoia.

M M

40w

Well said

kukui79

30w

This channel has a whole series on PPD. This video is only meant to go over the diagnostic criteria, not the causes.

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Ellejay

4y↑176

I wonder if bring consistently "gaslighted" by someone with narcissistic personality disorder, can lead to developing PPD? I would think it's not unreasonable if you've had your reality challenged constantly in this way.

I Am Love & Abundance

4y↑61

Its what happened to me. Paranoia isnt paranoia if the situation is actually happening. I refuse to be labeled as paranoid when I know I've been dealing with gaslighting my entire life. The gaslighter will never say they've been gaslighting so it isnt something we will ever have answers to. A diagnosis is slapped on someone being gaslighted and manipulated but the narcissist gets a pass? Um, no. My solution is just to find things that make me happy and take it day by day.

Ellejay

4y↑22

@I Am Love & AbundanceThat is exactly how to handle it. Be defiant in your own reality. Once a narcissist discovers they can screw with your head they will do it for as long as they can get away with it. Stay strong.

katzyjen

3y↑6

My family member displays all of these traits, and she is constantly gaslighting anyone who doesn't agree & apologize for their perceived wrong doings. It seems that there's some obvious overlap with PPD & narcissism

Yelyahfan88 x

3y↑11

I believe so. My mother was manipulative, paranoid and narcissistic. We moved around all the time, usually never staying longer 2-3 in one place. I could go on but I've never has a stable home and she always blamed me for her faults, projected, called me abnormal and bad luck and months after breaking free she died. I've been spiralling out if control and even though I'm in a stable place I can't relax. My OCD and paranoia is on high alert looking for everything wrong and obsessing and it's all because of her. I'm trying to heal but I'm literally spending every day in fear wasting my life yet I can't stop ruminating and being afraid of the intrusive thoughts and reacting like they're real

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Sepideh Mohammadi

2y↑8

This has been eye opening. My family has been suffering greatly in dealing with my sister who, apparently based on this video, has PPD - We need more content on this disorder. How do we deal with these types of people. What does treatment look like?
Thank you again Dr. Ramani 🙏

joyofjess

2y↑2

My sister seems to have this disorder too. She has destroyed our family. 😭

Mary Jo Lisa

the reason i'm watching this video is because i think my sister has this disorder.

Vanessa Anton

40w

@joyofjess😢 it’s very hard

Elisa R.

2y↑2

Thank you so much for this video! I work with someone I suspect has this disorder and it has been a nightmare for me. Constant grudges, constant paranoia, speaking to bosses about nothing ecc. everyone just avoids her. however I must say that I thought, prior to watching this video, that the person in question had schizophrenia since disorganised thoughts and speech are also in the picture. I am still a little unsure but I am leaning more towards this.

Evan Williamson

2y↑33

I have this. I was convinced my ex wife was having an affair with HER BROTHER!! Looking back it’s madness. ’m not going to lie to you guys, it’s very hard. Very lonely. You see the world in a complete flip to the way the masses see the world.

I succumb to horrendous trauma as a kid as well as being mistreated by the authorities as well as being accused of something I didn’t do (the justice system and the police).

Basically, my limbic system is hyper-aroused to keep me alive.

Great videos! Thank you :)

Deenie Reyes

2y↑2

I am happy you are ok and on the road to recovery. I wish I can help my husband but he is in complete denial. Smh

Jokes on you

2y↑2

Are you really paranoid if people are actually out to get you?

isobel64

2y↑1

my condolences to your ex.

Neko Squealer

1y↑1

How did u recover? My mother suffers from this but she refuses to acknowledge it and seek treatment. Please give me advice

Drako1010

40w

How did you get help ?

ハムスターの日常　Hamster’s Daily Life

3y↑20

Mental issues in Japan are still not talked about as often as they should. I wish there was a doctor like this near where I live.

8-happiness

I was just thinking about the fact that I don't hear Japanese say the word 'social anxiety'. I think hikikomori and tokokyohi are types of social anxiety...

Minako A

3y↑24

It’s the most insane feeling watching these videos and realizing someone in your life has a personality disorder.

Chantelle Marie

3y↑2

Kyle I love how you give examples from your own life!! You ask the questions we are all wanting to ask

Pony Girl

39w↑1

A lot of my family members think that my mom has NPD but I never really felt like that was her. This hits the nail on the head.

Jo Kraemer

35w

There can be a lot of crossover with cluster B disorders.

kat heck

2y↑3

Watching this video after going through the BPD series in earnest to gain some understanding on what I might have, I’m relieved because while paranoia is a major symptom I experience (mostly out of a lifelong struggle to handle judgement) it’s not another disorder I think i’m experiencing. But I suppose in the end it’s up to a psychiatrist to tell me if it’s something I have or not.

A sincere shoutout to people with PPD who are fighting to be better everyday in whatever treatment or steps they take everyday. Paranoia can be so debilitating, but it’s awareness is such a relief to our treatment and self-management however we can.

Jose Recon Jr Bonilla

4y↑232

I've been betrayed a lot, so I had this developed in me over the years.

GodessW1D

3y↑14

Same I’m struggling with it

het hed

3y↑18

Or maybe they didnt really betrayed you.. its just your paranoia?

michmeg

how did you get over it and how long did it take you?

Solidwegy !

3y↑7

In my case, I became desensitized to betrayal and could care less.

Danae. Stardoll

3y↑4

I lost all my friends just because of this

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jlove19 99

3y↑8

Thank you guys for putting information out that we really need to know. This helps more than you know. ☺

Aimee Baeza

4y↑24

Omg, I just finished watching this segment and my husband has all 7. Yes ALL 7 of them he is constantly doing. I’m at my wits end with him. I started watching you when I started researching why my husband acts the way he does. So first it was narcissistic behaviors and gaslighting. It felt like he was intentionally making you life hell. Then I just continued to watch. One video after another and some of the traits of so many different problems are spot on to my husbands behavior. But this video he hit every single one. All 7 he will cover almost every day.

Gloria Drummer

4y↑3

Literally same thing with my husband. Its terrible 😥😥😥

SolidMusicLover 97

3y↑3

my father is like this he doesn't trust my mom at all loves to control me and my mom. it really annoys me he mostly trusts only his friends makes me the reason why I don't want to be married because I believe history repeats it self

Apple Desierto

3y↑3

Same my husband also..living with him is so stressful..i think i am developing mental issues,because of him😪😪😪

Rocsi B

3y↑1

😢 my husband too. I had to leave with the kids. I don’t know if we will make it

riba

please try to get him to go to a therapist because if you leave him its just gonna make his disorder even worse and make him even more paranoid

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Learn to Grow 2023

2y↑2

This disorder seems like it would really have a lot to do with neurotransmitters and some kind of imbalance in dopamine and oxytocin levels. "Drama On The Frozen Food Aisle" would be a really great book title!

Terra Nova

2y↑5

I’m paranoid schizophrenic and it’s so bad. You feel like everyone is watching you no matter where you go. You can be having fun with your friends one minute then something unrelated to you triggers it and you feel like everyone is making a joke out of you. Everyone’s plotting against you and you think they’re all in on it. Be with a group of family or friends then feel like they’re all getting closer to you and feeling suffocated. This guy I just recently dated and I started talking again a few days ago after I moved a town over, blocked him from everything and changed my number a month ago. Told me the way I’m living is unhealthy and you know what I thought? I thought he was recording me and told him he was probably planning plotting to make a joke out of me again. That’s when I realized how paranoid I was. What’s the difference between how I perceive the world and those around me as opposed to someone who suffers from agoraphobia?

Abigale Davis

2y↑2

Wow! That’s how my husband acts. If he feels slighted he goes to great lengths to punish. You described what I go through so perfectly.

akakaka

4y↑23

im a v paranoid person but i think its due to growing up with a history of child sexual abuse, watching my parents have affairs while insisting they werent, being in a horrific abusive relationship when i was 14-16, and repeatedly being wronged by people i grew so fond of. its so hard for me to trust and im always aware of red flags.

Lucas Essman

Felt this

Lucas Essman

Do u feel better a year later

akakaka

2y↑2

@Lucas Essman well... i was distrusting of some people in my life last year and it turns out i was more than right. i got rid of them and my life has been a lot more peaceful and quiet. trust your gut

Jokes on you

2y↑1

How closely similar this is the exact events of my life makes me feel like I'm in the matrix. Always trust your gut. Being right on 100 predictions and thinking you're crazy to believe in your intuition is what's crazy. Is it really a mental disorder when people are actually proving your predictions even when you give them the benefit of the doubt?

Alexandra Golovenko

2y↑1

Dr. Ramani is absolutely exceptional! To think she has cptsd and deals with self loathing is stunning given she is a genius. I suppose that’s what makes her compassionate and humble, relatable and lovable. Adore her!

Xavi Fdz

4y↑6

L&S

DR.RAMNI I am grateful to you for being a light in the dark ! Low insight ! You are a truth teller .THANK YOU...I unfortunatly have 4 out of these issues ,my whole teens till now a woman in my 50,s its extremley frustrating and draining ,I have moments of clarity that are precious .I have been in active therapy for decades.I had a brain scan done by a German trained Dr. in my nineteenth year and he discovered my brain was having epileptic episodes,I was curious as to what that really meant ,I never returned to the DR as I was sure I could figure things out being a naieve 19 y.o. and arrogant as green I was .Thanks

Red Pill Rage

3y↑3

She’s very well spoken like my fellow commentators are saying, but it’s been a very long while since I’ve heard someone this intelligent speak honestly watching doctors and police men and the other true heroes of the country work reall gives me joy and I mean that because they just make you feel better about wherever you are in life because they made it to becoming heroes and that means so can you.

Qnoy Vegas

2y↑2

Thank you for all you done!!! I’m more educated on this mental illness and trying to understand people who suffer from it

laura kantner

4y↑6

I was diagnosed with anxiety and after hearing this..what she described is exactly what I do. I am still trying to "control" it.

Penny Hebert

3y↑1

my mother was in a severe car accident in 2009 which left her unable to work. She is not diagnosed with this, but this list was somewhat comforting. Now she’s at the point where she is convinced that her own family and friends have become perpetrators and “flying monkeys”. She’s constantly throwing out psychology terms and is convinced that we have a role in hacking her computer. We aren’t supposed to have our phones on around her because she’s convinced they are hacked. She thinks this will continue until she dies. She tries to show us evidence but feels like she can’t trust us with it most of the time. She’s now not letting any of my sisters friends and boyfriend come over. I love my mom but these false accusations that she fully believes in has torn me up inside. I feel for my mother deeply and I wish I was a better daughter.

Blubby258

4y↑7

Can you please make a video about bipolar disorder? I feel like the videos that are already out there only focus on type 1. I have recently been diagnosed with type 2, and it's hard for me to understand more about the disorder, when I feel like type 1 may not apply to me, since I have not been diagnosed with it. Thank you for continuously helping us learn more about really important topics.

Eliot Teagle

3y↑16

She proves you can be a genius and very kind at the same time, amazing! Her clients are so blessed!

shadrach

4y↑45

I worked with a therapist who had this disorder. It’s very odd to be that mistrustful. It takes too much energy.

Wendy Lee Connelly

4y↑6

damn. how did you find out they had that disorder?

DET Care 2

Too much energy but not enough honesty and love

Jokes on you

2y↑1

Not really it just becomes normal routine to them

Jose Lassalle

49w

A therapist that needed therapy.

Dinner-Fork Tongue

39w

It takes more energy to deal with being screwed over because you didn't assume the potential worst about a situation or a communicated fact.

YasSebRo

3y↑5

I was diagnosed with BPD, PPD and persistent depressive disorder, and these videos are just soo refreshing and reassuring

Arslan

1y↑1

Very well explained. It’s like medication for me.

MillD

4y↑5

I had a friend who had PPD (although she didn't know). So, so sad. In the end, she started to question me and if I was also after her in this group (bare in mind I have never met any of her friends). She would bring it up each time, but forget that she had already asked me a million times. In the end I she became so paranoid, she closed her blinds shut worried people were coming into her house. She asked if I saw them 😬. I always wondered where her paranoia stemmed from, like did she have a traumatic past etc.

Sapphire Owl

4y↑8

Yes to all. The last one especially. My ex always always thought I was cheating or I somehow planned random encounters with people. The loyalty factor means so much to him....as he would say you are for me or against me

Californian Wayfarer

Let's say that PPD and other conditions can be quite common, from mild to severe, in one's city/environment. Let's say one's coworkers, superiors, teachers, parents, siblings, friends, random interactions such as with salespeople, may suffer from a spectrum of this condition. My curiosity is how one would navigate life/interactions with PPD around, especially undiagnosed PPD.

Sabrina

4y↑4

I'm glad it's a common trait for people with this condition to want to escape everyone and live in isolation. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I feel at peace when I'm by myself and being around people puts me on edge so often that it becomes exhausting

AR

3y↑1

I think this feeling goes both ways dealing with someone like this is also draining for the other party.

Sabrina

3y↑1

@AR I personally don't like having an "other party" to begin with hence the isolation

KY REDWOOD

My girlfriend has been in isolation due to this fof a decade. It done her no service. Now she constsntly tslks in hef house while alone and "hears clairaudidnt

KY REDWOOD

Hears "clair audient fields" and screams in torment about aliens. Isolation is a blessing IF you can handle it.

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JaviMetal

2y↑10

No one wants to be with a person like this. I know by experience. They make your life miserable if you put up with them and give them chances without realizing they actually have a serious problem. They'll deny it if you finally confront them, of course. But the moment you do understand what's going on, it's both liberating and infuriating.

Niki Youssef

41w

it is true i know what it is like being in relationship with them they would accuse you of the worst thing in the world you get abused all the time because of imagined insults or threats a covert narc i was friends with was paranoid one of the reasons i cut them of was the paranoia

WarPhotoJunkie

2y↑2

My wife had these. She's 32 when we married and divorced quickly...we rushed into marriage, and I hope you would get to know your partner better. Before, I told her to seek help for her anxiety, but I could not convince her. I just researched online and assumed she had GAD. She even said she would not trust counselors of similar race as me and certain races. She said I was the one who needed anger management. I never swore as bad as this in my life. I had called police about 3 times just so they can help me get in our apartment and get her out of the apartment. She had called police on me twice. I got arrested once and she had no idea what's going on during our days in court. She loved me a lot she said. Even when divorced, she constantly reminds me that she loved me and she says it was my fault I "ruined her life." There's a really strong guilt I have, because she was still not aware she has this condition and there's nothing I could do to help her. There are times she just seem so nice and cute as if we had never fought. Then if I ever mention a certain word or phrase, that triggers her, it just turns our wonderful day to hell. Before, she had hidden a retractable disposable cutter beside her bed. She also kept a big knife in her backpack. She was genuinely sweet and I considered her my soulmate. We were so good together. This disorder was just something I hope would have a cure for. There are times I feel really sad for giving up on our relationship. I always thought it could become worse as she gets older, and I wouldn't be able to handle it.
1. Suspect other people are harming or deceiving them with no real evidence = constantly confides in me that her coworkers are listening in her phone, stalking her in public
4. Read into a hidden or threatening meaning in messages that aren't truly there
5. Unforgiving and consistently bear grudges = reminds me it was my fault
6. Perceive people are attacking their character and others don't see it = from her stories that she always get assigned to do the least desirable tasks, not given promotion
7. Recurrent suspicion about their partner's fidelity = accuses me of cheating; unlocked my phone; asks who i am with when i am out

Alan K

You did the right thing by leaving her, otherwise you would start having PPD symptoms, I went through the same thing , but in my case she was lying left and right , did you experience the same thing ?

fpdhu

@Alan K I'm so sorry to you guys, I am going through the same thing, my gf lies so much and argues agressively, calls police and had me arrested once, and it's all my fault! Really a sad conditiion, it really is, hope you guys are okay

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Future’s Gonna Be Okay

2y↑2

My parents are like this a lot, and I am too. It’s ruining my life. The fear and paranoia. I’m trying to feel more free while staying safe and following my dreams.

77xDivaOkurrr7ATSymbol

3y↑3

I thought I might have this.
But if someone at work confronted me about the behavior I'm displaying, my response would be: let's go talk to HR and sort this out with a third-party present. NOT to deny and hold a grudge.

Watching this has made me realize that I've lived with people who have this.

Venrisulven

4y↑1

I was just browsing through stuff on youtube and found this vid cause im interested in the mind and didn't think much of this vid until she said #3 and everything hit me. I basically used my therapist to "treat" my "anxiety" which was a very minor thing that I even lied to him about it being such a massive issue. I just could never get over the fact that whatever I say can come back to me and refused to say anything to anyone about anything personal. I think I'll actually bring it up next time I go if I ever build up the mentality that he can't use it against me even if he wanted to.

Becky Darrow

2y↑7

I believe a person in my apartment building has this in addition to schizophrenia. As far as I can tell she has no awareness of it. she is convinced that everyone is trying to ruin her life. She has a daughter and it clearly affects her daughters wellbeing in addition to hurting other people because she is constantly trying to retaliate against nothing. She believes she's fighting back but she is just being the aggressor. Waking us in the middle of the night and calling the police on people for nothing. What can we do? I'm honestly afraid of what she may do.

Shan

1y↑1

She's right to be paranoid your posting about her online.

Mangobaby2020

@Shan yes!👍👍

DuFromThe7

@Mangobaby2020 bro what she’s just stating on something she can relate to within the video as well in real life.

Mangobaby2020

@DuFromThe7 reply to the one wrote that comment, not to me who just agreed with them😂

Dixie Lynn

3y↑2

B. M.

3y↑1

I lived exactly the frozen food aisle trauma and alike episodes including texts, co workers, calls, Facebook etc with a partner for three years! Unimaginable hurt, pain, and broken heart I suffered. He refused to seek help because was living in denial. It was others having issues but him. I wish if I knew about this disorder sooner. I feel sorry for him. Knowing what he was suffering breaks my heart.

Deenie Reyes

I have the same issue going on right now and we are now separated and feel so bad for him. But he is in super denial. Smh so hard and I would of exhausted every effort for him. What do you do just pray for them.

AngreeNerd

I haven't been diagnosed with this but as I'm trying to learn more about it (and having regressed into clinical depression during the lockdown), I have a strong suspicion that I might have it.

It's almost funny that the good doctor should bring up this example of the wedding because I remember this one time when I was a kid (barely 10 I believe) when I was at this wedding and my father went up to the stage to greet the bride and groom and to take pictures with them with my cousins (around my age) and left me out. Probably an honest mistake.

I went fully nuclear. I broke my toys that day. I stole that cousin's toys and destroyed them (smashed it under an iron bed's legs. The bed was super heavy but my rage made me lift it quite easily) and proceeded to cry the entire day in a corner and sulk afterwards.

So yeah, thanks for the video and I can't wait to get to a good psychiatrist and discuss this with them.

Jenny P

4y↑14

This is so interesting. I sent a letter to my narc mother saying it was her turn to ring, but I wanted to hear something happy (did this as every phone call was 'woe is me') I actually asked friends to read it so I could be sure my message was clear and respectful. Anyway she's interpreted that i said she was never to ring me again. She always put words in my mouth when I was a child, but I was astounded and devastated that she could misconstrue the written word. But this post has helped me. Thank you.

Andrew Haywood

4y↑4

Jenny P let her think it means to never ring you again. And don’t ring her. You have a narc mother - do yourself a favour and go no contact.

bobbi ellison

4y↑2

@Andrew Haywood Depending on how severe it is , this is probably the best advice. I don't agree with most people who feel shared blood lines means automatic loyalty and you have to put up with them. I say if anybody is psychologicaly abusing you, you have every right to cut them out.

Dorothy M

@bobbi ellison Yes, because if you don't then it ruins your whole life, and they think it's ok to act like that. (Even though they are family).

KAST96

2y↑1

Oh God… I had an attending like this. I kept trying and trying to satisfy her but she kept being cold and critical and criticized an ice breaking self referencing joke I made during day 1 on my evaluation as offensive to her. I kept thinking “What did I do that she hates me?” and I keep talking to people explaining the situation in detail to see if they can help me understand. And people are just baffled most of the time… I guess this actually could explain it.

Slomurr

2y↑1

I don't think I didn't line up with PPD, but my therapist did note that I hade a big Paranoia problem. It wasn't Schizophrenia, but I would get anxious to the point where I'd get delusional. One time I thought their was a serial killer in my house, so I'd grab all the chairs and barricaded all the doors to make sure they stayed in that room. During the clown craze in 2016, I'd genially believed that a clown was stalking around, so I had my parents check every room before I felt comfortable to enter. While I was home alone, I had a butcher knife on hand just in case a clown got in or showed up. When it was dark, I would be scared to turn on the backyard light when letting my dog in, I feared I would see something horrific. Or, sometimes I'd believed their was a creature of some sort lurking in the small woods in my yard, so I'd sometimes out right refused to let my dog in or out. I was also scared to open my eyes when falling asleep as I thought there could be a dead woman or something in my face. Nowadays I just take percussions and not deal with a delusional thought process.

Leya Naluonde

37w

My fiance is exactly and everything she is explaining. It's really hard to be in a romantic relationship with someone who has this disorder 😢

THE REAL 411

4y↑3

As always, thank you Dr. Ramani. Your content was very interesting. I have to say that I disagree about a husband who meets a colleague and gets so engrossed in conversation or accidentally leaves their cell phone home on a regular basis, should cause concern for the spouse/partner. I don't think it it unreasonable to contact your significant other, if not for any other reason, but for courtesy. Chances are if these are regular habits of you partner, they are most likely cheating. I have seen it time and again. The Narc keeps a tight "leash" on their trusting partner, (usually a stay at home mom") while they feel that they should be able to do what they want, when they want. Also, long business trips, without communication from the spouse usually result in infidelity....

Lisa Carlisle

Sur Lif

I lived with a covert narcissist and his narcissist family for many years. I have developed paranoia, I think. For years I kept telling myself I was paranoid because I suspected his family scapegoated me for my husband's severe addictions including alcoholism, porn, and gambling (poker at casinos) They were in denial that their church going man of great characeter could could not possibly be doing these things. So they did a smear campaign on me. but I kept thinking I was imagining things. Later, I found out that Indeed they trashed me worse than I ever even believed. Now it is so hard to trust and I am hypervigilant. Is this how someone gets to have paranoia?

Andromeda

4y↑12

I had a neighbor like this. This woman was angry all of the time and was so hung up on everyone breaching her version etiquette. I heard a lot of "how dare you" and slamming of doors and windows.

Cherie Schadler

3y↑1

Dr. Ramani, I came here looking for answers for my son and his fiance concerning her mother and this video nails her completely! Just WOW! The whole wedding thing, Yes! Yes! Absolutely! This whole situation has been blowing my mind so badly that I have been binging on your videos for 2 weeks. I have learned so much in such a short period of time it is astounding. Thank you for making these videos! What can family members do to survive this?

Dora Rodrigues

You said something that makes total sense. My ex partner was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, so he's on mood regulators, antidepressants and antipsychotic but I believe he's a Narcissist instead. I believe he was misdiagnosed.

rahul Kumar

Thanks for your valuable instructions.I am from India and understood the symptoms explained by you and followed my doctor and based on your instruction ,he gave me some medication which helped me alot .Heartiest Thank you once again

Amanda J

4y↑2

when she spoke I felt it so viscerally. These interactions are the same interactions of I've had with my mother! And to be honest...I am pretty sure I have inherited this fantastic mindset from my mother.... I hate myself, what an awful person to be around..:(

Lauren J

I feel the same🥲

C S

that was very interesting, but i would have liked a segment where you explain how all of those seven criteria can also be criteria in other diagnoses, because i am pretty sure that there are huge overlaps. i have a boyfriend who got diagnosed bipolar/paranoid pd and subsequently mistreated with completely wrong medication when he was 15! he is now 28 and i am almost entirely sure that he is showing way more criteria of c-ptsd, major depression and a combination of borderline/histrionic/anxious-avoidant and/or narcissistic pd, while he is still adamant about being paranoid, when after this video i qualify for even more criteria than he does.. -_- and i got misdiagnosed for more than a decade as well. the intro to this video was so incredibly important: those icds and whatnots are merely guidelines, nothing more.

Jennifer Murphy

3y↑7

I just can't get over how accurate she is. Thank you SO MUCH for the advice about not texting. We have had WARS because of texting so the other day when he sent a text, I called him back and said, I'm not texting you anymore because they said it was a big No-No for PPD. Ever since he saw your other video, I think he sees himself in what you said and it has really helped. I know there is no cure right now but I seriously have faith that you are coming close to some form of treatment. OMG. Even when you just talked about the compliments! WOW! He hates when I say kind things to him. Now, I know why. It's mind-blowing.

Mohammad Esaad khan

Thanx doc...you are doing such a nice job...keep up the good work💯

Lonewolf 91

Question is if you find yourself thinking your being paranoid what can you do to deal with this?

deedums♡

3y↑1

I have been on the "hit list" of a family member who has all of these characteristics. It's been 4 years since they believe I wronged them, and the attacks keep coming. I haven't spoken with them in literally 4 years, and their laser focus on me has only intensified. It's awful.

Dai F

I know one who literally walked in my house clearly expecting to catch her bf inside. He can't be courteous at the basic level without a blowout. I offered my help one time and she accused me of calling her broke when it was a natural response I'd given anyone in that situation. All of these check out, good timing to see this. I wanna encourage her to pop in anytime to get it through her head that he's not cheating with me at least, just to end it but I know she would take that totally wrong.

Robert Kolakowski

4y↑4

I knew that I was mentally ill (PPD and Major Depressive Disorder), but I was finding twisted ways of rationalizing why getting medicated and going to group therapy would not help me. I do realize that my social skills are poor, but they are not poor because I do not know them, but because I need to remind myself to use them.

carrie Love

I get that!

The roses

I had a friend like that. At one point she turned against me because I wasn't sympathetic enough in a way I wrote a text message. I was subjected to incredible nastiness and venom. I had enough at that point and disappeared. I still can't believe I put up with her for years.

Gazala Hoorlika

This video helped me to prepare my lecture. Her explanation is superb.

karan sportpsy

37w

My wife is having the same disorder, she is PPD and in India, there is a lack of awareness of psychology. it is even hard to convince such an individual to therapy. She asked for a divorce on the basis that I don't respect her, or why did I say this or that to her. I want to refer here to DR. Salman Akhtar's article on PPD, which explains the descriptive and psychoanalytical perspective of PPD.

JazzieJazz Bucket List

1y↑1

Okay I was understanding her until the single mom part. Some things you need to pull a friend to the side and let them know that you didn't think it was needed to call me that or tell my business... But if that person goes to the extreme to put you on a hate list then for a word slip up then there's a problem.

SydMountaineer

People with other disorders, or even just traits of other disorders can be paranoid. People with bpd can often get very paranoid, assuming someone is doing something purposely to hurt them, and it is all what their own mind and fears are telling them, it has no basis in reality. Also, people with fear of abandonment can be paranoid, and it can be so extreme that they will treat loved ones like enemies.

Deepu Symphony

3y↑11

You just nailed it. I was dealing with a paranoid partner, my girlfriend..my soul..I still love her..but she started suspecting me, everytime my phone is busy or I'm online. She blocked me 'n' number of times. 2 days back she just blasted at me & changed her age old number & took a new sim. Now I've no idea where she is. I really wanted to help her. But I couldn't convince her that she's paranoid. Now I'm totally broken down .I know she too is. But I'm helpless..😪

Olive The Beagle

Warning signs.

KY REDWOOD

You described my day yesterday. Now it's Easter, took her a basket and left it. She came out in a shroud and sunglasses. I love her and wanna save her, and feel like I do and can, until things go south every few days. A vicious cycle. How are you a year later? Plz hit me back!

Aberran Fox

2y↑1

I am called paranoid a lot and I do test people that come into my life for loyatly but once earned it is earned until it is lost. I trust my family and closest friends without questioning their motives at all. Just not sure what might be wrong with me. I don't trust authority, governing bodies, religious groups (most not all), and especially distrust law enforcers, and anyone in corrections (lawyers, judges, etc).

zanzabird

2y↑1

My family member developed this after being married to a malignant narcissist for two decades. So heartbreaking to witness, but I'm now on their 'grudge list' so the relp is over.

fpdhu

Yes so sorry, same happened to me this week, she left me after one too many items on the list..

zanzabird

@fpdhu so sorry, the pain does get better though ...

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Stefan Lindstrom

Very interrestin - into. I did not know that an depressive treatment with medicine and CBT that did not solve it, when it was a narcissistic unsolved that was in the background due to its life did not become or became as expected. Great input.

Kaiden Kilcrease

3y↑3

I’ve been paranoid for the first time and holy crap my head was not thinking straight for a good few days and I almost lost one of my best friend over it too 😬

John Oprendek

4y↑3

Both of your humor really shines here. The levity is useful for such a sensitive topic

Melanie Davis

My husband has a lot of these traits, but he also has a lot of narcissistic ones too. It's been hard being married to him. He's a real piece of work, I tried all that I could to show him love but our love doesn't match up. This is been very helpful and I don't really need a diagnosis because the bottom line it's will always be unhealthy for me, and there is nothing I can do about it.

Chiara P.

4y↑5

Ive met this person. A friend from childhood I'll call T. She fits all of this, and has since she was a little kid. At least since 8 years old. I was friends with T, and she was incredibly toxic. One time, I asked T not to interrupt another friend, and to please wait until she was done sharing her idea to give her own idea for the choreography, and T told our entire grade that I was racist. I walked into the lunchroom, and every single person shot daggers at me, and I had no idea why until people started scolding me. I hid in the bathroom crying all of lunch and through the next period because of it. Parents had to be called. It was bad. This wasnt the first time T had done stuff like this, and her mother is just as bad, so the school asked me to apologize just so we could all move on with our lives. 🙄 I feel very resentful about that, even 21 years later.
T is even worse today than she was back then. Thank God she lives thousands of miles away from me now. T is a poisonous person, and hurts everyone she interacts with.

E Art

Who are you taking about? Dr Ramani ?

Chiara P.

4y↑1

@E Art No no no! I edited my post to make that clearer.
I love Dr. Ramani. ❤

Kaitlyn

Sounds like this is often paired with narcissistic personality disorder no? Also, this was so interested and so well spoken thank you.

nicholus sibisi

3y↑113

Once I became self aware I immediately became calm and peaceful and avoided over thinking things...

AlexOswald

3y↑30

thats nice. its hell when youre slipping into a psychosis, even though you know these thoghts are irratiinal, your brain just keeps convincing you its real and its really exhausting to fight against these thoughts with yout rational thinking when youre starting to depersonalize. fuck man, it was scary

Antonio Lopez

3y↑5

Man I hate overthinking shit it’s draining

mat lohn

3y↑1

@AlexOswald I've been going through that for a few years. Only recently became aware once I had one of my paranoid delusions proven impossible to me even after spending more than a year obsessing to an extreme extent over. Even now sometimes my mind would try to slip back into that paranoia. Now I'm dealing with a new one. My paranoias are pretty specific and always revolve around people who are close to me and not being able to be trusted because of their sinful actions. This one might be the most damaging because it literally and figuratively hits close to home. Every single creek and thud sets of a chain of racing thoughts that mentally burns. Unfortunately I think I found evidence for this paranoia or at least my brain perceived it to be evidence and it just makes it so much harder to deal with. Snapping back and forwards between delusion and reality. Can't even tell if I'm having auditory hallucinations or i just obsess about the tiniest sounds in the house. If this specific paranoid delusion turns out to be true, someone is gonna die

Birdlover

I have autism and also over think things often.

Brenda G.

Yeah and crime and theft is on the rise. I’m scared someone is going to harm me or my family. My car was stolen …and now my dad is receiving phone calls, “give us money or we will harm you”

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Frances Bernard

4y↑3

I like the hilarious reference to fruit Dr. Ramani. Working with more than one family who lived through a world war on the front lines or families who used to live in a war zone is challenging while trying to find work at the same time so you can change jobs and it has nothing at all to do with any of them having any kind of personality disorder almost all of the time unless they accuse you of stealing something while you are the only paid home maker home care worker serving them and everything to do with their lonliness and fear of mabe not being able to find a replacement home maker soon enough. Only once in 5 years was I ever accused of stealing because of that sort of thing. And no that person was not born in another nation. I saw a lecture given the other day online in which the lecturer admitted that much of the information students take in when going to places of higher learning is 500 years old. Which is why Dr. Roberta Bondar once remarked that she couldn't understand why universal health care in her nation was decades behind what is already known on how to practise medicine.

Lord Muck

3y↑27

This is me. I struggle to trust people and always think my colleagues and boss want me to leave. I can't work out if its true or not

Eunice Kirkness

Great that she points out the controversy surrounding DSM.

Brittany dw

39w

Can one develop this issue after years of abuse and violence? My husband was brutally abused and asdulted by bullies growing up and fought a lot. He actually taught me to be more self aware when i go out in public for safety bc i was so sheltered i hadn't ever seen a fight . Going through the torment he did it has to shape you in some way. He gets very sensitive and has anger out bursts. He used to be violent and punch holes in walls i have no idea why. It only happened on the weekends and didnt matter what i did but we always fought on weekends for years. He would have an outburst and try and blame me. I never took his bs. Except i stayed with him for so long. The only way i stayed was bc i worked the opposite of him. I wasnt strong enough to leave. Now it happens a lot less. We only fought 2x this year so far. I should've left him when did that crap. For no reason other than he had a chip on his shoulder and wanted to take it out on someone. He claims to have this but idk its more likely bipolar disorder bc of his moods.

Estrid

4y↑3

thank god. i have paranoid ideation (ptsd related) and i was scared i had this but i don’t. i’m not this defensive at all but my mom is narcissistic and my dad has a ton of socioptahic traits. i grew up in a horrible household state and i was bullied until 9th grade so now i’m extremely paranoid but i’m not this extreme at all. thank god and i’m so sorry to people who suffer from PPD or who’s partner does

Rosy Rosy

4y↑3

I laughed out loud when she said “you’re on their hit-list” HAHAHAHA

Bcs that’s exactly what was brewing inside me when he phrased the criticism like that... I was like “boy, you’d be out in a minute” lol

Charlotte Galindo

3y↑2

Oh yeah, I definitely have this. When I went to therapy for something else, I was always holding back saying things or beating around the bush, not to mention me thinking the therapist was mad that I was wasting her time or that she was bored with me. So, I stopped going. They called, but I never went back.