Tang was born on October 15, 1983 in Hong Kong. She graduated from Buddhist Sum Heung Lam Memorial College and the Department of Fashion Design at IVE. In 2002, she joined girl group Cookies, and was the leader until the group disbanded in late 2004.
As a solo artist, Tang has released 5 albums so far: Coloring Stephy (August 2005), Fantasy (March 2006), Dating Stephy (February 2007), Stephilosophy (2007 December 21) and The Red Album (November 2008).
他不准我哭
鄧麗欣 Lyrics
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不
准
我
哭
誰說分手都應該歡天喜地
就好比 過了愉快的假期
淚水假使污穢了眼睛 哪位可處理
他不准我哭 怎麼可以哭 分手都要有一臉笑容
淚水忍得到 方可進步 變作石頭粗糙
他不准我哭 怎麼可再哭 不想他抱歉和別人抱
心知肚明他想我好 堅忍卓絕可鍛煉到
如日後被別個拋棄亦捱到
誰說分手都不應呼天搶地
若相戀 到了絕症的晚期
誰說 再重的愛亦較門外雪更輕
淚水假使淹蓋了眼睛 哪位可處理
他不准我哭 怎麼可以哭 分手都要有一臉笑容
淚水忍得到 方可進步 變作石頭粗糙
他不准我哭 怎麼可再哭 不想他抱歉和別人抱
心知肚明他想我好 堅忍卓絕可鍛煉到
如日後被別個拋棄亦不痛
如果哀傷都也可伴隨眼淚點點滴去
我抱著頭肆意失聲痛哭 難道有罪
真的想哭 真的想哭 分手怎會一臉笑容
淚水忍得到 即使進步 也似石頭粗糙
真不想哭 真不想哭 他怎可以和別人抱
心知肚明他想我好 堅忍卓絕可鍛煉到
如日後被別個拋棄亦捱到
如日後被別個拋棄亦不痛
The song "他不准我哭" by 鄧麗欣 is about a woman who is trying to hold back her tears after a breakup because her ex-partner did not allow her to cry. She questions the societal norms that expect people to be happy after a breakup and put on a smiling face. The lyrics suggest that crying is necessary to move on and that suppressing emotions can lead to emotional numbness. The chorus repeats that she cannot cry because it is essential to have a tough exterior, and it shows strength and resilience.
The song speaks to the gender roles and the strict expectations placed on women to suppress their emotions, even during difficult times. The line "他不准我哭" ("he doesn't allow me to cry") implies that the woman's partner has some control over her actions and emotions, adding another layer of power dynamics to the relationship. The song offers a critique of traditional gender roles and cultural expectations in relationships.
Overall, the song is a powerful interpretation of the emotional turmoil that comes with a breakup and emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and dealing with emotions, even when society tells us to bury them.
Line by Line Meaning
他
Refers to the person she is breaking up with
不
Does not allow or permit
准
Agree to or approve of
我
Refers to herself
哭
Cry
誰說分手都應該歡天喜地
Society thinks that breakups should be celebrated, but in reality, they are not always happy occasions
就好比過了愉快的假期
Breakups are often compared to the ending of a fun vacation
誰說要我趕快學會凡事也看輕
People expect her to brush off the sadness and learn to not take everything so seriously
淚水假使污穢了眼睛哪位可處理
If tears are dirtying her eyes, who will be there to help her cope?
他不准我哭怎麼可以哭分手都要有一臉笑容
Her ex-partner expects her to smile and be happy during the breakup, forbidding her from crying
淚水忍得到方可進步變作石頭粗糙
He believes that holding back tears will toughen her up and make her stronger, like a stone
他不准我哭怎麼可再哭不想他抱歉和別人抱
She doesn't want to cry anymore and seek comfort from him or someone new, since she knows that he only wants the best for her
心知肚明他想我好堅忍卓絕可鍛煉到
She understands that he wants her to be strong and capable, which can only be achieved through perseverance
如日後被別個拋棄亦捱到
If she is ever dumped in the future, she knows she can handle it
誰說分手都不應呼天搶地
Society believes that breakups should be kept private and not made into a big deal
若相戀到了絕症的晚期
If their love ever reached a point of no return
誰說再重的愛亦較門外雪更輕
People think that the snow outside weighs less than the heavy burden of love
淚水假使淹蓋了眼睛哪位可處理
If tears are overwhelming her, who can help her cope?
如果哀傷都也可伴隨眼淚點點滴去我抱著頭肆意失聲痛哭難道有罪
She wonders if it's wrong to cry and release her sadness, even though it can also help her heal
真的想哭真的想哭分手怎會一臉笑容
She wants to cry but can't since her ex-partner expects her to be happy
真不想哭真不想哭他怎可以和別人抱
She doesn't want to cry anymore and doesn't want to seek comfort from anyone else, because she trusts that he wants the best for her
如日後被別個拋棄亦捱到如日後被別個拋棄亦不痛
If she is ever dumped in the future, she knows she can bear the pain and will not be as hurt as she was during this breakup
Contributed by Max W. Suggest a correction in the comments below.
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