Cradle Your Hatred
Adam Ant Lyrics


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I am sorry I eat my soup with a fork
I am sorry I don't listen when you talk
Stand up
I am sorry I never took the load of you
Stand up
I am sorry if my behavior seems too cruel

I am sorry it's time to talk, it's time
Stand up
I am sorry that you're not me and I'm not you
Stand up
I am sorry for all the shit I've put you through
Stand up
I am sorry I stole away your perfect dream
Stand up
I am sorry for all the time I didn't kiss you
It doesn't matter
Stand up

You cradle your hatred like a baby
Slave to resentment lately
Stand up
God only knows when it's gonna stop
Whatever I say is okay as long as you come out on to

You cradle your hatred like a baby
Slave to resentment lately
Stand up
God only knows when it's gonna stop
Whatever I say is okay as long as you come out on top

I am sorry we're not like the cartoon family
Stand up
I am sorry but I see that as nothing to envy
Stand up
I am sorry no-one has ever sworn at you
I am sorry 'cause they sure have sworn at me
Let me explain:
A poor boy's dreams are the only luxury
I am sorry we're always locking horns
I am tired of sitting on the dunces step
The dunces cap just another crown of thorns
It's time...

You cradle your hatred like a baby
Slave to resentment lately
Stand up
God only knows when it's gonna stop
Whatever I say is okay as long as you come out on to





I am sorry but I see that as nothing to envy

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Adam Ant’s “Cradle Your Hatred” deal with themes of apologies, self-reflection, and the nature of resentment. The song’s opening lines, “I am sorry I eat my soup with a fork / I am sorry I don't listen when you talk,” suggest a kind of humorous self-deprecation, but soon the tone grows more serious. Ant expands upon his apologies, stating that he’s sorry for not helping carry another person’s burdens and for being cruel. However, he also acknowledges that there are things he’s not sorry for, such as stealing someone’s “perfect dream” or not kissing them. The song’s refrain, “You cradle your hatred like a baby / Slave to resentment lately / Stand up / God only knows when it’s gonna stop / Whatever I say is okay as long as you come out on top,” speaks to the destructive nature of holding onto feelings of anger and bitterness towards others.


The third verse of the song is a bit harder to decipher, but it seems to touch on class differences and feeling trapped in certain family dynamics. Ant mentions a “poor boy’s dreams” being a “luxury” and how he’s tired of “sitting on the dunces step / The dunces cap just another crown of thorns.” It’s not completely clear what he means by these lines, but they do suggest a kind of deep-seated frustration with societal expectations and perhaps not fitting into certain molds. In the end, the song seems to encourage listeners to acknowledge their own faults and try to move past feelings of resentment in order to find a sense of resolution.


Line by Line Meaning

I am sorry I eat my soup with a fork
I apologize for not following social norms, but it's a small thing and not worth getting upset over.


I am sorry I don't listen when you talk
I apologize for not giving you my full attention, but I have my own thoughts and distractions that I can't always control.


Stand up
Assert yourself and your own needs and wants.


I am sorry I never took the load of you
I apologize for not helping and supporting you as much as I could have, but I have my own burdens to bear.


I am sorry if my behavior seems too cruel
I apologize if I've come across as overly harsh or unkind, but I can't always control my emotions and reactions.


I am sorry it's time to talk, it's time
I apologize for avoiding important conversations and issues that need to be addressed, but it's time to face them now.


I am sorry that you're not me and I'm not you
I apologize for our differences and the conflicts that arise from them, but we are individuals with our own unique perspectives and experiences.


I am sorry for all the shit I've put you through
I apologize for all the pain, difficulty, and hardship that I have caused you in our relationship.


I am sorry I stole away your perfect dream
I apologize for ruining your idealistic vision of what our relationship could be or should have been.


I am sorry for all the time I didn't kiss you
I apologize for neglecting physical affections and intimacy in our relationship.


It doesn't matter
This issue or incident is not important enough to dwell on or let it affect our relationship in a negative way.


You cradle your hatred like a baby
You hold onto and nurture your feelings of anger, resentment, and bitterness towards me, even though it's unhealthy and harmful.


Slave to resentment lately
You have become a slave or prisoner to your negative emotions and thoughts, especially towards me.


God only knows when it's gonna stop
It's uncertain and unknown when you will be able to let go of your animosity and forgive me.


Whatever I say is okay as long as you come out on top
You prioritize winning, revenge, or getting the upper hand over resolving our issues or working towards a healthier relationship.


I am sorry we're not like the cartoon family
I apologize for not living up to your expectations or ideal image of a perfect family or relationship.


I am sorry but I see that as nothing to envy
I apologize for disagreeing with your vision of a perfect family or relationship and not wanting to emulate it.


I am sorry no-one has ever sworn at you
I apologize for causing you emotional pain and trauma, as others in your life have been kinder and more respectful towards you.


I am sorry 'cause they sure have sworn at me
I apologize for being defensive or reacting badly to your anger towards me, but I have also been hurt and mistreated by others in my life.


Let me explain:
I want to clarify or justify my actions or behavior, in hopes of finding common ground for forgiveness and healing.


A poor boy's dreams are the only luxury
Growing up in poverty or oppression, a person's dreams and aspirations are the only thing they have that is truly their own and can't be taken away.


I am sorry we're always locking horns
I apologize for our constant arguments and disagreements, but they stem from our individual personalities and perspectives.


I am tired of sitting on the dunces step
I'm tired of feeling like a fool or being punished for my mistakes, when we should be working towards mutual understanding and forgiveness.


The dunces cap just another crown of thorns
Being labeled a fool or a failure, even by oneself, is painful and burdensome, like a crown of thorns.




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