In 2012, Grace publicly came out as transgender. After a long period of line-up changes and uncertainty surrounding the band's future, their sixth studio album, Transgender Dysphoria Blues, was released independently in January 2014 to critical acclaim. The band's seventh album, Shape Shift with Me, was released in 2016. In addition, the band have four well known EPs: Crime as Forgiven by Against Me!, The Acoustic EP, The Disco Before the Breakdown, and New Wave B-Sides. They have released numerous singles, two live albums, and demo versions of the three of their studio albums.
Band members:
Laura Jane Grace – vocals, guitar
James Bowman – lead guitar
Andrew Seward – bass
Atom Willard – drums
Former members:
Kevin Mahon – drums (1998–2001)
Dustin Fridkin – bass (2000–2002)
Warren Oakes – drums (2001–2009)
George Rebelo – drums (2009–2010)
Jay Weinberg – drums (2010–2012)
Inge Johansson – bass (2013–2018)
Discography:
• Reinventing Axl Rose (2002)
• As the Eternal Cowboy (2003)
• Searching for a Former Clarity (2005)
• New Wave (2007)
• White Crosses (2010)
• Transgender Dysphoria Blues (2014)
• Shape Shift with Me (2016)
Cavalier Eternel
Against Me! Lyrics
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We're both at fault, we're both to blame
And it wasn't the other men, cause there were other women
This just isn't love, it's just the remorse of a loss of a feeling
Even if I stayed, it just wouldn't be the same
Double this drink up into the tallest glass you've got
You know that I ain't used to sleeping all alone
If I could get so high, I'd leave behind my problems
And take them out with the empty bottles
Oh girl, I'm sorry but I'm leaving
We're both at fault, we're both to blame
And it wasn't the other men, cause there were other women
This just isn't love, it's just the remorse of a loss of a feeling
Even if I stayed, it just wouldn't be the same
Me and this guitar are going swinging blind into the unknown
You know a song and a stage is all I ever needed of a home
Someday I will call from a pay phone in a truck stop on the road
And you'll tell me how much better off you've been on your own
So girl, I'm sorry but I'm leaving
We're both at fault, we're both to blame
And it wasn't the other men, cause there were other women
This just isn't love, it's just the remorse of a loss of a feeling
Even if I stayed, it just wouldn't be the same
The song "Cavalier Eternal" by Against Me! is a reflection on a failed relationship. The singer acknowledges that both parties are to blame for the demise of their love. The lyrics suggest that infidelity was a contributing factor, but ultimately, it was the loss of a shared feeling that led to the breakup. The singer points out that even if they stayed together, they would not be able to recapture what they once had.
The singer seems to be coping with the breakup by using alcohol and drugs to numb the pain. They encourage their partner to double up their drink and go on a reckless "kamikaze flight" to escape reality. The singer also finds solace in music, referring to their guitar as a companion and a source of stability.
The song's chorus repeats the sentiment that both parties are at fault for the failed relationship, and there were other women and men involved. Ultimately, the singer acknowledges that leaving is for the best, even if it's painful. The final verse leaves the possibility of reconciliation open, but it's unsure if it will ever come to fruition.
Overall, "Cavalier Eternal" is a poignant exploration of a failed relationship, the reasons behind it, and the emotional aftermath.
Line by Line Meaning
Girl, I'm sorry but I'm leaving
I regret to inform you that I am ending our relationship
We're both at fault, we're both to blame
Both of us are responsible for the problems in our relationship
And it wasn't the other men, cause there were other women
Neither of us were faithful to each other
This just isn't love, it's just the remorse of a loss of a feeling
Our relationship has lost its spark and is no longer love, but rather just the sadness of losing something
Even if I stayed, it just wouldn't be the same
Continuing our relationship would not solve the underlying problems and would not be beneficial for either of us
Double this drink up into the tallest glass you've got
Pour me a large drink, I want to numb myself to the pain
You know that I ain't used to sleeping all alone
I am not accustomed to being alone at night
Gonna make it to the moon tonight on a one-way kamikaze flight
I am going to get extremely intoxicated and lose myself in the moment
If I could get so high, I'd leave behind my problems
If I could get intoxicated enough, I could forget about my problems
And take them out with the empty bottles
I will use the empty bottles as a symbol of my problems and dispose of them
Me and this guitar are going swinging blind into the unknown
I am leaving to pursue a career in music, even though I do not know what the future holds
You know a song and a stage is all I ever needed of a home
Performing music is my true passion and feels like home to me
Someday I will call from a pay phone in a truck stop on the road
In the future, I may need to call you from a remote location while traveling for my music career
And you'll tell me how much better off you've been on your own
You will likely express how much your life has improved since I left you on your own
Contributed by Hudson O. Suggest a correction in the comments below.
@andymigz7000
Girl, I'm sorry but I'm leaving
We're both at fault, we're both to blame
And it wasn't the other men, cause there were other women
This just isn't love, it's just the remorse of a loss of a feeling
Even if I stayed, it just wouldn't be the same
Double this drink up into the tallest glass you've got
You know that I ain't used to sleeping all alone
Gonna make it to the moon tonight on a one-way kamikaze flight
If I could get so high, I'd leave behind my problems
And take them out with the empty bottles
Oh girl, I'm sorry but I'm leaving
We're both at fault, we're both to blame
And it wasn't the other men, cause there were other women
This just isn't love, it's just the remorse of a loss of a feeling
Even if I stayed, it just wouldn't be the same
Me and this guitar are going swinging blind into the unknown
You know a song and a stage is all I ever needed of a home
Someday I will call from a pay phone in a truck stop on the road
And you'll tell me how much better off you've been on your own
So girl, I'm sorry but I'm leaving
We're both at fault, we're both to blame
And it wasn't the other men, cause there were other women
This just isn't love, it's just the remorse of a loss of a feeling
Even if I stayed, it just wouldn't be the same
@dustinlanier6165
I remember being backstage at an Against Me concert in Eugene, Oregon. This is 2007...red cups everywhere. We drank as many as we could before getting yelled at and being told to go away. We weren't supposed to be backstage haha. Amazing live. Crazy to be 31 now, listening to this. Still love it.
@robertklebe9236
Lies I'm 34, that was me at vans warped tour, in 2006, at the gorge in george,Washington. You're to young boy.
@ANO-.-NYM
Wow, I was 16 when I listened to this now I'm 23. Still just as good
@SpinozarMusic
Haha, me too, but now I am 32 :-D
@sicklillette
I love this song more than any fucked up relationship I've ever had.
@AndyNelson777
everybody gets older and develop their music tastes. i saw these guys like 3 weeks ago and they fucking rocked their old songs and it was totally the show i waited for for years. they will always be one of the greats
@delve_
A person realizing their relationship with someone else is only causing each pain and that it would be better to move on, envisioning a future in which they can both look back and agree that parting ways was the correct thing to do, is a more beautiful story than any romance in which the supposed lovers stay together against the odds, as that seldom happens in the real world without creating a hurtful, unhealthy relationship: a sort of tragedy.
It's the reason so many couples grow to despise their marriages after a few years, because they believe the failure is in ending a marriage and not in continuing a loveless marriage that harms all parties involved.
Marriage, romantic relationships, these should only last as long as love does. There's no shame in moving on, and any person who says otherwise is trying to control you.
Edit: typo and wording
@markallen7509
Summed up why I have always loved this song. Such beauty in having the maturity to part ways respectfully. Most things aren’t meant to last. Observer each other’s boundaries and boldly communicate your needs.
@1335AjH
This is where I'm at currently, my partners best friend sent me this song after a long talk about how I needed to end it. You're words really helped me so thank you.
@missmandy3663
Fucking facts.