Selfless Cold
Ben Folds Lyrics


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I said what you wanted to hear
And what I wanted to say
So I will take it back
Are all the dishes intact?
Let them be broken, broken

[Chorus]
It's easy to be
Easy and free
When it doesn't mean anything
You remain selfless, cold and
Composed

You've done me no favor
To call and be nice
Telling me I
Can take anything I like
You don't owe me to be so
Polite
You've done no wrong
You've done no wrong
Get out of my sight

[Chorus]

Come on baby now throw me
A right to the chin
Don't just stare like
You never cared
I know you did
But you just smile
Like a bank teller
Blankly telling me
Have a nice life
Come on baby now
Throw me a right
To the chin
Just one sign that could
Show me that you give a
Shit
But you just smile politely
And I grow weaker and I
Said what you wanted to hear
And what I wanted to say
So I will take it back





[Chorus]

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Ben Folds Five's song Selfless Cold and Composed tell the story of a relationship that has devolved into empty pleasantries and polite goodbyes. The singer has realized that they have been going through the motions, saying what the other person wants to hear, but not expressing their own feelings. The line "It's easy to be/easy and free/when it doesn't mean anything" encapsulates this feeling of emptiness and detachment.


The chorus of the song is particularly poignant, with the repetition of "selfless, cold, and composed." This phrase suggests that the singer is trying to be strong and put up a brave front, even though they are hurting. The use of alliteration in this phrase also reinforces the sense of icy detachment.


The final lines of the song, "And I said what you wanted to hear/And what I wanted to say/So I will take it back," suggest a lack of closure and a sense of regret. The singer has been unable to express their true feelings, and now it seems too late. The song leaves us with a sense of sadness and a longing for honesty and emotional authenticity in our relationships.


Line by Line Meaning

I said what you wanted to hear
I told you what you wanted to hear, not what I truly wanted to say


And what I wanted to say
I had something else I wanted to say that was different from what you wanted to hear


So I will take it back
I'm going to take back what I said because it wasn't what I meant


Are all the dishes intact?
Did you break anything while I was gone?


Let them be broken, broken
It doesn't matter if the dishes are broken, it's not a big deal


It's easy to be
It's not hard to act a certain way


Easy and free
Acting easygoing and carefree can be effortless


When it doesn't mean anything
It's easy to act that way when there are no real consequences or meaning behind it


You remain selfless, cold and
Even though you're acting carefree, you're actually detached and distant


Composed
You're keeping your emotions under control and acting in a composed manner


You've done me no favor
You didn't help me in any way


To call and be nice
It's not doing me any favors to call and act friendly now


Telling me I
Saying to me that I


Can take anything I like
I can have whatever I want from you


You don't owe me to be so
You don't have to be overly polite to me


Polite
Manners and being courteous are not necessary right now


You've done no wrong
You haven't done anything bad or negative


Get out of my sight
Please leave my presence and I don't want to see you anymore


Come on baby now throw me
I'm asking you to fight with me


A right to the chin
Punch me in the face


Don't just stare like
Do something, don't just look at me


You never cared
It seems like you never cared about me


I know you did
I believe you actually did care about me


But you just smile
But all you do is smile


Like a bank teller
You're smiling like a bank teller who has to act pleasant all day


Blankly telling me
You're not saying anything important or meaningful


Have a nice life
You're basically telling me to have a good life without you


Come on baby now
I'm urging you to do something


Throw me a right
Hit me with a punch


Just one sign that could
Any indication that could


Show me that you give a
Prove to me that you care about me


Shit
Anything significant or important


But you just smile politely
But you keep just giving me a polite smile


And I grow weaker and I
And it makes me feel weaker and more defeated




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Written by: BEN FOLDS

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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

@chaleureusenikolai3741

I said what you wanted to hear
And what I wanted to say
So I will take it back
Are all the dishes intact?
Let them be broken, broken
It's easy to be
Easy and free
When it doesn't mean anything
You remain selfless, cold and
Composed
You've done me no favor
To call and be nice
Telling me I
Can take anything I like
You don't owe me to be so
Polite
You've done no wrong
You've done no wrong
Get out of my sight
It's easy to be
Easy and free
When it doesn't mean anything
You remain selfless, cold and
Composed



@betterlatethannever4536

Come on baby,
Throw me a right to the chin!
Just don't stare like you never cared,
I know you did!
But you just smile
Like a bank teller
Blankly telling me, "Have a nice life."

Come on baby,
And throw me a right to the chin!
Just one sign that would show me
Thank you give a shit
But you just smiled
Politely
And I grow weaker and I....

Said what you wanted to hear
And what I wanted to say
So I will take it back.
It's easy to be
Easy and free
When it doesn't mean anything
When it doesn't mean anything
You can take anything
You could take anything
You're so selfless, cold
You're so selfless, cold
So selfless, cold,
and composed.



All comments from YouTube:

@midkingsteve

Darren Jesse is one of the most under talked about drummers in all of music history. Insane chops.

@troyh1969

Yeah...first time I heard him play, I was like how do i not know about this guy.

@rickh.6976

Insane chops.

@coreybondurant

I totally agree. Great feel. Not to mention the vintage kit and cymbals. Great drummer.

@mpa1931

One of my favorite drummers since I listened to Whatever and Ever Amen back in the day.

@PedroPetracco

@@coreybondurant I literally dreamt about these cymbals when I first got a hold of this DVD

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@danvorosmarty9854

Amazing how full their sound is, you would never think they were just a trio.

@widehotep9257

Even more amazing how full Ben's pockets are. He got rich from songwriting royalties while the other dudes got a few pennies for performing.

@danvorosmarty9854

@@widehotep9257 huh, hadn't heard that.

@captaincopyright2367

especially since they're called the Ben Folds Five

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