After signing with Hollywood Records, Lovato released their pop rock debut album, Don't Forget (2008), which debuted at number two on the Billboard 200. Its follow-up, Here We Go Again (2009), debuted at number one in the U.S., while its title track reached number 15 on the Hot 100. Lovato's third studio album, Unbroken (2011), experimented with pop and R&B and spawned the U.S. platinum-certified single "Skyscraper". They released her eponymous fourth album in 2013, which debuted at number three on the Billboard 200, and contained the top-ten international hit "Heart Attack". Lovato's fifth and sixth albums, Confident (2015) and Tell Me You Love Me (2017), infused soul and mature themes; they earned a Grammy Award nomination for Confident, while "Sorry Not Sorry", the lead single from Tell Me You Love Me, became her highest-charting single in the U.S., reaching number six. After a hiatus, Lovato released their seventh album, Dancing with the Devil... the Art of Starting Over (2021), which reached number two on the Billboard 200.
On television, Lovato has starred as the titular character on the sitcom Sonny with a Chance (2009–2011), served as a judge on the music competition series The X Factor USA for its second and third seasons, and appeared as a recurring character on the musical comedy Glee (2013–2014) and the sitcom Will & Grace (2020). They also starred in the television drama film Princess Protection Program (2009), the animated comedy film Smurfs: The Lost Village (2017), and the musical comedy Eurovision Song Contest: The Story of Fire Saga (2020).
Lovato has sold over 24 million records in the United States[6] and has also received numerous accolades, including an MTV Video Music Award, 14 Teen Choice Awards, five People's Choice Awards, two Latin American Music Awards, a Guinness World Record, and was included on the Time 100 annual list in 2017. An activist for several social causes, Lovato's struggles with an eating disorder and substance abuse have received considerable media attention, in response to which they published the self-help memoir Staying Strong: 365 Days a Year (2013) and released the documentaries Demi Lovato: Simply Complicated (2017) and Demi Lovato: Dancing with the Devil (2021). In 2021, Lovato had come out as nonbionary.
I Hate You
Demi Lovato Lyrics
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You turned to me and said, "Hey, how American?"
Christmas lights on the fire escape
Lit your glitter and red beret
With your vape pen and your finger tattoos
You looked like someone tryna look like you
If that's only in my head
Well, the talk stayed small and we shot the shit
How's the music going, how's your sister's kid?
Funny, time moves on, maybe I should too?
But ooh, fuck it, I miss you
You've got a family now and you're wearing it nice
Are you only showing your highlights?
When you're in a quiet place, am I there with you in a way?
How I felt so undeserving of you
And loved you more than I will admit to
Hundred reasons, counting still
Never stopped and I never will
And the world cut out waiting on a string
But what was meant for you wasn't meant for me
I know you moved on so I'm trying too
But ooh, fuck it, I miss you
(Ooh, fuck it, I miss you)
Ooh, fuck it, I miss you
(Ooh, fuck it, I miss you)
Ooh, fuck it, I miss you
Over third wave coffee we're acting mature
Like our history is just that and no more
Six months and counting dry
Doesn't mean that I wouldn't try
I know I held your hand like a bunch of balloons
I knew I was meant to hold onto
But I was just a stupid kid
Throwing everything to the wind
If I zoom in close, if I pan out wide
We were so almost, I could almost die
I can say I've learned but I have no clue
But ooh, fuck it, I miss you
Ooh, fuck it, I miss you
Had a bumper sticker on your first car
That said, "Be happy, wherever you are"
Thought it was all some hippie shit
Now, I'm here reliving it
The lyrics to Demi Lovato's song I Hate You Don't Leave Me showcase the complexity of emotions that arise in a tumultuous relationship. The singer expresses a love-hate dynamic with their partner, someone they want to love but can't seem to trust. There is a fear of abandonment, a desire for affection, and a lack of control over the situation that leaves them feeling confused and scared.
The lyrics convey a sense of desperation and yearning. In one moment, the singer pleads for their partner to hold them; in the next, they demand to be set free. They are torn between wanting to be with their partner and feeling trapped in the relationship. The repetition of the line "I hate you, don't leave me" emphasizes the conflicting emotions and the struggle to make sense of them.
The line "I'm addicted to the madness" suggests that the singer has become accustomed to the chaos of their relationship. They have been hurt before and are scared of being abandoned again. Despite the pain, they are willing to endure it because they crave the feeling of completion that their partner brings them. The final line, "I hate you, please love me," encapsulates the cycle of intense emotions that characterize the song.
Line by Line Meaning
Hey, yeah yeah
Introduction and casual greeting before delving into an intense emotional situation
I hate you, don't leave me
Expressing conflicting feelings of love and hate, and desperately pleading for the person to stay
I feel like I can't breathe
Suffocating under the weight of intense emotions and confusion
Just hold me, don't touch me
Desiring comfort and physical closeness, but also feeling overwhelmed and anxious about it
And I want you to love me
Expressing a deep desire for love and validation from the other person
But I need you to trust me
Recognizing the importance of trust in a relationship, and seeking to build it
Stay with me, set me free
Wanting the person to stick around, but also acknowledging the need for personal space and freedom
But I can't back down
Feeling stuck in a difficult emotional situation and unable to give up
No, I can't deny
Admitting the truth of the situation, even if it's painful
That I'm staying now
Confirming the decision to stick with the relationship, despite the difficulties
'Cause I can't decide
Feeling indecisive and unsure about what to do
Confused and scared
Overwhelmed by complicated emotions and fearful of what might happen
I am terrified of you
Feeling scared of the other person's power over their emotions and the relationship
I admit I'm in and out of my head
Confessing to struggling with mental health issues and their impact on the relationship
Don't listen to a single word I've said
Acknowledging that their words may be contradictory and unreliable, and urging the other person to listen beyond them
Just hear me out before you run away
Pleading for the person to listen and understand their perspective before giving up on the relationship
'Cause I can't take this pain
Expressing the overwhelming emotional pain they are experiencing and the desperation to escape it
I'm addicted to the madness
Acknowledging a pattern of chaos and instability in their relationships and emotions
I'm a daughter of the sadness
Describing the deep-rooted emotional pain and trauma that underlie their struggles in relationships
I've been here too many times before
Recognizing a pattern of repeating the same emotional cycle in relationships
Been abandoned and I'm scared now
Feeling the emotional wounds of past relationships and fearful of being hurt again
I can't handle another fall out
Recognizing the fragility of their emotional state and the potential impact of another relationship failure
I'm fragile, just washed upon the shore
Feeling vulnerable and exposed, like a shipwreck survivor washed up on shore
They forget me, don't see me
Feeling invisible and overlooked by others, even those who claim to care
When they love me, they leave me
Expressing a fear of being abandoned and rejected in relationships
No, I can't take this pain
Repeating the desperate plea for relief from the emotional pain they are experiencing
I hate you, please love me
Expressing a deep desire for love and validation, despite the conflicting emotions and struggles in the relationship
Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: Matthew Koma, Demetria Lovato
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SheLady00
Hey, yeah yeah
I hate you, don’t leave me
I feel like I can’t breathe
Just hold me, don’t touch me
And I want you to love me
But I need you to trust me
Stay with me, set me free
But I can’t back down
No, I can’t deny
That I’m staying now
‘Cause I can’t decide
Confused and scared
I am terrified of you
I admit I’m in and out of my head
Don’t listen to a single word I’ve said
Just hear me out before you run away
‘Cause I can’t take this pain
I hate you, don’t leave me
I hate you, don’t leave me
‘Cause I love when you kiss me
I’m in pieces, you complete me
But I can’t back down
No, I can’t deny
That I’m staying now
‘Cause I can’t decide
Confused and scared
I am terrified of you
I admit I’m in and out of my head
Don’t listen to a single word I’ve said
Just hear me out before you run away
‘Cause I can’t take this pain, no
I’m addicted to the madness
I’m a daughter of the sadness
I’ve been here too many times before
Been abandoned and I’m scared now
I can’t handle another fall out
I’m fragile, just washed upon the shore
They forget me, don’t see me
When they love me, they leave me
I admit I’m in and out of my head
Don’t listen to a single word I’ve said
Just hear me out before you run away
‘Cause I can’t take this pain
No, I can’t take this pain
I hate you, don’t leave me
I hate you, please love me
Insfiring Times
I know this song is about BPD but you can interpret this in other ways too.
This song reminds me of my anxiety and Depression.
I admit I'm in and out of my head.
Don't listen to a single word I've sad.
Just hear me out.
Before you run away.
Cuz I can't take this pain.
I hate you don't leave me.
I hate you please love me.
These lines remind me of how I push people away yet I'm screaming for help.
Rishi B
This is so soft, in a way. Everyone just demonizes BPD, so it's such a big comfort when the pain we go through is spoken for
Seven
Just recently got diagnosed with Borderline disorder and it perfectly explains how I feel every day. Just remember, everyone with a mental disorder, if you have depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, borderline or whatever, we're strong guys, we have to stick together and accept our mental illness even if it's hard, we'll make it and we're loved, even if you are alone atm, we, who understand you, we love you as you are even we can't love ourselves, we still do love you cuz we know what you're going through, stay strong❤️
Brittany Smart
I have bpd. Thank you.
Leo
Great now I’m crying but thanks so much <3
지우
bye i was about to same the same. the worst thing is that i feel like this with ANYONE
danitharos
Yes
Yorki
I have depression, bipolarity, borderline, eating disorders, attention deficit, cyberadiction, alcoholism and arachnophobia
siapa aku
i think most broken people would love Demi Lovato. All of her songs are so meaningful. its way too beauitiful.
dad
Prakiti Mudita YOUR COMMENT ACTUALLY HAS ME IN TEARS READING IT BECAUSE DAMN IT HIT ME HARD BECAUSE I LOVE DEMI SO MUCH AND ALL HER MUSIC
James Nassetta
honey yes I am broken but Demi helps me