Please Don't Talk About Me When I'm Gone
Doris Day Lyrics


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Years we've been together
Seems we can't get along,
No matter what I do
I don't appeal to you
Makes no difference whether
I am right or wrong
If we can't be sweethearts
This much you can do

Please don't talk about me when I'm gone
Oh, Honey, though our friendship ceases from now on
And listen, if you can't say anything real nice
It's better not to talk at all, that's my advice
We're parting, you go your way, I'll go mine
It's best that we do
Here's a kiss, I hope that this brings lots of luck to you
Makes no difference how I carry on




Just remember
Please don't talk about me when I'm gone.

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Doris Day's song "Please Don't Talk About Me When I'm Gone" are about a couple who have been together for a while but can't seem to get along no matter how hard they try. Day sings about how her partner doesn't find her appealing no matter what she does and that it doesn't matter whether she's right or wrong, they still can't be sweethearts. The song talks about parting ways and how it's better to not say anything at all if someone can't say anything nice.


The chorus of the song emphasizes the importance of not talking about someone when they're gone, especially if you can't say anything nice. Even if the friendship ends, it's better to not say anything than to say something negative. The overall message of the song is to be kind and respectful to others even when ending a relationship.


The lyrics of "Please Don't Talk About Me When I'm Gone" are a reflection of the social etiquette of the time. Unsurprisingly, the song was an instant hit and soon became a jazz standard. Various musicians have since covered the song, including Ella Fitzgerald, Louis Armstrong, and Billie Holiday.


Line by Line Meaning

Years we've been together
We've spent a significant amount of time together


Seems we can't get along
It appears that our relationship is failing


No matter what I do
Regardless of my actions


I don't appeal to you
You are not attracted to me


Makes no difference whether I am right or wrong
It doesn't matter if I am correct or incorrect


If we can't be sweethearts, this much you can do
If we cannot be in a romantic relationship, please do this for me


Please don't talk about me when I'm gone
I kindly ask that you do not speak poorly of me in my absence


Oh, Honey, though our friendship ceases from now on
Even though our friendship is ending


And listen, if you can't say anything real nice
And if you cannot say something positive


It's better not to talk at all, that's my advice
It is preferable to remain silent


We're parting, you go your way, I'll go mine
We are separating


It's best that we do
It is in our best interest


Here's a kiss, I hope that this brings lots of luck to you
As a farewell, I offer you a kiss and convey my hope that it brings you fortune


Makes no difference how I carry on
It is irrelevant how I behave


Just remember
I implore you to keep in mind


Please don't talk about me when I'm gone.
That you should not speak negatively of me in my absence.




Lyrics © Wixen Music Publishing, Universal Music Publishing Group, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Bee Palmer, Sidney Clare, Sam Stept

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Comments from YouTube:

Hech Rhymes

One of the best versions of this song, and there are lots!

Robert White

This is a wonderful arrangement. I love the tinkling piano. I have it on a 78 rpm with Lullaby of Broadway.

Jack Johnston

Perfection ❤

Jerry Pullen

one of the all time greats

Murp h

Great popular music singer --- super underrated

David Worthley

We spoke about 20 year's ago

Duo Konrad Rosa

+Murp h Absolutely. She was one of the true greats of smooth jazz vocals, but her comedy actress career overshadowed the recognition her voice deserved.

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