When I'm Not Near the Boy I Love
Doris Day Lyrics


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Oh my heart is beating wildly,
And it's all because you're here,
When I'm not near the boy I love,
I love the boy I'm near.
Every man that wanders by me,
Is a flame that must be fanned,
When I can't fondel the hand I'm fond of,
I fondel the hand at hand.

My heart's in a pickle,
It's constantly fickle,
And not too partickle, I fear,
When I'm not near the boy I love,
I love the boy I'm near.

We're confessing a confession,
And we hope we're not verbose,
When I'm not near the kiss that I cling to,
I cling to the kiss that's close.

My heart's in a pickle,
It's constantly fickle,
And not too partickle, I fear.




When I'm not near the boy I love,
I love the boy I'm near.

Overall Meaning

The song "When I'm Not Near the Boy I Love" by Doris Day is a poignant representation of the nuances of love, devotion and attraction. The song describes a conflicting emotion between the person you're enamored with and the one you're constantly with. The opening lines declare the racing of the singer's heart because of the presence of the person they are devoted to. It then continues to note how in their absence, they find themselves drawn towards the one who is physically present, indicating a kind of physical-based affection that is brought on by the lack of the attentions they seek.


Throughout the entire song, the singer's heart is described as being "in a pickle" and "constantly fickle". They express an ambivalent emotion that speaks to the struggle of choosing and staying loyal to the person they love despite the challenges of distance or separation. The line "I cling to the kiss that's close" exemplifies the idea of how proximity can breed fondness as it provides a kind of temporary substitute for the love that is desired.


Overall, the song speaks to the complexities of love and the multitude of perspectives that can arise from it. The conflict between what is desired and what is immediately available is a unique struggle, which many people experience at one point or another in their lives.


Line by Line Meaning

Oh my heart is beating wildly,
My heart is filled with excitement


And it's all because you're here,
Your presence is the reason for my excitement


When I'm not near the boy I love,
I long for the company of the person I love


I love the boy I'm near.
I appreciate the person who is present with me at the moment


Every man that wanders by me,
I notice every man who passes me by


Is a flame that must be fanned,
I feel the need to explore every option


When I can't fondel the hand I'm fond of,
When I can't be with the person I love


I fondel the hand at hand.
I seek comfort in the touch of those who are present


My heart's in a pickle,
My heart is in a confused and unstable state


It's constantly fickle,
My emotions are constantly changing


And not too partickle, I fear,
I am afraid that my heart is too indecisive


We're confessing a confession,
We are revealing something private


And we hope we're not verbose,
And we hope we are not speaking too much


When I'm not near the kiss that I cling to,
When I am not with my loved one who I passionately hold on to,


I cling to the kiss that's close.
I find solace in the affection that is available to me in that moment




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Comments from YouTube:

@dianereed8597

Amazing Doris ... She was Spunky and Fun! Loved Her Beautiful Voice!

@akalichilena2k351

AAGARIOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

@Bridg2Peace

What play is this from? I'm drawing a blank.

@OpusRay85

"When I'm Not Near the Girl I Love" from the musical "Finian's Rainbow"

@a.nobodys.nobody

It's no WAP but pretty little tune nonetheless

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