Don t Want To Know If You Are Lonely
Hüsker Dü Lyrics


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I'm curious to know exactly how you are
I keep my distance but that distance is too far
It reassures me just to know that you're okay
But I don't want you to go on needing me this way

And I don't want to know if you are lonely
Don't want to know if you are less than lonely
Don't want to know if you are lonely
Don't want to know, don't want to know

The day you left me, left me feeling oh so bad
Still I'm not sure about all the doubts we had
From the beginning we both knew it wouldn't last
Decisions have been made the die has been cast

The phone is ringing and the clock says four A.M.
If it's your friends, well I don't want to hear from them




Please leave your number and a message at the tone
Or you can just go on and leave me alone

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Husker Du's song "Don't Want to Know If You Are Lonely" deal with the themes of distance, reassurance, and ambiguity. The singer is curious about the state of the person they are addressing - "I'm curious to know exactly how you are" - but they also acknowledge that they "keep [their] distance." This distance is too far, indicating that the singer is unable to bridge the emotional gulf between them and the other person. The singer wants to know that the other person is okay, but is reluctant to become too entangled in their lives. The repetition of the phrase "Don't want to know if you are lonely" suggests that the singer is actively attempting to maintain a sense of detachment.


The second verse continues to explore the singer's ambivalent feelings. The day the other person left him, he felt bad, implying that their separation may have been traumatic. However, he is still not sure about the "doubts we had," suggesting that the relationship may not have been as stable or secure as he would have liked. Ultimately, the singer seems resigned to their separation: "Decisions have been made the die has been cast." The final lines of the song - "Please leave your number and a message at the tone / Or you can just go on and leave me alone" - reinforce the theme of emotional distance, with the singer indicating that they would prefer not to engage with the other person at all.


Line by Line Meaning

I'm curious to know exactly how you are
I want to know your state of mind and emotions so I can assess the state of our relationship


I keep my distance but that distance is too far
I try to keep a safe emotional distance, but it's becoming too great and I am losing touch


It reassures me just to know that you're okay
Hearing that you're okay gives me comfort and relieves some of my anxiety


But I don't want you to go on needing me this way
I don't want you to solely rely on me for your happiness, it's too much pressure


And I don't want to know if you are lonely
I don't want to know if you are unhappy, as it would make me feel guilty and responsible for your feelings


Don't want to know if you are less than lonely
I don't want to know if you are only slightly unhappy, as it would still make me feel responsible


The day you left me, left me feeling oh so bad
Your departure left me with negative emotions, a sense of incompleteness, and sadness


Still I'm not sure about all the doubts we had
Despite feeling this way, I'm still unsure and questioning the underlying problems in our relationship


From the beginning we both knew it wouldn't last
We both recognized that our relationship was likely to fail from the outset


Decisions have been made the die has been cast
We've made decisions and chosen our paths, it's too late to change them now


The phone is ringing and the clock says four A.M.
It's very late and the phone is ringing, creating feelings of anxiety and dread


If it's your friends, well I don't want to hear from them
I don't want to hear about you from other people, especially not mutual friends


Please leave your number and a message at the tone
If you need to contact me, please leave a message and I'll respond at my convenience


Or you can just go on and leave me alone
If you don't want to leave a message, that's fine too. Either way, I need some space and solitude




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management
Written by: GRANT VERNON HART

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@jimwrenn5720

I’m 60, listened to every alternative band back in the day, thought I’d heard all the best of them. So how in the world did I miss this great great great band?
That sound? Me, kicking my own ass.

@FederalEmployee

Don't worry! You're here now! :) I'm sure you have experiences under your belt that would kick us younger folks asses.

Couple great experiences for me was seeing David Byrne live and recently Original Misfits with Danzig, Jerry, Doyle and Dave Lombardo drumming.

25 today in beautiful 2020, never thought I'd see that in my lifetime!

@nataliemillinoff3827

Bob Mould did solo albums also!

@panchovila3660

Jim Wrenn we had Canadian mtv on public airwaves Fresno Ca

@johnarvai8509

Workbook...just saying

@kathydavidson7824

I haven’t heard this since the ‘90s. There was an Alt Rock station in Philly back then that played this. A lost gem, for sure!

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@oskorei123

R.I.P. Grant Hart. You wrote some amazing music that will continue to encourage, inspire, and entertain forever. You were one of the best and will be missed everyday.

@dianeblair3885

Our Minneapolis Power Trio! Grant’s lyrics, Bob’s power wall of sound and Greg’s bass
energy! Thanks for your great contributions!

@nikolakaravida9670

Candy Apple Grey was ahead of its time. Husker Du definitely shaped this style of music for the bands in the 90s.

@matthewfeatherston8982

Definitely one of the most underrated bands of all time!!!

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