From London, England to Toronto, Canada, K-Precise has taken inspiration fr… Read Full Bio ↴From London, England to Toronto, Canada, K-Precise has taken inspiration from many experiences and walks of life. His multi-cultural roots mixed together in an urban flavoured pot has formed his current fusion of uptempo R&B/Dance peppered with an ethnic twist.

Better associated with the MC arena in his earlier years, KP became recognised as a Producer/Songwriter with the ability to 'rock the mic' back in 1995.

Although he is currently known for his R&B/Dance music, his previous work has spanned across a wide variety of genre, including Hip Hop, UK Garage, House and Reggaeton.

What Makes You Happy
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Ain't Virtual Love We don't care that we are broke We Read The Book…
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If You Wanna Be I will not try to be alone without you Day after…
It's The Last Time It's time to party, let's party Hang out with yourself and…
Its The Last Time We're just dancing Hey honey we're just dancing We're dancin…

Live Your Life Ready and go Yo I made this song specifically for myself Cau…
My Unborn Truth I wanted us to see I wanted us to be Happy My love…
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Stephanie Moura

23w↑9

As someone who struggled in the past with intrusive thoughts and Pure OCD symptoms and thankfully, and thanks God, I am in a much better place mentally today (like 1000% better) This video resonated deeply and made so much sense!

It helped me make sense of some light perceptions I had with my experience doing CBT on my own.

Also, I think a big part of being able to let the negative thoughts pass through our mind and give space to new thoughts is acceptance.

A lot of times the negative train of thoughts can seem very rational and almost like a list of “no brainer ” as the most likely scenario to happen after another bad thing has already happened to us.

So, that’s where acceptance comes in place, it’s literally like “okay yeah, maybe all of these bad things will happen” MAYBE other bad things will happen. It’s accepting that, logically, that is a possible thing that, I think, gives us the possibility to see it as it actually is, only a possibility.

So I think that’s when the brain becomes open to realising other possibilities.

So it would be something like (in the example of a breakup)

“Omg I’m never gonna find someone else, my partner will because they’re much better looking”
“Oh no, I’m gonna be alone for the rest of my life”

Then instead of trying to get rid of the thoughts, emotions and fears associated with these scenarios that our head finds so logical,

We accept: “okay, yeah that could happen, MAYBE that’s how my life is gonna go”

Then now we’re able to see, it’s a scenario, it’s a maybe.

I think that’s how important acceptance is in this case.

Because now, the fact that we have accepted that the bad scenario could happen, puts it in the right perspective of what it is - just a scenario-

Then we can now see all the other maybes

“Maybe I’ll find someone else”
“Logically it’s also possible that my ex partner won’t find anyone”
“‘Maybe we’ll both find the actual love of our lives and be happy for the time we have spent together while it lasted”

That’s why I think that the current “self help” mainstream culture of “only nurture good thoughts can bring problems if we interpret it as trying to push away the bad thoughts, and I think that’s what most of us ends up trying to do. We try to deny it, forget it, because it’s painful to accept. But the pain of accepting it as a possibility is like a necessary step on being able to see it as it is .

Anyways, that has been my experience having dealt with OCD symptoms and intrusive thoughts. Just sharing this here as food for thought, and I hope it was a clear read (English is not my first language, so, sorry for any grammar and spelling m mistakes).

All comments from YouTube:

that dog guy

23w↑841

Forcing a quick smile when seeing a child be a child, a dog, the sun, tocuhing a leaf or something like that also massively helps with that. Also since someone on reddit was talking about it, give compliments with a big smile on your face. People will automatically smile back. Tricking yourself is very easy

Paula Leiva

23w↑11

Extremely true.

8pija

23w

有道

222

23w↑8

yep and at some point you don’t have to force it anymore!

The Golden Minotaur

23w↑5

Tricking yourself is very easy indeed, tricking yourself and being objective is hard

that dog guy

23w

@222 someone understands the game!

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SIC

23w↑587

It is important to distinguish between: 1. "I tell myself to just be happy no matter what". And
2. "I choose a positive outlook and tell myself positive things in order to deal with stuff constructively."
The first one is toxic positivity. It ignores your samskars/undigested emotions and trauma.
It causes you to be powerless to subconscious patterns that controls you.
And it is going to lead to you subjecting other people to the same bad stuff, you were subjected to, because you have chosen to be unaware of how it affected you.

Tyler Walker

23w↑4

That last sentence tho 👀 So true

BlueRocker 333

23w↑4

Really needed this sometimes I get tied up because I've always been the type of person to try to see the good in things even when they're really bad. Things like this can sometimes make me worried I'm "virtue signaling" just because I'm trying to see good in the negative...

SteamedMexico

23w↑7

Good props on this one choom. I pretty much did this sub vocalize stuff but through point 1 rather than 2. Caused way more harm than good as I happy numbed myself which put me in some bad spots. Luckily I'm in therapy now and we're working with point 2 now. Stay safe and find happiness choombas

MadChrisLifts

23w↑1

Wow you just summed up what I've been thinking so well in this post. Thank you

menamgamg

23w↑1

I tend to almost exclusively have negative thoughts.. but weirdly ive always been a very optimistic person just because i genuinely believe life will be amazing if you have the right mindset - i just havent found my way there yet.. but something ive tried recently is whenever im in pain for whatever reason, i try to be observant of anything in the situation that i love. Like literally anything, and put my focus on that for a bit just to realize that it's not all black and white. It has helped me anyway..

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Dame Anvil

23w↑157

00:00 🌟 Research on happiness often identifies who's happy but not how to become happy. It lacks guidance on achieving happiness.
01:53 🧠 Emotions are integral to happiness, but psychotherapy aims to clear emotions to enable clearer thinking, emphasizing the importance of healthier thoughts.
03:05 💭 Post-breakup happiness hinges on thoughts rather than just emotions. Cognitive reframing, changing thoughts, is crucial in managing emotions and well-being.
04:41 🔄 Cognitive reframing (changing thoughts) is more effective than emotion-focused coping in resolving problems and fostering happiness.
07:28 🧘‍♂ Subvocalization, quietly repeating thoughts, profoundly affects mindset by engaging the orbitofrontal cortex, guiding behavior and shaping thinking patterns.
11:20 🗣 Engaging in positive self-talk as if advising a friend can reframe negative situations, although it may face resistance from conflicting negative thoughts.
13:29 🤯 Subvocalization bypasses the need for arguments or convincing oneself; it implants positive thoughts, impacting mindset profoundly.
16:26 🌱 Subvocalization and mantra practices can genuinely change mindset and perception, leading to a happier life by altering how one views and experiences life.

TheDerpyDude

23w↑2

Thanks for the recap. I was thinking of using a YouTube video summarizing site to review the vid real quick, but now I don't have to! xD

WhY So SeRioUs?

23w↑1

Pros

Arisa Taiga

23w↑1

AI technologies would be so jealous of such an amazing video summary

Dame Anvil

23w↑1

@Arisa Taiga Only the emotion is human.

Dunar

23w↑146

I noticed this 20 years ago when I was working in the service industry for a year, I needed to be friendly and happy to people, laugh about small talk and act like I have a good time serving them. After just 20 minutes I really had a good time, even though I was just making coffee, cleaning and stuff

Mostly Impulsive

23w↑9

Genuinely, this is also how I've gotten through 2 years of retail and food service so far. I put on a smile and joke with the customers, feel good about helping them out, try to enjoy my coworkers' company, and more often than not it just clicks into place after a bit.

VictoriousDestiny

23w↑14

This was right on time for me. I was just feeling depressed and thought I just want my mind to shut up and not think. This was confirmation on many levels. Thank you. 🙏🏾

Mo Oshikanlu - Mozaik Inc.

23w↑17

Honestly this channel saved my life so many times. I’m very thankful for your consistent generous work

Lucee Rak

23w↑22

I'm a therapist and I teach this to my clients as much as I can. You don't have to go from being a pessimist or a 'realist' (as many tend to identify themselves) to an optimist. Just being open to happiness, and putting even a slightly more positive view on things helps.

I loved the part where Dr K said to imagine you're talking to someone you care about. If you wouldn't say what you're saying to them, don't say it to yourself!! Whenever I hear my friends being negative about themselves out loud I say "Hey, don't talk to/about my friend that way, I don't like it" and it's helped both myself and my friends be less critical and negative towards ourselves. Yay for CBT!

Hobox

23w↑193

This is part of why OCD is such a hard thing to live with. It's almost impossible to keep obsessive thoughts out of your head. When it's negative perceptions of yourself or wondering why you are stuck in a situation (for example "why am I single") it takes over and runs wild.

The Golden Minotaur

23w↑20

If the question keeps being asked you need to respond with the correct answer. Why am I still single? The real answer is usually "because I'm so obsessed over why I'm single that I project a false version of myself and it comes off as disingenuous making me less desirable and reinforcing the mindset"

Hari

23w↑10

I have high functioning/obsessiveness and learning this about myself is the most insightful thing I have found. Looking into REAL mindfulness/meditation is helpful and I'm learning how to "not" ruminate.

Alexander Leggett

23w↑13

Actually, what Dr. K describes here is exactly the sort of thing you need to do in order to avoid this. Works great with intrusive thoughts, if you tell yourself that 'it's just OCD'. Allows me to deal with it.

AnonUser

23w↑20

@The Golden Minotaur Trying to legitimately find answers for your OCD thoughts isn’t actually the best method for dealing with them, most of the time. They will just switch, until you can’t find answers, getting more stressful over time. The best way to get better is to accept uncertainty, with OCD, and to do exposure and response prevention exercises (with a proper therapist guiding you).

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Jeremy

23w↑107

this is actually insane, this is the first time he’s talked about EXACTLY what i needed. last night my mind was racing 100 mph and i couldn’t sleep, thought i was worthless, but i ended up just writing it all down and taking a bunch of melatonin lol

E G

23w↑13

i hate how helpful the writing it out can be lol. the second you have to turn these abstract thoughts into physical words you're way more likely to go "fuck this shit i don't actually care that much," or writing it out releases the thoughts some. not always a 100% success rate but it is useful in distressing moments and periods!

SarpSays

23w↑2

@E G Damn, I wish it worked that well consistently. I mean there's been times when I was fuming mad where writing it out definitely eased it out by the end (after like 4+ pages of scribble lol). But there are times when you get washed over with dreading all-encompassing hopeless depression and in some of those all I did was write at like 5wph speed and it was just... let's say "sad affirmations".. you're right it's not a 100% success rate - but still worth it to give it a shot and make it a habit though.

Soma Lutra

23w

if you want to go to sleep at 23:00 shut down all digital devices with a screen at 17:00 lol this is one of the more simple solutions to sleeping problems

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Vortex

23w↑8

With great power comes great responsibility, and this is some phenomenal cosmic power Dr K is sharing. It's almost like self hypnosis

lolo

23w↑10

I'm already happy and have achieved a Lot of my Goals, but this information makes so much sense and feels so liberating. Thank you so much Dr k and Hg team.

Stephanie Moura

23w↑9

Mimiu Mimiga

23w↑60

I think this somewhat illustrates why it is that I became so locked into negative thoughts for so long. I would find myself subvocalizing negative thoughts about the circumstances of the world around me, and I must have implanted these thoughts more and more firmly into my mind by doing so.

Hassassinator

23w↑12

I've been doing this for a while, and can confirm it works wonders. Like anything else worth doing, it's not easy, but over the course of the last few weeks I've made leaps and bounds in my thinking. I used to struggle with self-doubt and anxiety, but I'm a lot more content and calm these days. Going to keep going...

David Jablow

23w

So you just mutter positive affirmations under your breath?

Hassassinator

23w

@David JablowMore like think about why I'm thinking or feeling a certain way, decide what I should be thinking/feeling, and telling myself to believe that way. Over time, it's had a strong effect. (Some of my major breakthroughs came from accepting religious and stoic philosophies, reinforcing the concepts I had already kinda figured out through my exploration of my thoughts)

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RiceeAndSpam

23w↑7

School counselor here. Always trying to teach this to students. Thoughts influence emotions, and emotions drive action. Be intentional with your thoughts! Do not like your mind do the thinking for you, or the emotions control you.

BlindPony

23w↑17

Dr K, I don't know if you ever read the comments but thank you for being here. It really feels good to know that you care about us, even though I'm just a one digit in your view count.

iver

23w↑2

This came out at just the right time!
Only today, just before this video came out, I thought of the same exact thing and decided to start applying it in my life.
To be exact, I thought of this way of dealing with things by looking back at myself in the past, when I was way happier and always optimistic and positive, I thought about how I could've possibly managed it in the past, and decided to replicate it. It's the same thing - maintain a positive outlook, accept that bad things will happen in life but don't focus on them and TELL YOURSELF that things will be good. Very important, it doesn't work if you just know and keep in mind that things will be better and that there's a positive side to everything. I have myself stepped in this trap some years ago, I kept this knowledge, but if you don't pretty much literally rub it in your own face - it won't work. Basically fake it 'till you make it, this strategy works, and so it won't be different when applied to mental health, you need to make sure to consciously remind yourself of what you want to think about, and you will indeed start to think about it.

Arkarh

23w↑7

My mom have Schizophrenia,
I finally understand why she often seems to be mumbling to herself,
thank you Dr.K !

Nate

23w↑8

Personally, when I stopped "putting on a happy mask" for people, being around people became less exhausting. I used to fake laugh at almost everything, fake excitement, and fake interest. I'm pretty sure I was good at it because I had a decently sized social circle, which is what I wanted. However, as I got older and realized I was doing all this for social acceptance and stopped, my mind stopped racing, and my happiness grew. I have fewer friends now, but the friends I still have are solid.

Julie Levesque

23w↑29

Progress = happiness. When I know I'm getting better at things I used to struggle with...I feel much better and motivated to continue playing the long game...delaying gratification is the key.

Life Game Design

23w↑1

💯

the Kid - subconscious mind within us wants instant gratification,
the Parent - Our conscious mind - knows what is best for the child

MOHAMMAD

23w↑2

Dr K manages to bring new helpful insight every single time. Thanks for existing man

soulblade89

23w↑24

The schizophrenia thing caught me off guard and was a total curve ball. Mad props for the info

aawillma

23w↑29

9:00 I believe this is how prayer works. When I was 10, I got lost and "prayed" for god to help me. As I did so I became more calm and focused. I realized that praying helped me get home but not because god answered me. It helped because of the process. First I had to focus enough in order to ask the question, I identified and stated the problem, not always easy to do when you're panicked. Then, most importantly, I imagined an answer. It's almost like I was able to externalize a patient, helpful, protective side of myself to team up with. That "other" person became my guardian angel who encouraged me and helped me get home. And yeah, I was literally talking to myself under my breath. I gave that guardian a voice and they told me what I needed to do. And at the same time, I was the guardian helping a lost kid get home. Looking back, I did it when I was even younger too, but I called that helpful voice my "imaginary friend" named Leo. Then for a while it was prayer. It's none of that now, I know it's just me, but I still do it. I am my own savior, flawed but persistent. It's somehow both humbling and empowering.

MeltyGear

23w↑2

That's an excellent observation. People have been basically asking God for forgiveness and strength to endure, and because of that they become more tolerant of their life's hardships. Even the belief that a hardship is a test to measure your "worth for heaven" shows difference in response, which goes to show how strong belief systems (thinking, basically) actually can be.

JessiNaka

23w↑3

I left religion years ago and always struggled with how to recover that sense of peace I used to induce with prayer. I've known for a long time that I was indeed the one who invoked those feelings and answers in myself, but I hadn't been able to hit on a way to do that again without the dogmatic structure around it now that I'm an atheist. I think this video has made it clearer what the process should look like for me. I guess I just wanted to piggyback off your comment and say you're not the only one!

Fabiane Soares

23w

Perfect observation

Isaiah Rosner

23w

100%. Sometimes I wish I still believed in God.

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Meditation, Mental Illness, and the Brain

23w↑3

Thoughts and emotions are not so different as we perceive them in the West. They are both constructs of the mind. Personally I've found the practice of loving-kindness meditation to be incredibly effective. But then, learning this meditation usually involves using a short mantra at first. Eventually you will learn how to generate positive emotions directly.

EDIT: I should have watched the whole video before posting 😂. Good job Dr. K!

Chief Aaron

23w↑3

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts" - Marcus Aurelius

vidya gandhimathinathan

23w↑36

Dont fight your thoughts, just start sub vocalising affirmations.
You dont have to provide logical reasoning for your negative thoughts.
Thoughts are powerful
Beware of toxic positivity.

Haou Supreme

23w

but if its not logically true, it feels like I'm BSing myself

Monika W

23w↑2

@Haou Supreme I found that the best affirmations are the ones you're able to believe in. So, for example, if you have low self-esteem, you need to find characteristics in yourself that are true, and would cause you to feel better about yourself if you focused on them more. And then you focus on them.

Or, if you want something that isn't true at all, you can rephrase it: "I prefer to feel relaxed", "I prefer to feel confident". This is also true, and the phrasing "I prefer" makes your mind think that it's your choice. Which it actually becomes once your subconscious hears enough of you talking about being relaxed or confident.

Andrew

23w↑1

@Haou Supreme You don't need to lie to yourself. That would be toxic positivity. You just need to try to be a little more objective about things. Hence the practise of imagining talking to a friend.

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Luca Zink

23w↑32

It’s okay to be sad! It’s okay to grieve! You will get better and stronger because of what you’ve experienced❤

Paper Sloth

23w↑2

Not necessarily, some people don't make it out the other side

MeltyGear

23w↑1

Yeah, I agree with @HardLuckkid01 here. Not all suffering leads to growth. Some is basically worthless.

Luca Zink

23w↑1

Even if you don’t feel like it changed you: You cannot do anything to stop change! You grow everyday, your experience, your feelings, your body. And every experience has things to be thankful for. I know I sound very childish, but as I lived through abuse in childhood, poverty, two forceful evictions, mobbing, losing friends, living without a father, 2years with hospitalized depression, being cheated on by my GF of 4years and right after that nearly losing my left leg (still recovering from surgery) I was told by many that I’m a very resilient and kindhearted person. I am who I am, because of what happened to me and If I believe it is good that I am who I am, then I can be thankful for everything that happened to me. Even if some things change your life for the worse, you gain more experience, you will discover a positive outlook on the moment at some point. Happiness is not about living without hardship and suffering, it’s about you managing to overcome adversity and staying hopeful.

morrisoy

23w

@Paper Sloththose people are weak. only the strong survive.

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Jagger

23w↑1

Beautiful video!! So this is why I've always felt great speaking my thoughts out loud to myself going through certain things that are bothering me and going logically about it.

sukhmani kaur

23w

Goddd!! you always come up with the topics i literally require at that time. Yesterday I was going through the sadness of my life and all and thought I'd find something from your videos. To my amazement, this video popped up and was uploaded just 30mins before. You're my guided Angel 😇
Thank you Dr.K for helping me to know myself and providing practical solutions.

Sam Corioso

23w↑76

I was coming out of my depression from hs after graduating some years ago, the point when I realized I was finally doing better was when I was coming home from closing at work and stopped at McDonald's. I commented to my friends that finally the thing that made me happy at the end of the day was just the simple fact that I could get two mcchickens for $3

They were pedantic ofc, saying "man imagine being able to be happy for something so simple" but really that's exactly what made me realize I finally knew how to just be happy. Small things, y'all.

TheDerpyDude

23w

I have somewhat noticed myself how helpful and relieving journaling about certain things or even just talking/thinking to myself can be, but I haven't given quite as much thought to how I can take advantage of these techniques. This video is a good reminder to try to collaborate better with myself (or, really, the thoughts I have that guide me), instead of just hoping that I won't continue getting in my own way.

bascal

23w↑30

I can personally attest that CBT really worked for me. Challenging my negative thoughts and learning about the growth mindset was what turned my mental health around.

Vinh Tran

23w↑33

I need to fix my brain when I read that acronym

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Lena

23w↑1

Great video! Couldn't help but laugh out loud with the break up example, as I just went through one (ended amiably but still hurts obv) some hours before this video was posted 😂 definitely a good time to hear this! I've always kind of talked to myself, maybe it's time to do it more intentionally 🤔

Gabriel Pedersen

23w

This is so helpful! I'm not having a struggle with happiness itself (not happy either but rather content) but with having some negative thoughts about some other aspects of my life, and i'm going to try subvocalizing to see if it helps with that too!
Thanks a lot Dr. K!

Gabriel x64

23w↑55

The first thing I thought with the intro is that maybe it's not because they make 6 figures that they are happy, but rather happiness allowed them to make 6 figures and have a meaningful relationship. The happiness might come before the success.

Carlos

23w↑38

I think one thing that needs to be talked about a lot more is how poverty affects people mentally. I think earning 6 figures allows you the freedom to think about things that are at your core and important to you. If you're struggling to make ends meet, there's no time or energy to focus on those core issues.

sloth 🍊

23w↑1

@Carlos therapists don't want to talk about poverty outside of their office because seeing a therapist is way too fucking expensive and thus it would be counter-productive for them. you are completely right in your assessment, happiness has a 1:1 curve in parallel with wealth until you reach a point of financial security.

l4kr411

23w

@sloth 🍊 Depression is priviledge. Actually poor people don't have time for depression as they're literally starving.

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Andrew OB

23w

This idea that you can think your way out of negativity is so true. I was once broken up with and I was understandably very upset/unhappy. By accepting and analyzing those feelings, I was able to reduce them and eventually move on in a healthy way

skidfifa

23w↑1

I finally found a tool that brings me out of those negative thought loops. Wasn't sure I would see the day, but it's incredible how effective this has been for me in such a short time.

Lubba64

23w↑2

I went through my first break up recently and this is helping a lot, I honestly don't know where I'd be without this resource ♥

r3i

23w↑1

Love your pfp

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Lucho C

23w↑2

No way . I m having the exact situation that he is describing. Breakup 4 years and all that emotion . It's really hits different. Thx you sr . I really need this kind of support . It's getting hard , especially in the night .

Finn Levi

23w

When he talked about what you can tell yourself after breakups, I thought of how after my last breakup I used to listen to a song that goes "It's gonna hurt me for a while but in time I'll be alright". It actually helped me through my breakup and I thought it was just because I felt understood and lifted up by the song, but now I understand that singing to it probably was autosuggestion.

Boop2133

23w↑3

When i first started going to therapy my therapist instantly started discussing cognitive reframing. I think it definitely helps

Pink

23w↑2

I actually accidentally figured this out recently after years and years of depression and sadness. I've been doing pretty good lately after figuring this out

WreckingBallers

23w↑1

Catching my emotions before they overwhelm me has been a game changer, despite the difficulty.

MrRubyElf

23w

This is exactly what I'm struggling through at the moment. Thanks for the video!

Pillow Pet

23w

this was so good. I bought the guide, and I loved this session so much.

春天不是读书天

23w

This is what I have been doing to myself but I didn’t know it’s called subvocalization. My sister saw me talking to myself like this once and she said I am weird so I used to believe that maybe I am doing something abnormal. But you give me a new perspective about myself. Thank you doctor.

Jay Hill

23w↑6

it's remarkable how the body more so the mind intuitively knows how to heal itself. i've been going through a deep depression these past few months and experiencing negative thought rumination. but i noticed i do this thing where i was whispering to myself how my situation will get better and that im okay and afterwards i would get a burst of energy and focus my attention somewhere else. im realizing i even do this in the mirror i'll give myself a pep talk but im whispering to myself and my energy instantly shifts. its kinda funny thinking about it, but it actually is helping me. thank you for this information, im really enjoying your videos they have helped me so much during this time 🙏🏾💓

Dharmax

23w

Don't know if this is the right place, but I want to get those words out. Thank you Dr. K, for all you have done! As a wannabe monk myself, silently consuming your content since the beginnings, the knowledge and wisdom you shared was so perfectly designed for me, I couldn't wished any better. After a rough ride connecting to myself again I am now at a point where I can focus on living my personal dharma and building the live I am dreaming of. Much love for you, your mission and all the other healthygamers out there! 🧡We are in this together, and every attempt and moment to better yourself is precious and worth it, I can tell from my own experience, with also many battles lost on the way!

MeltyGear

23w↑2

Great video. You know, I'd really love if you ever decided to link to the studies that you mention with references under every video, for some of us curious to see what gives. Obviously when the results are available publicly and not paywalled (because there's that, too).

Tucker M

23w↑2

The best thing I did to help w depression/anxiety 1) switch my perspective from trying to help myself to helping others 2) meds 3) finding a cause to feel apart of (veganism/political activism for me (community clubs/church for others)). I still struggle with addiction/social isolation but it definitely helps to live for others besides just yourself in my experience

Tucker M

23w↑1

Being so depressed you starve yourself bc you don’t have the will to get out of bed is not the time to make these changes tho much easier to change when you’re not in the throes of an episode

James Siri

23w↑1

Happiness is an emotion, you can never ALWAYS be happy but you can lower the threshold to happiness, so you can be happy MORE OFTEN.

Zach

23w↑2

Dr. K! I had a dark night of the soul ego death situation, and had a truly profound, spiritual awakening!
I also think I'm autistic.

PerkzzEU

23w

Very good video. I feel like 99% of people know this but we might forget it and lose the ability to think positively about something due to being stuck in a bad loop for a while

TheKingOfFailure

23w

99% of people do not know yogic philosophy or the neuroscience that suggests any of this, lmao

Mthunzi Dhlamini

23w

Question: what's the best technique for cultivating one's positive thoughts - sub vocalization or journalling consistently?

And yes! - ideally one ought to do both; but this is just a curious question I have.

Maks Fabjańczuk

23w

I remember subvocalizing but in reverse, repeating to myself "Im not going to live untill 25" I was severly depressed at that time and im much happier now. I still have my worse moments though. Perhaps this method will help me even more . Will definetly try it

Jo Kah

23w

10:20 this is so true i appreciate you had the courage to call it out as it is. not many public figures can do that because they are afraid to lose followers.

Penn Su

23w↑2

A lot of times I stop my sad thoughts by giving myself a quick positive thoughts with another option, then immediately go to sleep then next day I feel a lot better.

John Smith

23w↑10

The how to be happy versus who is happy thing is so accurate. The data does not tell us if having that amount of money makes you happy or if being happy puts you in the right emotional state to make that much money.

It's just a measure of who is currently happy not how they got there.

pezboy715

23w

Jesus, Dr. K. You continue to drop videos that are so spot-on to the things I’ve been going through that you’re starting to seem like more of a psychic than a psychiatrist. Did the Yogis teach you that, too???

All jokes aside, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You continue to be a beacon of light for me.

Hunter Trax

23w↑12

I find it interesting how this contrasts with today's video from Veritasium that suggests that the prevailing factor in happiness is social connection. It feels like there are two contrasting narratives, one that suggests a need for social change (reduce atomisation, rebuild third spaces, impose restrictions on social media, etc.), and the other that suggests individual change (rebuild outlook, forge connections with strangers, gratefulness and meditation, etc).

I used to lean towards the individualist side of things quite a bit, but now I'm starting to think it's secondary to broader social conditions. You wouldn't need to write a gratitude journal if life didn't naturally suck, you wouldn't need to strike up conversations with strangers if we didn't shatter our relationships with the internet, and you wouldn't need meditation if you had a healthy schedule that allowed your head to clear naturally. There's only so much change your outlook on the world can provide if the world itself sucks.

Fabiane Soares

23w

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Mátyás Király

23w↑1

Your videos follow my life and help me become a better person every day you are awesome!!! I finally feel like i am the boss in my head

Tarcacode

23w

This video is super interesting. Also, is there a correlation between taking schizophrenia meds and reduced subvocalizing?
I ask because I've been taking anti-psychotics for over 10 years, and I've already noticed that my subvocalizing is very, very reduced.
Anyway, thank you for the great video. It will help, for sure.

Egolith

23w↑1

I would love a video detailing how others with Multiple Sclerosis deal with their mental health (as someome who has MS). I know this is a very specific request, but it would be appreciated from those like me with MS who have to deal with a condition that can really wreck your mental.

TheKingOfFailure

23w↑1

This is very interesting to me. I feel I think the best out loud and talk to myself all day long, vocalizing 90% of my thoughts (when Im alone or around strangers who are minding their own business).
I may look insane but otherwise my brain runs so fast and gets distracted it really helps to try and EXPLAIN my thoughts in SCENTANCES than having them bump around in my head.

So its weird to hear that vocalizing makes us think worse and remember poorly, because to me I think people who are completely silent and never let things spill out autistically are strange. I love other ramblers.

The Sheepster

23w

It's a difference between loud and quiet. Quiet is more personal and works for convincing your mind of new posiitve thoughts. If you are speaking simply to figure out your thoughts, the volume does not matter in my opinion. Some days I talk loud, some days I mumble very quietly. It's natural.

Clarita Akerman

23w

Just want to say thank you. I enjoy your videos and love learning what you share.

Rayna Bit

23w

I gave up my mental independence for an xbox and an 8 ball. What you said at the end rings very true for my experience. I think the fact that were living through machines rather then eachother is sucking the human spirit away.

Thank you for talking about implantation of positive thoughts, am going to try it.

Alexios Asclpios

23w

Really enjoyed this one in terms of pacing for the speech love the content keep it up doc

EK Heim

23w↑1

i can think my way to sadness thats for sure xD. i saw a instagram reel the other day and there was a character that said, "todays not a good day, today is too hard, sometimes youre overwhelmed, sometimes its not a good day, at times like that just give up, do it tomorrow" and somehow that broke my spirit entirely for the rest of the day and i cried myself to sleep for the first time in a long time... that was weird for an otherwise pretty good month/week/day. i was fine the day after but its a bit shocking how flat my facade is compared to how positive i feel almost all the time

deioped

23w

So true, unhappiness does start from thots. Before I became interested in women, life was much happier and carefree.

Gaming indeed does stop the thots too, thank you Dr. K 😂

blueicer101

23w↑1

I actuall noticed, that when I was taking a japanese class, everytime I learned something new or thought something was important to remember, I subconsiously muttered it under my breath such that no one can hear but it's definieltly a self speech that I'm sure helps me remember the vocabulary or rules.

DrakusXVIII

23w

DrK dropped the key to happiness and thought we wouldn't notice 😂

Romāns annoy

23w

I did this when i was back in school, but the reason for talking to myself was due to not fitting in anywhere. Now i talk to myself as if i'm the mind talking to my body, understanding each other's needs.

TiaraGuy

23w

Going to comment before I actually watch the video because the title of the video is something I've been thinking about a lot these past 6 months. I have issues of being too self aware of everything I do and often I am stuck in the thoughts in my head for days on end. Usually it's me overthinking anything and everything but I have been making a conscious effort of tracking my own thoughts in my head, storing whatever segment of the day those thoughts existed in, and come back to them maybe weeks later to look back on everything I can remember over the last month. I noticed how often I would have thoughts that felt neutral with what I was saying to myself but the emotions didn't line up and I would often put myself in a negative mood purely from that line of thinking, it wasn't like I was trying to do it on purpose but the amount of times I would basically think myself into a negative mood was way too often and it felt like there was some pattern to it related to my actual line of thinking. I started trying to start my day off with positive things like music or something I enjoy but that feeling often would never stay because I would start thinking about what I should be doing at the time and how it wasn't productive and it would bother me a lot. So I've been actively trying to tell myself in my head to get excited, get energetic, think of good things that will make me happy when I start to feel down or just kinda emotionless. I have to hard stop whatever I'm thinking about even if I think it's a productive line of thinking because it will depress me or demotivate me. I have no idea if this is what the video is about but the title jumped at me and I have been wanting to mention this at least somewhere because it's fucking hard not saying anything when it means a lot to you.

Edit: Just finished it and while I feel I did a horrible job explaining it, what Dr. K said covers everything and more of what I have been thinking about. It's always nice listening to these videos because they often answers so many of the questions that float in my head. I never realized the power of subvocalizing even though I've had a couple instances where I did it to calm down from being scared and it helped so much.

TR3403

23w↑3

I think one of the biggest issues now is the pursuit of happiness itself. We have been told if you do xyz you will be happy. But only a few generations ago the goal was more so survival. Sure no one wants to be miserable all of the time so I think dr k last two videos are bang on. But i think a general state of contentment should be the ultimate persuit.

Pokepunk

23w

I honestly feel bad for the people so consumed by things such as money. there's a lot of people nowadays that are in a really good position with family, friends, everything good surrounding them, but they don't allow themselves to be happy until they are wealthy. I guarantee once they become wealthy, they'll hit the harsh reality that they aren't any happier, and theyll feel so lost

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Rohan Singh

23w

I've alway found counting under my breath to be really good when i realize that I'm ruminating. Glad to see there's evidence to back this up

ray brown

23w↑17

My inner thoughts are so strong and opposing to my own beliefs usually it feels like I'm arguing with my self into depression and I rarely win.. It almost feels like a split personality that prefers to stay in rather then come out.. But it feels like my own thoughts..I know that's all over the place but that's the best i word it... How do I shit up the inner monologue

Max Guichard

23w↑3

This sound like an exhausting experience, I'm wishing you the best. I'd also like to give some insight. I think Dr K.'s advice here won't apply well to you, because your mind isn't "coordinated", so your conscious effort towards reframing your experience will be opposed by something subconscious that you have poor awareness and control over. Don't beat yourself up just because parts of you disagree with each other, and in that vain don't just "shut them up". My advice would be to listen to what these thoughts are saying with respect to who you are as a total. Maybe one is opposing a certain belief because that's actually how you act - "I'm fearless" vs not being able to leave the house in reality. These inner beliefs you're trying to suppress with your "own beliefs" are just going to take more control if you don't acknowledge them and integrate them into your self. This is basically "shadow work", if you'd like to look into it (there are plently of resources here on yt). It can relate to things like childhood trauma, or something more benign. It can be difficult to do, but I believe in you, and I'm sure you'll find yourself feeling much better as you go along this journey.

DavLoe

23w↑2

My advice here would be: Try to acknowledge that most mental issues exist for a reason. I'm not talking about YOUR mental issues, but mental issues in general. Trauma for example exists bc of our brain's ability to adjust to even the most horrible, hostile circumstances and environments. When we finally manage to escape from those circumstances, we're stuck with the hardwiring that was crucial for our survival (ab*sive parents for example). To thrive in a healthy environment, we now have to change not "just" our software, but our hardware (aka weaken existing neural connections which grew stronger and stronger over years) as well.
Once you acknowledge you struggle with this not bc of you being "destined to struggle with this bc of who you are", but bc of your ability (!) to learn certain thought/behavioral patterns in the past, you can stop thinking of this part of your brain as your enemy and start seeing it as a friend who really wants the best for you, but thanks to the life he lived so far gives really sh*tty advice.
From there on, try some mindfulness practices to notice whenever you have those thoughts as soon as possible to break thought loops the moment they start. As you turn this (reflecting on our own thoughts) into a habit, those thoughts will lose power little by little, possibly even fade away completely, making room for the thoughts about yourself you actually want to have/believe. Don't fight, just notice them and acknowledge it's an attempt of your brain to help itself gone wrong. You got this❤

brightphoebus

23w

Yes I often do think that: that I'm glad I had a mini relationship with him, I had my closeness, he showed me I was special and valid and wantable, we had a connection, and it was best for me that we didn't remain involved. He could see that, I refused to acknowledge it and pummelled on with the kind of determination that powers successful businessmen, and only hurt myself in doing so. Now I walk free, remembering how he said I could hold my head high.

Kat

23w

This is literally my default state. I hardly ever know what I'm actually feeling so I just say "I'm fine." and I am.

I get that personality type stuff has generally been considered nonsense, but there's way more to it than you think. Anyone with "introverted feeling" as a low priority and either type of "thinking" as a high priority can do this. People who lead with it are practically incapable of controlling their emotions, but are much better at living with them.

Yuri B.

23w

Great video, Dr. K!
I'm interested in your opinion about J. Krishnamurti and his understandings, even about meditation and the "method" of it.
Could you please make a video, topic in a livestream or something about it? It would be very interesting to know your thoughts on this.

Emily E

23w

This is wild, I've been accidentally sub-vocalising personal affirmations I have because I don't want to disturb anyone else by saying them fully out loud. It's been like four weeks and I have noticed my mental health is better - I don't even do the affirmations anymore. Good to know I accidentally hacked my brain 😂

souptime

23w

do you just whisper them or think them?

eddebrock

23w↑6

Disregard reality, go delusional! Path to happiness.

Andrew VanOort

23w

Once you realize how much you can change your own mind, it's almost overwhelming because then suddenly you become actively Responsible for your perception of reality instead of just being along for the ride. It's worth it for the freedom though 👌

Robort Kiyosaki

23w

It's not like we don't want coaching
Its just we cant❤

Isaiah Rosner

23w

Dr. K has such a naturally approachable and friendly face and way of talking. I want to be friendly, but I often come off as unapproachable, partially because of my rbf. Frustrating

Penn Su

23w

I play tons of JRPG games, their way of handling relationship make me happier because I am not into edgy thoughts like a lot of games where decision is made black and white and always assume the worst.

Claudia

23w↑1

My father always reminded me of a quote by Abraham Lincoln. "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Raphaël Nej

23w↑5

I used to be hyper emotional when I was young. At 15, I started shaping my thoughts to be happy. I m 22 and I have been happy ever since.

This technique is unbelievably powerful.

runeman00

23w↑1

Gaslighting myself into being happy definitely took time and effort but it pays off

Ironfrenzy217

23w

Really helpful. Reminds me of the biblical principles of meditating on the Word, taking every thought captive, and fleeing the Devil.

Active Advocate

23w

And to be fair, since you said about the subvocalization thing, I've been sitting here singing the Maha Mantra to myself just quietly, and...I mean, yeah, it works, but only in the moment. It's like when Lord Buddha studied under Arada Kalama and Udraka, where he would go down into the ideal state for AGES, but he'd always come back out, so he got frustrated and then went off to join the Shramanas in the forest.

Alexander Nava

23w

One of the best videos of your's I have seen so far! I have started using a mantra when I am trying to fall asleep but can't. I will start trying it for other negative thoughts.

Jennie Doyle

23w↑1

I did not know that people with schizophrenia overuse (is that the right word?) subvocalization. It reminds me of a book by by Thomas S. Szasz called "The Myth of Mental Illness," where he argues that "mental illness" is actually a physical illness. Tools like subvocalization use our physiology to our benefit, and I find that fascinating. Now, I realize schizophrenia is a very complicated and chronic brain disorder, and should never be reduced to "if it's a physical illness, throw some meds at it and call it a good day," but it gives me some hope that these evidence-based techniques exist and can help people (including myself) use our physiology to have more control and not be "taken for a ride" by our brain... as often.

파란Alien

23w

I really wish this had spanish subtitles so I could send it to my family

Benjamin Merritt

23w

Omg I was going silent/barely whisper with mantra because I get anxious about noise pollution. My intuition was opposite and thought loud was supposed to be better. Great tip, I can do mantra silently far more often and with greater peace of mind 😅

Caio Alves

23w

Shift your mindset every time Doctor K says "thought"

Luca Zink

23w↑1

If you need to be sad, be sad. If you need to grieve, grieve. But don’t think your situation is hopeless! You cannot do anything to stop change! You grow everyday, your experience, your feelings, your body. And every experience has aspects to be thankful for. I know I sound very childish, but as I lived through abuse in childhood, poverty, two forceful evictions, mobbing, losing friends, living without a father, 2years with hospitalized depression, being cheated on by my GF of 4years and right after that nearly losing my left leg (still recovering from surgery) I was told by many that I’m a very resilient and kindhearted person. I am who I am, because of what happened to me and If I believe it is good that I am who I am, then I can be thankful for everything that happened to me. Even if some things change your life for the worse, you gain more experience, you will discover a positive outlook on the moment at some point. Happiness is not about living without hardship and suffering, it’s about you managing to overcome adversity and staying hopeful.

Eric Daniels

23w

Hey Dr. K, I'm not sure if you've ever watched Hi Ren by Ren.... But it put me (and most of every YouTuber that I've watched, like the) in tears, and even after 30 watches it still confused me a bit up until what you said in this video.. you da best, definitely watch it if you haven't, Ren is beast-mode.

Crystal Strader

23w↑1

Years ago a therapist told me: thoughts beget emotions, emotions beget beliefs, beliefs beget behaviors. So watch what you think.

Thdryvr

23w

Can you do a video on how to deal mentally, with chronic pain? Please, thank you.

Hari

23w

Glad to see the evidence based correlation with the yogic "keeping things to yourself."

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