Lacey loves Jack and Arrow. Jack is three and Arrow is one, but both boys already have Mommy’s passion. Lacey is Josh’s wife and loves being a wife. Josh is Lacey’s biggest fan, after Jack and Arrow, of course. Their love looks like Play-Doh—it’s colorful, makes beautiful things, and expands the more it’s tinkered with.“Lacey stands at four feet eleven inches. But she possesses a voice five times that size. Its unmistakable passion, power, beauty, and grit make her impossible to ignore on the airwaves.
Lacey continues to do work with the BGEA as well as the Whosoever Movement, an organization she helped found with some of her closest friends from the rock music and extreme sports industries. The Whosoever Movement seeks to build and strengthen at-risk youth in local communities by using their collective passion for music, skateboarding, art, and today’s youth culture to creatively inspire people to stand together and work for change.
In 2000, Sturm began to play with drummer James Culpepper. The pair worked with guitarists Sameer Bhattacharya and Jared Hartmann. In 2002, Pat Seals, Flyleaf's current bassist, joined, forming a group named Passerby. Due to legal reasons, they renamed themselves Flyleaf in June 2004.
On October 22, 2012, shortly before the release of New Horizons, Sturm revealed that she had amicably left Flyleaf. The album was nominated for the 2012 Rock Album of the Year Dove Award.
In an interview promoting her book The Reason: How I Discovered a Life Worth Living, Sturm explained that a primary reason for her leaving the band was the death of the band's sound engineer. The band performed one last show as a means to help the sound engineer's wife and child. This experience caused Sturm to consider her own son and wonder what she would do if she knew she had only one more year with him. "It was really amazing to recognize this season changing in my life and the freedom that I was gonna be able to focus on my family," Sturm said. "And although it was really hard, I'm thankful. And that's the reason I stepped down from Flyleaf."
On November 7, 2022, it was announced by Flyleaf that Sturm had returned to the band, with the band now calling themselves "Flyleaf with Lacey Sturm".
Excerpt From: Lacey Sturm. “Reason.” iBooks. https://itun.es/us/OWwB0.l
vanity
Lacey Sturm Lyrics
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Look, you want me to ask for forgiveness again and again
Like you're telling me my love isn't complete
I say it's more like a runaway I guess, I guess
I don't have the right to ask for forgiveness then, right?
I want to believe what I heard somewhere a long time ago that, that love is free and kind
But what you call love is destroying my life and it's destroying your soul (destroying your life? )
If you ever had one
I don't even think you even know what it means to love or to be loved
See, see look, look we've got so much to learn
It's like this thrifty and new words they seem perfect and then they corner us like this
like this Leonidas curse with a midas touch
And it's mighty rum listen this is the real, that gritty, gory
And gorgeous, it's like, it's like coco butter laced with sandpaper
See this is love
Of course your words, so enticing and the imagery like some messiah living and dying for me
And then asking to save me
But what, what about the freedom that love brings?
What about the protection that love brings?
See, oh, oh, yeah, so, so this is your kiss to send me off right?
Like I ain't been no shelter
Shelter?
Like those bruises on your arms ain't no badges of honor?
And these ornery onlookers they keep questioning my methods
But look, this means I am in your atrium, like ancient drones
You used to dance with me why can't you just dance with me?
You mean slavery?
Slavery?
You owe me your life
I don't belong to anyone but me
Oh wait which, which one of us is being selfish here?
Who could be selfish?
Yeah, you trying to rob me?
I can't owe what you never gave
You will always owe me
And the love you gave was never love
You are gonna always live with my sacrifices
You don't know anything about love
You are twisted and warped
You will always know my sacrifices
You're so full of your own lies
The song "Vanity" by Lacey Sturm talks about a toxic relationship between two people who have different perceptions of love. The singer is questioning the love given to her by her partner and its true nature. The lyrics are indicating a struggle of the singer wanting to escape the cycle of asking for forgiveness and being controlled by their partner, and wanting to believe that love is supposed to be free and kind without any hardships or sacrifices. The singer is challenging the partner's perception of love, which is destroying her life and his soul. The partner wants to hold on to her, but she wants to break free and be her own person.
The lyrics are metaphoric and full of imagery. The song portrays a struggle of power between two individuals; one who is controlling and the other who wants to be free. The lyrics "You mean slavery?" "Slavery? You owe me your life" represent the power struggle between the two individuals.
Line by Line Meaning
I don't think I want to do this anymore
I don't want to be with you anymore
Look, you want me to ask for forgiveness again and again
Like you're telling me my love isn't complete
I say it's more like a runaway I guess, I guess
I don't have the right to ask for forgiveness then, right?
You keep wanting me to apologize even though you make me feel like my love for you isn't enough. I feel like I'm running away from you, but do I even have the right to ask for your forgiveness?
I want to believe what I heard somewhere a long time ago that, that love is free and kind
And you're trying to act like you're all humble and wise,
But what you call love is destroying my life and it's destroying your soul (destroying your life? )
If you ever had one
I don't even think you even know what it means to love or to be loved
I used to believe love was free and kind, but your version of love is ruining my life and your soul. You act like you know what love is, but I don't think you really do.
See, see look, look we've got so much to learn
It's like this thrifty and new words they seem perfect and then they corner us like this
like this Leonidas curse with a midas touch
And it's mighty rum listen this is the real, that gritty, gory
And gorgeous, it's like, it's like coco butter laced with sandpaper
See this is love
We have a lot to learn about love. The words we use to describe it seem nice, but they can trap us. Love is a mix of good and bad, beauty and ugliness. It's like coco butter mixed with sandpaper.
Of course your words, so enticing and the imagery like some messiah living and dying for me
And then asking to save me
But what, what about the freedom that love brings?
What about the protection that love brings?
Your words are tempting, and you make it seem like you're sacrificing for me. But real love also brings freedom and protection.
See, oh, oh, yeah, so, so this is your kiss to send me off right?
Like I ain't been no shelter
Shelter?
Like those bruises on your arms ain't no badges of honor?
And these ornery onlookers they keep questioning my methods
But look, this means I am in your atrium, like ancient drones
You used to dance with me why can't you just dance with me?
You mean slavery?
Slavery?
You want to send me away with a kiss like I wasn't a safe haven for you. How can you say that when you have bruises on your arms like badges of honor? People keep questioning how I deal with you. I'm stuck in your grasp like an ancient drone, and I miss how things used to be. But our relationship feels like slavery sometimes.
You owe me your life
I don't belong to anyone but me
Oh wait which, which one of us is being selfish here?
Who could be selfish?
Yeah, you trying to rob me?
I can't owe what you never gave
You act like I owe you everything because you saved my life, but I don't belong to anyone but me. Who's really being selfish here? You're acting like I'm trying to steal something from you, but I can't owe you something you never gave.
You will always owe me
And the love you gave was never love
You are gonna always live with my sacrifices
You don't know anything about love
You are twisted and warped
You will always know my sacrifices
You're so full of your own lies
You keep acting like I owe you for what you've sacrificed for our relationship, but the love you gave me was never really love. You're twisted and distorted, and you will always know what you've sacrificed for me. But you're so blinded by your own lies.
Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: LACEY STURM, JOSH STURM
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karl
- I don't think I want to do this anymore
- Look, you want me to ask for forgiveness again and again, like you're telling me
My love isn't complete
I say it's more like a runaway. I guess, I guess I don't have the right to ask for
Forgiveness then, right?
- I want to believe what I heard somewhere a long time ago that, that love is free
And kind
And you're trying to act like you're all humble and wise
But what you call love is destroying my life and it's destroying your soul (Destroying
Your life?) if you ever had one
I don't even think you even know what it means to love. Or to be loved
- See, see look, look we've got so much to learn
It's like this thrifty and new words they seem perfect and then they corner us like
This, like this Leonidas curse with a Midas touch
And it's mighty rum. Listen this is the real, that gritty, gory, and gorgeous, it's
Like, it's like coco butter laced with sandpaper
See this is love
- Of course your words, so enticing and the imagery like some Messiah living and
Dying for me and then asking to save me
But what, what about the freedom that love brings? What about the protection that
Love brings?
- See, oh, oh, yeah, so, so this is your kiss to send me off right? Like I ain't
Been no shelter!
- Shelter?
- Like those bruises on your arms ain't no badges of honor?
And these ornery onlookers they keep questioning my methods
But look, this means I am in your atrium, like ancient drones
You used to dance with me. Why can't you just dance with me?
- You mean slavery?!
- Slavery? You owe me your life!
- I don't belong to anyone but me!
- Oh wait which, which one of us is being selfish here?
- Who could be selfish?
- Yeah, you trying to rob me?
- I can't owe what you never gave!
- You will always owe me
- And the love you gave was never love!
Lady Rae
Correct me if I’m wrong... but this gives me chills.
I’m a person who has been through abuse, and to combat that I chose to have sex as much and as often as I wanted. It made me feel powerful and I felt like I was receiving love. I know that this is like an introduction to the other song called rot and it’s about a female prostitute wanting to be out. She felt trapped. What she needed was love and she found it in God and by loving herself enough not to live that life in the end. I felt the same way. Right now I am finding myself with God and professional help. I didn’t realize how lost I was until I got tired of false love running from me. And now it is like I am fighting myself, this new unknown enemy that was with me the whole time brainwashing me into thinking I was perfect and that I was sweet, humble, and wise. Deep down I knew that I wasn’t, and I was fooling myself. I did not love myself. I didn’t even know who I was because of wanting to please everyone but myself. When I finally decided to claim who I really was and to stop giving myself away, the thoughts, pain, and mental turmoil started. When the enemy realizes you want to be who God intended you to be.... prepare for one hell of a fight with yourself and evil. Mentally, physically, in dream, in life, in every crevice of your existence evil is present and you will see it first hand. Then you will be awaken to the truth of God, the word, and your purpose.
This song just made me think of myself as the female voice and the male voice made me think of how smart and conniving my false self and evil really is. It’s truly a fight for your mind and nobody can help you if you don’t seek for help, don’t want to receive help from God, and don’t want help for yourself. You have to want to be helped! Whoever is reading this and you know this is screaming at you, please heed it. This could be the spark that changes your life! Go be you and be great the way that God made you!
karl
- I don't think I want to do this anymore
- Look, you want me to ask for forgiveness again and again, like you're telling me
My love isn't complete
I say it's more like a runaway. I guess, I guess I don't have the right to ask for
Forgiveness then, right?
- I want to believe what I heard somewhere a long time ago that, that love is free
And kind
And you're trying to act like you're all humble and wise
But what you call love is destroying my life and it's destroying your soul (Destroying
Your life?) if you ever had one
I don't even think you even know what it means to love. Or to be loved
- See, see look, look we've got so much to learn
It's like this thrifty and new words they seem perfect and then they corner us like
This, like this Leonidas curse with a Midas touch
And it's mighty rum. Listen this is the real, that gritty, gory, and gorgeous, it's
Like, it's like coco butter laced with sandpaper
See this is love
- Of course your words, so enticing and the imagery like some Messiah living and
Dying for me and then asking to save me
But what, what about the freedom that love brings? What about the protection that
Love brings?
- See, oh, oh, yeah, so, so this is your kiss to send me off right? Like I ain't
Been no shelter!
- Shelter?
- Like those bruises on your arms ain't no badges of honor?
And these ornery onlookers they keep questioning my methods
But look, this means I am in your atrium, like ancient drones
You used to dance with me. Why can't you just dance with me?
- You mean slavery?!
- Slavery? You owe me your life!
- I don't belong to anyone but me!
- Oh wait which, which one of us is being selfish here?
- Who could be selfish?
- Yeah, you trying to rob me?
- I can't owe what you never gave!
- You will always owe me
- And the love you gave was never love!
Dayane F Silva
Thank you, I am Brazilian, and because you wrote I can translate and understand the dialogues :)
Shirlin
Can't get enough of this album< God bless you Lacey(:
risingstar774
This just makes me want to cry as it sends chills down my spine. So intense!
Lilbitofeverythin
I love this song so much
Quinn Quinzel
I can feel this. What I'm dealing with at the moment.. her music helps me all the time ❤💔
Karissa Yoder
love this whole album!
Becky Hutchinson
This made me super excited! Can't wait to buy your CD!
Alex Haven Blackburn
this fading into a version of love the way you lie part 2 by them would be heaven. IT NEEDS TO HAPPEN