In Love With Yourself
Liz Phair Lyrics


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He came over to my house
Didn't even knock, he just walked inside
And when I didn't want to talk
He said, 'Oh God, what a lot of bullshit.'

Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself 'cause I'm not
Don't you know I'm not?

And I said, 'You've got a lot of nerve
Coming here after all of the times
That you've tried to pull the wool
Over my eyes and my ears and nose and mouth and'

Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself 'cause I'm not
Don't you know I'm not?

And he said, 'You've got a lot of nerve
Painting me like I'm the villain.
What about all of those words, like 'he's just a friend'?
Oh God, what a lot of bullshit'

Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself 'cause I'm not
Don't you know I'm not?

And I said, 'You've got a lot of nerve,
After all, it wasn't me who left.
And now you're sleeping with that girl
That you used to say that you have always hated.'

Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself 'cause I'm not
Don't you know I'm not?

And we took off all of our clothes
Had a lot of sex and then fell asleep
And when I finally awoke
I held him close and I whispered in his ear and said,
'Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be so in love with yourself 'cause I'm not
Don't you know I'm not?'





And he said, 'I know, don't you think I know?'

Overall Meaning

The song "In Love With Yourself" by Liz Phair is a conversation between two people who have a history together. The singer is upset with the person who has come to her house uninvited and unannounced. She wants nothing to do with him and refuses to talk to him. He responds with a defensive attitude, accusing her of being in love with herself.


The song highlights the power dynamic in relationships and how it can change over time. The person who was once in control of the relationship is now trying to regain that power. The singer, however, has moved on and is no longer interested in playing his game.


Overall, the song is a commentary on the complexities of human relationships and the difficulty of letting go of past hurts and resentments. It also explores the theme of self-love and the importance of not allowing others to bring us down and make us doubt ourselves.


Line by Line Meaning

He came over to my house
He arrived at my home unannounced


Didn't even knock, he just walked inside
He didn't bother to knock, just entered without permission


And when I didn't want to talk
And when I didn't feel like conversing


He said, 'Oh God, what a lot of bullshit.'
He expressed annoyance and frustration


Don't be so in love with yourself
Don't be overly self-centered


Don't you know I'm not?
I'm not in love with myself


And he said, 'You've got a lot of nerve
He accused me of being audacious


Coming here after all of the times
Arriving here after many previous instances


That you've tried to pull the wool
Hiding something or deceiving me


Over my eyes and my ears and nose and mouth and'
Deceiving me through sight, sound, and smell


And he said, 'You've got a lot of nerve
He accused me of being audacious


Painting me like I'm the villain.
Portraying him as the bad guy


What about all of those words, like 'he's just a friend'?
What about those things you said about me being just a friend?


And I said, 'You've got a lot of nerve,
I accused him of being audacious as well


After all, it wasn't me who left.
It was not me who ended the relationship


And now you're sleeping with that girl
And now you're intimate with that other woman


That you used to say that you have always hated.
Whom you claimed to detest in the past.


And we took off all of our clothes
We undressed ourselves completely


Had a lot of sex and then fell asleep
We engaged in sexual activity before falling asleep


And when I finally awoke
And when I finally opened my eyes


I held him close and I whispered in his ear and said,
I embraced him and spoke softly into his ear


And he said, 'I know, don't you think I know?'
And he acknowledged his actions and their impacts




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Written by: PHAIR

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