Past
Matthew & Me Lyrics

Some time ago
The nights became a little darker
cnd through wind I lost the voice that calls
cnd makes me wonder

Now I sit and wonder no more
I've seen the seas far past the doors
The joy the pain the hurt the game
I've played my soul

I've broke the pane

Just part the horizon
You will know the day
The light will come
The storms will fade away

cnd though I've lost where I'm going
I don't mind
I don't mind
I don't mind
No I don't mind

Just past the horizon
You will know the day
The lights will come
The storms will fade away

cnd though I've lost where I going
I will trust the stars
To lead me home
The waves can crash away

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

Bee Smooth

3y↑4

Guys, I'm the only men here feeling this
And I have an answer to end this
The only solution I got was videos from Grace for purpose
Know that
It's completely normal
Every pain has a lesson
Embrace that pain don't try to kick it out
Reflect on yourself
Know that things happen for a reason
And its a part of relationships
After all we are all exe's we are all x man

All comments from YouTube:

hipnhappenin

7y↑318

I thought I was the only one who felt this. Amazing.

jo-anne falcon

Same :)

the swift vet

Me too!

Pi nky

Me too

Alexandrine B

8y↑158

I admit.... I think this has been my biggest struggle and insecurity in all my relationships so far.
Thank you! hero of the day ;)

Precious Bondoc

3y↑1

Same!!!

Adriana Rivera

4y↑65

I'm feeling this right now. I literally have no experience, it's my first relationship and he comes from a 7 year relationship . I don't know what to do. Thank you for this video.

Mimi Phan

4y↑106

I'm literally crying so hard right now because I don't know how to get over his past. He had an ex that he went on vacations with his family and his family loves her still and is friends with her and I recently moved in and I feel so alone and I don't know what to do.

marcellus robinson

2y↑4

@Jaqueline Z please y'all don't fight. So sorry I'm late , I'm here to help. I know exactly how you feel. Please have a humble and open heart to this. What your experiencing is called retroactive active jealousy. It's when you have uncontrollable constant thoughts about you partners romantic/sexual past. It is a living hell.

You are not alone and there is hope. Research Zach Stockill retroactive jealousy on YouTube. He has helped thousands overcome this affliction. Please find peace.

JP

Run!!!!!!

alyssa ballardo

3y↑3

I'm sorry girl I can relate. However we have to think that that is in the past for a reason....it didn't work out. The benefit is y'all found each other now.

Jaqueline Z

3y↑19

@Fardin Saraf thats the point jerk. WE KNOW WE ALSO HAVE A PAST, BUT YET WHY DOES THEIRS BOTHER US SO MUCH. thats the issue NOT THEM BUT HOW WE PERCEIVE THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION. so before you start pointing fingers, understand the situation and psychology a little deeper yeah?

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Sultana

7y↑605

It's ruining my relationship the thought of him and his ex 😭 I don't know what to do

Trich And Madelynn

@Tevin naicker this helped.

Tevin naicker

2y↑4

Often times it's an insecurity created through things said that your partner didn't quite realize how deep that sounds but you picked it up and since that seed is planted it just continues to grow.. the truth is most of the time.. it's not your fault. And you can let it go by knowing that. It wasn't some flaw in your personality.. because often when something bothers us we make it our own. It becomes our obsession but the truth is it was never your reality so your thoughts on it aren't valid. You don't believe what your partner says when they tell you "it wasn't like that" or "I didn't love it more than this" because at this point you've already bought the copyrights to that story and made it your own. Given it your own perceived importance and impact... Realize this and give it back. This moment is yours. This moment is what you have. None of that matters because it never lasted. Think about it. You're the only one still telling the story. They weren't able to hold onto the moments in your mind so why are you

marcellus robinson

@Trisha U your not only one and there is hope with a humble and open heart please. Research retroactive jealousy on YouTube Zach Stockill Please.

marcellus robinson

2y↑3

I am so sorry I'm 5yrs late on this. I know what it feels like to obsess over your parents romantic/sexual past. It's actually called retroactive jealousy and it is a living hell! Please get the book by the YouTuber Zach Stockill called how to overcome retroactive jealousy it is saving my relationship and my life!

Miriam Arita

2y↑1

He lied to me about having pictures in his phone and had all her things in his house. He got rid of them, but that broke my heart. The worst thing is that she is still in love with him and she is crazy (like for real crazy). I know she needs help; I’m hoping that girl doesn’t ruin my relationship.

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Jane Villa

4y↑51

Reading the comments helped me bring to light “if his past was so great then he would still be there” like if my ex wouldn’t have messed up I would have still be there with him because I loved him so much. But I’m not I’m here with someone new someone who wants to be with me.

Mimi Fe

7y↑40

I cannot believe how true this is, honestly I feel completely different now... I have felt this way towards my boyfriend's past for so long and I felt so bad about having these thoughts that I never had the confidence to talk about it with him. Now you have just made me feel so understood and I really started to see those things in a different light, thank you. Your voice sounds so calming!

Carmen García

7y↑34

Someone told me a long time ago "sometimes I wish I was the only but then I think about it and at the end it's the same, because you've never done it before the way you did it with me". It made me feel so so special and unique...Thank you for your words, Mathew. You're so smart and kind and it's always a pleasure to listen to your advice. Love. Carmen

Winter S.

8y↑20

I so needed this video right now at this exact moment in my life. My situation is different. I am four years older than the guy I am interested in but he has done and lived so much more than I have. I am kind of a late bloomer and I have always felt self-conscious about that. I am not as experienced and I haven't done as much and it kind of leaves me feeling doubtful that he would view me as being "enough". I am slowly starting to get into the things I have held myself back from doing, but I am jealous at times and not only jealous, but I feel "mediocre" compared to him and his life.

Laura Heidorn

your welcome

Winter S.

Laura Heidorn Thank you! I know. I agree, it's just my negative thinking that creeps up from time to time. But everything you have said makes perfect sense. Thank you!

Laura Heidorn

8y↑1

+Tiff S : your life has meaning too. Everything you did in your life has been for a reason to get to this point. You can still experience things in life even if they seem not as great. The great thing about being with a person that has done a lot is that he is into being outgoing. So you can do stuff together. Share a good dating life together and do things you always wanted to do together and make your memories together special. That's the greatest thing about love and being in love with someone is that even the littlest moments can make the best memories. Bring a camera and take pictures to keep in a scrapbook of the things you do together. Just live your life to the fullest.

sam lee

4y↑51

I have the same problem. Mine mainly stems from the fact that he is my first bf and my first everything, whilst he has already had his first and more after that. He’s introduced girls to his parents who weren’t even his girlfriends and had a good few flings whilst I didn’t. I know it’s his past and I have to accept it, but I can’t help feeling like im ‘girl number 6’ or something like that. He tells me im still the best he’s had and this is the longest relationship he’s had (3yrs) but now and then I still feel insecure. Especially when he brings up the past and talks about it, which he doesn’t do all the time but every few months or so.
Insecurity sucks big time. I just feel like for every first im having he’s already had his.

My cute name_pig

1y↑1

girllll same here I'm the number 6th girl here😭shit hurts so much whenever i think about it, i was saving myself before i met him. i feel like I'm not any special to him it's just my turn......😭

Charlyne Styles

Same I'm the 7th girl here of mine💀😭 he also reassured me I am the one he loves the most than anyone in his past but still 😭

Shi Shi

Gorl same problem 😢

marcellus robinson

Ladies please with a humble and open heart look up retroactive Jealousy Zach Stockill on YouTube. He is saving my relationship.

MetalHeadSkull2082

2y↑3

Same!! I was saving myself for someone special (him of course!) and he’s had experience with other girls before me and it’s so hurtful to think he did that stuff with other girls but there is nothing I can do about it so it’s driving me insane especially when we end up having conversations about that stuff

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A New Love Official

7y↑30

Jealousy is a part of a relationship but everything that is too much is never a healthy thing in your relationship. So better take control with your self before it's too late.

Navneet Kaur

4y↑36

I am dating a guy I gave my virginity to and we love each others a lot. But I get soooo jealous of his past because he has been with a few people before me. He never mentioned them to me unless I ask him. Its ruining our amazing relationship a lot. Please help me god! 🙏 don't want to lose him. I get depressed too because of this and all I can think of during that time is him with those girls. :(

marcellus robinson

2y↑3

I'm so sorry Navneet I hope I'm not to late but I am here to help. I know just how you feel the uncontrollable obessessive, constant thoughts and mental images about your partners past. It is a living hell.

Your experiencing something called retroactive Jealousy and it is just terrible.
But there is hope you are not alone.
Research Zach Stockill retroactive Jealousy on YouTube he is saving my relationship and my life. Be at peace.

Jessica Keller

4y↑4

This helped me release a huge weight
Off my shoulders!!! I was constantly having the same exact feelings and this just took a huge wall down between me and my lover

Byronwannabe

Thank you for this video! Makes me realize I am not the only one who feels this way... your words meant a lot to me!

BetterBest1

5y↑5

Thank you Matthew. I am crying. This means a lot to me.

Val Manelys

3y↑5

One day my boyfriend and I were at his house, and he played a song that he had shown me a long time ago when we were trying to get to know each other and start dating. Then he said "This song reminds me of someone from two years ago ... If only I hadn't thought twice, things would be different." I know who he is talking about, that girl who gave him so many teachings and genuinely loved. That event has not left my mind, sometimes he mentions her and fantasizes a little about her when I mention something that reminds him of her. It makes me feel really bad and I told him the first time it happened, but this time of the song it made me feel worse, sometimes I think he misses her more than to like being with me.
I also have my past, I loved someone else very much and he is perfectly aware of that, so sometimes I feel a little guilty for feeling upset because he mentions her. And it is a damage that I inflict on myself by thinking that I am not enough, when many times he has shown me that I am who he loves and wants in his life.

Reginaphalange

2y↑2

these comments have helped me feel less alone in this situation, thank y’all :)

matthew tonna

3y↑7

If your partner attacks you for your past or something tell them every decision I’ve did has led me to meet you

AzzizaNaomi

8y↑3

You always hit the nail on the head.

Lili Le

4y↑2

The feeling is very unbearable when you think about it! Whenever your thought drift to your significant other’s past, try to think of sth else, sth positive!

Noemi Bennani

8y↑9

Well done again dear Matthew... you have a great gift, God bless you :)

Christelle Conti

7y↑51

This ruined my relationship completely. Mainly because he kept on lying about his past and I soon enough found out again and again different things he didn't tell me which made me more jealous because he kept on hiding those things. I don't care if he meant that to "protect my feelings". At the end of the day, he was dishonest and that's a lot worse than hurting someone with the truth.

NataZolotaya

4y↑2

Same here... he tells me little stories from past relationships, and I was fine with that. Until I found out he's been leaving out information or making it seem something it was not, which basically painted an entirely different picture!

Garima Roy

So same 🙂

Christelle Conti

Devika saw this late but for those who need it, I would say that if it's costing too much of your mental health and you think you can't trust them anymore, then there's no reason for you to keep holding on to that relationship. At least what I would say for mine as I've only been with him for a few years and we weren't married nor living together, so it was easier to get over it.

Maddie C

Same girl

Belén Rifo

True 🙂

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Lan Do

This is so amazing. Definitely what I needed

unknown girl

4y↑3

I'm here because I'm looking for some good words to hear to stop this anxiety.

I'm so jealous and insecure about my husband's ex gf. T____T I know Im married with him and this kind of feeling should never be a thing anymore simply because I.AM.MARRIED. But I really can't help myself thinking of so many things about them. :( I really wanted to stop this feeling :( :( :(

adri

8y↑139

But how can you not be jealous of their former love life, especially if they are still friends w their ex??

Nais Sketching

@adri red flag

Riza Flores

Saramos3 yes how you cant be jealous? My boyfriend showed the picture of woman that he had sex 4years ago. He just showed me the picture but i saw secretly they are still chatting.so felt to jealous and broke up with him.the thing is he said that he cant take my drama so we ended up.

Cecilia Soriano

Saridi Exactly!!!! My partner and his ex dated for 8 years. :(

megarafabiano

7y↑9

Such wise words! I hope that someday I won't be jealous about my boyfriend's ex girlfriends... Right now it is destroying me.

G Schneider

7y↑21

Your boyfriend or husband shouldn't be friends with his ex, be it an ex wife or girlfriend. In fact, there should be no contact between them unless they have a child together, just my opinion. I am cordial to my ex husband, only because we have 2 children.
If a man respects and loves the woman he is with, he shouldn't be going on and on about other women if this bothers her.

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BadGirl Hollywood

2y↑3

Social media makes these things harder than they need to be. Most people get over their ex but with the photos it’s too much

marcellus robinson

2y↑1

That is so damn true

nicole plewinski

8y↑1

I'm always looking forward that they have done it and they will know whats great about it and what is not so fun to avoid. If they don't want to do it again because they already have, then no reason you can't do it by yourself, and if they really are that stubborn to not go and not share that happiness with you are they really in this relationship because of you two or themselves?

Alex Brautigan

5y↑20

Retroactive jealousy is real. It's beatable, even when you feel it isn't. Seek help about it specifically. It's just a form of ocd, and you can beat it.

marcellus robinson

Thank you Alex I am late but I am trying to respond to as many comments on here about retroactive Jealousy

joy c

8y↑45

i cried while listening to this. just had a fight with bf now. so jealous of his ex

Izzati Suhaimi

6y↑41

I also got this feeling. Just found out about a girl in my bf's past. She looks cool and I wonder why my bf is with me. I just can't help feeling this. And for the first time Matthew's vid can't help me :(

marcellus robinson

Please you beautiful woman, with a humble and open heart research Zach Stockill retroactive active jealousy on YouTube it has saved my relationship. Please find peace 🙏

Ellen Kurghinyan

Honey I feel exactly the same, mine had really many exes and had great memories with them, his family loved one of the girl,,,, I know what you feel, you are not alone, the only thing is maybe to be the best version of ourselves, don’t focus on just one boy:/ make our mind busy, and love life, feel the power and nature and focus on that not on them…I know saying these is easier than doing it so I believe human being mind is powerful and we can do it….

Chairunissa Syafwinia

same sis🥺

Christina Lucas

6y↑10

Izzati Suhaimi focus on the future, not your past. He is with you now :) cast those thoughts down because they can ruin what you have in the future. If you are worried about why they broke up and if you will break up the same way, you should see what he does in your relationship. You don't need and interview from his ex or compare yourself to him lol

Aletheia Birch

8y↑1

Hey Matthew! I know this is way different from what you usually talk about, but could you address the issue of people being love addicts or love avoidants? I've been doing a lot of research because I'm a love avoidant. I would love to hear your take on it.

Bee Smooth

3y↑4

scarlet

4y↑3

I’m in the same case but somehow the opposite. I wouldn’t say jealous, but my boyfriend is insecure about my past (party life in college, my ex). I honestly don’t get it because personally, I hate my past. I also think it’s trauma from his ex because she used to cheat on him which makes him at a constant peak of doubt. How do I make him realize I’m not the same person I was 5 years ago? How do I make him realize I’m way past my ex? Because we always get into fights because of this and now he wants to break up.

marcellus robinson

2y↑1

He is experiencing retroactive Jealousy. Please research Zach Stockill retroactive Jealousy on YouTube for yourself and then gently show it to your boyfriend. It saved my relationship

beren c.

Hello! how long have you been in relationship? Maybe he will understand you after a while. Gaining trust can take long time my friend.ı think he is afraid of loosing you because he got cheated before. Unfortunatelly how many times you say its my past and im not like that girl he has to see it. And of course it will take time. Just he should give you time to see you are truthful 🙌

Kaye Bonita

3y↑1

I never thought i needed this right now. Thank you so muchhh

zlozvyk

8y↑114

How about him talking about his experience with exes because that's his past and they were part of his life?.. It makes me more jealous than if he's been to places.

Alex Brautigan

5y↑7

Check out Zachary Stockhill. It's called retroactive jealousy. Its real, it's beatable.

roseqore

5y↑41

my partner has had sex with up to seven people before me and i physically cannot get over it. it hurts to think of them in the settings of sexual stories they've told me. the couch i'm sat on? they had sex on it. that bed? had a threesome there. they'd tell me so many stories that i never wanted to hear. it's been a year and not a day goes by where i don't think about these things. the worst part is that when they ask me what's troubling me, they don't understand. i try and explain that if it were the other way around, it's usually upsetting. they don't see it.

marcellus robinson

2y↑1

@roseqore I'm sorry you went through that he his wrong for treating you that way after you expressed your uncomfortableness with the subject. I know just how that must of felt. Research Zach Stockill retroactive Jealousy on YouTube it helped me immensely.

roseqore

3y↑1

@TheDripNeedsMe

thank you, it means a lot

TheDripNeedsMe

3y↑1

Sorry to hear and I hope you heal from this experience

roseqore

3y↑3

@Penelope N

no he gaslit and sexually assaulted me. it just got way worse on my end

Penelope N

Are you in a better place now?

Juliana Costa

5y↑3

I’m just crying like a baby while I’m watching this.

Eva Volkin

7y↑6

My husband and I lived our adventurous lives together. We traveled together, tried different things together, experienced our passions together. Everything on earth is done better with my husband-and of course with the kids when they came into the picture. Our next hot tub, candle light and wine bath we take together, I'll let him know that. :)

hello there

5y↑3

The only thing I am always jealous of is how they were raised. I was raised by a Narc mother, who blamed me for everything and made me feel guilty and shameful of everything. I was never allowed a thing, not having boyfriends, she hated most of my friends, I was not allowed to learn how to play the guitar because she didn't like it ("funny", SHE is now learning how to play it), she constantly badmouthed me towards family members, I was not allowed to have friends over and so on. I always KNEW this is all not right, that I should be able to do this and that without being made ashamed or guilty of it by her.
So the boyfriends I picked or who picked me were always the ones who had ALL THIS. who had loving, caring, supporting parents, who were not divorced, who would do anything for their children. I was not even allowed to laugh in front of my mother or else she would get mad because "I am making too much noise"
This "jealousy" showed only when breaking up, it was always then when I got severly depressed because i KNEW, they could just go back or go on living in their life without toxicity, blame, guilt, without having to solve all this shit caused by your fucking MOTHER.
And I was left with all that shit.
That's when the jealousy hits in.

Sarah Paine

3y↑4

Im struggling with accepting his past. Because I get the feeling he did so much more for her than me. Also he is my first boyfriend so I don't have any comparisons which makes me even more anxious....has someone dealt with the same situation?

tnt

@Sarah Paine :)

Sarah Paine

@tnt Thank you for your kind words. You made my day. Lately I've been working on myself and my self-esteem and my anxiety has become better. Some situations are kind of triggering and I get those bad thoughts again but I know I have to keep pushing through them.

tnt

3y↑2

@Sarah Paine I have been there. You have to stop thinking about her. If he wanted to be with her, he would be with her and not you. All the best. :)

Sarah Paine

@tnt thanks :)

tnt

3y↑2

Yes. Do not worry, he values you, he does not want to be with her. Believe.

csobol1

Love, love, love this!

Rayson Choo

Love this! 😉👍

JP

2y↑1

My bf’s ex is 10 years older than him or more with kids. She was very open about their relationship, to the point where everything they did was on Facebook and people were cheering her on and having conversations about my bf. My bf struggled with addiction during this time while with her and she put that on her Facebook even very weird details about what he was doing.

She also posted all of the pictures of them making out and where she was on top of him really sexual… it’s like she was only with him to show off a younger man. My bf is extremely good looking but very mentally ill. (PTSD, war veteran).

I brought up the fact she had very recent pics of them on the Facebook he had. He said he didn’t have access to it and made a new one. It is the first profile that showed up when you look him up and it made me rage with anger. I can’t stop thinking about this weird woman and what she has online with my bf…

Ori Lee

Thank you for the advice Matthew. I admire his wonderful adventures before me. But I am jealous of his previous love stories..... girls stuff. I was so so jealous just now. I now have to do a bit meditation to calm down myself. Lol.

Simple Things

3y↑2

Right! no need to be jealous
Past is past

CaliforniaGirl14

2y↑2

I just realized something and it REALLY helped. I am his girlfriend NOW. His ex is in the past. The past is gone. She is not relevant anymore. Now, if I turn that around, and imagine, she was his girlfriend NOW and I’d be his ex..how bad would THAT feel? So what’s there to stress about? I am exactly where I wanna be, by his side. She isn’t. So there is absolutely no need for me to be jealous because she doesn’t have anything that I could want :)

Ci L.

6y↑1

What you just said just brings me to tears

civilusa1♡6

5y↑113

My boy had girlfriends but he don’t talk to them and nothing but i just feel jealous, like i don’t want him to have that past, I WANNA BE HIS PAST PRESENT AND FUTURE FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK

AliSand

2y↑3

Right? The audacity they had to cheat on us before we even met them! This is a joke but it really feels like this 😂.

marcellus robinson

I'm late I know but everyone please with a humble and open heart please research Zach Stockill retroactive active jealousy on YouTube. It saved me from this. Please 🙏

Rinhlupuii Ralte

4y↑1

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Patty g

4y↑1

Sameeee girl

Raven Valkyrie

4y↑5

Same here 😔😔😭😭💔💔
if only we know or meet them before

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Charlotte Davies

Thanks so much for this i am struggling so much with this and i just wanna let go and be happy with my boyfriend but the ex is always on my mind because ive fell in love before n they went back to the ex so im terrified now😢i dont want to destroy something special

Kaniz Fatima

Wtfff God truly works in mysterious ways! I have been thinking and stressing my mind over this for sooo many days ! This video helped me so much and gave me new perspective! The comments give me so much comfort too ! Listen ladies since it mostly ladies who go through this what we are feelings is intense but just proof that we are human with desire and with emotional needs

Miriam Arita

2y↑1

My boyfriend is 7 years older than me so of course he has experienced more things in life, but I just can’t be okay with the fact that he has a past, specially because his ex is still in love with him. I just want to be calm and happy with him, I know she is not in his mind anymore, I just don’t understand why she is in mine, I wish I was okay with it. I hate that feeling and if you can relate, I’m so sorry.

marcellus robinson

Please my beautiful sister. With a humble and open heart research Zach Stockill retroactive Jealousy on YouTube. You are not alone and you can overcome this

kkkkkkkkkk955

8y↑1

wow never thought of it like this before. Thank you Matt!

O.F De Los Santos

this helped a lot, thank you

Dylan Buchman

8y↑3

Ooh I've experienced that this is a good one. And this is so sweet

Abisha Berlin

Its beautiful😭♥️

stars

8y↑1

that was lovely Matt! thanks for sharing

Donna Pitcock

2y↑1

I struggle with this too. He's older and has did more with his ex

Hana A

I love your videos

Olaoluwa Bolaji

8y↑2

what your doing is really great. love the advise. I also find myself in a position of being the jealous one cos I'm the least travelled of the 2 of us. your advice has helped alot. but what of how not to get jealous of ur partners ex relationships? how do I go about that?

Laura Heidorn

8y↑1

+Olaoluwa Bolaji: Those girls are in the past. You are in their present, You are the one they are with now. those girls weren't meant to be if your with him. I hear my fiancee talk about this one girl his first and saying how they loved each other and their parents broke them up and he was sad. I said yeah but I'm here now and you need to move on from her. He said I have. I said ok why are you still talking about her. But if she is in the past and I am in his future then I am the one he's going to be with not the ex. He has told me that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him so if that's the case then those other girls don't matter. So my point is that you have to look at what he says to you too. If he makes you feel like your the one for him and says things to tell you that in so many words then those other girls he previously dated are in the past and are staying there and mean nothing. You have to realize like cockeredneutron said their past has helped define them as a person. They made mistakes along the way and learned from them and hopefully became a better person because of those mistakes. Every guy I was with in my past was a learning experience for me. It helped me grow as a person and even my divorce I wouldn't take back for anything. It was a learning experience. I became a stronger person because of it. If he is talking to other girls besides you that's a whole other issue. But your talking about in his PAST. I am friends with one of my exes only on facebook simply because the bible preaches about forgiveness and I believe in it wholeheartedly. No matter what they did to you forgive them. Let it go. He can be friends with an ex and that's ok. If he is more than friends then it becomes an issue. Ask if you could meet her and say hi to her. It would probably make you feel more relaxed knowing their friends with their ex if you got to meet them.

Lady Liberty

Thank you for this.

Tonia

I just know he cant love me like I do cuz he's the only guy I actually fell in love with

TheFatRat

Ua best of all i heard before..salute to ur voice it made ma heart calm...😊

योगिता केशवानी

Love you Matthew❤️❤️

Makeitcount

4y↑1

It's not his past if he still talks to his ex constantly, does maintenance at her one home and spends time at her other home (3 weeks). The rest of the time he talks about her constantly. It was too much for me to cope with I admit it.

Salma Chi

8y↑2

Great topic 👍👍👍

Durga

Thank you so much made feel relaxed thanks a lot

niyu

My bf still meet his ex twice a year on their birthdays. Its hard for me and we talked a lot. I cant understand why he still needs her in his life. She is also in a relationship and has a child.

marcellus robinson

Mmm that's a deal breaker in my book

June Tennyson

Thank you, Matthew.

Zeze K

8y↑18

What if he's bragging about his past and that how his vacations were awesome with his friends and although he doesn't say it but when he says that he went to that city with "friends" it means that his ex included ! And im freakin jealous all i keep thinking about when he starts talking like that is the things i did in my past without him so it would make me feel we are kinda equal but the truth it draws us apart , one time we had a huge fight because he wanted to take me to an island he likes alot and i directly asked him "have u ever been there with your ex?" And he said yes , so i said i dont want to go there then and he said he doesn't want to be with someone who judges him on things he did in the past

Deep Stretch with Britanny

8y↑56

Has he done a video on how to not be jealous of your guys former love life????

marcellus robinson

Please with a humble and open heart research Zach Stockill retroactive Jealousy on YouTube. You are not alone and you can overcome this. Please 🙏

snj prl

8y↑11

+Britanny B Also: your partner is the person he is today BECAUSE of his past and the things he experienced and learned / has overcome / endured. It only becomes a problem if they live in the past and have this "my best days are already behind me" - mindset... that's a red flag for me.

Deep Stretch with Britanny

+786LILJOKER hmm love that 💕☺️

Unknownboo

5y↑2

This is killing my relationship

marcellus robinson

Please research retroactive Jealousy Zach Stockill on YouTube please 🙏

valeriafidelis desousaoliveira

The problem is, when the gug want to show you the thing he has done, being with his previous partner 😂😂🤣🤣wants to bring you there to share his memories with his exs 🤣🤣😂😂

awesome ME

8y↑57

what if he already went to paris with his ex gf n created so many memories together.. n now he wants to bring me there..if we went there together,he might suddenly miss his ex coz he has already been there..great advice but,this is just painful 😢

Stellashines83

8y↑3

+Stellashines83 and trust me, I'm a flight attendant 😉

Stellashines83

8y↑6

Doesn't matter at all. I truly agree you can make new memories with any person, and it will always be special and dear like the person that is accompanying us. It's a total different thing if it's your partner, you brother, your mother. It's always new!

Vanessa P

8y↑21

No matter how thousand times they went there , the two of you might create a very special moment and that you must looking forward to a magic of love that you will be creating. There's no so much best moment when two people are in love and sharing their excitements with simple things they do.Maybe he wants to create a new good moments with you, and to cover up those old memories. Do not focus on the past, focus on the present. Challenge yourself and do something above his expectations that both of you makes both feel excited and create a nothing to compare moments. Cheers! enjoy your moments in Paris !!!

Lady Liberty

Matthew, what advice do you have for women who are dating men who were once married?

Raul mammadov

This did help thank you

May Sal

8y↑4

The Great Gatsby ! Favorite quote "you always look so cool"

Operation Ada

4y↑3

what about when he's friends with his ex's or friends with people he's slept with? that shit is not okay with me.

marcellus robinson

I seriously thought I was the only one. I mean damn I thought I was going crazy because she kept gaslighting me about it.

Cycad Ltd

6y↑1

Thank you 🙏

joy c

i realized i miss him so much

Teodora

4y↑2

I see alot of comments here and omg i feel the same way. Now i have to ask. Has anyone had problems with previous boyfriends/girlfriends or just with a specific one about their past.

beren c.

@jana tasarra You are so right, I agree 👏

jana tasarra

4y↑1

@beren c. If I can go back in time, I wouldn't have asked him about his past.
Save yourself from the deeper jealousy It just goes downhill from there. Cheers.

beren c.

My boyfriend( we have been in relationship for 3 years) when we were friends he was telling me about his exes ,he told me he just liked them not love in with them. And then we started feeling like we are a thing now, while i was in his car he was kissing me and ı was joking about something( i cant remember it was a lonigee time ago) he suddenly said hey do you wanna hear my first time ? And it was EXTRA EXTRA WEİRD i was like wtf. He said oh sorry it was very wrong to even say this. And he always said ı fell in love with you, you are different and more. For all of these years i have never seen or heard anything he did wrong. He never wanted to compare me with other girls and always says you are the beautiful one.( yes im a spoiled gurl what ken I du?). But when he said about his first time from that moment i always felt so jealous always tried to ask him who was she or how was the experience. He was saying please stop it was my past i cant do anything. And never answered. And I dont even know how they look alike? Sometimes ı say myself hey its his past and now he is with you. But sometimes it just comes up my mind and I get mad at him. My advice is restrain your feeling as much as you can 😞

Chichi Peachie

8y↑1

you hit the nead right on its hail. .lol awesome stuff x

Butter Cup

5y↑4

Aw I want to see your London I’m in tears😰😰

Angel Teale

8y↑3

I also thought to start doing and experiencing your own experiences with them. Learn new things. Maybe they will be even better. Haha

Lauren

Matthew rocks the Henley shirts

mindful matters

2y↑1

He went to an adventurous trip to Himalayas with his ex. They travelled a lot.
But we never went on a trip. Not even once. Because I got pregnant right after one month of our marriage. Then I was busy looking after the child.
His mother is a stupid woman. She often tells me his ex was better than me. I don't know what her problem is. One day I cried and told her that stop comparing me with her. My husband also mentions his ex from time to time. I don't like it. But since I am curious, I ask more questions about their relationship. And I end up being more hurt.

Retroactive Jealousy- World Leading Therapy PLUS

This is something I specialize in treating.

Suprab Rajbhandari

6y↑3

Even guys feel this too 😣😣😣

Nicky Love

Awesome video

Dinesh Gupta

7y↑6

all sweet words and lines but the reality is
A. sex is very diff.
B. making words is easiest thing.
c.are u with her?? coz this wil tell a lot abt motives and reality. when u are casually dating someone u dont feel bad abt their past. i live in india where traditionally people wait till marriage. I waited till 29 yrs. but when i think abt my wifes past it just kills me from inside.

marcellus robinson

I hope I am not too late. I know just how you feel the obsessive thoughts about her past, the constant mental movies and graphic images . There is hope and a way to beat it.Research Zach Stockill retroactive Jealousy you are not alone my friend.

Stacie Lynn

4y↑1

Why is my ex so obsessed with my past relationships that has nothing to do with him or our relationship?

marcellus robinson

2y↑1

It's true it comes from insecurity but it goes deeper then that he is suffering from a form of OCD called retroactive active jealousy. Research Zach Stockill on YouTube. He saved my relationship. I know will help.

Anthony Rivas

3y↑1

He feels insecure

baddestbaddie

I am SO jealous its not even okay.... But like im not insecure just jealous asf

Teresa Z

2y↑2

what if they did it with the one they loved before (aka ex) and now doing it with me again

Cherry Cherish

6y↑3

Well my current boyfriend still has his long distance ex gf pictures on his facebook and memories though they have no communication anymore.It's killing me inside and i'm very jelous.I knew he loves me but i don't want to see her ex pics all over his fb album.Am i insane feeling this way?

Rosi Georgieva

You are absolutely not insane, you have to tell him how you feel about the situation and tell him that you're not comfortable with those pictures. If he doesn't listen, then he doesn't value you enough.

Anna

Cherry Cherry i feel like this too it sucks!!!! I made him delete posts on ig that were about her even

Drex Dalumpines

I’m crying. 😭

kay and

4y↑3

Thought i was the only person who thought this kind of stuff

Ivy Ivz17

4y↑3

Hi guys is it ok that my partner always asking about my exes or my past life? Sometimes it so fed up to talk about. We’re in relationship for two years now and he always think I’m chatting with someone else its makes me crazy bcoz i work full time I don’t have time to do such thing! Pls help

marcellus robinson

I hope I'm not too late but your boyfriend is experiencing a form of OCD called retroactive Jealousy. Research Zach Stockill on YouTube he will explain it all and has a way for your boyfriend to overcome this.