Codependency
Orla Gartland Lyrics

I'm not happy if you're not happy
I feel that your happiness is directly tied to my own, and I worry when you are not content

And I swear that you're always sad
It seems to me that you are frequently unhappy or struggling

You're pathetic, I resent it
I unfairly believe that your struggles are a reflection of your weakness, and I feel angry about it

When you're down, it hurts so bad
Your sadness affects me deeply and causes me emotional pain

It's like I'm half alive
My emotional and mental state feels incomplete or lacking

But it's not your fault
I know that your struggles are not caused by me, and you should not feel responsible for my emotions

Your life, it isn't mine
Although we are close, we each have our own separate lives and experiences

But I hate it
It pains me that I can't control your happiness or solve your problems

I think I'm the problem with you
I believe that I am the root of your unhappiness

And I don't know what to do
I feel helpless and unsure how to improve the situation

And I see
I recognize that our relationship is suffering due to my unhealthy emotional attachment to you

That's why they call it codependency
This type of attachment is known as codependency, where one person's emotional well-being is overly reliant on another person's

Oh if I go running, you've got nothing
I feel like you depend completely on me for your own happiness and well-being

I tackled you to the ground and made you say that
I may have pushed you to agree with me or to seek comfort from me

I'm good at singing, I keep digging
I try to distract myself and others with my talents or hobbies, but my emotional struggles continue

Tell me I'm worth it, tell me I'm perfect
I crave validation and reassurance from you to feel good about myself

And it's all my fault
I recognize that my own behavior and emotions are largely responsible for our problems

Sometimes I wanna die
My emotions can be overwhelming and I feel like I can't handle the pain of our situation

That I'm the problem with you
I continue to believe that my own issues are causing your unhappiness

And oh (oh) that's why they call it codependency
Our unhealthy attachment is the reason for our struggles, and it is a known phenomenon known as codependency

And I'm crying out to be more
I want to become a better, healthier version of myself, and to improve our relationship

Than some little dog that just sits around at your feet, that's not me
I don't want to be a passive, dependent follower in our relationship

Oh it isn't black and white
Our situation is complex and there are many factors at play

'Cause you're fucked up too
I recognize that you also have your own issues and struggles, which may also contribute to our problems

You know it only hurts 'cause it's true
The difficult truth is that we both have issues that need to be addressed in order to improve our relationship