Founded by Creager in 1992, they have long held true to their mission of enlightening the common man as to the power and versatility of the mighty cello. Historically influenced, and constantly costumed, Rasputina keeps a small legion of incredibly passionate admirers enthralled with their earnest musicianship. Considered to be quite a pioneer and visionary, Melora and her group have inspired countless young people to pick up the cello, and have re-inspired many uninspired string players. Rasputina considers this to be the finest payment for their work.
Professional involvements have included Nirvana, Ultra Vivid Scene, Marilyn Manson, Porno For Pyros, Belle and Sebastian,and Cheap Trick.
Former Members of Rasputina:
Julia Kent (89-99)
Kris Cowperthwaite (00-02)
Zoë Keating (02-06)
Sarah Bowman (06-08)
Jonathon TeBeest (00-08)
If You Kisses Can't Hold The Man
Rasputina Lyrics
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I just feel like saying, "Don't be such a fool, you fool"
Better dry your eyes, can't you realize you gain nothing by that?
Well, that's no way to keep his heart warm, baby
When his love grows cool
What's the use in sighing? What's the use in crying?
If he's wandered off the track
Then your tears won't bring him back, no
You might as well be cheerful, there's no use being tearful
If he's given you the sack
'Cause if your kisses won't hold the man you love
Then your tears won't bring him back
Now, listen, if sweet sugar kissin' isn't gonna make him come home
Tell me, how do ya hope to keep him to ya with tears instead of song
Just be a normal fella, come on, say, "What the hell-a"
Get his clothes and help him to pack
'Cause if your kisses won't hold the man you love
Then your tears won't bring him back
Love is like home cooking, good and wholesome
But all men need some mutton on the outside now and then
If you find your boy is cheating, do the same, old dear
He's only giving you the chance that you've been waiting for for years
My goodness! Tears won't get you anything, just a shiny red nose
Go on, paint up, powder up, put on your swellest clothes
Men, go and get 'em by the score, neglected girls shouldn't worry
That's what God made sailors for
Don't cry for him or chase him, just go out and replace him
With some good looking Tom, Dick or Jack
'Cause if your kisses won't hold the man you love
Then your tears won't bring him back
If your kisses won't hold the man you love
Then your tears won't bring him back
Rasputina's song "If Your Kisses Can't Hold the Man You Love" gives a glimpse into a time when the expectations of women in relationships were vastly different from what they are today. The song uses straightforward and empowering lyrics to encourage women to accept the reality of the situation and move on rather than dwell on a man who has left them.
The lyrics suggest that crying and feeling sorry for oneself will not change anything and will not bring the man back. Instead, the song suggests that women should focus on being their best selves, applying makeup, and putting on their best clothes to attract other potential romantic partners. The song implies that infidelity is commonplace but that it's not worth worrying about, as there are plenty of other men out there.
The song's message is bold and empowering, particularly considering the era in which it was produced. While the lyrics may not align with the values and beliefs of individuals today, it highlights the changing attitudes of society and serves as a cultural artifact nonetheless.
Line by Line Meaning
Every time that I hear a woman cry 'cause her man has left her flat
I empathize with women who are heartbroken due to their man leaving them.
I just feel like saying, "Don't be such a fool, you fool"
I feel like telling them that crying and being miserable won't help win their man back.
Better dry your eyes, can't you realize you gain nothing by that?
It's better to stop crying and accept that it won't change anything.
Well, that's no way to keep his heart warm, baby
Crying won't make your man love you, it might actually push him away further.
When his love grows cool
When his love for you decreases.
What's the use in sighing? What's the use in crying?
What good does it do to cry and feel sorry for yourself?
If he's wandered off the track
If he's lost interest in you and is seeing someone else.
'Cause if your kisses won't hold the man you love
If your affection and love are not enough to keep your man committed to you.
Then your tears won't bring him back, no
Crying won't change his mind.
You might as well be cheerful, there's no use being tearful
It's better to be happy and move on, rather than crying over someone who won't come back.
If he's given you the sack
If he has broken up with you or left you.
Now, listen, if sweet sugar kissin' isn't gonna make him come home
If your kisses aren't enough to make him stay committed to you.
Tell me, how do ya hope to keep him to ya with tears instead of song
Crying won't make him change his mind, if anything it will push him further away from you.
Just be a normal fella, come on, say, "What the hell-a"
Be strong and tell him to leave if he's not committed to you.
Get his clothes and help him to pack
Help him leave and move on with his life.
Love is like home cooking, good and wholesome
Love should be pure and satisfying.
But all men need some mutton on the outside now and then
Men have a tendency to cheat and look outside of their relationship for physical satisfaction.
If you find your boy is cheating, do the same, old dear
If you find out that your man is cheating, you can also cheat or move on.
He's only giving you the chance that you've been waiting for for years
His cheating might be a way for you to end the relationship and find someone better.
My goodness! Tears won't get you anything, just a shiny red nose
Crying won't help you in any way and might even make you look bad.
Go on, paint up, powder up, put on your swellest clothes
Get dressed up and show off your beauty and confidence.
Men, go and get 'em by the score, neglected girls shouldn't worry
Men are available everywhere, don't worry about your past relationship.
That's what God made sailors for
Sailors are known for being beautiful and enjoyable companions.
Don't cry for him or chase him, just go out and replace him
Instead of crying or running after him, find a new man.
With some good looking Tom, Dick or Jack
With any man that makes you happy and treats you well.
'Cause if your kisses won't hold the man you love
If your affection and love are not enough to keep your man committed to you.
Then your tears won't bring him back
Crying won't change his mind, it's better to move on and find someone new.
Lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: JACK YELLEN, VIVIAN ELLIS
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