Slipping Husband
The National Lyrics


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Sit down dear we gotta talk
You're acting like a kid
We don't want to hear about
The things you never did

You could've been a legend
But you became a father
That's what you are today
That's what you are today

Spending all your time
Somewhere inside your head
Haunted by the important
Life you could've lead

But your kisses aren't enough
To keep your kids in line
So you better straighten out yourself
And give your baby time
'Cause if you don't give her what she needs
She'll get it where she can
'Cause she's lonely man

Don't. don't leave yourself alone for too many days
Sooner than you know your gonna start slipping

You'll end up talking to the ghost
Of your wife as if you knew her
Your eyes will put her everywhere

And spending all your time
Somewhere inside your head
Haunted by the important
Life you could've lead

You'll fuck yourself to clear your head
You'll close your door and go to bed
You'll try to sleep without a dream
'Cause that's where she finds you
Yeah, that's where she finds you

Don't leave yourself alone for too many days
'Cause sooner than you know your gonna start slipping

Dear we better get a drink in you
Before you start to bore us
Dear we better get a drink in you
Before you start to bore us
Dear we better get a drink in you
Before you start to bore us
Dear we better get a drink in you
Before you start to bore us





"Don't forget the alcohol ooh baby, ooh baby, ooh baby, ooh baby, ooh baby"

Overall Meaning

The National's song Slipping Husband is a track that discusses the challenges of balancing personal ambition with familial responsibilities. The opening lines of the song depict a conversation between a couple, with one partner admonishing the other for behaving immaturely. The partner who is being scolded is portrayed as having unrealized potential, as someone who had lofty dreams but ultimately became a father instead. The song suggests that the main character regrets his decision to abandon his own goals for the sake of his family, as he is now haunted by the idea of what could have been. However, he realizes that he cannot simply continue to exist inside his own head, and that he must "straighten out himself" if he wants to be a good parent.


The lyrics also touch upon themes of loneliness and the perils of self-isolation. The chorus warns the main character not to "leave [him]self alone for too many days," as doing so will cause him to "start slipping." This can be interpreted both literally (as in descending into madness) and metaphorically (as in losing touch with oneself and one's surroundings). The song even implies that the main character might begin to have hallucinations, as he will "end up talking to the ghost of [his] wife as if [he] knew her."


Overall, Slipping Husband is a poignant exploration of the challenges that can arise when one tries to reconcile one's own personal ambitions with the obligations of family life. The lyrics are raw and emotional, and are set to a haunting, melancholic melody that perfectly captures the song's themes.


Line by Line Meaning

Sit down dear we gotta talk
Let's have a serious conversation


You're acting like a kid
You're behaving immaturely


We don't want to hear about The things you never did
Don't make excuses for your shortcomings


You could've been a legend
You had potential for greatness


But you became a father
Your responsibilities shifted towards being a parent


That's what you are today
Your current role is as a parent


Spending all your time Somewhere inside your head
You're lost in your own thoughts


Haunted by the important Life you could've lead
You regret the path not taken


But your kisses aren't enough To keep your kids in line
You need to be a more present and responsible parent


So you better straighten out yourself And give your baby time
You need to work on yourself and prioritize your child's needs


'Cause if you don't give her what she needs She'll get it where she can 'Cause she's lonely man
If you don't give your child the love and attention she needs, she'll seek it elsewhere


Don't. don't leave yourself alone for too many days Sooner than you know your gonna start slipping
Don't isolate yourself or you'll spiral into a negative mindset


You'll end up talking to the ghost Of your wife as if you knew her Your eyes will put her everywhere
You'll become consumed with past memories and long for what you've lost


You'll fuck yourself to clear your head You'll close your door and go to bed You'll try to sleep without a dream 'Cause that's where she finds you Yeah, that's where she finds you
You'll resort to destructive behaviors to numb your pain and avoid facing reality


Dear we better get a drink in you Before you start to bore us
We need to get you drunk to tolerate your behavior


Don't forget the alcohol ooh baby, ooh baby, ooh baby, ooh baby, ooh baby
Alcohol is a temporary escape from your problems




Lyrics © BMG Rights Management
Written by: Aaron Dessner, Bryan Devendorf, Bryce Dessner, Matthew D. Berninger, Scott D. Devendorf

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