Tim Kasher is a musician from Omaha, Nebraska. He is the frontman of indie … Read Full Bio ↴Tim Kasher is a musician from Omaha, Nebraska. He is the frontman of indie rock groups Cursive and The Good Life, both of which are on the Omaha based label Saddle Creek Records. Prior to those bands, Kasher was in a band called Slowdown Virginia. He also made a brief appearance with the Omaha band Commander Venus and The March Hares.

Kasher has a very close relationship with Conor Oberst of Bright Eyes. They grew up in Nebraska together, went to the same Catholic high school, Creighton Prep. It is rumored that Tim taught Oberst to play guitar. In the Bright Eyes song, "Nothing Gets Crossed Out" Oberst sings, "yeah Tim I heard your album and it's better than good. When you get off tour I think we should hang and black out together." (referring to the album Black Out by The Good Life, released in 2002 on Saddle Creek Records.) Furthermore, Oberst later sang backup on the song "Staying Alive," from Cursive's 2003 effort The Ugly Organ.

Kasher temporarily disbanded Cursive after the departure of guitarist Steve Pedersen (who left to pursue a law degree at Duke University. He now leads the Saddle Creek band Criteria). He married and moved to Portland, Oregon. According to interviews, Kasher went through a bitter divorce in 2000, which led to the regrouping of Cursive, as well as providing the inspiration for The Good Life album Black Out, and Cursive's Domestica.

The Good Life was originally planned to be a solo project. Kasher wanted to experiment with different types of lyrics and melodies. He released Novena on a Nocturn on Better Looking Records. He then recruited Ryan Fox, Roger Lewis and Stephanie Drootin into the band and released Black Out, Lovers Need Lawyers EP and Album of the Year.

Kasher created a another record with Cursive which was released in August 2006, entitled Happy Hollow. In 2009, Cursive released their latest effort, 'Mama, I'm Swollen'. The Good Life, despite a near breakup in late 2005, returned to the studio to release the album, 'Help Wanted Nights' in September 2007.

Under his own name, Tim Kasher recorded a song called "Stranger Than Strangers" which was released on a compilation CD called "My Favorite Songwriters." He released the solo album 'The Game of Monogamy' in 2010, and a follow-up disc of songs from that session called 'Bigamy', in 2011.

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Tim Kasher Lyrics

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You're trying to remember why you cut all your hair.
Were you trying to be someone you weren't?
You don't hang around the old haunts anymore, no, all the of those bridges are burned.
He doesn't like to share you, he likes your hair short.
You're not you, you're not you anymore.

So, take off that necklace he stole from his mother,
It doesn't mean what it meant before.

Pack up your pictures and gather all your clothes,
But leave that lingerie that he bought you on the floor.
It made you so awkward, you felt like a whore.
You're not you, you're not you anymore.

Girl, you need to be patient, the days gonna come,
You'll leave your old baggage behind.
No more excuses, no more denials; you're tired and you're drawing the line.

You're nobody's lapdog, you're closing that door.
You're not you, you're not you anymore.

Overall Meaning

In Tim Kasher's "You're Not You Anymore," the lyrics touch on themes of identity, autonomy, and self-discovery within a relationship. The singer is reflecting on a decision they made to drastically change their appearance by cutting all their hair. They're questioning their motives behind this choice and wondering if it was an attempt to be someone they're not. The singer also notes that they no longer frequent their old haunts, and all bridges behind them have been burned.

The song takes a darker turn as the singer describes their partner's possessive behavior, including a preference for short hair. The singer recognizes they've lost parts of themselves within the relationship, and they're not the same person they used to be. They decide to reclaim their sense of self by packing up their belongings, including pictures and clothes, but leaving behind lingerie their partner bought them. The lingerie makes the singer feel like "a whore," and they recognize they need to draw the line and stand up for themselves.

Line by Line Meaning

You're trying to remember why you cut all your hair.
You're trying to figure out why you made a drastic change to your appearance.

Were you trying to be someone you weren't?
Were you trying to fit into someone else's idea of who you should be?

You don't hang around the old haunts anymore, no, all the of those bridges are burned.
You've moved on from your past and the relationships associated with it are over.

He doesn't like to share you, he likes your hair short.
He's possessive and controlling and prefers your appearance the way he likes it.

You're not you, you're not you anymore.
You've changed so much that you don't recognize yourself anymore.

So, take off that necklace he stole from his mother,
Remove anything that he gave you or took from his family.

It doesn't mean what it meant before.
It's lost its sentimental value after everything that's happened.

Pack up your pictures and gather all your clothes,
Prepare to leave and start anew.

But leave that lingerie that he bought you on the floor.
You don't want to take anything with you that reminds you of him or the past you want to leave behind.

It made you so awkward, you felt like a whore.
It made you uncomfortable and degraded, as if it was an item for his pleasure and not yours.

You're nobody's lapdog, you're closing that door.
You're not going to be controlled or manipulated anymore, and it's time to move on.

Girl, you need to be patient, the days gonna come,
It's going to take time and patience for you to heal and find yourself again.

You'll leave your old baggage behind.
You're going to let go of the past and its burdens, and move forward.

No more excuses, no more denials; you're tired and you're drawing the line.
You're done making excuses and ignoring the truth of what's happened, and you're setting boundaries to protect yourself.

You're not you, you're not you anymore.
You've changed and grown past what you used to be, and you're moving on to a new phase of life.

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