Hold Her Down
Toad The Wet Sprocket Lyrics


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Hold Her Down

take her arms and hold her down...
until she stops kicking
take her arms and hold her down...
until she she stops moving

and they don't know her
but what the fuck
they've got nothing else they can do
and they've no reason
but still they come

and i
would have a hard time facing you
this crime
the shame of what a man can do

take her arms and hold her down...
until she stops screaming
take her arms and hold her down...
until she stops breathing

and they don't know her
but what the fuck
they've got nothing else they can do
and they've no reason
but still they come

and i
would have a hard time facing you
this crime
the shame of what a man can do

take the night back




all they've stolen
all we took from you

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Toad The Wet Sprocket's song "Hold Her Down" are disturbing and difficult to interpret. The song is seemingly about sexual assault and the effects of toxic masculinity. The repeated phrase "take her arms and hold her down" is chilling and suggests the violent act of rape. The subsequent phrases "until she stops kicking/moving/screaming/breathing" only reinforce this idea. The singer appears to be a bystander or a witness to the act, as they comment on the people who are committing the crime- "they don't know her/but what the f***/they've got nothing else they can do/and they've no reason/but still they come". These lines suggest that the people committing the crime are doing so without motive, or out of pure aggression and violence.


The chorus of the song includes the lines "and I/would have a hard time facing you/this crime/the shame of what a man can do". Here, the singer is acknowledging the shame and disgust they feel towards the perpetrator(s) of the crime. However, the line "the shame of what a man can do" suggests that there is a larger issue at play here- that of toxic masculinity and how it perpetuates violence against women.


The final verse of the song is a call to action- "take the night back/all they've stolen/all we took from you". The singer is urging listeners to take back the power and control that has been taken from victims of sexual assault. The use of the word "we" here suggests that the singer and others are standing in solidarity with survivors of sexual assault, and are actively working towards change.


Line by Line Meaning

take her arms and hold her down...
Restraining her using force


until she stops kicking
Continuous struggle from the victim that eventually subsides


until she she stops moving
Subduing the victim until they no longer move


and they don't know her
The attackers have no personal relationship or connection with the victim. She is a random target.


but what the fuck
The attackers have no legitimate reason for attacking the victim. It's an impulsive, senseless act.


they've got nothing else they can do
Attacking an innocent woman is the only option left for the attackers.


and they've no reason
The attackers have no valid justification for choosing the victim.


but still they come
Despite knowing it's a wrong act, the attackers still proceed with their heinous crime.


and i
The singer, as a man, feels ashamed and guilty for the atrocities of these attackers towards women.


would have a hard time facing you
The singer would be unable to face the victim if he were in the attackers' shoes.


this crime
The attack on the woman is a serious crime and a matter of shame for society.


the shame of what a man can do
The singer feels that men are responsible for most crimes committed against women and must be held accountable.


take the night back
Making the night safe for women again and implementing measures to prevent such violence from happening again.


all they've stolen
The attackers have stolen the victim's sense of security, dignity, and freedom.


all we took from you
As a society, we tend to overlook the problems faced by women, their physical and mental health, and their freedom. It's time to take a stand for them.




Lyrics © O/B/O CAPASSO
Written by: DINNING, GUSS, NICHOLS, PHILLIPS

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

zedmelon

@Heather L' Vac @Michelle
I'm male and can't provide more than empathy (as opposed to true understanding) for sexual assault victims, but...
I suspect you are both approaching the same thing from different perspectives.

The song's music is infectious, expertly written, and the lyrics evoke powerful, primal emotion--it compels me to fight and defend someone I'll never meet--and then mourn the fact that I wasn't there to help. The subject matter belies zoning out and getting "lost in the music," like one might be able to do with other songs like Walk on the Ocean or Nightingale Song

Then again many of their lyrics are thought provoking and are a big part of why I've loved this band for three decades
:,)

My GF and I watched Freedom Writers last night. I told her it's a good film, but it put me into a heavily despondent mood--reminding me of the horrific atrocities human beings are capable of inflicting upon one another.
"like Hold Her Down by Toad the Wet Sprocket." Then I recited the lyrics for her. Both of us wiping our eyes, I searched this on YT. She made me not play it for her...she didn't want to hear it. I played it after she left the room.
<3



All comments from YouTube:

KS Turner

You know, 25+ years jamming to these guys and first time I have even seen the band!! One of the most underrated?? well may be unique bands of the 90's. A sound 100% their own.

Dan Kean

I live in the Philippines. I will never get that chance.

Mairi Quodomine

Song perfectly describes my assault. When I try to explain what happened I use this song. I must have played it a million times after the I first heard it. Still my favorite album. Thanks guys

Bob Lewis

Mairi Quodomine my youngest daughter was sexually assaulted twice in 2019! I was enraged. She handled it better than I did! God Bless You Both!

Carolyn Lyford Sullivan

I understand. It makes me angry.

Matty C

I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's not acceptable for our "civilized" society. I don't understand how people get their kicks from that.

CARYN GEORGE

I think this song rocks so hard.  Good for you guys writing about the horrors of what "men" can do and taking back the night for those who have been through such a Godawful thing.  This band is awesome.

Wood 'n' Stuff w/ Steve French

Why the quotes? "Men" only means adult male human, nothing more.

Buffalohump

@Wood 'n' Stuff w/ Steve French It means much more than that to me...

kisscatastrophe

this was written in 1988 in response to the attempted kidnapping, beating and attempted rape of two close friends of the band and of Glen's girlfriend at the time. no one was actually raped thank god, but it inspired this song. the band felt it was too much at the time of it's recording during the "Pale" sessions so they shelved it and it ended up being retooled and rerecorded for "fear" in 1991 and became the first single

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