Debonair
Afghan Whigs Lyrics


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Hear me now and don't forget
I'm not the man my actions would suggest
A little boy, I'm tied to you
I fell apart
That's what I always do
This ain't about regret
My conscience can't be found
This time I won't repent
Somebody's going down
Feel it now and don't resist
This time the anger's better than the kiss
I must admit when so inclined
I tend to lose it than confront my mind
Cause it don't bleed and it don't breathe
It's locked its jaws and now it's swallowing
It's in our heart
It's in our head
It's in our love
Baby it's in our bed
Tonight I go to hell
For what I've done to you
This ain't about regret
It's when I tell the truth
And once again the monster speaks
Reveals his face and searches for release
A little boy is tied to you
Attracted only 'til it comes unglued
Cause it don't bleed and it don't breathe
It's locked its jaws and now it's swallowing
It's in our heart
It's in our head
It's in our love
Baby it's in our bed
Tonight I go to hell
For what I've done to you
This ain't about regret
It's when I tell the truth
Tonight I go to hell




For what I've done to you
This ain't about regret

Overall Meaning

The Afghan Whigs' Debonair is a hauntingly intense track that reflects on the self-destructive nature of a relationship. The lyrics convey the idea that the singer is not necessarily the man that his actions would suggest he is. He confesses to being a little boy who is tied to his partner, but when things come apart, he falls apart too. The singer accepts that this is not about regret but about accepting the truth. Someone is going down, and he won't be repenting this time.


The chorus repeats the idea that "It's in our heart, it's in our head, it's in our love, baby it's in our bed." This repetition reminds us that the problem is not just physical but emotional too. The damage that has been done to their relationship cannot be undone. The singer is not just expressing his guilt but his acceptance that he will go to hell for his actions even though he feels that this isn't just about regret.


The song captures the pain of a love that's gone wrong, leading both partners to hell. The singer is trapped in a vicious cycle of addiction and co-dependency, unable to leave even though he knows he should. The song captures the intense emotional turmoil that comes with betraying someone you love.


Line by Line Meaning

Hear me now and don't forget
Listen closely to what I'm about to say and remember it


I'm not the man my actions would suggest
My behavior doesn't accurately reflect who I am


A little boy, I'm tied to you
I have a childlike dependence on you


I fell apart, That's what I always do
I have a pattern of losing control and breaking down


This ain't about regret, My conscience can't be found
I don't feel guilty about what I've done


This time I won't repent, Somebody's going down
I'm not sorry and someone will suffer the consequences


Feel it now and don't resist, This time the anger's better than the kiss
Embrace the anger instead of trying to suppress it with a kiss


I must admit when so inclined, I tend to lose it than confront my mind
I have a tendency to lose control rather than dealing with my thoughts and emotions


Cause it don't bleed and it don't breathe, It's locked its jaws and now it's swallowing, It's in our heart, It's in our head, It's in our love, Baby it's in our bed
The issues between us aren't physical but they consume us emotionally and mentally


Tonight I go to hell, For what I've done to you, This ain't about regret, It's when I tell the truth
I'm willing to face the consequences of my actions and be honest, even if it hurts


And once again the monster speaks, Reveals his face and searches for release
My darker impulses take over and I can't control them


Attracted only 'til it comes unglued
I'm only drawn to you until the relationship falls apart




Lyrics © Hipgnosis Songs Group
Written by: GREG DULLI

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Comments from YouTube:

@MikeBrodyComic

This album changed my life. I was all STP and Candlebox in 1993 as a 15 year old like everybody else and then I saw this video on 120 Minutes and I was floored. I was like "WHO IS THIS EVIL MAN JUST SITTING THERE WHILE PEOPLE FIGHT?!" It opened my eyes to a whole other world of music and I've never been the same since. This album has never left my top five since 1993. 100% masterpiece.

@lavalady5571

I was 17, saw it on 120 Minutes, and thought it was such a powerful song. Bought the album and there are some really incredible songs on it, Debonair was only the tip of the iceberg. The whole 'Gentleman' album still moves me to this day.

@katrinakovalenko6206

Same !!!! I was 15 in 1993 and this album was one of the soundtracks of my life growing up in the 90’s. Such a rad time to grow up. Miss the 90’s. Such an underrated album. Truly a masterpiece

@ggab7969

I’m 15 now and i am a candelbox, Stp and afghan whigs fan.

@HzHzder

I discovered the Whigs 2 years ago and they made me a man, praise Dulli, that man got style!

@ylewis11

Same!!

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@michaelgass4321

EASILY one of the most UNDERRATED COMPLETE albums of the early 1990s...from beginning to end, nothing dissapoints. YEAH I SAID IT

@leonidaskotrozinis1154

Michael Gass Agreed....

@berlinsaintclair9100

Michael Gass Hell to the yessss.

@scottnichols8389

Preach.

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