Gentlemen
Afghan Whigs Lyrics


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Your attention, please
Now turn off the light
Your infection, please
I haven't got all night
Understand, do you understand?
Understand, I'm a gentleman
I'm a gentleman
I stayed in too long
But she was the perfect fit
And we dragged it out so long this time
Started to make each other sick

But now I've got time for you
For you, you, you and me to
Well, come and get it, come and get it
Cause I'm done

Understand, do you understand?
Understand, I'm a gentleman

I waited for the joke, it never did arrive
And words I thought I'd smoke

Let me in I'm cold
All messed up but nowhere to go
You got indecision, and indecision is my enemy
Unlock the cabinet, hey hey hey
I'll take whatever you got, got, got
Now I'm on it, now I'm on it
And you're done

I waited for the joke
It never did arrive




And words I thought I'd choke
I hardly recognize

Overall Meaning

The song "Gentlemen" by Afghan Whigs is a perplexing journey of self-awareness and reflection as the lead singer explores his emotional baggage and relationships. The song is a passionate plea for attention and connection, but also a warning about the dark consequences of toxic relationships.


The first verse sets the tone for the song with the command "Your attention, please," foreshadowing the intense emotional upheaval to come. The singer then asks his partner to "turn off the light," perhaps to create a more intimate and vulnerable atmosphere. He acknowledges that his partner is infected with the same emotional turmoil as him and that they both need to address it. The repeated refrain of "Understand, do you understand? Understand, I'm a gentleman" is both a statement of respect and a warning that he demands to be treated with respect as well.


The second verse focuses on a previous relationship that the singer stayed in for too long, even though it was slowly killing them both. He now recognizes that he has time for something new and better with the "you, you, you, and me" he refers to. The chorus repeats again, emphasizing the importance of understanding that he is a gentleman.


The final verse becomes more desperate, as the singer seeks connection with someone else. He acknowledges that he is "All messed up, but nowhere to go" and needs someone to let him in. He recognizes that indecision can be his enemy and demands action, asking his partner to "unlock the cabinet" and give him whatever they've got, proclaiming "Now I'm on it, now I'm on it, and you're done." The song ends with a sense of frustration and disconnectedness, as the singer says he "waited for the joke" and finds that he doesn't even recognize himself anymore.


Overall, "Gentlemen" is a complex and emotional exploration of toxic relationships, the importance of communication and respect, and the consequences of emotional baggage.


Line by Line Meaning

Your attention, please
I need you to listen to what I have to say


Now turn off the light
Let's create a more intimate setting by turning off the light


Your infection, please
I want you to share with me your negative influences


I haven't got all night
I am running out of time, so let's get to it


Understand, do you understand?
I need to ensure that you are comprehending what I am saying


Understand, I'm a gentleman
I am a polite and respectful individual


I stayed in too long
I was committed to a relationship for too long


But she was the perfect fit
My partner and I were compatible in many ways


And we dragged it out so long this time
We stayed in the relationship despite it being unhealthy for both of us


Started to make each other sick
Our relationship began to cause negative effects on our mental and emotional well-being


But now I've got time for you
Now that I am not in that relationship, I have more time for you


For you, you, you and me to
We can all spend time together


Well, come and get it, come and get it
Feel free to take advantage of the opportunity


Cause I'm done
I am finished with my previous relationship and ready to move on


I waited for the joke, it never did arrive
I hoped for a happy ending, but it did not happen


And words I thought I'd smoke
I expected something to be easy, but it was not


Let me in I'm cold
I want to be close to you for warmth and comfort


All messed up but nowhere to go
I am in a bad place emotionally, but I do not know what to do about it


You got indecision, and indecision is my enemy
I struggle to deal with indecisiveness


Unlock the cabinet, hey hey hey
I want access to something important


I'll take whatever you got, got, got
I am willing to take whatever you are willing to provide


Now I'm on it, now I'm on it
I am fully focused on what I need to do


And you're done
I have gotten what I came for and you have fulfilled your role


I waited for the joke
I had unrealistic expectations


It never did arrive
The situation did not turn out as I hoped


And words I thought I'd choke
I felt overwhelmed and unable to express myself


I hardly recognize
I am not the same person I once was




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Written by: GREG DULLI

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Most interesting comment from YouTube:

@j.dovales8713

This song still makes it for me, over 20 years later and it's still as fresh today as when I first heard it. Especially the power in some of the verses that stand out:
 "I stayed in too long
But she was the perfect fit
And we dragged it out so long this time
Started to make each other sick" and
"Let me in I'm cold
All messed up but nowhere to go
You got indecision, and indecision is my enemy
Well, unlock the cabinet, hey
I'll take whatever you got, got, got
Now I'm on it, now I'm on it
And you're done"
Wow! Fuckin' brilliant.



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@indiemixtape

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@ttidforever7416

The Buzz coffee house in Cincinnati. Alas, no longer there, but nostalgic just the same.

@kindkidbk

being little again

@donramonito

Working at the Tower Records store in NY.

@flip65515

Making playlists for my ex girlfriend who was a stripper. And the douchebags in the club looking around as if to say "What the fuck?"

@frankmorton514

White America.

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@sweetforthetitties

Afghan Whigs are the true meaning of underrated. Why they were not massive Ill never know. Deep lyrics, killer funk swagger, a frontman that had everything and the drummer is just a powerhouse. All their albums are consistently good. This song is just timeless.

@thehnicee

One of the most underrated alternative bands...this song will never get old

@MixedRogueKhorri

so true

@miguelacosta5446

true

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