Unlovable
Darren Hayes Lyrics


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Are my lips unkissable?
Are my eyes unlookable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Am I unlovable?

Cynical, jaded, faithless, disappointed, disillusioned, used
If I could take back all my sweat, my tears, my sex, my joy I would
My time, my love, my effort, passion, dedication
In case of mistaken identity I gave these things to you
If I sound angry, bitter, sad, infatuated, it's the truth
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, just a few
Stages of acceptance that it's really over
It's just so complicated and I'm stupid for believing in you

You make me feel like my father never loved me
You make me feel like the act of love is empty
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

I had your back, I held you up, I told you you were good enough
It was not reciprocated, you kept affection and yourself apart
You fed your love to me like crumbs to pigeons in the park
Sometimes I think you're satisfied to see me begging like a dog
I wasn't armored, you were king, I gave my everything
Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then
For just a moment I romanticized the notion
I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did

You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my heart unbreakable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you despise?

Are my lips unkissable?
Are my eyes unlookable?
Is my sex undoable?
Am I unlovable?
Are my words unlistenable?
Are my hands untouchable?
Am I undesirable?
Am I unlovable?

You make me feel like my father never loved me
You make me feel like the act of love is empty
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my heart unbreakable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you despise?

You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)




You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)

Overall Meaning

"Unlovable" by Darren Hayes is a song about a person who feels unlovable and undesirable. In the song, the singer questions their own worth, asking if their lips are unkissable, their skin untouchable, and if they are truly unlovable. The song is a powerful commentary on the emotional damage that can be done to someone when they feel unwanted or unloved. Throughout the song, the singer expresses feelings of anger, bitterness, and sadness, reflecting the complex emotions that come with feeling unloved.


The lyrics in "Unlovable" also touch upon themes of abandonment and disappointment. The singer compares their own experiences to those of their parents, who they feel never truly loved or cared for them. This adds to the feelings of loneliness and isolation that are already present in the song. The repeated refrain of "You make me feel like my father never loved me/You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me" is a powerful statement that resonates with anyone who has experienced similar feelings of emotional neglect.


Overall, "Unlovable" is a deeply introspective and emotional song that speaks to anyone who has ever felt unwanted or undeserving of love.


Line by Line Meaning

Are my lips unkissable?
You make me feel so undesirable that no one would ever want to kiss me


Are my eyes unlookable?
I feel so ashamed and unattractive that you cannot bear to look at me


Is my skin untouchable?
You treat me like a disease or an object, refusing to touch me or come close to me


Am I unlovable?
You have made me question my worth and whether anyone could ever love me


If I could take back all my sweat, my tears, my sex, my joy I would
I regret giving you everything, from my hard work to my emotional vulnerability and my physical intimacy


My time, my love, my effort, passion, dedication
I gave you all of me, investing so much love and energy into the relationship


In case of mistaken identity I gave these things to you
I realize now that I gave my love and trust to the wrong person, mistaking you for someone who would cherish it


If I sound angry, bitter, sad, infatuated, it's the truth
My emotions are all over the place, reflecting the complex and conflicting feelings I have towards you


Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, just a few
I am going through the five stages of grief, trying to come to terms with the end of our relationship


Stages of acceptance that it's really over
I am slowly starting to understand that our relationship is truly over, and that I need to move on


It's just so complicated and I'm stupid for believing in you
I am blaming myself for getting involved in this complicated and painful relationship, and for believing in your false promises


Sometimes I think you're satisfied to see me begging like a dog
You seem to enjoy exerting power over me and making me feel small and desperate


I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did
I still desperately want to be with you and love you in a way that no one else ever has, hoping it will make you see my worth


Am I so unlovable?
You have made me feel so worthless that I question whether I deserve to be loved


Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?
Maybe my presence brings out an insecurity or flaw that you don't want to confront


You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)
Your rejection and lack of love makes me feel like I am reliving the childhood trauma of my mother abandoning me


Is my heart unbreakable?
Despite all the hurt and pain you have caused me, I still have hope that I will eventually heal and find love again


You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You have triggered a deep-seated fear and insecurity that I am unlovable and unworthy of love, just like how I felt with my father




Lyrics © O/B/O APRA AMCOS
Written by: CONLEY, HAYES

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