Cath
Death Cab for Cutie Lyrics


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Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man
But she can't relax with his hands on the small of her back
And as the flash bulbs burst
She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child

And soon everybody will ask what became of you
And your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do
Cath, it seems that you live in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are oppressed
You said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more

And soon everybody will ask what became of you
And your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do

The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews
But if their hearts were dying that fast,




They'd have done the same as you
And I'd have done the same as you.

Overall Meaning

The song "Cath" by Death Cab for Cutie follows the story of a woman named Cath who is in a relationship with a well-intentioned man, but she appears uncomfortable with his physical touch. The song suggests that Cath is unhappy with her life, living in someone else's dream in a hand-me-down wedding dress. She has closed the door on potential lovers who could have loved her more. The song implies that Cath made a mistake in choosing the life she did, but the whispers of those around her indicate that they too are going through similar issues and would have made the same choices if in her position.


The chorus emphasizes that Cath's heart was dying fast, and she didn't know what to do, suggesting that Cath is struggling to find a way out of this unhappy situation. The line "And soon everybody will ask what became of you" adds to the pressure that Cath is feeling, as if she will be judged if she does not conform to societal expectations. The final line of the song, "And I'd have done the same as you," implies understanding from the singer or the audience towards Cath, suggesting that some of us might make similar choices if in her position.


Overall, "Cath" by Death Cab for Cutie is a song that questions the societal expectations of marriage and relationships, suggesting that people often make decisions that do not make them happy, but rather conform to expectations of others.


Line by Line Meaning

Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man
Cath is with a guy who has good intentions


But she can't relax with his hands on the small of her back
Cath feels uneasy with her partner's touch


And as the flash bulbs burst
There are flashbulbs going off, probably photographers taking photos


She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child
Cath has to put on a smile, even though it's a difficult situation


Cath, it seems that you live in someone else's dream
It appears that Cath's life is being lived for someone else, not for herself


In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Cath is wearing a dress that was passed down from someone else


Where the things that could have been are oppressed
The possibilities that could have been possible are suppressed or forgotten


You said your vows, and you closed the door
Cath made her vows and shut the door on other potential options


On so many men who would have loved you more
There were other people who would have loved Cath even more than her current partner


And soon everybody will ask what became of you
Everyone will wonder what happened to Cath


And your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do
Cath was struggling with feelings of heartbreak and didn't know how to proceed


The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews
People are whispering that this relationship won't last


But if their hearts were dying that fast,
If other people's hearts were breaking as fast as Cath's was…


They'd have done the same as you
…they would have made the same decision as Cath did


And I'd have done the same as you.
The singer (presumably the singer) would have done the same as Cath




Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC
Written by: BENJAMIN GIBBARD

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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

@crow1628

Cath, she stands
With a well-intentioned man
But she can't relax
With his hand on the small of her back
And as the flashbulbs burst
She holds a smile
Like someone would hold
A crying child
And soon everybody will ask
What became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do
Cath, it seems
That you lived in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are oppressed
But you said your vows
And you closed the door
On so many men
Who would have loved you more
And soon everybody will ask
What became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do
The whispers that it won't last
Roll up and down the pews
But if their hearts were dying that fast
They'd have done the same as you
And I'd have done the same as you



@ubecocomatchag9227

Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man
But she can't relax with his hands on the small of her back
And as the flash bulbs burst
She holds a smile
Like someone would hold
A crying child

And soon everybody will ask what became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do

Cath, it seems
That you live in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are oppressed
You said your vows
And you closed the door
On so many men
Who would have loved you more

And soon everybody will ask what became of you
And your heart was dying fast
And you didn't know what to do

The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews
But if their hearts were dying that fast
They'd have done the same as you
And I'd have done the same as you



@tamiewhiteisboring

Cath...

she stands with a well-intentioned man
But she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back
And as the flashbulbs burst
She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child

And soon everybody will ask what became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do

Cath...

it seems that you live in someone else's dream
In a hand-me-down wedding dress
Where the things that could have been are repressed
But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more

And soon everybody will ask what became of you
'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do

The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews
But if their hearts were dying that fast,
They'd have done the same as you
And I'd have done the same as you



@pariahmouse7794

I lived this song, Lír.
Tried to, for you.
But...
There WAS a man, who would love me more.
My heart was dying fast, and I finally figured out what to do...
And that was leave you.
I am sorry, Lír, for the pain I caused you.
But that's all I am sorry for...
Best wishes, my friend.



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@mattwheat9722

"She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child,"

That lyric hits me every time. This song is so beautifully written. Go DCFC!

@TroyHuffmanJr

I picture that face everytime.

@kitcalderon7925

how would someone hold a crying child?

@skrimpdaddy

@Kit Calderón with a nervous smile....

@kitcalderon7925

seems a pretty negative portrayal of parenthood, but i guess that fits into the band's general thematics (not hating or anything i love the song, it just occurred to me that perhaps that line was revealing something of gibbard's internalised attitudes towards family.)

@skrimpdaddy

I didn’t get that from this song or that specific lyric I think he is commenting on cath marrying because she is expected to, which makes her unsure and not confident in her decision or choice of husband. So the nervous smile ensues, and that reference is not anti family as much as it is the nervous helplessness of having a crying child in public that produces a nervous smile to a crowd while TRYING to comfort a baby.

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@lawrencegeorge5076

I don't think a lot of people know how truly romantically fantastic this band was.

Such a great song.

@isaac_smith

is*

@tomasranta6154

Was? Just saw them in Knoxville and they were great.

@stoicnotsad

Absolutely an ace teir top notch band I'd say

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