The Way I Tend To Be
Frank Turner Lyrics


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Some mornings I pray for evening,
For the day to be done.
Some summer days I hide away
And wait for rain to come.
'Cause it turns out hell will not be found
Within the fires below,
But in making do and muddling through
When you've nowhere else to go.

But then I remember you,
And the way you shine like truth in all you do.
And if you remembered me,
You could save me from the way I tend to be.
The way I tend to be

Some days I wake up dazed my dear,
And don't know where I am.
I've been running now so long I'm scared
I've forgotten how to stand.
And I stand alone in airport bars
And gather thoughts to think:
That if all I had was one long road
It could drive a man to drink.

But then I remember you,
And the way you shine like truth in all you do.
And if you remembered me,
You could save me from the way I tend to be.

Because I've said I love you so many times that the words kinda die in my mouth.
And I meant it each time with each beautiful woman but somehow it never works out.
You stood apart in my calloused heart, and you taught me and here's what I learned:
That love is about the changes you make and not just three small words.

And then I catch myself
Catching your scent on someone else
In a crowded space
And it takes me somewhere I cannot quite place.

But then I remember you,
And the way you shine like truth in all you do.
And if you remembered me,
You could save me from the way I tend to be.
The way I tend to be.





The way I tend to be,
The way I tend to be.

Overall Meaning

In "The Way I Tend to Be," Frank Turner beautifully captures the vulnerability that comes with being human. The song starts with Turner admitting that some mornings he just wants the day to be over and done with. He wants time to move quickly to take him away from whatever pain he's feeling. He continues by expressing how some days he wishes for the rain to come and wash away all that's troubling him. However, he knows that true misery doesn't reside in external circumstances but in the ability to cope with those difficulties.


The chorus speaks of a person who can lift him out of his misery, someone who can give him hope by being truthful in all they do. Turner feels that if this person remembers him and reaches out to him, they can save him from the way he tends to be. He admits to being afraid of himself, of losing himself in the process of living. However, he finds comfort in the idea that he's not alone and can rely on another person to help him find the way. The song ends with Turner acknowledging that he's closer to finding his way back when he remembers this person who gives him hope, truth and love.


The song is touching and widely relatable. It speaks to the pain of trying to navigate life and the comfort of having someone to lean on. It's a reminder to hold on to those who help us see the best in ourselves, even when everything else seems bleak.


Line by Line Meaning

Some mornings I pray for evening,
There are days when I feel so exhausted and defeated that I just want the day to be over and hope tomorrow is better.


For the day to be done.
I want the day to be over so I can rest and start fresh tomorrow.


Some summer days I hide away And wait for rain to come.
Sometimes the pressure of being happy and enjoying life is too much, so I retreat until I feel better or until an external event changes my circumstances.


'Cause it turns out hell will not be found Within the fires below, But in making do and muddling through When you've nowhere else to go.
We often assume that our worst moments will be dramatic and catastrophic, but it's the ordinary and mundane moments when everything seems hopeless and we have to struggle to survive that can feel like hell.


But then I remember you, And the way you shine like truth in all you do.
Thinking of you gives me hope and inspiration because you embody the best qualities of humanity and inspire me to be a better version of myself.


And if you remembered me, You could save me from the way I tend to be.
If you knew how much you mean to me and how much your love has helped me cope with life, you could help me stay on the right path.


Some days I wake up dazed my dear, And don't know where I am.
Sometimes life feels so overwhelming and confusing that I lose my sense of direction and purpose.


I've been running now so long I'm scared I've forgotten how to stand.
I've been trying so hard to keep moving forward that I'm afraid I've lost the ability to slow down and appreciate what's around me.


And I stand alone in airport bars And gather thoughts to think: That if all I had was one long road It could drive a man to drink.
Sometimes when I'm traveling or feeling disconnected from my life, I realize how lonely and isolating it can be to have only one path in life, and this can make me feel helpless and despairing.


Because I've said I love you so many times that the words kinda die in my mouth.
I've expressed love to many people, but those words feel empty and meaningless compared to the depth of my feelings for you.


And I meant it each time with each beautiful woman but somehow it never works out.
I've loved other people before, but for some reason those relationships didn't last, and I'm still searching for something more meaningful and lasting.


You stood apart in my calloused heart, and you taught me and here's what I learned: That love is about the changes you make and not just three small words.
You are different from everyone else I've loved because you taught me that love is an active process of growth and transformation, not just a feeling or a word.


And then I catch myself Catching your scent on someone else In a crowded space And it takes me somewhere I cannot quite place.
Sometimes when I'm reminded of you by a familiar smell or sound, I'm transported to a place where I feel both comforted and haunted by memories of our relationship.


The way I tend to be,
My default way of living and coping with life, which can be difficult and lonely.


The way I tend to be.
Even though this is my default way of living and coping, I know I can overcome it and make positive changes with your love and support.




Lyrics Β© BMG Rights Management
Written by: FRANK TURNER

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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

@joshrich43

So, this is kind of just conjecture, but here's my understanding of the video.Β 

The reason Frank is wearing the 'the end is coming' sandwich board, is literally symbolic of the feeling at the end of a relationship, where it all feels inevitable, that it's coming to an end. That's all rather straight forward. My favourite part of the video though, has to be the hole digging.

I think this is literally him 'digging himself a hole', or getting himself into a bad situation after a relationship, emotionally. He often refers to drinking in his songs, so lets say that after a relationship, Frank gets a little boozy and depressed. The wonderful metaphor is the girl at the end. He spots her, and it literally and metaphorically brings him out of his hole, making him feel better, and giving him the impetus to move on.

Zooming out on the several holes just shows that this is a repeated process, and something Frank is all too familiar with.

Read this and think it's bullshit, or agree, it's all just art, so is completely subjective, this is just my understanding!



@ciorstanmacgregor6897

joshrich43 I think slightly differnt, shes is always behind him, and he looks through her, so although it is her that helps him move on, its the memory of her and the relationship that he knows that he fucked up. "i remember you and the way you shine like truth" Β 


so the end is coming, the end of him ruining his relationships for stupid reasons, like after all those holes, all those fuck ups, he has finally learned from what she told him all those ruined relationships ago.


He tends to sabotage relationships but finally knows that he wants to wake up with familiarity, he doesnt want to be always on the road anymore.


He is ready now to finally to take on a real relationship and to truly love, to make the changes for someone he never could for the girl in the video which is why he walks past her, kind of think it is a "right one at the wrong time" kind of situation here



All comments from YouTube:

@wondereyedrive

Driving to work this morning, it was freezing cold, raining, a miserable day. Then this song came on the radio. I'd never heard it before. But soon enough I couldn't stop smiling. I had this overwhelming feeling that everything will be alright.

@RDubbayah

7 Years later and I still can't sing the prechorus without crying. This song has stood the test of time.

@kaylinburchill40

My (now) husband showed me Frank Turner a few years back. I really needed his music when I heard it. I was in a dark place and this music saved me. At the time, my husband and I were best friends, nothing romantic. Now, our son is almost 1 year old and I couldn't be happier

@p0rq

Frank is a fertility god.

@TDMoffical

This belongs in r/wholesome posts

@greenwave819

Way to go!!!

@garbanzo_bean

Poor guy had to show good jams to not be Friend zoned

@codassong

@Violin-ce 🎻 unexpected reddit

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@planetfrank1994

For those asking for the meaning of the video, it is a metaphorical take on the song itself. The singer tends to be depressed and hopeless, shown here by him digging himself a grave. But no matter how many graves he digs, he always climbs out of it and walks away from giving up life because of the memory of his ex. It's a beautifully poignant video, and it really brings out the emotions of the song (and a tear in your eye). :D

@dizzotizzo69

One of the best song writers of all time.

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