My Cousin
Frida Hyvönen Lyrics


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My cousin got married in a distant land
Wonder where, wonder how, wonder who.
And then she got married to another man
Again a love and new.
Now they have 3 girls spreading their light in the world
I sleep in their guestroom sometimes
When I pass through town.
I'm not the marrying kind, and neither are you
But still I am absurd enough
To ask you, if we were the marrying kind
Would it be my hand you'd ask for?
Would you be the dad of the children I most likely won't have?
Is that how much you like me? Or is it not even close?
Oh, I know my question doesn't make sense at all
Since we live outside the realms of yes and no
I know my question doesn't make sense at all
But, I know somehow I need I need to know
I know my question doesn't make sense at all
Since we live outside the realms of yes an no




I know my question doesn't make sense at all
But,I know somehow I need I need I need I need I need I need I need to know.

Overall Meaning

In "My Cousin," Frida Hyvönen reflects on marriage and the human need for companionship in a story about her cousin's three marriages. The lyrics capture Frida's sense of wonder and curiosity over the idea of marriage and the possibility of building a life with someone else. She muses over the significance of her cousin's marriages and the love that brought her back to the altar again and again.


As the song progresses, Frida's introspection turns towards her own life and relationship with the person she's addressing. She acknowledges that they both are not naturally inclined or interested in marriage, yet wonders if there's a possibility that they could be the kind of person the other would marry, if the situation were different. She poses the hypothetical question about whether or not they would want to have children, and if they would consider building a life together.


Throughout the song, there's a sense of longing and desire for connection, even as the realities of life and personal inclinations make it seem unlikely. The repetition of the phrase "I know my question doesn't make sense at all" highlights the absurdity of the question being asked, but also underscores the importance of the answer. Ultimately, the song is an exploration of human emotion and desire, and the complexities of building a life with someone else.


Line by Line Meaning

My cousin got married in a distant land
My cousin got married in a faraway place


Wonder where, wonder how, wonder who.
I wonder where the wedding was held, how it happened, and who the groom is


And then she got married to another man
My cousin got remarried to a different man


Again a love and new.
She found new love again


Now they have 3 girls spreading their light in the world
They now have three daughters who bring joy to the world


I sleep in their guestroom sometimes
When I visit, I occasionally stay in their guest bedroom


When I pass through town.
Whenever I'm in their town


I'm not the marrying kind, and neither are you
We both aren't interested in getting married


But still I am absurd enough
Despite this fact, I am still illogical enough


To ask you, if we were the marrying kind
To ask you, if we were interested in marriage


Would it be my hand you'd ask for?
Would you propose to me?


Would you be the dad of the children I most likely won't have?
Would you be willing to be the father of my hypothetical children?


Is that how much you like me? Or is it not even close?
Is that how much you care about me or not at all?


Oh, I know my question doesn't make sense at all
I'm aware that my question is nonsensical


Since we live outside the realms of yes and no
Because our situation doesn't fit into a simple yes or no answer


But, I know somehow I need I need to know
But I still feel that I need to know


But,I know somehow I need I need I need I need I need I need I need to know.
But, I know that I desperately need to know




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