It’s really just a fun, matter of fact song about cutting a toxic person out of your life.
The song was first teased through Jeremy’s Instagram on February 24, 2020, which announced the release date. Two days later, Jeremy posted again with a snippet of the song preparing his followers for the official release.
“This was the only song on the album that I wrote with other writers, Max Martin’s MXM. We worked on a bunch of ideas with that team, and “not ur friend” was the coolest song that came out of those sessions. We were just all cracking up while writing it because the lyrics are just so flippant. This is the antithesis to the type of music that I make, because it’s very much like, “Fuck you, I’m out.” It’s a selfish song, which, in its own way, is a really celebratory thing. I’ve gotten lots of messages from fans saying that this song helped them cut somebody toxic out of their life, and they’re better for it.“ - via Apple Music
““not ur friend” is really a song about refusing to be weighed down by somebody that makes your life difficult, so anyone that’s involved in a toxic friendship or relationship or any sort of uneven relationship or somebody who’s taking too much from you or just not reciprocating the energy that you’re giving them, it’s really just about sort of cutting that person out of your life and not in an aggressive or negative way. It’s more just like the fact that you’re better off without somebody. And it’s about the freedom that comes from making that decision yourself.“ – Jeremy via MYX
not ur friend
Jeremy Zucker Lyrics
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Yeah, tomorrow is your birthday
I thought it was last Thursday, girl
We know you love a party
Go celebrate and I'll be
On my way to distant shores
You'd learn to close each open door for me
Oh, babe
Hang up, if you ever think of calling
Me up, not afraid to say it, darling
Sorry, I'm not sorry if it hurts
I don't mean to make it worse
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
Right now, there's not much that we agree on
Sit down, if you need someone to lean on
Honest, if I'm coming to your place, it's to say it to your face
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
I think you might be okay
Could care less what your friends say
Well, I'd rather sit in silence
Then be here while you're crying
Darling, watch me disappear
Ignorance is bliss I hear and
I have always been sincere to you
Oh, babe
Hang up, if you ever think of calling
Me up, not afraid to say it, darling
Sorry, I'm not sorry if it hurts
I don't mean to make it worse
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
Right now, there's not much that we agree on
Sit down, if you need someone to lean on
Honest, if I'm coming to your place, it's to say it to your face
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
I've decided that I'm not your
Hang up, if you ever think of calling
Me up, not afraid to say it, darling
Sorry, I'm not sorry if it hurts
I don't mean to make it worse
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
Right now, there's not much that we agree on
Sit down, if you need someone to lean on
Honest, if I'm coming to your place, it's to say it to your face
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
The lyrics to "Not Ur Friend" by Jeremy Zucker express a complicated and conflicted relationship. Zucker sings about a person who is celebrating their birthday, but he doesn't seem to care enough to remember when it is. He notes that this person loves a good party and should go celebrate without him. He goes on to say that he is on his way to "distant shores" and this person's insecurities are preventing him from being able to leave the relationship with ease. Zucker is frustrated with the relationship and is not afraid to say so. He has decided that he is no longer this person's friend due to the various disagreements they have had. While he may not care what this person's friends say about him, he would still rather be alone than be around this person while they cry.
Zucker's lyrics suggest a complex interplay between the desire for freedom and the pull to stay connected to someone despite their flaws. He seems to be wrestling with the idea that he cannot be the kind of friend this person needs, as he is not willing to put up with their insecurities and the other issues they have. Ultimately, Zucker decides that he needs to cut ties in order to be true to himself and his own needs.
This song is a departure from Zucker's usual sound, which is typically laid-back and emotional. "Not Ur Friend" features a heavier beat and more aggressive vocals, which help to convey the frustration and tension in the lyrics. The song has resonated with many listeners who have experienced similar relationship dynamics.
Line by Line Meaning
I mean, I could do the verse of it just through
I can easily recall and recite the lyrics without much effort
Yeah, tomorrow is your birthday
Your birthday is tomorrow
I thought it was last Thursday, girl
I mistook the date, but it doesn't matter since we are not close anymore
We know you love a party
You enjoy celebrating your special occasions with friends and family
Go celebrate and I'll be
You should go and enjoy your birthday alone, without me
On my way to distant shores
I am leaving for a faraway place, away from you
If you weren't so insecure
If you were more confident in yourself
You'd learn to close each open door for me
You would understand what I need without me having to tell you
Hang up, if you ever think of calling
If you consider calling me, don't bother and just hang up
Me up, not afraid to say it, darling
I have no fear in telling you the truth
Sorry, I'm not sorry if it hurts
I am not apologizing for hurting you with my honesty
I don't mean to make it worse
I'm not trying to amplify the pain, just being truthful
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
I have come to the conclusion that I no longer want to be associated with you as a friend
Right now, there's not much that we agree on
Currently, we have little to no common ground
Sit down, if you need someone to lean on
If you require support, I am willing to listen
Honest, if I'm coming to your place, it's to say it to your face
If I am coming over, it is to speak with you directly
I think you might be okay
You may be doing fine without me in your life.
Could care less what your friends say
I am not interested in what your friends think of me
Well, I'd rather sit in silence
I prefer quietness over the sound of your cries
Then be here while you're crying
I don't want to witness your sadness and tears
Darling, watch me disappear
You should prepare yourself to see me leave your life entirely
Ignorance is bliss I hear and
Ignorance can be seen as happiness, or in my case, the end of our friendship
I have always been sincere to you
I have always been truthful with you
I've decided that I'm not your fucking friend
It's final, I no longer want to be friends with you
Lyrics © Songtrust Ave, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: James Alan Ghaleb, Jeremy Scott Zucker, Rami Yacoub, Rickard Goransson
Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
Anastasia x
Not ur friend (other perspective)
Tomorrow it’s my birthday
I spoke to you on Thursday yea
I really love to party
But I don’t wanna celebrate
Without you here by my side
Without you I’m insecure
I tried to shut you out my mind, for good
Oh, boy
Phones off everytime I tried calling
Why won’t you answer my calls lately
Really, I just want to talk things through
Is it too much to ask of you?
Will you not even just try to be my friend?
After all the months we spent together
I’m here if you need someone to lean on
Come round, or I’ll come to your place
Need to talk face to face
Will you not even just try to be my friend?
I don’t think I’ll be okay
“Let go” is what my friends say
Well, I don’t think that I want to
Cause every night I’m crying
Don’t wanna watch you disappear
It’s too late for us I fear
And you have never told the truth to me
Oh boy
Phones off everytime I tried calling
Why won’t you answer my calls lately
Really, I just want to talk things through
Is it too much to ask of you?
Will you not even just try to be friend?
After all the months we spent together
I’m here if you need someone to lean on
Come round, or I’ll come to your place
Need to talk face to face
Will you not even just try to be my friend?
Will you not even just try to be my friend?
Will you you not even just try to-
Phones off everytime I tried calling
Why won’t you answer my calls lately
Really, I just want to talk things through
Is it too much to ask of you?
Will you not even just try to be friend?
After all the months we spent together
I’m here if you need someone to lean on
Come round, or I’ll come to your place
Need to talk face to face
Will you not even just try to be my friend?
Will you not even just try to be my friend?
Will you not even just try to be my friend?
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Jeremy : I'm trying to realize, it's alright to not be fine on your own. There's one thing that I need from you, can you come through
Also Jeremy : I'm sorry that I never call. When all I can help is to open up, no I'll never let you be all alone. Will you call me still just to hear my voice? I swear always, I'll care.
And also him : Oh babe,
Hang up, if you ever think of calling
Sorry, I'm not sorry if it hurts
I don't mean to make it worse
I've decided that I'm not your f'king friend..
Right now there's not much that we agree on.
Honest, if I'm coming to your place, it's to say it to your face,
I've decided that I'm not your f'king friend.
// People do change. And I felt that. (I love Jeremy tho, his songs are the best! <3 )
a d
I love the fact that the song is so chill but the lyrics are actually the most passive-aggressive thing you could tell anyone
Cheska Ulan
True
Mitali Bhatia
So true.. I was thinking the same thing..
n o s t a l g i a 彡
SAME ! ! !
Peytee Linds
Lolol tru
Jul
Yep
lights to brighten up your day
I sent this to my ex best friend and now I feel so relieved , she was so mean and uncaring. She hurt me so much and now lets return all the things she made me feel .
Oregolele Finger
Same . Plus it's her birthday today lmfao
Kendrone
How long was it since you’ve been friends? My little brother is the same way, he’s super petty and will always remember when, where and who wronged him. Still tryna find someone who will have a grudge against taking the last brownie from 5 months ago.
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@Kendrone it's been 2 months now