In This Life
Madonna Lyrics


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Sitting on a park bench
Thinking about a friend of mine
He was only twenty three
Gone before he had his time
It came without a warning
Didn't want his friends to see him cry
He knew the day was dawning
And I didn't have a chance to say goodbye

In this life I loved you most of all
What for?
'Cause now you're gone and I have to ask myself
What for?

What for?
Driving down the boulevard
Thinking about a man I knew
He was like a father to me
Nothing in the world that he wouldn't do
Taught me to respect myself
He said that we're all made of flesh and blood
Why should he be treated differently
Shouldn't matter who you choose to love

In this life I loved you most of all
What for?
'Cause now you're gone and I have to ask myself
What for?

People pass by and I wonder who's next
Who determines, who knows best
Is there a lesson I'm supposed to learn in this case
Ignorance is not bliss

In this life I loved you most of all
What for?
'Cause now you're gone and I have to ask myself
What for?

People pass by and I wonder who's next
Who determines who knows best
Is there a lesson I'm supposed to learn in this case
Ignorance is not bliss

Have you ever watched your best friend die (what for)
Have you ever watched a grown man cry (what for)
Some say that life isn't fair (what for)
I say that people just don't care (what for)
They'd rather turn the other way (what for)
And wait for this thing to go away (what for)
Why do we have to pretend (what for)
Some day I pray it will end

I hope it's in this life
I hope it's in this life time





I hope it's in this life
I hope it's in this life time

Overall Meaning

Madonna's song 'In This Life' is a heartfelt tribute to two men, her friend who passed away at just 23 years old, and a fatherly figure in her life who had taught her valuable life lessons. The song is a reflection on the brevity of life and the importance of cherishing the people we love while we still have them.


The track opens with Madonna sitting on a park bench, lost in thought about her friend who had passed away too soon. She laments not having had the chance to say goodbye and expresses her love and sadness for him. She then transitions into reflecting on the life of a man who was like a father to her and the impact he had on her. She sings about his open-mindedness and acceptance, and how he taught her to respect herself as an individual. She also acknowledges the discrimination he faced for choosing to love who he loved.


The chorus repeats the line, "In this life I loved you most of all, what for? 'Cause now you're gone and I have to ask myself, what for?" This line encapsulates the overall message of the song, which is to live each day to the fullest and show love to the people we care about because we never know when they might be taken away.


Line by Line Meaning

Sitting on a park bench
Reflecting on life while sitting in a public area


Thinking about a friend of mine
Recalling a personal friend


He was only twenty three
The friend passed away at a young age


Gone before he had his time
The friend's death was unexpected and premature


It came without a warning
The death was sudden and unforeseen


Didn't want his friends to see him cry
The friend who passed away did not want to show his emotions openly


He knew the day was dawning
The friend who passed away knew his time was up


And I didn't have a chance to say goodbye
The singer did not have an opportunity to say farewell


In this life I loved you most of all
The singer had great affection for the departed friend


What for?
Questioning the reason for such intense feelings


'Cause now you're gone and I have to ask myself
The singer's friend is no longer present which causes them to wonder


Driving down the boulevard
The singer is traveling on a roadway


Thinking about a man I knew
The singer is reminiscing over a personal male acquaintance


He was like a father to me
The man had a fatherly role in the singer's life


Nothing in the world that he wouldn't do
The man was always willing to help and support the singer


Taught me to respect myself
The man taught the singer the importance of self-love


He said that we're all made of flesh and blood
The man taught the singer that all human beings are the same in essence


Shouldn't matter who you choose to love
The man imparted to the singer the view that all love is equally valid


People pass by and I wonder who's next
The singer is contemplating the uncertainty of life


Who determines, who knows best
The singer is contemplating the factors that determine one's mortality


Is there a lesson I'm supposed to learn in this case
The singer is attempting to discern the purpose of such experiences


Ignorance is not bliss
One cannot simply ignore such important issues


Have you ever watched your best friend die (what for)
The question asks whether the listener has experienced the same as the singer


Have you ever watched a grown man cry (what for)
The singer poses a question directed to the listener about the vulnerability of others


Some say that life isn't fair (what for)
The decision to ponder compels enquiry into the perceived unfairness of life


I say that people just don't care (what for)
The singer believes that others lack the empathy to acknowledge the significance of life


They'd rather turn the other way (what for)
The avoidance of responsibility by others is frustrating to the singer


And wait for this thing to go away (what for)
The singer is annoyed by the lack of free will shown by people in reacting to such issues


Why do we have to pretend (what for)
The misuse of pretence in such important issues is questioned


Some day I pray it will end
The eventual desirable outcome is fervently wished for


I hope it's in this life
The optimal time for such an occurrence is hoped to be soon


I hope it's in this life time
The optimal time for such an occurrence is hoped to be during the singer's lifetime




Lyrics © Downtown Music Publishing, Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
Written by: Shep Pettibone, Madonna Ciccone

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