Sam Fender (born Samuel Thomas Fender on 25 April 1994) is an English singe… Read Full Bio ↴Sam Fender (born Samuel Thomas Fender on 25 April 1994) is an English singer-songwriter who was named one of the BBC's Sound of 2018 alongside other emerging artists including Sigrid, Lewis Capaldi, and Khalid. He won the Brit Awards Critics’ Choice for 2019.

Fender was a teenager when he began performing in pubs throughout North Shields, England. He was spotted in a pub by Ben Howard's manager, Owain Davies, who then got him to support for Willy Mason.

Fender has gone on to release 2 studio albums (Hypersonic Missiles, 2019) (Seventeen Going Under, 2021) and play on the main stages of Festivals such as Reading & Leeds, TRSNMT and Glastonbury.

Spit Of You
Sam Fender Lyrics

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They say I'm the spit of you
And they're not wrong
Bury my head too
Stomach hurts all the time
Can't shift it
Been like that since eight
Knotted up with the baggage
Neck like a stone

All sounds just like you
Smashing cups off the floor
And kickin' walls through
That's me and you

I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you

You kissed her forehead
And it ran like a tap
No more than four stone soaked wet through
And I'd never seen you like that
Spun me out
Hurt me right through
'Cause it was love
In all its agony
Every bit of me hurtin' for you
'Cause one day that'll be your forehead I'm kissin'
And I'll still look exactly like you

And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
Hey

And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone

I can't talk to you
Come on, hey

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Sam Fender's song "Spit Of You" are about the relationship between a father and son. The opening lines "They say I'm the spit of you, And they're not wrong" indicates that the son has inherited not only his father's physical appearance, but also some of his emotional traits. The son "bury (his) head too, (has a) stomach hurts all the time (and) can't shift it" which suggests that he struggles with anxiety or emotional baggage just like his father. The phrase "neck like a stone" is also used to highlight the burden of carrying emotional baggage.

The second half of the song describes a painful memory that the son associates with his father. The line "You kissed her forehead, and it ran like a tap" suggests that the father was crying while kissing someone's forehead, possibly his wife or partner. This seems to have hurt the son deeply, as he was "spun out" and "hurt… right through." However, even though this memory is painful, the son recognizes the love behind the tears, and acknowledges that "one day that'll be (his) forehead I'm kissing/And I'll still look exactly like you."

The refrain of "I can talk to anyone/I can't talk to you" suggests that there is a communication barrier between the father and son. While the son is able to talk to others, he is unable to communicate with his father, perhaps due to a lack of emotional connection or understanding.

Line by Line Meaning

They say I'm the spit of you
People say that I am your spitting image

And they're not wrong
And they are correct

Bury my head too
I bury my head just like you

Stomach hurts all the time
I have stomach pain constantly

Can't shift it
I can't get rid of it

Been like that since eight
It has been like that since I was eight years old

Knotted up with the baggage
I am all tied up with the emotional baggage

Neck like a stone
My neck is heavy like a stone

All sounds just like you
All the noises I make sound just like you

Smashing cups off the floor
I break cups on the floor

And kicking walls through
I kick through walls

That's me and you
That's how we are

You kissed her forehead
You kissed her on the forehead

And it ran like a tap
Tears ran down her face like a faucet

No more than four stone soaked wet through
She weighed no more than four stone and was drenched in tears

And I'd never seen you like that
And I had never seen you act like that

Spun me out
It upset me

Hurt me right through
It hurt me deeply

'Cause it was love
Because it was an expression of love

In all its agony
Despite the pain it caused

Every bit of me hurtin' for you
I hurt deeply for you

'Cause one day that'll be your forehead I'm kissing
Because one day I will be kissing your forehead

And I'll still look exactly like you
And I will still look exactly like you

And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone except you

I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone except you

I can't talk to you
I cannot talk to you

Come on, hey
Let's continue

Lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd.
Written by: Sam Fender

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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

@johnfran3218

When things were at their very worst:
2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid – repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy.
Scientists will say it was a global illusion.
Beware – Jesus will never walk in flesh again.
After WW3 – rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist – the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way.
Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet
- will seem to rise from the dead
- will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one.
One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist.
Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent.

"The time for the schism in the Church is almost here and you must get prepared now"

"Arab uprising will spark global unrest – Italy will trigger fall out"

The Book of Truth

@rubylancaster6689

2y↑76

They say I'm the spit of you
And they're not wrong
Bury my head too
Stomach hurts all the time
Can't shift it
Been like that since eight
Knotted up with the baggage
Neck like a stone
All sounds just like you
Smashing cups off the floor
And kicking walls through
That's me and you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
You kissed her forehead
And it ran like a tap
No more than four stone soaked wet through
And I'd never seen you like that
Spun me out
Hurt me right through
'Cause it was love
In all its agony
Every bit of me
Hurting for you
'Cause one day that'll be your forehead I'm kissing
And I'll still look exactly like you
And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
Hey
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
Come on, hey

@DreamerTunes

2y↑6

Lyrics:
They say I'm the spit of you
And they're not wrong
Bury my head too
Stomach hurts all the time
Can't shift it
Been like that since eight

Knotted up with the baggage
Neck like a stone
All sounds just like you
Smashing cups off the floor
And kicking walls through
That's me and you

I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you

You kissed her forehead
And it ran like a tap
No more than four stone soaked wet through
And I'd never seen you like that
Spun me out
Hurt me right through

'Cause it was love
In all its agony
Every bit of me
Hurting for you
'Cause one day that'll be your forehead I'm kissing
And I'll still look exactly like you

And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
Hey

I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you

And I can talk to anyone
I can talk to anyone
I can't talk to you
Come on, hey

@eleonora1333

3y↑1.8K

My old man passed away last year.
Due to the pandemic, I wasn't allowed to visit him in the hospital where he withered day after day, alone.
He owned a bar, where he used to organize live music events.
I remember our grey and sad town coming alive during these events, little bit happier, little bit more alive.
The nights pretty much always ended up in red (he had the habit of offering to drink to everyone) but he never really cared that much, all he wanted was to share his love for music with anyone who passed by.
He loved his job so much and I guess that's why, despite being a loving father, he was never really present when I was a kid.
We started to get closer in the last three years, more or less, bonding over our shared love for music.
I remember him constantly asking me to go with him to that concert there, this vinyl exhibition here.
But I also remember me constantly refusing because I was battling depression, thought still thinking that we could eventually go, once I got better, that we still had time.
Joke's on me because I got better and he got worse and time has run out now.
This song has brought back lots of unresolved feelings in me.
Thank you Sam, perhaps I needed this.

All comments from YouTube:

@samfendermusic

3y↑7.2K

This video is so beast! It was the most amazing experience to film with Stephen Graham,
genuinely one of the best actors this country has ever seen & such a lovely bloke. So proud of this one!!

@jm6646

3y↑54

this video is amazing Sam! you are so really amazing i'm so proud of you, i love u

@dennisxavier6044

3y↑12

Me encanta! Eres increíble 💯✨

@Sarah-LN

3y↑42

It really is amazing. Never felt so many emotions watching a game of pool 😭😭😭

@AllThingsFender

3y↑14

proud of you!!!

@karolinafilipowicz9513

3y↑18

This is so beautiful, love every second of it❤️

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@markosborne9297

2y↑777

I’m a 51 year old man and I can’t tell you how much I love this lad’s music. He’s a generational talent. Look after him.

@danielcharles7413

2y↑8

About the same age and you're so right Mark!🙂

@ptiger7177

2y↑14

He's a breath of fresh air and can actually sing

@nakmas73

2y↑7

He’s absolutely fantastic… I’m 48 btw

@barbarawood5425

2y↑6

Fab singer, lovely voice

@alexanderfrantz5299

2y↑7

same age, exactly same opinion here … every once in a while a talent like him comes along to keep me believing there’s still great music around

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@Harvester236

2y↑787

When he played this at Glastonbury, a man next to me teared up. I asked if he was okay, he told me he lost his father a few months prior and had only just mended their relationship in time before his death. I gave him a hug, being thankful for still having a father. This song really speaks to a lot of people.

@oldandnew1234

2y↑9

JJ he needed that hug. X

@pazz4life859

2y↑6

respect brother

@rogertaylor5328

2y↑4

Same.... can't listen to this with out either singing along n choking or tears..

@LesleyTanMortyMortisha

1y↑5

Me mam left me and me younger sister when I was 14ish, I still cannot forgive her, me poor dad never knew what hit him, and it wrecked me life, yes, she is dead now, still cannot forive her

@LesleyTanMortyMortisha

1y↑3

And also from North Shields

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@rocks813

2y↑531

As a 17-year-old who's yet to experience more of life, this song and the entire album hit me. What a breath of fresh air in the toxic pop culture in my generation.

@scottnorman4334

2y↑21

What a life you have ahead of you. Enjoy it.

@lekhc.8652

2y↑14

I gotta say it:
Don't go under mate

@3mptycharact3r

2y↑6

Are you 17 going under? XD

@rocks813

2y↑3

@ProFam Luckily, not. Lol

@chrisdavid5454

2y↑4

Nice to read young people comments like this

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@tomtoshack

2y↑154

The working class have always made the best music and this lad is no exception. A wonderful talent!

@britnatzaredemocracydenier5922

1y↑3

Listen to Louis dunford exactly what you would like 👍

@tomtoshack

1y↑1

@Britnatz Aredemocracydeniers Thank you, I'll check him out!

@joeevans266

2y↑1.5K

This was my relationship with my dad, i cant remember ever having any deep meaningful conversations with him, not many i love yous or hugs but i always thought the world of him, he just wasnt that kind of person with me. He was a big drinker and had a toxic relationship with my mother which created a pretty terrible home life for many years. I was about 17 and came home from football practice to find out that hed walked out on us, i was upset but wasnt surprised, i had a little cry on my own in my room, punched a hole in my wardrobe and that was it. I didnt hear from him for months, had no idea where hed gone then finally got a call, he was living in Spain. Over the next 12 or 13 years i had minimal contact with him, not through choice but he would be constantly changing numbers and i couldnt get hold of him, i did manage to fly out to see him 3 or 4 times in those 13 years and he never returned to the uk. I was 29/30 and got a call from the British consulate, he was found living homeless on the streets and had been taken in by a charity, i was told he seemed to be suffering from memory loss, was in a bad physical condition and would keep disappearing. I booked a flight out on my own straight away to search the streets to try and find him and found out hed been taken to hospital, i found out where it was and got a taxi there, he was almost unrecognisable and he had no idea who i was. He was diagnosed with vascular dementia, a kind of dementia that can be brought on by drinking. Over the next 3 months he stayed in hospital and between flying between the UK and Spain i would look after him, buy him clothes and the kind of things he used to like, cut his hair, trim his beard. In that time he would have spells where his memory would come back, hed know who i was and we would talk like wed never been apart yet he also seemed to be totally unaware of the situation he was in, then he would just stop talking and hed start staring straight through me like he had no idea who i was again. Although he had spells where his mental condition seemed to get better his physical condition rapidly deteriorated. I had to return home to the UK on Christmas eve as i had a 6 month old baby, was self employed and had a house to pay for, i just couldnt keep spending any more time and money out there. That was the last time i saw him, i woke up one morning about a month or so later to a voicemail from a Spanish nurse saying that hed died, it was in Spanish and i barely understood a word but i knew what she was saying. Im 35 now with two daughters and the older i get the more i keep seeing my dad in myself, we look and act almost identically. I never questioned any of the things my dad put me/us through and he never acknowledged it, i never asked him why he left. I wish i could meet him again as an adult because i feel like i only knew him as a child and the older i get and the more i learn about myself the more i start to feel like i could have understood him. I suppose on a positive note its given me the self awareness i need to aknowledge my own faults and i can use that to be the best father to my daughters i could possibly be. RIP Dad, i still love you x

@thaimasterful

2y↑39

Lovely message mate, i think we can all learn from our painful experiences which will make us better parents and its a shame you didn't get to an age where you could perhaps have that adult conversation and understand the "why" man to man. My situation has made me try and be and more open with my son as i want him to be able to tell me anything without judgement as i never had that.

@joeevans266

2y↑42

Thanks a lot Neil. Looking at some of the comments on here it seems a lot of people had similar relationships with their dads, i wonder if its a generational thing that men in those days just didnt open up and talk about what they think, how they feel, there emotions etc. Il admit i find it hard so maybe that attitude has been passed on and maybe passed on through men for generations before. I remember reading something that said how it takes a strong person to be the one to break that mold and to stop those traits being passed on to future generations (our kids). Maybe its our responsibility to do that. All the best to you and your son.

@niallmc9020

2y↑40

Extremely moving comment, wishing you all the best pal ❤️

@aleem5197

2y↑9

very moving. Hope all is well now ♥

@phoebeel

2y↑39

Man your story brought me to tears. I appreciate how much love and forgiveness you have in your heart and I wish you that you'll get that love back from all those around you. ❤️

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@crescendollsx

3y↑490

This song hits hard. Emotional, beautiful and raw. I love how Sam writes songs on topics which we usually don’t talk about or hear in music these days. I grew up with an absent father and it reminds me of my turbulent love-hate relationship with my mother. I can’t stop crying.

@HenryBags

Same 🙌

@ptiger7177

2y↑2

Same mate keep your head high

@sapphirerosehip829

2y↑1

Sending love to you

@TheEscapistttt

2y↑2

same ♥️

@thomasjones7663

2y↑3

I'm 33 still struggling can't even listen to this

@samgill7542

2y↑171

This is potentially one of the best songs I’ve ever heard

@mcelwainhd8149

2y↑5

Cant stop listening to it tbh

@ability_group7403

2y↑2

@McElwain HD same bro same

@joemckeon4587

2y↑11

This is one of the rare songs for me i instantly liked it and cant stop playing it over and over

@Andrew.baltazar

2y↑4

Trumpets at the end are so beautiful

@Rubbafingaz1

2y↑3

@A H It's a saxophone but I get what you mean 🎷🎷

@stevekolodzey3395

22w↑4

I'm really bad in allowing myself emotions and showing them, but not, when I am listening to Sam Fender!!! Such a talent. Goosebumps!

@hayleydavis4820

2y↑516

My dad was an abusive alcoholic. He died back in September. He put us through hell, this video totally got to me. This combined with seventeen going under has had me bawling tonight. Bravo on an amazing song, a brilliant video & you've found a new fan in me.

@penguin0075

2y↑9

Sorry to hear this 😢 this song definitely evokes so much emotion for a lot of people and their Dad.

@aldozilli1293

2y↑5

The great thing about this man's stuff is even if you didn't experience anything like the subject matter it takes you there as if you did, you can appreciate the pain.

@sootyginger4388

2y↑2

Made me cry for sure. Such a talent.

@davidcooper3274

2y↑3

I get you brother

@kriscowley3241

2y↑4

Snap ❤️ I really hope your scars have healed. This and 17 going under go right through me too for the exact same reasons ❤️ I hope you’ve healed friend.

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@emmav7682

2y↑38

"Every bit of me hurting for you." This really resonates with me, watching my dad in so much pain after mum died.

@jonasgustaf

2y↑48

I've never heard more powerful lyrics from music in the last 10 years. This is powerful

@lauraengelhardt3896

3y↑858

Whoever ist responsible for the artistic representation of Sam‘s music is amazing. There is not 1 video I don’t like. It captures the mood of every song just perfectly. And I’m always sooo moved afterwards. Especially here: very good acting and so relatable! And now I want fish&chips and a camping holiday!

@ebonyorgan7437

3y↑3

I know that he used to work with Vincent Haycock (the cinematographer) but I’m not sure if he still does !

@billyt5657

3y↑6

Pretty sure this one was directed by Philip barantini :)

@johnfran3218

@theandrew1319

3y↑7

The 'Borders' music video always hits me so hard.

@billyt5657

3y↑2

@SAM FENDER 🎶 odd ball

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@brandinrobertson1212

2y↑95

Tell you what Stephen Graham has got to be one of the most underrated British actors I love everything he’s in ❤️

@craigsmith9446

2y↑1

I agree 👍

@chrisynwa4716

2y↑7

I wouldn't say underrated at all mate. I think every person alive knows that this bloke can act, his emotional barrier is off the chart. I love him. And he is diehard LIVERPOOL FC FAN!!! YNWA.

@morganmoossunguitar9961

2y↑2

No way! He s done loads of stuff. Venom movie This is England. He s been in kasbians video major drama s on ITV and the BBC! Remarkable actor

@juliequinn2668

1y↑2

Also he's gorgeous x

@vincentharrison9408

Best British actor by far.

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@glendacash1962

1y↑18

I'm a 70yo woman, and this song broke my heart. It speaks to men and women. The music is great, but especially in the refrain. I just want to put my hands up to the sky! Good luck, son, in your life and musical career. May you go far, and be happy with it!

@antw8884

2y↑76

This kid is the real deal, I’m 42 and waited a long time for the next genuinely brilliant songwriter to come through, I thought they had dried up !

@lucabrasi3964

Shut up

@KarlHungus99

1y↑38

“It was love in all its agony”
Those words hit hard. In my life love has caused me a lot of agony.
What a beautiful song.

@joshuadunn6201

2y↑25

When they played this song at glastonbury, I was overwhelmed with emotion and had tears rolling down my face, my girlfriend hugged me. The way this song captures my relationship with my father really hits me, thank you sam for that moment. What an incredible artist.

@TheRetroFuture

3y↑2K

The best musician of our generation. I am honoured to be here to witness this mans growth. God speed Sam x

@lewissadler97

3y↑15

Too fuckin right !

@zolfodor4835

3y↑6

Well said mate.

@sam_cfc_8730

3y↑18

Too far.

@tornonet35

3y↑13

I described Sam as a generational talent to a friend of mine just yesterday. It's a gift to be able to put to words how so many of us feel about people we love and ourselves, and make it a banger all at the same time

@BoutYoungAnnaLee

3y↑5

Good song writer, maybe the best. But not best musician by a long way.

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@ScottBolger-bj3bx

1y↑95

Lost my middle son, only 29years old due to addiction. He was a beautiful person,caring , funny strong hard working & handsome. I miss him so much. This song connects to me. He was a spit of me & I hope some day I will see & meet with him again. Had a great 9 months with him before his passing. God bless all who has connection through this song.

@simonbest3855

1y↑2

So sorry for your loss

@kab8711

1y↑2

So very sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking. I fell in love with this song when I lost my younger brother to cancer.

@narcleptik

51w↑1

We've all lost someone close, and these songs bind us together like a bridge ❤ sorry for your loss.. dearly

@shenny.d

39w

I’m so sorry for your loss 😭💔

@copperboom4703

35w

Sounds like you had a good relationship. I’ve never felt a real connection with my dad, he’s been there my whole life but there’s just nothing. I mourn for it sometimes. Sounds like you had something special. Stay strong 💪

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@dylankelly2107

2y↑53

Amazing song.. relatable.

My father has been emotionally and at times physically abusive growing up. This was my relationship with him. He'd smash glass tables and hurt my mother, but at the same time he was always good at providing for us. I'd always cower in my room until I heard my mother scream. But it always stuck with me, I never managed to grow out of that fear and eventually I began to talk less and less to him as an adult. It wasn't because I hated him.. just he wasn't a close person to me and never was. He now resents me for it, but I just can't talk to him. And I can talk to anyone.

@jenniferrussell9649

2y↑1

He doesn’t deserve your love. He should be coming to you for forgiveness. He’s had his chance. You’re more of a man than he’ll ever be. And he knows it. Must eat at him daily. Sam’s written your song.

@paintitblackblack9910

25w

my father was the same mate and totally understand

@thejonnybell

2y↑171

Rarely do I hear a song where both the music and the lyrics sum up exactly how I'm feeling. I'm 34 and don't talk to my dad because he is an emotional abuser and it's something I struggle with every day. Last night I went for a drive somewhere quiet, had this on repeat. I cried and cried and cried, it was exactly what I needed. Thank you with all my heart Sam!

@gethighonlife11

2y↑9

I feel you JB. I'm kind of in the same predicament', but unfortunately, it can't be resolved. It has been 28 years and my father refuses to act correctly. I'm done being sad. A hug to you, my brother.

@thejonnybell

2y↑3

@gethighonlife11 thanks man! Really appreciate the kind words!

@andyjm7122

2y↑7

Also 34 and in a similar situation bud. Many guys out there with clueless fathers who no doubt had clueless fathers themselves. It doesn’t take the pain away however. People like us will rise and set a better standard ✊🏻❤️

@gercarney6623

2y↑2

To all those sons out there with a dad still alive that they don’t talk to ….
Go talk to him ! He still loves you, try to understand his life and story ….A lot of men Leave their families as a sacrifice to the happiness of all in the house. Yes there are lots of men who should be alone but there are a lot more who crave the love of their children !
Don’t wait until it’s too late go try to offer an olive branch and talk ….
I wish my sons would, I know that for sure. I have tried to talk to them !
Now I’m just lonely old man of 58 still loving the little boys he left behind many years ago wanting to know them as the men they have become. ❤

@vodcancoke

It did me too

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@user-nd6ll5sk6e

37w↑6

This is my favorite song sam my dad passed away 10 years ago i am the spit of him and love and miss him every day this is definitely our song cheers sam 💙

@JohnGrayOnline

20w↑2

My son just sent this to me - simultaneously disconcerting and heartwarming - it actually made me cry, and now I look at these comments I see I'm not alone ... thanks son.

@ZuzuOfficial

3y↑269

This made me cry so hard. So fucking honest. We need real northern influences like Sam Fender in our lives and I’m so glad he’s out here killing it. 😭🙏🏼

@chippytea.

2y↑2

Powerful 🤘💫

@stephaniemcelroy540

2y↑12

It usually takes me listening to a new song a few times for it to make a mark on me. This one hit my soul straight away, amazing vocals, lyrics and video ❤️xx

@christophermckenna97

2y↑13

Seen Sam live twice now and both times have been absolutely insane. I love this song live, like this & acoustic. Unbelievable song and meaning behind it. Love Stephen Graham too, perfectly cast.

@davidadams245

2y↑5

This song resonates with me. Mum and dad divorced when I was small and this song basically is a mirror image of my relationship with him now. Not sad in anyway just a great song that tells about real life and relationships. Fender you are a genius!

@guyjackson8685

21w↑2

Sam Fender and Stephen Graham, what a great combination

@jockeydef

2y↑15

I lost my dad when I was 8 and, despite the meaning being different, this song still makes me think of all the amazing times and chats we would have had. Top class tune from a wonderfully talented bloke.

@puglife6550

3y↑36

This is what music was created for. The emotional connection, an ability to relate. A rarity nowadays. Well done Sam.

@john-9074

20w↑1

What an amazing song. I relate very much to this.

@Hollowsmith

2y↑24

As a 40-something Gen Xer, the 20-somethings of today should be DAMN PROUD of this guy. He's up to the level of master songwriters of any generation.

@shashibains307

40 something Gen Xer too. And I agree!!

@thomasseliger2982

1y↑9

This dude is old school or from the future. Unlike the crap of the past 25 years or so, he can actually write and play music. Good to see.

@matthalfremmbertohydrate1672

2y↑30

Tale as old as time.. got damnit if it isn't the hardest thing in the world to make peace with your dad when the communication is haltered by intergenerational trauma and social suffering. I felt every damn word of this song in the guts. WHAT a songwriter you are Sam. Hats off!

@nigelrowland2397

1y↑1

Sam lad
Am a fellow George,n Yr tracks burn my heart, am 50 n dnt see my laddie n th pain hurts so bad
Any followers over wor Sam take note
Av nowt left t live for but carry on on th off chance
Any lads n lass,s n similar paths,
Grab Yr bairn by both arms n don't let go
Peace......n up th mags

@nigelrowland2397

Am one ov those dad's very local(tyneside)n u think where all lovers
Av not seen my boy for 11yrs n as each Yr goes by more over me dies
Dad's gud or bad r not th same friend
Good n happy day wife Yr laddie....
Respect

@markhodgson1772

2y↑3

the power music has and its emotional support for people is immense, just discovered Sam's music, it made my spine tingle, amazing stuff...

@paulat.8998

3y↑99

What a song, what a singer, what an actor, what a video! Sensational.

@radosawradosaw180

3y↑1

What a guitar!!!

@emmameades7964

2y↑4

Nothing else to say, except what a beautiful tune x

@davidbrown1251

2y↑5

I’ve just lost my Dad to pancreatic cancer & this song just punched me right in the guts. It hit me so hard hearing this & the lyrics, the delivery, everything. no song has done such a thing in a very very long time. That’s the sign of a great song writer & Sam’s the real deal. You’ve another huge fan here bud.

@andyjm7122

2y↑1

I feel you David. I'm speechless at this lad's talent. Finally a real artist has arisen.

@lukesmith2231

2y↑4

Lost my dad in February this year, this song resonates so much with the experience. You feel like it's only you who could possibly feel as shit as you feel during the ordeal but it's an uncomfortable fact of life that everyone goes through it one way or another. Thank you Sam for making me feel a little less alone during a really shit time. And to anyone else reading this that's going through the same thing it's never going to hurt less but life goes on the friends and family that matter will show themselves, lean on them

@Eliza.HawkeyeJane

2y↑10

Music is emotional. Music is therapy. Music is Life.

@beefchops1400

2y↑11

What a song….simply superb! Stephen Graham and Sam Fender are British treasures we need to protect and cherish in this horrible world! Peace ✌️😎😊😍

@benpalfrey6580

3y↑138

Two of Britain’s finest within in the entertainment business in one video.

Sam couldn’t have picked a better actor, hats off to whoever made this happen. Absolutely superb 💙

@rebelcheese5301

@Blue&Green I wonder if that was the point.

@rebelcheese5301

2y↑2

@Blue&Green I was thinking the message was more "I came from you but I'm nothing like you" and using an actor who doesn't resemble Sam was meant to visually illustrate that.

@timolane7303

2y↑3

This is talent. The instrumental. The vocals. The video. The storyline. Love it.

@hmccoubs8738

2y↑10

Probably one of the only artists that songs really have moved me. When you can receive and relate to the picture in which he paints it really makes the lyrics more that just a song. This man has done things for me that people in my life haven’t through a song.

@chrisallen2681

2y↑5

Met my Dad once at 11. Super close family without him around. Always good socially. Built a career off speaking to people. This song resonates hard for me. Thank you Sam!

@sunnyconnolly2453

2y↑12

I’m going through stuff with my old man. I listened to this tune when it first come out. He sent it to me a couple of months back. Made me cry. Still does now after listening and watching this music video about 10 mins ago. Touching song for me and my dad. Amazing from Sam Fender helps me through hard times 👏🏽❤️

@hairyass666

Takes a real man to admit his true feelings...respect to you pal...👍😎

@muskyharrison4103

2y↑4

I'm nearly 50. This song and video is bang on the money (like looking through a window of my past). Brought a lump to my throat. Exceptionally talented young man.

@nicklasgustavsson1722

3y↑35

Been a while since a song gave me goosebumps. Sam
Fender never disappoints.

@adrianhines1198

That's quality for you,superb artist

@joesweaton7952

It's incredible. Never loved a artist like it before, he's unreal. Jeff Buckley was the last . Sam's going to be incredible 😍

@clairerichards1448

2y↑6

"Cause it was love in all it's agony "is possibly one of the most heartfelt lyrics I've heard ,just beautiful honest sincere and sad all in one line !

@callumkent7155

2y↑6

Why is this so underrated. It’s his best song for me. The lyrics the instrumental

@rubylancaster6689

2y↑76

@jinnyizzy

2y↑5

I'm 44 years old and this young lads music sings to my soul he's definitely the talent of his generation x

@DreamerTunes

2y↑6

@andressacopetti1324

3y↑4

Simples. Tocante. Emocionante. Sam sendo Sam 🇧🇷❤️

@SuperJohnnyAdventurePants

2y↑6

51 yrs old and watching my relationship with my Dad in this video, and hearing it through Sam's words. He's just recently been diagnosed with Cancer, and I want to be there for him, but still always the endless anger driving him makes me love him a little less each day. I can indeed talk to anyone, but not him. Thank you Sam and Stephen for putting my thoughts into your words and pictures.

@adderon7476

2y↑1

He's having a fucked up time working (or not working) through his griefs. Stuck in anger. I'm there with my parents still after decades. Hang tight you're working through it even if he can't.

@GuitarClass10

2y↑3

Este tipo se va meter el mundo en el bolsillo con estas grandes canciones es muy seria esta música hacia mucho tiempo que no escuchaba música tan buena 👏

@edjeezantos7159

2y↑4

Felicidades Sam Fender por ese Brit Award más que merecido eres un gran artista que merece mucho más. 💯💯👍

@nathanas64

2y↑4

Wow! This song hit me like at ton of bricks. Reminded me of my dad and made me think of my son.
What an introspective song about the cycle of life!
This song definitely has a place as one of my top songs.

@Astridologist

3y↑508

This song was close to making me cry when I heard it but after seeing the video I’m bawling. My dad and I get along but don’t talk and when we do it’s typically about my brother. Two weeks ago my grandfather died and I saw my dad cry for one of the first times in my life. A week after that my dad got diagnosed with a blood clot. I think it’s time I learn to talk to him, life is precious

@michaelpearce8733

Lovely comment

@suttladsutton1623

3y↑6

Love your dad while you can. My dad passed away really suddenly last year. I miss him terribly and a piece of me died when he did. Life isn’t the same. I know he’ll be looking down willing me on my not so good days to carry on. You’ve still got the chance to tell your dad and show him how much you love him. Make every day count because when they are gone it’s horrible ❤️

@tigerskiss1986

3y↑7

I listened to the whole album driving from Kirkcaldy to dundee. Honestly one of the best albums I’ve listen to in a long time. I don’t have a close relationship to my dad, now he’s older and got dementia and I see him slipping further away, song literally pulls on so many heart strings. Sam just has that rare quality of making the listener feel like they are the only ones who listen to him in that way of an undiscovered artist. Such a talent and humbling singer.

@chelseachelsea572

This song is about a man’s relationship with his father not a woman. Please listen to something else

@Astridologist

3y↑15

@Chelsea Chelsea I beg your pardon? I made a comment about my relationship with my dad not a romantic relationship? I thought that was made quite clear by the amount of times I mentioned my father in the comment..
Edit: if by chance you meant “not a woman” in the sense of this only being relatable to men and their relationship with their fathers, kindly stop telling me to listen to something else. Having a rough relationship with your dad has nothing to do with whether you’re a man or woman. That way of thinking goes against everything Sam stands for.

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@NoasabianLIVE

2y↑1

Honest and real music straight from the heart. Just what the world needs now.

@tautliners

2y↑3

The height of British talent in one video, Sam Fender and Stephen Graham together can't get any better than this.

@jackflanagan4853

1y↑4

I cannot even tell you in words that can be resonated how much strength this song has brought me since losing my father, who was my entire world, in may. World class. Keep doing ya thing.

@Keane50

2y↑3

Another powerful song from Sam Fender. What an artist he is. Just wow.

@isabellahernandez6278

2y↑6

This song initially made me think of a lost love. But on reflection it also makes me think of my cousin that passed away far too young. I crave a conversation with her so bad that I’ll never be able to have again.

@UbiquitousRomp

2y↑2.9K

My 19 year old lad sent me this song as I'm not seeing as much of him as I would like after splitting with his mum 3 ears ago. Se we call it our song now....THANKS Sam

@christophermunton9623

2y↑140

I totally relate to you. Just got things back on track with my son, he's nearly 21. I wish you well.

@ianwaghorne8169

2y↑120

That's a brave public post mate. I can relate to it and I wish you both the best ❤️

@UbiquitousRomp

2y↑20

@Ian Waghorne thx..you too mate

@markgalloway4129

2y↑12

Amazing 👏

@milannovakovic455

2y↑10

🙏🏻

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@ARichardP

2y↑3

I could never talk to my father. He was abusive and mean and all about himself most of the time. He’s been gone over 30 years. This song makes me realize I’m not alone in my experience. Glad to see the young generation making this kind of music.

@NaomiSnell

1y↑3

I literally cry every time when I try to cover this song.. It hits me emotionally too much because of a lot of youth pain. Thank you Sam for existing I love your songwriting style. <3

@marihari2551

2y↑5

Happy to be alive, to hear this music! Thank you Sam Fender a lot!🍀

@MrFoo-xf9gf

2y↑5

Always getting tears in my eyes, listening to this song, cos it's a similar situation to my dad. Now he is gone, but that is ok for me. Thank god that I have best buddies, the best woman ever and finally the most beautiful daughter.

@Mirtillas1

2y↑2

A truly gifted and talented young man. Love your music and deep meaningful lyrics. Thank you Sam

@eleonora1333

3y↑1.8K

@rhythmativedance4228

3y↑28

Moving story

@zolfodor4835

3y↑21

Much love to you ❤️

@Gazic

3y↑28

Wow. This comment is poetry. So poignant. Best wishes to you!

@emm9062

3y↑12

Sending you so much love. Thank you for sharing this with us.

@polinatrubinova3573

3y↑8

Thank you for this story. Sending you love and support

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@roxysimmons

2y↑9

Going home on Friday to the UK after 14 years of being ‘stuck’ in the USA - haven’t seen my dad for that long. This just stabbed me in the heart. Can’t wait to see him and tell him I love him.

@jowatkins543

1y↑3

Sam really hits the spot with this I lost my wife 2 year's ago ,miss her like hell ! X

@lynzer1248

28w↑1

I cant listen to this without crying. Its me and my mum, a relationship that will never be possible.

@BDavis-hj1vb

2y↑1

In a few words.. Beautiful and Powerful.

@benhoward4294

2y↑10

I totally understand the sentiment of this song and video. I hope My daughter never feels the same angst as what I felt as a young lad. Love Sam Fender. Proper top lad 👍👍

@philipgrabarski3775

3y↑97

As a South Wales valley boy I see so many similarities with my friends in the North. My dad was a miner hard men .there was no way on gods earth could you sit down and chat with my dad . Love your music Sam. You have brought back respect to the British music industry .

@t3br00k35

2y↑1

awesome tune, lyrics, arrangement and production. and the climax and horns is awesome wish it was longer!

@zauberspieglein_youtube

2y↑2

Best song I have heard in years 💗

@garydrever968

2y↑2

One of the most raw,beautiful and heartfelt songs of today,amazing.

@dylnswhre34

21w

To this day this song holds a place in my heart forever. Coming from a slit parent family, My dad was lost as a man when I was growing up. had so many extreme experiences where he was angry and felt hard done by where he’d take it out on my mum and family. He’s come a long way from there and I love him for that but there is so many things he hasn’t accepted and taken ownership for. A lot of the time when I speak to him nowadays he’s cold and I feel like he doesn’t like hearing me talk. I know he loves me but it’s very hard to look past.

@user-rl1nv1xp1y

2y↑3

I heard this song for the first time today at work (on XM radio). At home just now having watched this music video. I was wondering why that got to me. My father and I went almost 4 years without talking to each other. I was the one to bury the hatchet and meet him halfway. Too bad he couldn't be the bigger man. At least we are close now. Better late than never.

@wnnaliscioov7376

3y↑7

I suffer from mental health issues and listening to you Sam just makes me feel like I don't have issues, what incredible talent you are sam, love you brother.

@paulfothergill9343

2y↑4

Amazing talent lad keep it up so so proud to know that someone from my home town is smashing the charts and also went to same high school as you too mate keep doing what your doing sam

@narvaes3834

2y↑1

Conheci sem querer no Spotify.... Virei fã

@champagnepooch4871

2y↑15

Honestly....This is the kind of relationship I had with my Dad.
This explained in 4+ minutes what I had been struggling to explain my most of my life about my Dad.
He passed 4 years ago.
In any case thanks for the music.
Keep it up mate. Talented Man.

@shabarney

2y↑1

❤

@chopuwon7765

2y↑3

All i have to say is thank you so, so very much for this song Sam.

@nigelscott3678

2y↑3

Cracking video, you can see the angst in Sam's face throughout - the red anger flashes were superbly done.

@valaeeria

3y↑127

This video is a piece of astounding cinematography. I thought that the music video for Seventeen Going Under was moving, but let me say that once watching this one, I feel that Spit Of You is far way more poignant and stirring in my opinion. The plain, honest scenes about a dad and his kid going through the motions together and facing them, it’s something which can only convey pure bliss and beauty to the story. Words have a tangible identity when portrayed on screen, which means you can relate more and more to them.

As usual, tears rise to my eyes as I write a comment under one of your mv’s.

@idrinkmilk282

Cinematography ? Lol what? The videos good but cinematography is not what makes it that way. You understand the word?

@valaeeria

@I Drink Milk could you please explain why cinematography is not what makes it that way? Spill the tea, wanna know more about your insight.

@BOOMSHINNY

No disrespect and I agree with the comment, but I refuse to believe that Patrick Bateman didn't write that comment sitting in his raincoat

@valaeeria

@Matthew Sharp sorry what? 😂

@BOOMSHINNY

@Valeria https://youtu.be/vzN3qO-qc8U

@robertbailey5998

2y↑2

Sam's a genius he stirs my soul with compassion ❤
Totally gifted

@edelfearon9802

2y↑3

A beautiful song and may i add a beautiful album - my favourite to be honest of easily the last 10 years! Who else is loving the sax? Sax is back - Sam your work is absolutely genius!

@IamgladthatIamglad

50w

YESSSS i loved the sax in borders
LESSGOOOOOO

@siobhanwilmot3947

2y↑1

Truely brilliant song

@garboligist86

2y↑2

This song has helped me deal with losing my old man so much.He loved music and im sure he would of loved your music!Thank you so much.Belter video aswell we both loved stephen graham too! national treasures !!!

@craigk9810

2y↑6

This song sums up my dad and me. He’s 68 I’m 38 but we struggle to talk to each other unless it involves me kids. Still love him. Our relationship is a result of a father working away for 10-15 years to provide for his family that I’m great full that I don’t need to do.

@ritch8088

Don't leave it until it's too late. Take him out for a pint, and tell him you understand why he had to work away so much! My dad died when I was 23 and I would do anything to go back in time and thank him for grafting 7 days a week to provide.

@kayleighpoplar226

3y↑31

i’ve never been so in love with someone and their music

@bestfloors5084

2y↑4

Really hits home to the love ones you have lost and I just go so deep back in the time I was with them listening to this epic

@crivi2677

2y↑5

Been soul searching and this just hit me like a train. I forgive you and love you pop.

@leesaunders7232

2y↑2

Sam Fender and Stephen Graham teaming up.
Poignant. Emotional. Epic 👌👌👌

@leafnlore2712

1y↑3

You know what, dude? This song is epic. You know you speak for tens of millions of people, right? Don't give me a canned response from whoever responds to your social media. I don't need that. I just need you to know how the tears roll when we listen to your music. How much it hits home. How much it matters. We got you!

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