The Creative
Scapegoat Lyrics


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Our story's been shelved away
And I'm locked inside
Between the depths of page
I now age

But as the river bends bending til it's destined end
This is what he said
And if we never speak again
I will pretend
Cause I've got the imaginative
Along with the creative
Said along with the creative

(I toss and turn)
And I cannot get you out of my dreams
(You fill my mind)
Despite my every try
(Is this for real?)
I'm lost within the seams
(So wrong, so right)
Of a lie

But as the river bends bending till it's destined end
We can only bend so far before we break
And when the waves refuse to break
Then the ground will surely shake
And quake, that it did on that day

And if we never speak again
I will pretend
Cause I've got the imaginative
Along with the creative
Said along with the creative

Along with the creative
Alone with my creative
I'm stepping back to redefine what I'm created for
What I'm created for

For all the things we have lost
(I'm stepping back to redefine what I'm created for)
It seems that nothing worth having comes without it's cost
(I'm living life through the eyes of a creator)
And I'm coming to find
(I'm stepping back to redefine what I'm created for)
The power of my mind
A conscious state of mind

And if we never speak again
I will pretend
(Whatever I want, we're all one in the end)
Cause I've got the imaginative
Along with the creative
Said along with the creative

And so it comes to be
I've created a world in which you're right here next to me




Where all things, all thought transcends reality
I've created a world to which the world will never see

Overall Meaning

The song "The Creative" by Scapegoat is a deeply introspective piece on the power of imagination and creativity. The lyrics talk about how the artist is trapped inside their own head and locked into their creative process, and how they use that creative power to escape from the real world. They talk about how the creative process can sometimes feel like a burden, but ultimately it gives them the ability to transcend reality and create new worlds.


The lyrics also touch upon the theme of love and loss, as the artist talks about their inability to forget someone despite their efforts to do so. They describe their struggle to let go of this person and move on, but ultimately they come to the realization that they have the power to create a new reality where that person will always be with them.


The song builds slowly, with a haunting melody and powerful vocals that capture the emotion and introspection of the lyrics. The chorus is particularly striking, as the artist repeats the words "along with the creative" over and over, as if to emphasize the power that creativity has over their life.


Overall, "The Creative" is a thought-provoking and deeply personal song that explores the power of creativity and imagination, while also touching on themes of love, loss, and self-discovery.


Line by Line Meaning

Our story's been shelved away
Our narrative has been put away and no longer told


And I'm locked inside
I feel trapped and confined


Between the depths of page
Within the pages of a book


I now age
I am growing older


But as the river bends bending til it's destined end
Things will progress and reach their conclusion no matter what we do


This is what he said
Someone gave me this advice


And if we never speak again
If we don't talk in the future


I will pretend
I will pretend that everything is fine


Cause I've got the imaginative
I have the ability to imagine


Along with the creative
I am also creative


Said along with the creative
I declare that I am creative


(I toss and turn)
I can't sleep and am restless


And I cannot get you out of my dreams
I keep dreaming of you


(You fill my mind)
You are always on my mind


Despite my every try
Even when I try to forget you


(Is this for real?)
I question the reality of my situation


I'm lost within the seams
I am confused by the details


(So wrong, so right)
I know this is not entirely right but it feels good


We can only bend so far before we break
There is a limit to what we can endure


And when the waves refuse to break
When things are going wrong


Then the ground will surely shake
There will be consequences


And quake, that it did on that day
Something bad happened


Along with the creative
Combined with being creative


Alone with my creative
Solely with my creativity


I'm stepping back to redefine what I'm created for
I am trying to reassess my purpose


For all the things we have lost
For everything that we have lost


(I'm stepping back to redefine what I'm created for)
I'm trying to reassess my purpose


It seems that nothing worth having comes without it's cost
Everything has a price


(I'm living life through the eyes of a creator)
I see things through a creative lens


And I'm coming to find
I am discovering


The power of my mind
The strength that lies in my thoughts


A conscious state of mind
Being aware and mindful


(Whatever I want, we're all one in the end)
At the end, we all share the same destiny


And so it comes to be
Thus it happens


I've created a world in which you're right here next to me
I have built a world where you and I are together


Where all things, all thought transcends reality
Where everything exists only in our imagination


I've created a world to which the world will never see
A place that no one else can experience




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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

Bonnie L

This is so totally like my childhood. I was blamed for everything I did or didn't do, there was no sense to make of it at the time. Was there really something so fundamentally wrong with me? Were my parents just evil? Leading nowhere. Much better: Which function did my role serve in the family system?

When I was sad or tired, I "spoiled everybody's mood". When I was happily playing, I "didn't see the chores to be done" - or my mother's general misery. When I was doing the dishes or sweeping the floor, I was blamed for not putting on a happy enough face while doing it.
I was blamed for my A grades - they could frustrate my little brother who was not doing so well in school. I was blamed for his problems also - "Why can't you help him learn to spell and write?". On the other hand, why could I not simply be like my brother?
My father got these tantrums, where he hit us children and yelled around - I must have provoked him. When I got a chronic autoimmune disease, that was also my fault of course. And so on, and on, and on

This sounds so unfair and I get so angry remembering. But was just my parents' distorted way to preserve their egos and keep the family system in kind of balance - NOT MY FAULT

(When I reduced contact to practically "Grey Rock", suddenly my brother got all the blame - isn't it funny? Or sad, rather?)



Tessa Rae

Does he not talk about it with you? What about you? What’s your role in what happens? Are you a bystander, if so, how do you respond? Or do you mainly try and talk about things after they happen? What are you doing before, during, after?

I think a lot of men have a hard time talking about feelings even with their partner. Depending on how he was raised he might think emotions are like this super bad thing to have, or could just see them as an inconvenience, or anything in between. Hey may have come into his own healthier understanding of emotions but I guarantee that’s the exception and not the rule, and all toxic families tend to shame emotions to varying degrees.

Your role is super important as well in the dynamic... as a scapegoat myself I would be devastated by having a partner with a fawn response who wouldn’t or couldn’t stand by me. That’s why I’ve chosen my spouse... maybe he didn’t think about that around the beginning but becoming conscious of your role in what’s happening is most important because it’s the one thing you have complete control over.

I get it’s your family and you don’t want them to hate you but your relationship with your husband is more important. Obviously that becomes even more complicated if he has some sort of trauma bond with his family (most people do lmao) and wants to side with the perpetrator.

I’d still say you can’t control him, or her, or anyone outside of yourself. So the more aware you can become of your own role the better. Hell you can even talk about how terrible YOU feel watching him being treated badly. It sounds like he knows he’s treated badly but honestly it never hurts to validate someone in this situation, we’ve been told our whole lives we’re making a big deal out of nothing because we aren’t allowed to have any seperate thoughts, feelings, or selves in our family of origin.

Telling him how you feel helps teach him how to talk about his emotions when the time is right.

Also when you tell him you see bad treatment and how it makes you feel he could have any kind of response; some have no idea how bad it is because it’s just normal for them, to them family = abuse.... Others will know it’s bad but hey the validation doesn’t hurt... Others might know it feels bad but don’t want to “relive” or re-experience how bad it feels by talking about it later and might go into a trauma response with you (hope that’s not the case with you because that’s a hard one)... Others might open up instantly about how they feel once receiving that validation; I think you get my drift, it can be all over the board.

I would still say focus on you and be open to the idea that how you handle things can cause a change in the overall dynamic... hope this helps hang in there 💗



Holly Elisabeth

This is a complex issue, because I've always thought my sister was the main scapegoat (and a rebellious one at that). But after watching this video and identifying with all the triggers, I'm starting to realize I was scapegoated, too. But I evolved from being a people pleaser to being a bit of a rebel later. And while in the pleasing phase, was partially responsible for scapegoating my sister.

The reason it's so complicated with my sister is because she started being rebellious in middle school, and by the age of 16, dropped out of high school and decided to finish through community college instead. She was treated very badly by the private school we went to, and was extremely underserving of said treatment. My parents were also to blame, because they were so image-focused and had channeled a lot of energy toward my brother and I (who are closer in age), being perfect at school and sports. She tried to fit into the molds we'd set, but felt like a fish out of water, and wanted to go by the beat of her own drum. My parents (especially my dad), made snarky, passive-aggressive comments about her style choices, because she didn't fit the Leave It To Beaver mold.

However, she took her pain and started becoming extremely toxic and abusive toward my family and others. She went from being a legitimate victim, to then verbally and mentally abusing others. I'm not saying that my parents were blameless or underserving of criticism, but it wasn't like my sister was sitting them down and having rational, healing conversations with them. She was saying very hurtful things, many of them intended for shock value, histrionic and even just false. I never wanted to gaslight her, but the problem was that she also was a habitual liar, so it was difficult to separate fact from fiction. She hurt a lot of people through her words, as well as lying and cheating.

The reason I felt like I scapegoated her is because she used to come to family gatherings and stir up arguments and have temper outbursts that would also trigger me, and everyone would end up crying and miserable. It was almost always when she was around, and when it was all the other family members without her, there was little to no drama. So I did blame her (and perhaps rightly) for shooting barbs at people during family functions. But I'll at least say that she's matured over the past few years and sought help. And although still slightly narcissistic, at least enjoyable to be around now.

Why I feel I was scapegoated somewhat is because I was told from a young age that I was a difficult baby, and that my mom felt like "throwing me out the window" during my crying fits. She also made it clear to me from a young age that my dad was not her first choice of who she wished she'd married (there was "the one that got away"), and acted like my dad came into the picture and disrupted her plans? That made me feel strange as a child because I knew enough to know I wouldn't be me and wouldn't exist without my dad. I am also the one who most resembles my dad, and my mom rarely told me I looked good or was beautiful. Other children and my brother and sister received more compliments than I ever did. I was the one who looked different, and this was compounded by both congenital and causational problems with my teeth and jaw, later resulting in years of orthodontics and maxillofacial surgeries.

At the same time, I was expected to earn perfect grades and be good at sports, be the ideal Christian and always put others first. Thus I was the quintessential people pleaser, and highly inadequate at standing up for myself. I was often bullied in school and wasn't outgoing or popular. I hated myself and contemplated suicide often. Then after high school, I snapped and became a reckless serial dater, somewhat of a party animal, a shopaholic, and married someone my parents were completely disapproving of. (But they like him now, and we've been married 11 years.)

Even though I've come miles since then, I'm still triggered occasionally by the most random things. For example, I recently was promoted to a new department within my company. I was sitting at a small, temporary cubicle that was in a heavier traffic area. But recently my managers asked me to move to a larger and quieter space in the corner. A recently-terminated employee had sat there previously, so that was also unsettling. I was professional and amenable to their request during the meeting, but after I went home that night, I bawled my eyes out for some weird reason. My child state took over and I felt like I was literally being punished in the corner. Thankfully, therapy the next morning, then having the right tools to speak to my boss and receive reassurance that it was not punitive was enough to put the issue to rest.



All comments from YouTube:

K Conrad

The family scapegoat is usually the truth teller. It’s usually the child who sees through the toxic parents’ bullshit and often points it out. I was that child.

E D

Yes. 200% agree. I too understand. I'm still the truth teller. I just keep saying it on here with my initials and with adjusted names on social media. I refuse to be silent.

R M

@E D yes!

Sirena Rin

Not always. Because scapegoat dont know that wats going on is wrong

D NK

Same

K Conrad

@Sirena Rin There is usually a reason why certain children are selected as the scapegoat though, and in my opinion that is usually because the child is not 100% conforming to the toxic parents’ will. The toxic parents sense that they can’t control this child and they know that the kid isn’t like them, and so they instigate the scapegoat tactic in an effort to bully and regain control. So yeah, the scapegoat child might not know how to verbalize or point out the toxic behavior, but their defiance may come out in other, more subtle ways that the parent notices. Narcissistic parents do not tolerate any kind of dissent. The scapegoat tactic is used to punish and keep control. It’s also a way to deflect blame from themselves.

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LAX

Don’t you love how school teachers turn a blind eye to all of this and force their students to write “happy mothers/fathers” day care for their abusers.

real healing

I am the scapegoat in my toxic family system. I always felt like everything was my fault and I had to sacrifice myself to fix it. I was the emotional punching bag for my family to beat down. I was literally told I had to earn my place in the family. I finally went no contact with my entire narcissistic family. I realized once you have been a scapegoat you will always be the scapegoat. Narcissists don't change.

DeborahLynne Lentz

Very true. They like to keep you in that position. They love the power to abuse you. They think they have that right because of the Parents approval, and Joy when the blame is taken off of them.

Mel T

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