Together or Alone
Sebadoh Lyrics


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It was never my intention
To blindly feed the boy/girl game
I know romance isn't everything
But I'm obsessing just the same
Because today I don't feel worthy
You seem so beautiful and strong
These unsure hands could never soothe you
Too afraid of doing something wrong
And this confusion wears me down
Until I feel like a nervous stranger
And could I help you grow? I guess we'll never know
Set up for a let-down
These things happen all the time
And I'm not longing to explore it again
I'm too scared of what you'll find
And this confusion wears me down
But I'll smile when I'm with you
'cause there's so much we could do




Together or alone
I'm not afraid of being alone

Overall Meaning

In Sebadoh's song "Together or Alone," the lyrics express the singer's conflicted emotions about love and relationships. They begin by admitting that they did not intend to get caught up in the "boy/girl game" of romance, but despite their reservations, they find themselves obsessing over it anyway. However, the singer doesn't feel worthy of the object of their desire - who seems impossibly beautiful and strong - and they are afraid of making a mistake. This insecurity and confusion wear the singer down, making them feel like a "nervous stranger."


Despite all of this, the singer still enjoys spending time with their love interest, and they recognize the potential for a great connection between them. But they are also aware that relationships can be unpredictable and potentially disappointing. So, even though they are willing to explore the possibilities with this person, they are still afraid of being hurt. Ultimately, the singer concludes by stating that they are not afraid of being alone, suggesting that they will be content with or without a romantic partner.


This song is a poignant reflection on the complexities and contradictions of human relationships, especially the way that emotions can be difficult and confusing to navigate. The lyrics offer a raw and honest portrayal of the singer's fears, hopes, and insecurities, making it a relatable anthem for anyone who has struggled with matters of the heart.


Line by Line Meaning

It was never my intention
I didn't plan to be in this situation


To blindly feed the boy/girl game
To play childish romantic games without thinking of the consequences


I know romance isn't everything
I understand that a relationship is more than just words and gestures of love


But I'm obsessing just the same
But I can't help thinking about it all the time


Because today I don't feel worthy
I don't feel like I'm good enough right now


You seem so beautiful and strong
You appear confident and admirable


These unsure hands could never soothe you
I'm not confident in my ability to comfort you


Too afraid of doing something wrong
I don't want to mess up and do something to hurt you


And this confusion wears me down
I feel drained and overwhelmed by all these emotions


Until I feel like a nervous stranger
Sometimes I feel like I don't even know myself anymore


And could I help you grow? I guess we'll never know
I wonder if I could have helped you grow as a person, but now that opportunity is gone


Set up for a let-down
Preparing myself for disappointment


These things happen all the time
It's not unusual for relationships to end


And I'm not longing to explore it again
I don't want to go through this again


I'm too scared of what you'll find
I'm afraid of being rejected or judged


But I'll smile when I'm with you
I'll try to hide my feelings and be happy around you


'cause there's so much we could do
There are endless possibilities for us if we stick together


Together or alone
Whether we're together or not, I'll be okay


I'm not afraid of being alone
I'm not afraid of being independent and on my own




Lyrics © DOMINO PUBLISHING COMPANY
Written by: LOUIS KNOX BARLOW

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DugKeith


on Smoke a Bowl

Love this. The man.