The Big Fight
Stars Lyrics


Jump to: Overall Meaning ↴  Line by Line Meaning ↴

how could you do it?
-i couldn't say.
years built on sand.
-june until may.
second to second,
not even while you held my hand.

it's death for living.
-yes i am a ghost.
the mirror is cloudy.
-i loved you the most.
you threw out the pieces,
did things we didn't understand.

he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.
he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.
she started breaking but she still won't let is show.
he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.

the clothes in the wardrobe...
-just send them to me.
there are bills here for you.
-that's 'cause nothing is free.
we filled up with things
to make us who we want to be.

is she in the background?
-i just wouldn't know.
did i build you a prison?
-please don't let me go.
i've unlocked the door
but you can't walk away from me.

he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.
he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.
she started breaking but she still won't let it show.
he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.

he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.
he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.




she started breaking but she still won't let is show.
he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.

Overall Meaning

"The Big Fight" by Stars is a complex and emotional song that touches upon issues like attachment, control, and the difficulty of letting go. The lyrics hint at a strained relationship between two people who are struggling to move on from each other. The first verse suggests that the relationship had been built on fragile foundations and was always destined to fail: "years built on sand, June until May." The singer seems to be grappling with their emotions, unable to explain why things didn't work out. The line "second to second, not even while you held my hand" is particularly poignant, indicating that even when they were physically close, the emotional distance between them was too great.


The second verse is even more somber, with the singer declaring themselves a ghost and mourning the loss of the person they loved most. They recognize that they have been broken by the relationship, but they still can't find a way to let go. The chorus repeats the same line: "he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go." This line suggests a sense of possession and control, with the singer recognizing that they are the one holding on, even though they know they shouldn't. The final verse hints at a potential confrontation, with the singer asking if their partner is still trapped in the prison of the relationship. They confess that they have unlocked the door, but acknowledge that their partner may still be unable to walk away.


Overall, "The Big Fight" is a powerful song that explores the complex emotions of a failing relationship. The lyrics are open to interpretation, but the sense of sadness and frustration is palpable. The repeating chorus adds to the sense of being trapped, with the same line being repeated over and over again like a broken record.


Line by Line Meaning

how could you do it?
I don't understand how you could have done this to us


-i couldn't say.
I am unable to provide an explanation


years built on sand.
Our past is inherently unstable and uncertain


-june until may.
Our relationship defied the conventional trajectory of time


second to second,
Our time together was always fleeting and impermanent


not even while you held my hand.
Even in moments of physical intimacy, there was emotional distance


it's death for living.
Our relationship is the cause of our emotional demise


-yes i am a ghost.
I am a mere shadow of my former self


the mirror is cloudy.
I cannot see myself clearly anymore


-i loved you the most.
Out of everyone else, my love for you was the strongest


you threw out the pieces,
You discarded the remnants of our past together


did things we didn't understand.
Our actions towards each other were inexplicable


he doesn't want her but he just won't let her go.
He is still holding onto her even though he no longer has any desire for her


she started breaking but she still won't let it show.
Her emotional distress is becoming more apparent, but she is refusing to reveal it


the clothes in the wardrobe...
The physical items we accumulated have no real significance


-just send them to me.
I don't care about them; you can keep them


there are bills here for you.
You owe payment for our shared expenses


-that's 'cause nothing is free.
Everything in life has a cost, including our relationship


we filled up with things
Material possessions have come to define our sense of self


to make us who we want to be.
We are trying to construct a version of ourselves that we aspire to become


is she in the background?
Are you still thinking about her even when you're with me?


-i just wouldn't know.
I am uncertain about the presence of another person in your thoughts


did i build you a prison?
Did my love for you become suffocating and confining?


-please don't let me go.
I am afraid of losing you, even though our relationship is not healthy


i've unlocked the door
I am granting you the freedom to leave


but you can't walk away from me.
You are still emotionally attached to our relationship and cannot leave




Lyrics © O/B/O APRA AMCOS

Lyrics Licensed & Provided by LyricFind
To comment on or correct specific content, highlight it

Genre not found
Artist not found
Album not found
Song not found
Comments from YouTube:

@Nico93106

This drum break at 3:03 is amazing. It is coming at the perfect time. So chilling!

@savage0

one of the best on the album... off one of the best albums... 0 dislikes... amazing band. Thanks for posting it

@Michelle11011

I love this song (: It's pretty unique to all that other mainstream pop :)

@electronicexposure

This song is way ahead of it's time in many, many ways. Lyrically, being one. The flip to a drumnbass breakdown (with what feels like a mic'd acoustic drum kit with a compressor/limiter) being another. And the deep filter LFO + compression on the synth bass adding a very deep liquid drumn'bass sound (which also became known as a 'wobble' for some reason.)

@NomDatCookie

Just discovered this song, already in love. ♥

@jacel987

my friend finally showed me a good song from this band. cheers to him!

@MrFeyerwire

I got the absolute treat of seeing Stars live at the Showbox in Seattle. Torguill Campbell is such a stud live so was Amy and she was pregnant at the time. I am a hetro, but if I was not i would hit on Torq just because he is awesome. Not many people are that hip past 40.

@tasrocksful

love this song

@m.aanderson8050

Totally forgot this was even a thing. Good album.

@rawcoyote

how cool can you get? I woke up this morning hearing this. It rubs me right.

More Comments

More Versions