The Perfect Lover
The Residents Lyrics


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I guess the coldness implied by my calculated position in life must be disturbing to some people and maybe the lack of romantic pretense used to disguise or excuse my behavior is not normal, but it is honest, more honest than most people can deal with, but still it doesn't make me immune to romance
I am human, and I do have my fantasies, fantasies that I normally repress, what good are they, after all, but I can't deny them

I listen to my lover sigh as she entwines me
I listen to my lover cry because she blinds me
I listen to my lover laugh as she defines me
With every breath I wait for her to find me
Usually because I'm a man, I guess, these fantasies gravitate towards a female form and occasionally I do allow them to run free, dancing in slow motion through the flower fields of my imagination




I know it sounds silly, especially coming from someone with such a cunning and cutthroat attitude towards life, but sometimes I feel like nothing would make me happier than holding hands with a beautiful woman on the beach, watching the sun slowly descending into the pinks and purples of a perfect sunset, disgusting isn't it?

Overall Meaning

The opening lines of The Residents' song The Perfect Lover reveal an individual who proclaims to live life with a calculated position, lacking romantic pretense. The singer seems proud of their behavior, equating it with honesty, although acknowledging that it may disturb others. Despite this, the singer admits that they are not immune to romantic desires and have their own repressed fantasies. The lyrics reveal a complicated character with a harsh exterior, who struggles with the softer, romantic aspects of being human.


The chorus of the song focuses on the singer's lover. Lines such as "I listen to my lover sigh as she entwines me," highlight the passion and connection the singer shares with their romantic partner. However, there seems to be a hint of toxicity in the relationship as the lines "I listen to my lover cry because she blinds me" suggest pain and hurt. The chorus also shows the singer's obsession with their lover's every move, indicating a possible lack of trust and control issues.


Overall, the song delves into the complexities of human nature and how our harsh exteriors often hold within them a softer, more emotional side. The Perfect Lover is full of contradictions, with a narrator who prides themselves on their lack of romantic pretense, while simultaneously grappling with their romantic desires and the toxic aspects of their relationship.


Line by Line Meaning

I guess the coldness implied by my calculated position in life must be disturbing to some people and maybe the lack of romantic pretense used to disguise or excuse my behavior is not normal, but it is honest, more honest than most people can deal with, but still it doesn't make me immune to romance
I understand that my pragmatic nature might upset people, and that I don't try to sugarcoat things with romantic gestures like most people do, but at least I'm honest about it. However, despite my outlook on life, I still have a desire for romance


I am human, and I do have my fantasies, fantasies that I normally repress, what good are they, after all, but I can't deny them
Despite my cold persona, I do have fantasies that I often suppress because they seem pointless. However, I can't deny that they exist


I listen to my lover sigh as she entwines me
I feel the presence of my imaginary lover as she holds onto me and lets out a sigh as if content with our embrace


I listen to my lover cry because she blinds me
Sometimes I feel like I'm blinded by love and the idea of having a perfect lover, leading me to tears when I realize it's not real


I listen to my lover laugh as she defines me
In my mind, my lover sees me for who I am and is able to laugh at my imperfections, yet still loves me regardless


With every breath I wait for her to find me
I yearn for my imaginary lover to become real and find me in reality, to fill the emptiness that I feel


Usually because I'm a man, I guess, these fantasies gravitate towards a female form and occasionally I do allow them to run free, dancing in slow motion through the flower fields of my imagination
As a man, my romantic fantasies often involve a woman. Sometimes I let these fantasies consume me and I imagine them dancing freely in the beautiful scenery of my mind


I know it sounds silly, especially coming from someone with such a cunning and cutthroat attitude towards life, but sometimes I feel like nothing would make me happier than holding hands with a beautiful woman on the beach, watching the sun slowly descending into the pinks and purples of a perfect sunset, disgusting isn't it?
Despite my reputation for having a ruthless approach to life, I can't help but imagine that true happiness would come from holding hands with a beautiful woman on the beach, watching the sunset. It may seem cheesy, but it's what I secretly desire




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Andrew Kieswetter

I saw this back in '81 too. Loved it!

Horacio dorasio

The Residents son lo más artístico que he visto y escuchado, por algo tengo más de 25 vinilos en mi colección, sin contar cassettes y singles.

Talloweed

Believe it or not, yes. In its early days, MTV was so desperate for content that they resorted to airing honest-to-goodness art.

Starving Bruddah

Yes I see now how bad they dont don't want anyone to be inspired

Dhakadice

U 4 real?
This aired on MTV? :O
(I know Beavis & Butthead - ironically - brought the fine arts to the waves but for real? Did this air on the channel that currently shows My Sweet 16 instead of music videos?)

Mellow Yello

@Dhakadice sadly, yes. MTV used to about music 24/7. But then Real World aired and it made a crapton of money with extremely low budget... and then that model proliferated.

FearsomeManic

It was totally bitchin, one of the most aired music videos at some point was "Dog Police"...by Dog Police...from their album Dog Police.

N C

Actually I remember when these videos were released. 20 years ago maybe. MTV was already a zombie advertiser

thelostcontacts

i have never wanted a Residents' hand puppet more than i do after having seen this video.

Didier Mignot aka Le Duc

Viva the Residents !

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