With a drastic change from the hardcore scene, the Sleeping is now considered to be post-hardcore/Rock/Alternative, and has played with bands such as Fightstar, Halifax, Silverstein, Bayside, Stretch Armstrong, Spitalfield and Haste the Day.
On August 6, 2008 the band announced that after 6 months of auditioning for a new pianist/guitarist to replace Cameron Keym, they had recruited Paul Cadena (Guitar) and Christopher Evans (Keyboards/Synths), the newest members of The Sleeping.
The band proceeded to tour across the East Coast and Midwest US with Envy On The Coast and Secret Lives of the Freemasons.
On February 17, 2009, new album What It Takes was released.
Refusive Relationship
The Sleeping Lyrics
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reckless with good intentions
i knew you couldn't take it anymore
yah, but what's the point when it's worthless?
finding yourself is perfect
i knew you couldn't take it anymore
wait. don't think you're getting off easy
you spit separation baby
i knew you didn't want it anymore
so what's the fucking difference
if i leave you or you leave me?
no one is keeping score
who's got some explaining to do?
i've got some explaining to do
you've got some explaining to do
we've got some explaining to do
back and forth and back and forth again
reckless with good intention
back and forth and back and forth again
reckless but smart enough to know
when two lovers holding on need letting go
don't lie to me again because i won't be listening
lips pressed tight to a lit cigarette
lips pressed tight to a lit cigarette
blowing awkward smoke into the night
lips pressed tight to a lit cigarette
exhaled these words into the air
"we lost it"
The lyrics of The Sleeping's song Refusive Relationship describe a failing relationship where both partners are aware that they cannot continue in the same unhealthy pattern. The singer acknowledges their own faults and recklessness, while still having good intentions. However, they also recognize that their efforts are worthless and their partner cannot take it anymore. The chorus repeatedly asks who has explaining to do, suggesting that blame is shared between both parties.
The second verse takes a more confrontational tone, with the singer calling out their partner for trying to end the relationship and using "separation" as a weapon against them. They question the point of assigning blame and wonder what difference it makes which one of them leaves first. The bridge describes the cycle of the relationship, continually going back and forth with good intentions but ultimately realising they need to let go.
The song’s chorus suggests that both partners in the relationship are equally responsible for the failing relationship. It highlights the importance of communication and sharing responsibility for the relationship’s success. The lyrics also indicate that the relationship is based on a healthy foundation of love and good intentions, but the cycle of recklessness and fighting has left them without a solution.
Line by Line Meaning
yah, i'm like an angel headless
I feel lost or disconnected, like an angel without their head.
reckless with good intentions
I act recklessly, but with good intentions at heart.
i knew you couldn't take it anymore
I was aware that you had reached your limit and couldn't handle it anymore.
yah, but what's the point when it's worthless?
I question the purpose of my actions when they lead to nothing or have no value.
finding yourself is perfect
Discovering your true self is an ideal situation.
wait. don't think you're getting off easy
I am warning you not to assume things will be easy and without consequences.
you spit separation baby
You caused a division or breakup, even though it may have been unintentional.
i knew you didn't want it anymore
I was aware that you had lost your desire or passion for the relationship.
so what's the fucking difference if i leave you or you leave me?
I am questioning the significance of who initiates the breakup, knowing it will hurt both of us.
no one is keeping score
It doesn't matter who wins or loses, as there is no scorecard in relationships.
who's got some explaining to do?
We both have things to explain or understand about our failed relationship.
back and forth and back and forth again
We kept going back and forth in our relationship without making progress.
reckless with good intention
We acted impulsively, but with the intention of making things work.
reckless but smart enough to know when two lovers holding on need letting go
We were foolish in holding on to our relationship, but wise enough to recognize it was time to let go.
don't lie to me again because i won't be listening
I can't tolerate dishonesty in our relationship anymore and won't even give it my attention.
lips pressed tight to a lit cigarette
I am smoking a cigarette, possibly to ease my anxiety or frustration while I speak my mind.
blowing awkward smoke into the night
The smoke from my cigarette is a symbol of my emotions being released into the dark and uncertain future.
exhaled these words into the air "we lost it"
I speak the harsh truth that our relationship is over and there is nothing more to salvage.
Contributed by Jeremiah H. Suggest a correction in the comments below.
macheteready
that looks crazy awesome
macheteready
1:47 was the best part