how to never stop being sad
dandelion hands Lyrics


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repeat to yourself that they're not really gone
time has proven that fooling yourself into believing
a lie is the most effective way to deal with
things you have no control over

keep listening to the mixtapes they made you
overanalyse every single word you hear
"was this a sign that things were going wrong"
no no, you were the one that cared too hard, not them

stay up every single night staring at your phone
either attempting to gather up the courage to
turn these demons, these constant reminders of
your loneliness into nothing more than a bad dream
or praying just for one second you could feel
the warmth of equally returned love

go out for coffee four times a week by yourself
always bring your notebook, never stop writing
leave little comics and thank you notes with your tip
watch them smile as you get in your car

always talk down on yourself whenever possible
my life is shit because i deserve it, right?
you must have done something real bad
its nearly impossible for you to cry now

avoid your friends for weeks even though
they're the only sense of consistency you have
left in your life, if they really wanted
to see you they'd come, but they won't (who cares?)

allow yourself to lose interest in the things you love
watch as you begin to take a backseat to the
world around you, don't fight it
become a secondary character in your own motion picture

but most importantly drown every single one of
your feelings in old stolen rum, learn to
love the taste of it dripping down your throat
find comfort in the warmth coming from your
stomach, you're drinking bottled love now





you don't need other people to drive away your loneliness
you just needed to find a way to talk to it

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of the song "How to Never Stop Being Sad" by Dandelion Hands revolve around exploring different coping mechanisms that the singer has employed to deal with their loneliness and sadness. The repetition of the phrase "repeat to yourself that they're not really gone" highlights the importance of self-delusion in overcoming grief. The singer suggests that it's better to pretend that things aren't as bad as they seem, rather than confronting the reality of loss or rejection.


The lyrics also touch upon the theme of overthinking and analyzing past relationships or interactions with people, trying to decipher what went wrong. The singer points out that it's easy to blame oneself for being too caring or invested in someone else, rather than acknowledging that the other person might have been the one who didn't reciprocate the same level of feeling.


The song also emphasizes the importance of self-care and self-expression as a means of coping with loneliness. The singer talks about writing and drawing as a way of channeling emotions, and also mentions drinking as a way of numbing the pain.


Interestingly, the song ends on a somewhat optimistic note, suggesting that talking to one's own feelings and learning to be okay with being alone can be a form of self-healing.


Line by Line Meaning

repeat to yourself that they're not really gone
Maintain a belief that a loved one is not truly gone, even if it requires deceiving yourself with a lie.


keep listening to the mixtapes they made you
Continuously analyze every word and sound on a playlist made by someone you love, in search of signs of trouble in the relationship.


"was this a sign that things were going wrong"
Worriedly question every detail of a partnership and attribute any strife to one's own failures, not those of the other person.


stay up every single night staring at your phone
Deprive oneself of sleep and peace by anxiously angling for attention from another person or dreading the potential lack thereof.


go out for coffee four times a week by yourself
Solitarily seek out structure and routine at a coffee shop, while never stopping one's preoccupation by recording observations in a notebook or leaving small tokens of gratitude.


always talk down on yourself whenever possible
Consistently put oneself down, believing that self-hatred is deserved due to personal shortcomings and that negative perceptions are justified.


avoid your friends for weeks even though
Distance yourself from friends even when they may be the only reliable constants in life, due to self-imposed shame or fear of rejection.


allow yourself to lose interest in the things you love
Succumb to apathy and disinterest in activities or hobbies previously enjoyed, letting life pass on by without active participation.


but most importantly drown every single one of
Use alcohol as a coping mechanism and distraction from life's hardships, seeking solace in a bottle rather than human connections.


you don't need other people to drive away your loneliness
Discover that emotional companionship is not necessary to tackle feelings of loneliness, but rather talking to and tackling it as an entity within oneself.




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@elijahh_v

'im not in the mood to hang out'

im never in the mood anymore.
i hate going out of my bedroom.
i wish i could just sleep all day and never eat.
i wish i could feel happy without having to get high.
i miss the old me.
the old me didnt want to die
the old me loved my friends.
i feel like a corpse, dead but physically alive.



@jazzyworthy9185

lyrics for y’all
———————
Time has proven
That fooling yourself into believing a lie
Is the most effective way
To deal with things you have no control over
Keep listening to the mixtapes they made you
Overanalyze every single word you hear
"Was this a sign that things were going wrong"
No no, you were the one that cared too hard, not them
Stay up every single night staring at your phone
Either attempting to gather up the courage
To turn these demons, these constant reminders
Of your loneliness into nothing more than a bad dream
Or praying just for one second you could feel
The warmth of equally returned love
Go out for coffee four times a week by yourself
Always bring your notebook, never stop writing
Leave little comics and thank you notes with your tip
Watch them smile as you get in your car
Talk down on yourself whenever possible
My life is shit because I deserve it, right?
You must have done something real bad
Its nearly impossible for you to cry now
Avoid your friends for weeks even though
They're the only sense of consistency you have
Left in your life, if they really wanted
To see you they'd come, but they won't (who cares?)
Allow yourself to lose interest in the things you love
Watch as you begin to take a backseat
To the world around you, don't fight it
Become a secondary character in your own motion picture
But most importantly
Drown every single one of your feelings
In old stolen rum
Learn to love the taste of it dripping down your throat
Find comfort in the warmth coming from your stomach
You're drinking bottled love now
You don't need other people to drive away your loneliness
You just needed to find a way to talk to it



@pastel7327

I remember the first time i heard this is when i had a really big breakdown.
A day or two after i was stuck in a psychward and the doctors told me i'm a lost cause and basically have no future.

About 2 years later and i'm now depression free (officially about 11 months). After 14, years of torment of this illness and 16 years of horrible abuse i am now free.

I'm so glad I never stopped fighting, i have no idea what was there to keep me going what in my mind and heart continued to push but i am so grateful it was there.

I still struggle i still have big lows but it never felt like it was before.
It now feels like i can stand up and recover and that i'm not stuck in the cycle of torment.

This song now has a very special place in my heart, each time i hear it i look back and can only say to my past self "look how far you came, there is happiness and peace waiting for you."



@Elena-yr7rp

I wrote a long text while listening to this on repeat
It's long ik but i'd appreciate if anyone would take the time to read it and sorry if something doesn't make sense i just wrote some things of my chest that's it
Maybe you won't feel alone
(dw about me bc of the end tho i'll be ok one day and you'll be too)
⚠️TW Suicidal thoughts and self harm


I don't think that it ever goes away tho
Every time i think it's gone
It comes again
Please let me go
I just want to live
Why do i have to feel like this
I just want to live without worrying about everything
I wish i could end it all
But i can't no matter how much i try to
I can't
I don't want to fight anymore
My heart is sore
My heart is empty
I'm tired of waking up everyday wishing things would change
Cause they never will
It will always watch me thinking it's gone
And then come back again
I tried to fight it for so long
But i can't
It's stronger
It's immortal
But i'm not
I won't be
I just want a break
I don't want to die
But i can't live
I tried so many times
It's tiring
I don't feel anything anymore besides my constant bellyaches
But they're in my heart
My heart hurts
So bad
So so bad
Nobody knows how i feel
Nobody takes me seriously
Everyone thinks i'm weak
But i'm not
I'm just tired of being strong
Because it won't change
It goes and comes back
Every
Single
Time
It won't stop
I need help
But i can't accept it
I destroy myself
Because what's the reason of keeping myself alive
Hwen i'm not
I don't live
I'm not alive
I just exist
I don't feel like it'll ever get better
I fought so hard to be in a better place
But i can't get in
I can't get into that heavinly room of feeling stable
I'm locked out
I don't want to give up
I have to
Before it kills me
I'm just sitting in front of my mirror watching the sadness haunt me
It's inside of me
It's deep deep in me
I can't take it out
I try but there
It appears again
What's the point in fighting it back when i know i can't
It's so strong
Too strong
I can't get it out
I'll never be able to
So i'll just watch the cycle repeating
Over
And over again
I think my demons are gone
I think
That i finally were strong enough
But it just comes back all over again
Again
Again
And again
I want to stay
I want to so bad
But it's tearing me apart
I feel it
Literally
I feel the way my body stings while being torn apart
I'm not alive anymore
I just exist
Until i finally let my soul rest
And end it all
I need a break
But i can't i don't want to die
I want to live
So bad
I never wanted to die
Never
But what else am i suposed to do
I can't live like this anymore but i can't change the fact that i wake up everyday wishing
I never lived
At all
This world is cruel
And it's making me cruel too
I don't want to feel like this anymore
But it'll always stay
I'll never be happy
I never truly was
I never felt accepted
And when i did
I changed the way i am
No one ever excepted my true me
But how could they
I got used to changing how i am
Just to once be apart of something
What's the point of existing if i'll have to wait for me to become happy
Why do i have to feel like this but the others don't
It's not fair
It's not fair
It's not fair that i feel like this
Why can't i just be happy
Why can't i just live
I want to so bad
But i am haunted
Haunted by a monster i can't fight back
I tried to
Multiple times
Everyday
But it won't go away
And i'm tired of fighting for feeling like a normal person
When i'm not
I have so many marks on my body
I did that to myself
People will always think i'm crazy
Because all they see is that i made myself bleed
That i cutted into my own flesh
But they will never see why i did it
Beacuse i don't want to be here anymore
I never wanted to be here
Not the way i am
Not the way i feel
I'm never happy
I just push away my sadness
Cause i can't fight it
I ruined my life in only 13 years
I'll never be able to feel how i once felt
I'll always know how sad i was
I'll never forget this feeling
It'll probably never go away anyways
Why do i still stay
Why do people want me to stay when everyday is a toture for me
When just existing is so hard
My soul hurts
I feel so dark
I wish i never lived
I want to be free

"Don't worry baby,

you'll be free soon"



@somethingsomething9006

This song is among the few to actually cut to my core.

I'm 25, I feel alone, I moved to a different state than every friend I've ever made, and even when I try to talk to them, they rather don't reply, or we are just completely different people now.

The phrase "those times are gone" rings in my head often, and I feel left alone, forgotten, abandoned may be a strong word but it's somewhat accurate.

Things just don't feel...nice anymore, there are times where I wake up and question whether or not I want to keep this up, of course I can't convince myself to end it all, I just really want to return to a time where I had friends and people to both rely on and be reliable for.

"Talk down on yourself as much as possible, my life is shit because I deserve it, right? You must of done something really bad, it's nearly impossible for you to cry now" really fucking hurts, because it feels true.

"If they wanted to see you, they'd come, but they won't" is perhaps the most powerful to me.

There's this massive void in me since I graduated high school, a void once filled with many friends, promises of social activity, sense of stability, and hope that maybe things aren't so bad.

I have such a hard time communicating and making friends now, when I used to be a social magnet. Everyone at my job is significantly older than me, and I have no one to relate to anymore.

I just feel myself fading and becoming more and more irrelevant, and I can't find a way out. I realize this sounds hyperbolic but I'm not even confident if I'll be alive in the next couple years.



@rosie9283

To everyone that knows all the words,



I'm sorry, genuinely. Take a moment, a breath, a look around. Let the tears fall. Realize something, everything will be okay. I'm sure you hear that all the time but, thats because its true. You'll make it through. You'll find your self, you'll find your peace. You have so much life ahead of you. I believe in you.




And to people who just like this song cause its a good song
Heyy



All comments from YouTube:

@notjade1727

"praying just for one second you could feel the warmth of equally returned love"

@ishouldbestudying1975

Not Kendra sounds nice

@br0ken.cabl3

i feel this on a spiritual level

@animetiddies5658

My girlfriend sent me this and I hate how it sums up our whole relationship.

@margaritadephillip8403

that put makes my heart sink.

@therealpotato2278

To which God do I pray to which one do I have to thank for this pain. Who controls who gets to be happy and who doesn't

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@oro9990

this song is exactly what depression feels like, the background music, so comforting and warm, but so sad. the addicting and relatable lyrics, the feeling of wanting to stay this way, stay this low but also wanting to feel happy for once. this is song is so significant to me because it just reminds me of how i loved how comforting but painful my depression was

@bolivia4261

I've never been able to out into words how depression felt that felt right. Thank you

@leehooni5588

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@sivilfiving4839

This song also gives an extreme feeling of comforting lonliness, much like moeni and kichi or tomorrow is nearly yesterday and everyday is stupid, its kinda like a cold shower or sitting outside in the rain at night

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