Growing Up Is Hard
Chelsea Cutler Lyrics


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Threw a mattress on the floor and made a home out of a dorm room
She got a credit card in her name to buy what she couldn't afford to
And now she's eighteen, she can barely eat and barely drive
Mind racing, what's the meaning of being alive?
I don't blame her for not doing anything she was supposed to

So much for the young and free
I know that you feel confused
I'm sorry that it hurt so much
Growing up is hard to do
You'll always be a part of me
Swear I'll take better care of you
I'm sorry that it hurt so much
Growing up is hard to do
Hard to do

Rubbing drugs into your gums to prove to your friends that
You're a good time 'til you're crying in the stairwell
Holding your hair back, wishing you had kept your body to yourself
Can't forget the way it felt

So much for the young and free
I know that you feel confused
I'm sorry that it hurt so much
Growing up is hard to do
You'll always be a part of me
Swear I'll take better care of you
I'm sorry that it hurt so much
Growing up is hard to do
Hard to do

You drank yourself dizzy
Held in all your secrets
Took off running naked with a handle in your arms
Woke up in a fever
Sweating out your bad decisions
Couldn't even see straight, but you still got in the car
You tried to be the cool girl
You know the way that boys are
You just wanna talk but it's your body that he counts
It's snowing up in Amherst
You don't feel a damn thing
Everything's a mess when you got nothing figured out

You'll always be a part of me
Swear I'll take better care of you




I'm sorry that it hurt so much
Growing up is hard

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of Chelsea Cutler's song "Growing Up Is Hard" paint a vivid picture of the challenges and struggles faced by young adults as they navigate the transition into adulthood. The song begins by describing a young woman who is trying to create a home for herself in a small dorm room, using a mattress on the floor. She goes to great lengths to gain some semblance of independence, even getting a credit card in her name to buy things she couldn't afford. However, despite her efforts, she finds herself overwhelmed and feeling lost, questioning the meaning of her existence. The lyrics express empathy towards her, acknowledging that it's not her fault for not living up to societal expectations.


The second verse delves into another common experience among young adults: the pressure to fit in and seek validation through risky behavior. The lyrics depict the singer numbing her pain with drugs and alcohol, trying to prove to her friends that she's fun and carefree. However, this facade crumbles as she finds herself alone and vulnerable, regretting the choices she made. The chorus reiterates the difficulty of growing up, acknowledging the confusion and pain that comes with the process. Despite the challenges, the singer promises to always be there for the person they are addressing and pledges to take better care of them.


The final verse touches on several themes, including the destructive cycle of self-destructive behavior, the pressure to conform to societal ideals, and the confusion that comes with having an uncertain future. The lyrics describe the singer drowning their sorrows in alcohol, engaging in risky behavior, and seeking validation from others. They try to appear cool and detached, but deep down, they long for genuine connection and understanding. The verse ends with a mention of Amherst, possibly referring to the emotional numbness the singer feels, disconnected from the world and unable to find clarity amidst the chaos.


Overall, "Growing Up Is Hard" captures the tumultuous journey of transitioning into adulthood, touching on themes of independence, self-discovery, pressure, and the messy reality of making mistakes along the way.


Line by Line Meaning

Threw a mattress on the floor and made a home out of a dorm room
She improvised and created a comfortable living space in her small dormitory room.


She got a credit card in her name to buy what she couldn't afford to
She obtained a credit card to purchase things that were beyond her financial means.


And now she's eighteen, she can barely eat and barely drive
At the age of eighteen, she struggles to afford basic necessities and lacks the resources to travel.


Mind racing, what's the meaning of being alive?
Her thoughts are constantly racing, questioning the purpose and significance of her existence.


I don't blame her for not doing anything she was supposed to
I understand her inaction and don't hold her responsible for not fulfilling societal expectations.


So much for the young and free
The idea of being carefree and full of freedom has proven to be elusive and unattainable.


I know that you feel confused
I acknowledge and understand the confusion she experiences.


I'm sorry that it hurt so much
I apologize for the immense pain she has endured.


Growing up is hard to do
The process of maturing and taking on adult responsibilities is challenging and difficult.


You'll always be a part of me
You will forever hold a special place in my heart and life.


Swear I'll take better care of you
I promise to prioritize your well-being and provide better support.


Rubbing drugs into your gums to prove to your friends that
Using substances in unconventional ways to impress peers and maintain a reputation


You're a good time 'til you're crying in the stairwell
Initially being seen as fun and enjoyable, but eventually breaking down emotionally.


Holding your hair back, wishing you had kept your body to yourself
Regretting not cherishing and reserving one's body for personal fulfillment.


Can't forget the way it felt
The memory of the experience is deeply ingrained and difficult to erase.


You drank yourself dizzy
Consuming alcohol to the point of disorientation and intoxication.


Held in all your secrets
Bottling up and keeping hidden personal thoughts and emotions.


Took off running naked with a handle in your arms
Engaging in reckless behavior while under the influence of alcohol.


Woke up in a fever
Regaining consciousness while experiencing intense physical and emotional distress.


Sweating out your bad decisions
Enduring the consequences and repercussions of poor choices.


Couldn't even see straight, but you still got in the car
Despite impaired judgment, she still proceeded to drive a vehicle.


You tried to be the cool girl
She made efforts to conform and fit in with societal expectations of being popular and desirable.


You know the way that boys are
Having an understanding of boys' tendencies and behaviors.


You just wanna talk but it's your body that he counts
Desiring emotional connection, but feeling objectified and valued solely for physical attributes.


It's snowing up in Amherst
A reference to a specific location, indicating adverse weather conditions.


You don't feel a damn thing
Feeling emotionally numb and detached from one's surroundings and experiences.


Everything's a mess when you got nothing figured out
Life becomes chaotic and overwhelming when one lacks direction and clarity.




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Written by: Chelsea Emily Cutler

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Daniel Kim

this hits so hard 😭 "calling all your friends to say you're sorry, got your hands full"

Renee Lowe

27 and every word is so relatable and true. Wow. Thanks for putting these thought n feelings to a melody 🫶🏼

stan buskirk

This is great!!! Definitely looking forward to more

frangipaniapples

I miss my friends who I had at 18 and now we don’t talk anymore

Lucky Scorpio

Im 18 and I wish I had friends 😔

Minlen Misao

Great voice

Saber???

So true :(

Jukom Shiu

So beautiful

anna brant

this is one of my favourites

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